Devisive flat mate issues

thelad95 · 16-07-2017 10:11AM #1

There is currently a thread over in Accommodation and Property forum regarding someone who is at their wits end because their flat mate takes a shower every morning at 6am.

Having lived in four house shares, I know how explosive even the smallest of things can seem to others. But what have you experienced that either irritates you or clearly takes the pi$$? For me it's the following:

I had a flat mate who I barely ever saw as they were always working ridiculous hours. They would leave delightful little passive aggressive notes around the house detailing all their gripes. Usually things like "this is my cereal" or "x's turn to put out the bins I had to do it twice last week". My favourite was that we had a bowl of sugar that we just kind of all filled up whenever it got empty as we were all big tea/coffee drinkers, one day she left out a printed page from some stupid website detailing the supposed dangers of how communal sugar bowls can spread numerous illness and we should buy our own. At first, I just laughed them off but eventually I got so irritated that I just began scrunching them up and leaving that there for her to see. Strangely the notes dried up pretty quickly.

People leaving dirty stuff on the sink when there's a dishwasher sitting there ready to fill!!

People blasting their crappy music around the house especially when they go for a shower. Selfish idiots.

People who use your milk without asking. I mean if your caught once then fair enough but some people think it's okay to do regularly.

Coming home late from work, turning on every light, turning on music/TV at a ridiculous volume, banging around the kitchen, when they KNOW everyone else is asleep.

I'm also living with two girls, who go for a shower and just kind of leave their skid stained granny knickers in the bathroom for everyone to see for weeks at a time.

Those who leave food to rot in a fridge for weeks at a time.

longshanks · 16-07-2017 10:16AM

Your bins go out twice in a week? Just a once a week collection here.
Now, about those dirty undercacks...

16-07-2017 10:21AM

thelad95 wrote: »

I'm also living with two girls, who go for a shower and just kind of leave their skid stained granny knickers in the bathroom for everyone to see for weeks at a time.

Get their pots, and tongs.

Put water in pots. Using tongs, put knickers in water. Bring to the boil, leave on a rolling boil.

Wait for them to arrive home. Explain you thought you were helping them.

It won't happen again. Ever.

bee06 · 16-07-2017 10:26AM

These are the types of reasons I've never lived in a house share!

xzanti · 16-07-2017 10:26AM

thelad95 wrote: »

There is currently a thread over in Accommodation and Property forum regarding someone who is at their wits end because their flat mate takes a shower every morning at 6am.

Having lived in four house shares, I know how explosive even the smallest of things can seem to others. But what have you experienced that either irritates you or clearly takes the pi$$? For me it's the following:

I had a flat mate who I barely ever saw as they were always working ridiculous hours. They would leave delightful little passive aggressive notes around the house detailing all their gripes. Usually things like "this is my cereal" or "x's turn to put out the bins I had to do it twice last week". My favourite was that we had a bowl of sugar that we just kind of all filled up whenever it got empty as we were all big tea/coffee drinkers, one day she left out a printed page from some stupid website detailing the supposed dangers of how communal sugar bowls can spread numerous illness and we should buy our own. At first, I just laughed them off but eventually I got so irritated that I just began scrunching them up and leaving that there for her to see. Strangely the notes dried up pretty quickly.

People leaving dirty stuff on the sink when there's a dishwasher sitting there ready to fill!!

People blasting their crappy music around the house especially when they go for a shower. Selfish idiots.

People who use your milk without asking. I mean if your caught once then fair enough but some people think it's okay to do regularly.

Coming home late from work, turning on every light, turning on music/TV at a ridiculous volume, banging around the kitchen, when they KNOW everyone else is asleep.

I'm also living with two girls, who go for a shower and just kind of leave their skid stained granny knickers in the bathroom for everyone to see for weeks at a time.

Those who leave food to rot in a fridge for weeks at a time.

You eat my cereal and you better believe there'll be notes left. There'll be a novel written in poison pen, my friend.

16-07-2017 10:45AM

thelad95 wrote: »

I'm also living with two girls, who go for a shower and just kind of leave their skid stained granny knickers in the bathroom for everyone to see for weeks at a time.

Sounds like a handy little money spinner to me OP, cash in hand too

cbyrd · 16-07-2017 11:17AM

You think house share is bad... Wait till you're a parent..
YOU
CAN
NEVER
LEAVE.

They're darlings really...

snowflaker · 16-07-2017 11:21AM

The joys of living alone.

Starkystark · 16-07-2017 11:39AM

When they walk around the house with their phone on speaker 24/7 even when their in the bathroom.

When they don't sleep in their bedroom but on the sofa in the communal living area.

When they decide to go to the beach and jump in the water fully clothed and leave the clothes in the washing machine unwashed for about two weeks because they're too stingy to buy washing powder. I gave in and put it on for a double wash because it smells like a mixture of vomit and p**s

When they decide to dry their rotten runners on the radiators. And the moment they think no one is in the house start smoking in a non-smoking house. Come home and you instantly think your eyes and lungs are going to burst with the smell in the house.

So glad to be out of there.

Teddington Cuddlesworth · 16-07-2017 11:43AM

Moved into a house with 3 childhood friends a number of years back. After 3 years one of them went his own way.
We interviewed 4 guys our own age and picked one to move in.
He seemed a sound lad....

The weekend after he moved in we had a party.

He got smashed drunk and pulled an American style fridge freezer over.
An accident and forgivable, we all make drunken mistakes. He coughed up the money to replace it.

It was a week later we discovered he was a raging alco. I came home one day and he was passed out on the step at the front door, this was 2pm on a Tuesday.

That was only the start of things.
He'd bring birds home, and in his inebriated state, would start banging them all over the house. On the stairs, in the bar, against the barbecue, on the sofa.
It didn't seem to effect him if we were in the same room.

He even made a move on one of the lads mother's when she came over one night for a party.

He was a lovely guy when he was sober but after a can or two he'd pull out a bottle of hard spirits and down it in as short a time as possible.

Pinch Flat · 16-07-2017 11:44AM

I shared a house with a fella who used to love cooking ham, like a big joint you'd cook at Christmas. The thing was, he used to use my towel that was hanging up in the shower located off the kitchen to dry it off when he'd finished cooking it.

Pelvis · 16-07-2017 11:53AM

I got my own place because of these annoyances. I think you can get on great with people but they will still wreck your head if you live with them for long enough.

However, I live in a flat now in a old house. I don't hear a peep out of anyone else in the house except for the guy above me. He comes in each evening around 11/midnight and more often than not he's absolutely screaming into his phone, completely oblivious as to how loud he is, it drives me ****in demented.

As a side note, he proceeds to cook at this time the most heinous smelling food (from his voice he's clearly from the indian/Pakistan part of the world).

Moral of the story, people are assholes.

Poor Uncle Tom · 16-07-2017 11:55AM

snowflaker wrote: »

The joys of living alone.

In your forever home.....:rolleyes:

alchemist33 · 16-07-2017 11:56AM

One of my flatmates insisted on leaving the oven on for two hours just to pre-heat it, then putting the food in. When you're sharing the electricity bill, this is not a good thing.

The Backwards Man · 16-07-2017 12:00PM

I was in a house share once, first evening there, one of the eejits used a teatowel as an oven glove.

That was enough for me, my dog has more upbringing than that.

joebloggs32 · 16-07-2017 12:06PM

Was in a house share about 15 years ago with one male and female. I didn't know either of them, but we all kept to ourselves and had no issues.
One day after about six months i opened the newspaper to see a picture of the female in it. She was on trial for manslaughter!
Turned out it was a case of hit and run. She had claimed to not know she had hit someone, and the jury acquit her.
A few years later I lived with another weirdo who would get up in the middle of the night and cook mussels. He wouldn't clean up after himself and you'd come down for breakfast to a bomb site. He'd walk around the house in his boxers and we had a female sharing who was completely freaked out. Anyway one day he left a medicine box on the table and I took down the name of his meds. I rang friend in the medical profession who told me they were prescribed to people with psychosis. We then rang a friend in the guards who checked him out for us and he told us he was very bad news.
The landlord who was a friend of mine gave him his marching orders, but before he went he smashed up his room and threatened to burn us out.

Poor Uncle Tom · 16-07-2017 12:13PM

joebloggs32 wrote: »

.... I rang friend in the medical profession ................. a friend in the guards ..............The landlord who was a friend of mine......

How did this fella ever get into your accommodation in the first place.....:P

snowflaker · 16-07-2017 12:14PM

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

In your forever home.....:rolleyes:

Well if I live here for the rest of my life I won't mind tbf

Poor Uncle Tom · 16-07-2017 12:16PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I was in a house share once, first evening there, one of the eejits used a teatowel as an oven glove.

That was enough for me, my dog has more upbringing than that.

I guess you'd frown on him using your toothbrush to remove the skid marks off the porcelain.....:D

LimeFruitGum · 16-07-2017 12:42PM

My pet hate was when the girlfriend of one flat mate were spending more than half the week in the house. She never officially moved in, but she might as well have done.
Couldn't say anything because apart from me, they were all from the same culchie town, and she was a cousin of another flat mate too! She was actually alright 1-1, but it was a bit much. They would all have been quick to say something if I tried to pull a similar stunt.

B.A._Baracus · 16-07-2017 12:50PM

alchemist33 wrote: »

One of my flatmates insisted on leaving the oven on for two hours just to pre-heat it, then putting the food in. When you're sharing the electricity bill, this is not a good thing.

I was gonna say what an ejjit but am sure if it was just him paying the bill alone he wouldn't pre-heat for so long.

joebloggs32 · 16-07-2017 01:02PM

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

How did this fella ever get into your accommodation in the first place.....:P

Someone had left giving very short notice so the landlord filled it as quick as he could. It cost him in the long run.

tara73 · 16-07-2017 01:06PM

I once lived with a guy who had bad acne (although in his 30's poor guy..), no offence there from me, not his fault. He had a medical cream for it which obviously should be stored in a cool place.

He put it in the fridge. Could live with this too. But everytime I opened the fridge, this half used, greasy tube was sitting on the top shelf, in front row, between the groceries. I always put it in a more discreet place, in some of the plastic enclosures or more to the side. everytime I opened the fridge, this disgusting tube was again in front row, top shelf...

I didn't live very long with this guy, there were for sure other issues too...

donegaLroad · 16-07-2017 01:08PM

A guy in the house arrived home with a pet snake.. he fed it dead mice which he used to keep in the freezer. It was kept in a glass case in the living room.

Mrs OBumble · 16-07-2017 01:15PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I was in a house share once, first evening there, one of the eejits used a teatowel as an oven glove.

That was enough for me, my dog has more upbringing than that.

What exactly is the problem with that?

Unless your understanding of an oven glove is very different to mine, i dont see the issue.

Poor Uncle Tom · 16-07-2017 01:22PM

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

What exactly is the problem with that?

Unless your understanding of an oven glove is very different to mine, i dont see the issue.

Uncultured philistine......sniff

corner of hells · 16-07-2017 01:32PM

I work in a homeless hostel , ya'all ain't seen nothing.

ygolometsipe · 16-07-2017 01:42PM

donegaLroad wrote: »

A guy in the house arrived home with a pet snake.. he fed it dead mice which he used to keep in the freezer. It was kept in a glass case in the living room.

I know a guy who did this. I couldn't believe it. If you own your own house then fine but fcuk in hell, dead mice in the fridge in a flat share. :O. In truth I think the other flatmates were too stoned to notice.
I did not live in the same house, nice guy or not, "thats a paddlin"

everlast75 · 16-07-2017 01:45PM

I lived with a lot of different housemates in lots of different apartments.

None of them had any particularly nasty habits but all of them in one apartment had no awareness when it came to the doors. ALL of the doors were fire doors and had a chain connected to them, so when you let them go they would slam with such force it would shake the internal walls.

It didn't matter what hour of the day or night, they would walk through and just let it slam behind them. I eventually took to unhooking the chain in the sitting room one as that was the one used the most.

I can't get my head around why people can't put their hand on it and close gently

rawn · 16-07-2017 01:59PM

My last houseshare. Myself and my now -husband shared a room upstairs.

Another couple shared a downstairs room that had two doors, one that opened on to the kitchen and a double door that opened into the living room. So basically they kept the double doors open all the time so their room pretty much absorbed the sitting room. The kitchen door also open too, so you couldn't move downstairs without seeing them.

We moved in under the agreement that it would be a non-smoking house, which they immediately disregarded so the entire house stank of smoke constantly.

They would knock AS they entered our bedroom, not BEFORE!

They left a passive aggressive list of house rules stuck to the window that we should all live by but each time was worded directly at us.

They had loud parties in any given day, without informing us and with complete disregard as to whether we were working the next day or not.

When confronted by any of these issues the girl took personal offense to everything. Her parents were the landlords so we had no recourse, we just moved out. Their current housemates are being driven mad by them too and are dying to get out. Nightmare!

Poor Uncle Tom · 16-07-2017 02:03PM

everlast75 wrote: »

.....all of them in one apartment had no awareness when it came to the doors.

everlast75 wrote: »

I eventually took to unhooking the chain in the sitting room one

They use the doors properly, you interfere with the fire safety of the building!

everlast75 wrote: »

I can't get my head around why people can't put their hand on it and close gently

Actually, you're the one needs the education.

Devisive flat mate issues

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