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    #32
    punisher5112
    Registered Users Posts: 24,647 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    I like women.


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    #33
    [Deleted User]
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    seenitall wrote: »
    Ya, pretty much, and that comes from a lifetime spent in the 'dating' world, for better or worse, as opposed to safely ensconced in one or two long-term relationships over the years.

    Interesting point, followed a similar track. Sure there was a long-term relationship or two, however the flings have been more frequent. All educational of course, only a fool repeats the same mistake. A sheltered life is one wasted, no regrets like the song.


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    #34
    seenitall
    Registered Users Posts: 3,715 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Absolutely, Bertie's Horse - no regrets is a good thing to live by. Great minds think alike - and average about the same amount of posts on boards per year! :D


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    #35
    Strumms
    Registered Users Posts: 24,919 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    I started going to pubs in the late 90’s and back then things were seemingly changing a bit, girls were more open to going over to say me or whoever and initialize conversation. Now you see it all the time.

    Thinking how it WAS before where it was ALL on the guy is just the most stupidly retarded thing ever. the first time I was approached by a girl I couldn’t hear properly and I missed what she said as she grabbed my arm and I replied... “the toilet is over there ———>” what she actually said was “were you at the Stone Temple Pilots”... we went out for a good few months but my shock at being chatted up was quite big.


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    #36
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,520 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    Sorry about that wrote: »
    It depends on the age, a 22 year old African such as yourself would probably have a very different dating approach, to an Irish man in his 50's, posing online as a 22 year old African.

    This is an epic post.


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    #37
    mr_fegelien
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,483 ✭✭✭mr_fegelien


    Tell me how wrote: »
    This is an epic post.

    Are you saying I'm fake? Why does he think I'm fake?


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    #38
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    never approach a man from the left that is his weaker side ....approaching head on is best ...it makes them less nervous


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    #39
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Are you saying I'm fake? Why does he think I'm fake?


    Well...are you genuine? Is anyone 100 % genuine? Everyone is a lil fake ...;)


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    #40
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,520 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Are you saying I'm fake? Why does he think I'm fake?

    No. That's what was so good about the post, they never accused you of being fake.


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    #41
    greenspurs
    Registered Users Posts: 10,300 ✭✭✭✭greenspurs


    another Mr Fake-lian thread...

    Can someone please stop him !! FFS .
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    "Bright lights and Thunder .................... "



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    #42
    Mister Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 6,042 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    I remember back in the day you would know the girl was interested if she was standing outside the lads jacks waiting for you. Either that or she would just grab you by the balls. The only thing they're grabbing now is their smartphone to take the obligatory selfie to show everyone on social media that they're having a great time. Dopamine is the new drug and its highly addictive.


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    #43
    razorblunt
    Registered Users Posts: 17,300 ✭✭✭✭razorblunt


    Loozer wrote: »
    If women are interested they'll let u know

    Have they said when?


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    #44
    Loozer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 168 ✭✭Loozer


    razorblunt wrote: »
    Have they said when?

    They just come up and say hello mostly


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    #45
    littlevillage
    Registered Users Posts: 2,884 ✭✭✭littlevillage


    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Can I ask where? at the bus stop, supermarkets, pubs? Are you also tall or just good looking?

    Mostly in his imagination.


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    #46
    s7ryf3925pivug
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    Men might be the ones to approach more often, but usually it is response to signals from women, so they have always been the ones to advance things, just in a relatively passive manner.

    I think basic skills and courtesy when it comes to recognising the presence or absence of invitations to approach is enough to do pretty well with women. Even if you lack the normal natural intuition into expressions and social nuance you can learn them easily enough.


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    #47
    s7ryf3925pivug
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,007 ✭✭✭s7ryf3925pivug


    Springen40 wrote: »
    People should develop the confidence to approach without signals, learning to cold approach is a fantastic way to develop your confidence and is actually quite spiritual experience if you approach it right (pun unintended).

    In order to fulfill your potential approaching women you need to learn to let go of attachment to outcome. As soon as women feel that you need the interaction to go a certain way it becomes offputting. You need to learn to transcend your ego and be present and accepting of the present moment.
    Pretty sure I have fulfilled my potential for approaching women thanks.

    Approaching cold still requires you to recognise how someone is responding to you. Not caring if they aren't interested is good, but not caring about being a nuisance isn't.


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    #48
    Omackeral
    Registered Users Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭Omackeral


    Thanks ChoreSexGuy!


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    #49
    Ultrflat
    Registered Users Posts: 1,016 ✭✭✭Ultrflat


    mr_fegelien wrote: »
    Is it becoming more common or are men still expected to do it in regards to dating? I think in Ireland no one ever cold approaches as our society isn't set up that way. Most romantic interactions occur in the pub.

    But even then, does the man have to make the first move?


    I think it depends on the situation, its nice when women approach you, but also just as nice when you approach them.


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    #50
    LeYouth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 161 ✭✭LeYouth


    Yeah if I wanted to be whipped /broke for life I would date / marry a woman.


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    #51
    blinding
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 7,466 ✭✭✭blinding


    LeYouth wrote: »
    Yeah if I wanted to be whipped /broke for life I would date / marry a woman.
    The sooner functional female robots are invented the better.

    Just don’t forget to leave the Off Switch handy ! ! !


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    #52
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    LeYouth wrote: »
    Yeah if I wanted to be whipped /broke for life I would date / marry a woman.

    If you don't want one you are broke you mean.

    Don't resent what you can't afford!


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    #53
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    blinding wrote: »
    The sooner functional female robots are invented the better.

    Just don’t forget to leave the Off Switch handy ! ! !


    they have been

    google sex dolls ..or visit a hooker! :)

    I would post a few for you...but well the site is for all ages. But you can find amazing ones!

    I actually am thinking of making some to sell :)

    Actually making them ..its like an art form.

    But why shouldn't men buy them?


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    #54
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    I want the opposite of a doll in a man...physical forms are so limiting.


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    #55
    Ultrflat
    Registered Users Posts: 1,016 ✭✭✭Ultrflat


    ILoveYourVibes wrote: »
    they have been

    google sex dolls ..or visit a hooker! :)

    I would post a few for you...but well the site is for all ages. But you can find amazing ones!

    I actually am thinking of making some to sell :)


    Both those options seem really grim to me, having sex with something so inanimate, like a sex doll or a robot just seems weird. Besides synthetic flash sounds a bit weird to me. But I'm sure for some people it works. Paying for it seem equally obismal and depressing handing over money to have sex just seems desperate...

    I'd much rather have a connection, for me it leaves me a lot more satisfied. The orgasm is the end game, but the intimacy involved with sex is soooo good with the right person :cool:


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    #56
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Ultrflat wrote: »
    Both those options seem really grim to me, having sex with something so inanimate, like a sex doll or a robot just seems weird. Besides synthetic flash sounds a bit weird to me. But I'm sure for some people it works. Paying for it seem equally obismal and depressing handing over money to have sex just seems desperate...

    I'd much rather have a connection, for me it leaves me a lot more satisfied. The orgasm is the end game, but the intimacy involved with sex is soooo good with the right person :cool:

    But some of them ...are very beautiful...they are like art forms.

    I think you feel its weird because you are told its weird.

    Its what is in YOU that makes something ...desperate or negative. If you approach something with a pure heart ...well its not going to drain you and leave you feeling negative. If you approach with a negative energy towards the world ..well you can kind of see where that is going to go.

    I find asmr channels ....make intimacy an artform.


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    #57
    Loozer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 168 ✭✭Loozer


    blinding wrote: »
    The sooner functional female robots are invented the better.

    Just don’t forget to leave the Off Switch handy ! ! !

    Not an off switch just a mute button


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    #58
    blinding
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 7,466 ✭✭✭blinding


    Loozer wrote: »
    Not an off switch just a mute button
    They’d still do ya with the sign language and dirty looks ! ! !


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    #59
    Loozer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 168 ✭✭Loozer


    blinding wrote: »
    They’d still do ya with the sign language and dirty looks ! ! !

    The nerds on this thread just need to earn enough to buy a robot with a pussy


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    #60
    blinding
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 7,466 ✭✭✭blinding


    Loozer wrote: »
    The nerds on this thread just need to earn enough to buy a robot with a pussy
    What can I say ! I’m saving !


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    #61
    corks finest
    Registered Users Posts: 8,653 ✭✭✭corks finest


    Never approached a woman, always the other way around, didn't always get the right ones, but I made by,it wasn't confidence but the exact opposite but found that if you can talk,wear clean clothes, smell nice,make an effort ref fitness don't be obnoxious,and listen you'll get by
    I've been married,lived with a few all foreign but for one lady,but I enjoyed life I'm now 61 rearing my youngest kid (17)
    No woman ,I ended it 6/7 years ago but great memories of all I've encountered. FAO of all men here looking for love etc, don't be boorish, it's nice to listen/ respect/ to the opposite sex, don't get tanked up when out hoping to meet someone


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