Do Very Good Looking people have it easier in life

david75 · 31-12-2016 10:04PM

Suggest you look up the halo effect.

If someone is handomse you assume they're talented and able and winning at life
If a priest looks friendly and approachable he's safe
If a granny is all cuddly and cute she's lovey

Etc.

It's not always the case.

The better looking someone is the more vacuous and stupid they tend to be.

Road-Hog · 31-12-2016 10:06PM

Saipanne wrote: »

Yes. I'm a tall, naturally well built man, and people seem to regard me as good looking.

Which is just as well, because I'm not the type of person who can just walk up to a woman in a bar and try chat her up. I'm way too shy (maybe not shy, more reserved) for that, but thankfully I seem to be adequately good looking enough for women to approach me frequently enough (though not all the time!), so I'm ok.

I guess my point with regard to this thread is if I was not a looker I'd probably be fcuked due to my shyness, so having decent looks is definitely an advantage. I have to try less than other blokes, from my viewpoint.

What a smug self satisfied person you are

Saipanne · 31-12-2016 10:10PM

Road-Hog wrote: »

What a smug self satisfied person you are

Don't project your inadequacies onto me, thanks.

whoopsadoodles · 31-12-2016 10:20PM

Wanderer2010 wrote: »

They tend to have boring personalities though as they have never had to develop one, relying soley on looks to land a partner, a good job and they often flirt their way through life. Yeah good looking but dull and boring to boot.

That's such a bizarre point of view.

And tbh, one that comes across as just plain old bitter.

Rumpy Pumpy · 31-12-2016 10:35PM

I'm very good looking and also have a cracking personality. Not mutually exclusive at all.

JellieBabie · 01-01-2017 12:13AM

david75 wrote: »

The better looking someone is the more vacuous and stupid they tend to be.

Absolutely ridiculous opinion. You sound jealous and resentful.

Wibbs · 01-01-2017 12:16AM

JellieBabie wrote: »

That is just not true, it's a total stereotype.

held to be true to help the plain(or those who have the notion that they're plain) feel better about themselves.

EDIT, though I have found As A Very General Thing(™) the more athletic/sporty six packed broad shouldered types to be far dumber and narrower of worldview than the nerdy weedy/fat not so attractive neck beards and chinless wonder types. This tends to be more a gender thing though and far more applicable to such stereotypical men.

Road-Hog · 01-01-2017 12:53AM

Saipanne wrote: »

Don't project your inadequacies onto me, thanks.

Can you elaborate perhaps

Saipanne · 01-01-2017 01:02AM

Road-Hog wrote: »

Can you elaborate perhaps

You're the only person who (bizarrely) took offence to my post. I can only surmise that you're insecure.

That's ok. Just believe in yourself.

riclad · 01-01-2017 01:22AM

I was in the airport waiting with someone, 10 air hostess,s came in for
a certain airline .The were all pretty ,slim and looked like models ,
I don,t think an average woman slightly overweight would get a job
with that airline.
i think in certain jobs you have to be good looking to get a job.
Look at home and away soap opera.
Everyone on it thats under 30 looks like a model.Its ridiculous ,theres no
plain or ordinary teens living in australia at all .
Maybe beautiful people don,t realise it as everyone in a cafe or pub is nice to them , They may not realise that life is easier for them.
I think theres research in the usa ,good looking people get promoted faster than an average looking person .
i think its true ,plain people have to try harder , they have to develop their conversation skills to make friends or attract a partner .

JellieBabie · 01-01-2017 01:22AM

david75 wrote: »

The better looking someone is the more vacuous and stupid they tend to be.

I know lots of people in my own life that are both above average in terms of looks and have cracking personalities/are very charming. Often they are intelligent too. Intelligence and personality seems to me to be equally distributed among both the plainer and the better looking population.

Now you may not believe me, but if you look at the celebrity world, there seems to be to be a similar distribution of charm and intelligence among them as there is with ordinary people; basically, just because they're famous and good looking doesn't mean they are unintelligent or lack personality.

For every Kim Kardashian, there's a beautiful, clever, charming alternate.

Examples:

Natalie Portman - Has a degree from Harvard, did some postgrad courses in a Hebrew University, has been published in scientific journals and speaks 6 languages.

James Franco - currently doing a Ph.D in literature at Yale and has published a book, reads Joyce as a hobby.

Kate Beckinsale - studied French and Russian literature at Oxford. Also won awards for her poetry and short stories as a teen.

Cindy Crawford - got a full scholarship to study chemical engineering.

Jayne Mansfield - rumoured to have had an IQ of 160 and spoke 5 languages.

This is just a small sample. Clearly there are loads of dim celebrities too but claiming that the majority of good looking folk are vacuous and have under-developed personalities is ridiculous.

Surreptitious · 01-01-2017 01:28AM

All I know is you get nothing handed to you in life. Good looking people have to work hard too and a smile goes a long way. Unless you have broken knashers or something.

Saipanne · 01-01-2017 01:40AM

I think a great personality is the most important. If you're a warm, kind, funny type of person, everyone will like you. Some of the most attractive women I've ever met just oozed confidence, even though they weren't that good looking. I just wanted them because they had this magnetic personality.

Surreptitious · 01-01-2017 01:42AM

Saipanne wrote: »

I think a great personality is the most important. If you're a warm, kind, funny type of person, everyone will like you. Some of the most attractive women I've ever met just oozed confidence, even though they weren't that good looking. I just wanted them because they had this magnetic personality.

I'm the same. I love just clicking with someone and seeing their faces light up. It's nice to know someone likes you and it's mutual.

Alpha_zero · 01-01-2017 02:59AM

Saipanne wrote: »

I think a great personality is the most important. If you're a warm, kind, funny type of person, everyone will like you. Some of the most attractive women I've ever met just oozed confidence, even though they weren't that good looking. I just wanted them because they had this magnetic personality.

Here we go with this personality lark again.

Alpha_zero · 01-01-2017 03:02AM

Surreptitious wrote: »

I'm the same. I love just clicking with someone and seeing their faces light up. It's nice to know someone likes you and it's mutual.

My face just lit up reading your very insightful and honest post, i bet we could finish each other sentences.

Surreptitious · 01-01-2017 03:06AM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

My face just lit up reading your very insightful and honest post, i bet we could finish each other sentences.

Someone is a big grump tonight :P

JupiterKid · 01-01-2017 03:13AM

It is a fallacy to claim that good looking people are boring/shallow/less well informed.

One of the most interesting and intelligent guys I know also is very good looking. Some people are winners in the genetic lottery.

Sweetemotion · 01-01-2017 03:14AM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Here we go with this personality lark again.

Personality. Is who you are, not your looks.

Mr Arrior · 01-01-2017 03:15AM

A few of the posters in here saying they are handsome would turn your stomach. A bit of modesty goes a long way.

wetlandsboy · 01-01-2017 03:16AM

Yes, I hate to admit it, but the OP may be correct. A friend of mine is good looking, highly intelligent (has a PhD in something or other, and earns 6 figures), plays rugby; and even though he's in his late thirties, regularly scores women half his age. He doesn't say too much, is definitely not a PUA, but his looks pretty much get him through life. No bitterness here, just an observation.

Alpha_zero · 01-01-2017 03:16AM

JupiterKid wrote: »

It is a fallacy to claim that good looking people are boring/shallow/less well informed.

One of the most interesting and intelligent guys I know also is very good looking. Some people are winners in the genetic lottery.

Fallacy is a great word, people who are not good looking can have the personality of a plank of wood.

Alpha_zero · 01-01-2017 03:18AM

Sweetemotion wrote: »

Personality. Is who you are, not your looks.

Yawn!

Surreptitious · 01-01-2017 03:19AM

wetlandsboy wrote: »

Yes, I hate to admit it, but the OP may be correct. A friend of mine is good looking, highly intelligent (has a PhD in something or other, and earns 6 figures), plays rugby; and even though he's in his late thirties, regularly scores women half his age. He doesn't say to much, is definitely not a PUA, but his looks pretty much get him through life. No bitterness here, just an observation.

How can looks get you through a PhD? That's rubbish.

Alpha_zero · 01-01-2017 03:23AM

Surreptitious wrote: »

How can looks get you through a PhD? That's rubbish.

He is both good looking and intelligent i guess. The looks get the ladies and the brains the PHD.

Sweetemotion · 01-01-2017 03:23AM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Yawn!

Why yawn?

No personality, no confidence.

Mr Arrior · 01-01-2017 03:24AM

It is very much true and frankly that is a sad reality. It may sound cliche but its what inside that counts. Your looks won't help someone when they're down or they won't go out of their way to help a person or an animal that needs it etc.

wetlandsboy · 01-01-2017 03:24AM

Surreptitious wrote: »

How can looks get you through a PhD? That's rubbish.

Don't think I said that!

Alpha_zero · 01-01-2017 03:25AM

Sweetemotion wrote: »

Why yawn?

No personality, no confidence.

There not the same things

Surreptitious · 01-01-2017 03:26AM

wetlandsboy wrote: »

Don't think I said that!

I might not be sober. Fair play to him.

:cool:

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