Partner called me a ‘c***’ during an argument

Anongirl306

I got a message this evening that he is looking into temporary accommodation ( I don’t know if that means staying with family or what ) as he feels it’s the only fair way for each us to process things properly. I said that was fine

KiKi III

Anongirl306 wrote: »

I got a message this evening that he is looking into temporary accommodation ( I don’t know if that means staying with family or what ) as he feels it’s the only fair way for each us to process things properly. I said that was fine

I think that’s a positive step. How could either of you get any genuine space while you’re on top of each other?

I think others are right: we don’t know your situation. There’s a lot of good advice on the thread but ultimately you know best.

Take the time to really think things through.

NewMan1982

OP has he apologised for his reaction to the quiz yet? Has he acknowledged his actions were wrong?

FunLover18

NewMan1982 wrote: »

It seems the opinion on the thread is starting to soften.

I have no doubt these two have communication issues that led them to this point but under no circumstances is hiding in a spare room for a week acceptable behaviour.

This is the beginning of the end. If you don’t dump him now it will happen further down the road eventually. There is no way back to a healthy relationship.

Tell him to move out for a few weeks. At least that way you can change the locks while he thinks a reconciliation is on the cards.

I’ve been with partners who acted a tiny bit like this. It doesn’t go away and it doesn’t get better.

You are bound to have doubts. It’s one of the reasons I stayed in relationships too long myself. I could never quite pull the trigger. Eventually they did for other reasons and once I got over the inevitable grieving period I was always glad it ended. I always wondered why I didn’t end it sooner.

I don't think it's a softening but more an acceptance this is the OP's decision. I think it's pretty clear what most people think of her OH from what she's told but we're not the ones in the relationship and I think everyone would agree it's a lot easier to give advice than to follow it. The OP has to ultimately make the decision either way and own it.

Big Bag of Chips

OP, at this stage we believe you honestly do need space. Space from your partner, and space from the many voices here all offering you advice. It can get overwhelming, especially with everything you are dealing with right now.

Thank you to everyone who has offered advice and support. Relationships are complicated and continuing/ending a relationship is a huge step for many. As we often say, life isn't a soap opera, and people's lives and personal issues don't get resolved in a couple of "installments".

OP, take some time. Real genuine time. Time away from your partner, and time away from the thread. Get your thoughts together and give yourself the space to think about what YOU want. Not what you think everyone else wants. Nobody else is living your life.

If you decide you'd like the thread reopened at a time in the future you can contact any of the Personal Issues moderators to request it be opened.

For now though, we feel you would be better served seeking your support from real life friends and family.