Do Very Good Looking people have it easier in life

roysh1

Do you think that very attractive people(conventionally) have it easier in life? I believe they do. I think we are more receptive to very good looking people. It's a fact of life (and I've seen it) that if you're better looking than someone who is of similar abilities to you, you will ascend the career ladder faster. I think good looks are a lot like money, in that they might not make you happy in of themselves, but they give you more options. Very attractive folks can afford to be more fussy when it comes to finding a partner. So what do you think? Do people who've won the genetic lottery have it easier in life?

kingchess

Yes,

wakka12

I don't know if 'very' good looking people have better lives than say a decent good looking person but being attractive obviously has quite a lot of advantages over being ugly

The_Valeyard

Well, they are nicer to look at.

RayM

I don't think we they do, tbh.

Saipanne

Yes. I'm a tall, naturally well built man, and people seem to regard me as good looking.

Which is just as well, because I'm not the type of person who can just walk up to a woman in a bar and try chat her up. I'm way too shy (maybe not shy, more reserved) for that, but thankfully I seem to be adequately good looking enough for women to approach me frequently enough (though not all the time!), so I'm ok.

I guess my point with regard to this thread is if I was not a looker I'd probably be fcuked due to my shyness, so having decent looks is definitely an advantage. I have to try less than other blokes, from my viewpoint.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

I'm handsome and women ignore me. I assume it's because my grumpy nature is outwardly apparent.

Stonedpilot

Of course especially women. Know a hot girl who got a nice new car for xmas from former boss. She wasnt with the company pizzing time!.

Hes twice her age whom has kids as old as her!

SEPT 23 1989

Did someone fall down the ugly tree?

Saipanne

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly wrote: »

I'm handsome and women ignore me. I assume it's because my grumpy nature is outwardly apparent.

Yeah, you need to give off a good energy. Women like confidence... as do men!

nice_guy80

Some of them are quite stupid though

Standard Toaster

Ah, I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking.
And I plan on finding out what that is.

BorneTobyWilde

Pics or get the food in .

BorneTobyWilde

I happen to know the most beautiful girl in the world.

learn_more

I think they do but not in all aspects of life. I don't think it makes much difference in work life re promotions etc.

I absolutely think that good looking people have a better time on a night out for example. I don't mean they have a free pass to shag anyone they want but I do think when it comes to people who might want to chat to you in a nightclub or bar, it does make a difference. Speaking from personal experience of course.

wakka12

Stonedpilot wrote: »

Of course especially women. Know a hot girl who got a nice new car for xmas from former boss. She wasnt with the company pizzing time!.

Hes twice her age whom has kids as old as her!

Well thats a bit of an extreme example now..

dd972

I think there is a face that some people have, the people who are lucky enough to have it have it are instantly and subconsciously accepted in any room or place they walk into. These people can be any race, gender, creed, sexuality etc, etc. You see it all the time in commercials or corporate websites.

I know this for sure because I sure as hell don't have it, all the remarks, snap judgement's, hostility or sniggering comments made over the years piled end on end cannot be all one big coincidence.

roysh1

roysh1 wrote: »

Do you think that very attractive people(conventionally) have it easier in life? I believe they do. I think we are more receptive to very good looking people. It's a fact of life (and I've seen it) that if you're better looking than someone who is of similar abilities to you, you will ascend the career ladder faster. I think good looks are a lot like money, in that they might not make you happy in of themselves, but they give you more options. Very attractive folks can afford to be more fussy when it comes to finding a partner. So what do you think? Do people who've won the genetic lottery have it easier in life?

No its not easy let me tell you.

Im actually currently on the run, the police are after me....yes im so gorgeous they want to put me under A-rrest.

Widdershins

I don't think so. Good looking people aren't immune to being cheated on, for example. And they're often the object of jealousy from friends (and enemies) who want to take them down a peg or two. And people of the opposite sex can find them intimidating, or think they are out of their league and not worth approaching. Sometimes people are presumed to be vain and arrogant just because they look good. And good looking women are sometimes perceived to be less intelligent than plain women.

Most of that is anecdotal but I suspect many people have experienced some prejudice for being attractive. The existence of this thread shows that good looking people are perceived to have all sorts of advantages over plain people, and some people are bound to be resentful of someone they think has had an easier life overall.

Dr Crayfish

I would say it has some advantages but I've known some pretty horrible good looking people that couldn't have been happy. The happiest people I know wouldn't be all that to look at.

Sweetemotion

Good manners are more important.

GingerLily

Well groomed people do get ahead in the work place, not necessary "good looking" but people who look after themselves.

A lot of people that rely on looks I know end up worse off in the end, you need to put the work in to get and keep what you want in life, a nice smile will only get you so far.

noodler

I think so.



Gotta wonder if being a ten or whatever all your live affects you positively in terms of confidence, demeanour and other soft skills though probably also helps with career advancement.

pumpkin4life

Widdershins wrote: »

I don't think so. Good looking people aren't immune to being cheated on, for example. And they're often the object of jealousy from friends (and enemies) who want to take them down a peg or two. And people of the opposite sex can find them intimidating, or think they are out of their league and not worth approaching. Sometimes people are presumed to be vain and arrogant just because they look good. And good looking women are sometimes perceived to be less intelligent than plain women.

Most of that is anecdotal but I suspect many people have experienced some prejudice for being attractive. The existence of this thread shows that good looking people are perceived to have all sorts of advantages over plain people, and some people are bound to be resentful of someone they think has had an easier life overall.

In 2016, over the space of a few months I went from being fairly overweight manboobs lad to athletic/fit. What really surprised me was that I started getting some very passive aggressive comments from a fair few people. Kind of depressed me at the time. Some people really do want you to fail.

It's hard being such a ride:D

Outlaw Pete

Saipanne wrote: »

Women like confidence... as do men!

Nah, nail them while they're vulnerable, that's my motto.

Hollister11

Not if your a girl, men will be trying to bang you constantly.

Dr Crayfish

Hollister11 wrote: »

Not if your a girl, men will be trying to bang you constantly.

Is that not good?

Sweetemotion

pumpkin4life wrote: »

In 2016, over the space of a few months I went from being fairly overweight manboobs lad to athletic/fit. What really surprised me was that I started getting some very passive aggressive comments from a fair few people. Kind of depressed me at the time. Some people really do want you to fail.

It's hard being such a ride:D

I'm sure it is

_Whimsical_

learn_more wrote: »

I think they do but not in all aspects of life. I don't think it makes much difference in work life re promotions etc.

Apparently they do have it easier at work. Studies consistently reveal that they are the beneficiaries of bias more often than their ordinary looking workmates and more likely to do well in interviews than similarly qualified, less genetically gifted in the looks dept interviewees.

Depressing, huh?

dbagman

Saipanne wrote:

Yes. I'm a tall, naturally well built man, and people seem to regard me as good looking.

Saipanne wrote:

I guess my point with regard to this thread is if I was not a looker I'd probably be fcuked due to my shyness, so having decent looks is definitely an advantage. I have to try less than other blokes, from my viewpoint.

Hmmmmmmm

Saipanne

dbagman wrote: »

Hmmmmmmm

I don't follow.

mzungu

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Nah, nail them while they're vulnerable, that's my motto.

...and they say romance is dead, eh? :P

Stealthfins

I'm in the same position as yourself, I even get approached by women in public.

Sometimes it's flattering other times it's annoying.
Women of 45 plus are very confident in themselves,they will initiate a chat or a nod with a smile.
I prefer mature women they're more classy I wouldn't date a woman under 40 I'm 41.
I also don't go for looks in a partner, I prefer someone who's intelligent, funny and physically fit looking.

I don't go for pretty type's,more plain maybe that school teacher or librarian look.


It's handy in shops and restaurants,I find it's easy to get attention, women like guy's love a bit of flirting...

I'm reserved like yourself and can be picky.

There's also time's when I wonder what it's like to be unattractive,would I have settled down younger and be married now,have the old Michelin tyre instead of the swimmer physical look.

Joaquin223

Yes https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness_stereotype

Wanderer2010

They tend to have boring personalities though as they have never had to develop one, relying soley on looks to land a partner, a good job and they often flirt their way through life. Yeah good looking but dull and boring to boot.

Mech1

I work in the service industry in a very affluent Dublin area, its amazing how the really nice + good looking girls turn into real bitches when their looks don't help them skip the q.
They don't like walking.

metaoblivia

It can definitely be an advantage while it lasts, but being good looking doesn't guarantee a happy life. Marilyn Monroe and Sharon Tate are examples. Both were insanely beautiful women but struggled to be seen as anything more than a pretty face. Both were insecure, craved approval from others, didn't really know how to stand up for themselves in personal relationships and died tragically. Marilyn's death was more directly connected to her personal issues. Sharon's was just ... horrific, really.

JupiterKid

Yes and no. Good looks can work to your advantage in certain jobs/professions but not others. My late cousin was a stunning looking woman but as a writer she opined that she wasn't taken seriously enough by the (nearly all men) people who could have advanced her career. She said they really just wanted to bed her.

I think average looks with great ability trumps good looks with average/poor ability. I've heard that interviewers are more likely to choose a good looking job candidate over a less attractive one but that keeping that job is another matter.

GingerLily

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Apparently they do have it easier at work. Studies consistently reveal that they are the beneficiaries of bias more often than their ordinary looking workmates and more likely to do well in interviews than similarly qualified, less genetically gifted in the looks dept interviewees.

Depressing, huh?

I would say charming people would have it much easier over just good looks. Charm is more personality then looks.

JupiterKid

JupiterKid wrote: »

Yes and no. Good looks can work to your advantage in certain jobs/professions but not others. My late cousin was a stunning looking woman but as a writer she opined that she wasn't taken seriously enough by the (nearly all men) people who could have advanced her career. She said they really just wanted to bed her.

I think average looks with great ability trumps good looks with average/poor ability. I've heard that interviewers are more likely to choose a good looking job candidate over a less attractive one but that keeping that job is another matter.

Ah here leave the Donald out of this.........:pac:

pumpkin4life

Having said that; anyone who has lifted weights/lost a lot of weight after being noticeably fat/done both of these things in a quickish space of time can relate to this; even though people in your social circle might snipe at you for crab in a bucket reasons, people who don't know you will act nicer towards you.

Considering how little people put into it these days, someone whose not the best looking can launch themselves into the above average+ range imo. Just keep at it and the results will come.

wakka12

pumpkin4life wrote: »

Having said that; anyone who has lifted weights/lost a lot of weight after being noticeably fat/done both of these things in a quickish space of time can relate to this; even though people in your social circle might snipe at you for crab in a bucket reasons, people who don't know you will act nicer towards you.

Considering how little people put into it these days, someone whose not the best looking can launch themselves into the above average+ range imo. Just keep at it and the results will come.

No they cant, getting fit doesn't mean youll be above average looking especially not men

Saipanne

wakka12 wrote: »

No they cant, getting fit doesn't mean youll be above average looking especially not men

Definitely agree. I've seen lads with bodies like an Olympian, but they still have that mutton head on them. Some of them get huge bodies, and they still have this tiny little jawless, featureless face. No amount of weights can fix that.

Pac1Man

Three pages in and I must commend the posters for giving nice, short answers. Even the longer posts are well paragraphed and easy to read.

How many threads are filled with mindless walls of text after each multiquote within a single post? Nobody has time to read that sh1t. Just state your point and move on.

Saipanne

Stealthfins wrote: »

I'm in the same position as yourself, I even get approached by women in public.

Sometimes it's flattering other times it's annoying.
Women of 45 plus are very confident in themselves,they will initiate a chat or a nod with a smile.
I prefer mature women they're more classy I wouldn't date a woman under 40 I'm 41.
I also don't go for looks in a partner, I prefer someone who's intelligent, funny and physically fit looking.

I don't go for pretty type's,more plain maybe that school teacher or librarian look.


It's handy in shops and restaurants,I find it's easy to get attention, women like guy's love a bit of flirting...

I'm reserved like yourself and can be picky.

There's also time's when I wonder what it's like to be unattractive,would I have settled down younger and be married now,have the old Michelin tyre instead of the swimmer physical look.

Yeah, I'm not picky over looks either. I've been with beautiful looking women, I've been with women who were far from models. But if you're sound and can make me laugh, I'll definitely be up for a snog.

People who insist on only dating "hot" people tend to have issues, I find. I see them as weak people.

david75

In almost every sense good looking people have it both ways. If they're just really nice people they get jealousy and a lot of bitter **** thrown their way. If they're arseholes they tend to ignore it and somehow get everything they want by somehow effortlessly demanding it. Arseholes.

donegaLroad

I know a few really good looking girls who don't think they are good looking... of course they lap up the attention they recieve from guys, but when it comes to the crunch there is so much self doubt that it becomes an all-consuming life-debilitating thing.

Their entire life is based around potential partners who may or may not be interested in them. Career and everything else becomes secondary.

david75

donegaLroad wrote: »

I know a few really good looking girls who don't think they are good looking... of course they lap up the attention they recieve from guys, but when it comes to the crunch there is so much self doubt that it becomes an all-consuming life-debilitating thing.

Their entire life is based around potential partners who may or may not be interested in them. Career and everything else becomes secondary.

That's an in a nutshell whats wrong with the way everything is wrong sorta post.

It's girls fault for being pretty and not knowing what they want and how dare they want and they only care about money yards yadda

Sort that out.

Alpha_zero

Saipanne wrote: »

Yeah, I'm not picky over looks either. I've been with beautiful looking women, I've been with women who were far from models. But if you're sound and can make me laugh, I'll definitely be up for a snog.

People who insist on only dating "hot" people tend to have issues, I find. I see them as weak people.

How many chicks you defiled, more than 100?

Alpha_zero

Girls with low self esteem are the way to go.

Saipanne

Alpha_zero wrote: »

How many chicks you defiled, more than 100?

Ah no, around 70 I'd say. I'm not really sure what the number is. I haven't been keeping count.

I'm not big into ONS anymore, so most of that number was reached in my 20s.