Affair / Sexual chemistry

vicwatson · 22-12-2017 01:56AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

I'm not leaving anyone. Read my posts or go away.

No, you go away with your cake and eat it attitude. It sucks. Which you might end up doing, for what?

NATLOR · 22-12-2017 01:59AM

What about the guy involved. Is he married/ attached does he know your married, do you see him regularly,have you known him long ?

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 01:59AM

vicwatson wrote: »

No, you go away with your cake and eat it attitude. It sucks. Which you might end up doing, for what?

You may not like my attitude and that's fine. I'm not on here to entertain aggressive people.... So I won't engage further with you. You are not being helpful.

vicwatson · 22-12-2017 02:01AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

You may not like my attitude and that's fine. I'm not on here to entertain aggressive people.... So I won't engage further with you. You are not being helpful.

Oh relax, you were advised pages ago you are in after hours not the relationship forum, which is where you should have posted.

backspin. · 22-12-2017 02:03AM

What you are planning is selfish and cruel. Your husband will not like it but sounds like he will put up with it rather than lose his family.

vicwatson · 22-12-2017 02:05AM

backspin. wrote: »

What you are planning is selfish and cruel. Your husband will not like it but sounds like he will put up with it rather than lose his family.

Unlike the op that thinks getting the leg over is more important than her husband and children :rolleyes:

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 02:07AM

NATLOR wrote: »

What about the guy involved. Is he married/ attached does he know your married, do you see him regularly,have you known him long ?

The more I read this question the more I think..... Yes I should forget about this guy. He has gf. I've no idea what she'd think ..... But like most women would prob hate me....so yes that makes me feel selfish..... Or bothers me.... Or is a good reason for me to stop it all.

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 02:10AM

vicwatson wrote: »

Unlike the op that thinks getting the leg over is more important than her husband and children :rolleyes:

Absolutely not....

vicwatson · 22-12-2017 02:11AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Absolutely not....

Then avoid this dude, you can’t have it all

AwareWolf · 22-12-2017 02:12AM

Yeah decision made either forget it or go to a counsellor. For those of you who helped thanks. For those who only had a go..... Think before you post. Not funny.

Rubberchikken · 22-12-2017 02:14AM

He may not be great in the sack. Is it really worth it? Only you can decide.

NATLOR · 22-12-2017 02:15AM

So a woman you have never met is making you question yourself more than the potential upset you would cause your husband and kids.Well done.

SuperSean11 · 22-12-2017 02:20AM

Talk to your husband he might be fantasizing about this man aswell

vicwatson · 22-12-2017 02:24AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Yeah decision made either forget it or go to a counsellor. For those of you who helped thanks. For those who only had a go..... Think before you post. Not funny.

Do both

SuperSean11 · 22-12-2017 02:25AM

vicwatson wrote: »

Then avoid this dude, you can’t have it all

Says who?
As a famous scholar once said YOLO op.

garancafan · 22-12-2017 02:27AM

eviltwin wrote: »

....Thread carefully....

Good one.

Alerium · 22-12-2017 02:32AM

Why are people entertaining a troll?

brianregan09 · 22-12-2017 02:36AM

He'll finish in 30 seconds , you'll have guilt for 30 years......but then again this is all probably fake

Alerium · 22-12-2017 02:46AM

I bet you OP is a 16 yo virgin male who is extremely bored.

PeterParker957 · 22-12-2017 02:48AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Arghus wrote: »

You came to the right place brand new boards user, amazing how you found after hours so quickly, you'll get loads of sincere advice around here.

You're being sarcastic I take it, this has been going round and round in my head. I just wanted opinions .... It's the reason I've joined boards. There's no one I can talk to about this..... Because my good old Catholic ireland family would KILL me.

4 pages in and now I'm certain it's either wind up or (more likely) someone from a stupid women's magazine getting material for a story.

fergus1001 · 22-12-2017 03:45AM

This is a wind up, or

1 you have 0 respect for your husband

2 you have 0 respect for your children

You are an adult with children you are responsible for their upbringing, by going off and getting the leg over you automatically **** all over your duties as a parent

I firmly believe you are a wind up merchant or you definitely need some professional help and I feel sorry for your husband

JackTaylorFan · 22-12-2017 04:02AM

Can we have another referendum to prohibit opposite sex marriage - some of you clearly don't deserve it

worded · 22-12-2017 04:48AM

I will pay money to have this thread closed

Such drivel

JackTaylorFan · 22-12-2017 05:03AM

worded wrote: »

I will pay money to have this thread closed

Such drivel

Having read all the drivel - this sounds like a wind-up...

Chrongen · 22-12-2017 06:32AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Totally want to stay in marriage. Am going no where as such. Don't want relationship just want to experience some thing that I know is going to be very good..... For the first time ever! It will b amazing sex. So you think it's possible to forget it afterwards. .?

Ride him and stop talking to us about it.

Come back when your head is even more fcuked.

ebbsy · 22-12-2017 06:34AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Did you presume I'm a man? Sorry should have said....I'm a mum.

Well, you have done it at least once then.

Jawgap · 22-12-2017 07:17AM

My guess??

This is a sophisticated thread from Chore Sex Guy......

He set up the initial thread let it run for a bit then......ol and behold we get the post above^^^^^^^

Well played......it's a decent attempt to evade the mods

pilly · 22-12-2017 08:07AM

I'd be very worried if my husband didn't mind me sleeping with someone else.

nullzero · 22-12-2017 08:13AM

The OP was so concerned about this issue "she" registered on boards yesterday to take the pulse of After Hours on the subject...

Malayalam · 22-12-2017 08:40AM

If you are genuine, OP...

first of all I don't know what is with all the shock here about people having affairs. Affairs seem to be blooming de rigeur. People are regularly being unfaithful to each other. It's not like OP would be doing something ''special''.

And OP, that is the crux. It's not all that special at all, although you are using it to make yourself feel special. It's not something new, it's very basic biology and psychology. I would imagine you are bored, somewhere inside, in spite of protestations about happy love.

Most of sex - the very very most - is what happens between our ears. The consensual contact between any normalish penis and any normalish vagina is generally within a fairly limited, albeit pleasant, possible range of sensation. It's just physics. It's not like some people have special c0cks or anything, that cause electrical explosions upon contact, etc. So, what you have is not so much physical chemistry with this guy, as mental and emotional chemistry/projection. It is the mind that makes sex sizzle most. And the mind is super powerful.

Most people in long marriages go through periods of lusting after others. Maybe not all, but most, I reckon. And I mean real intense obsessive longing - after all the desire for mind-altering erotic bliss and self-forgetfulness in the body is a very strong one. It can last the space of a thought, or it can be incubated to last for a very long time. It depends what you choose to do with it. It depends how aware you are of yourself. You are a willing participant in the process.

Understanding and accepting your instinctive drives, but then disciplining yourself because you recognise the fundamental fallacies upon which the projection rests and becoming a mature human being is the remedy IF you wish to pursue monogamy.

If you don't wish to pursue monogamy and respect your faithful partner, then do whatever you want. You are your own moral boss. Own yourself like a grown up. Nobody else much cares what people do with their bits and pieces, except those directly involved.

My inclination would be to cultivate the long-time love and sexual relationship that is already there.

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