Women approaching men

mr_fegelien

Is it becoming more common or are men still expected to do it in regards to dating? I think in Ireland no one ever cold approaches as our society isn't set up that way. Most romantic interactions occur in the pub.

But even then, does the man have to make the first move?

Sorry about that

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it becoming more common or are men still expected to do it in regards to dating? I think in Ireland no one ever cold approaches as our society isn't set up that way. Most romantic interactions occur in the pub.

But even then, does the man have to make the first move?

It depends on the age, a 22 year old African such as yourself would probably have a very different dating approach, to an Irish man in his 50's, posing online as a 22 year old African.

Esel

Loozer

If women are interested they'll let u know

ArchXStanton

Loozer wrote: »

If women are interested they'll let u know

But you'll be expected to make the first move...

You would think in an increasingly equal society that wouldn't be the case anymore... But nope

cj maxx

I've been hit on by men and women on nights out and in the office so no, it's not always the drunk man doing the proposing.

EmmetSpiceland

I’m sure the boys of this site will be along crying about how the girl will have to make the first “move” as guys can no longer approach them on a night without it ending up in a criminal proceeding.

Which, of course, is nonsense. Unless you’re a creep.

Woke Hogan

I used to be approached by women all the time back in my single days. Being handsome and fit makes a big difference, I presume most of the users on this website are the repellent video game playing man children you see all over the internet, so it’s probably never happened to them.

mr_fegelien

Woke Hogan wrote: »

I used to be approached by women all the time back in my single days. Being handsome and fit makes a big difference, I presume most of the users on this website are the repellent video game playing man children you see all over the internet, so it’s probably never happened to them.

Can I ask where? at the bus stop, supermarkets, pubs? Are you also tall or just good looking?

Woke Hogan

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Can I ask where? at the bus stop, supermarkets, pubs? Are you also tall or just good looking?

Mainly through socials.

Church on Tuesday

Sorry about that wrote: »

It depends on the age, a 22 year old African such as yourself would probably have a very different dating approach, to an Irish man in his 50's, posing online as a 22 year old African.

you can close the thread now

mr_fegelien

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

you can close the thread now

I don't get it, what is he trying to say?

Ureaseme

Sorry about that wrote: »

It depends on the age, a 22 year old African such as yourself would probably have a very different dating approach, to an Irish man in his 50's, posing online as a 22 year old African.

thanks, laughed: D

corner of hells

I always thought Mr_f and Woke were the same person.

Poor Uncle Tom

Woke Hogan wrote: »

I used to be approached by women all the time back in my single days. Being handsome and fit makes a big difference, I presume most of the users on this website are the repellent video game playing man children you see all over the internet, so it’s probably never happened to them.

Proof yet again that having a big head doesn't always mean you have a big brain....:D

Central Services

Perhaps both could make an equidistant approach to a neutral, predetermined point.

blinding

Use the approach a Prostitute Mode. How much ya charging darling ?

It works when ya approach a Prostitute ! !

Adyx

Is this about reversing into people on the dancefloor again?

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly

Never been approached by women - possibly due to wearing soiled underwear.

Church on Tuesday

corner of hells wrote: »

I always thought Mr_f and Woke were the same person.

Don't forget Mr. Flash and most probably Mr. Spiceland.

Better Than Christ

Woke Hogan wrote: »

I used to be approached by women all the time back in my single days. Being handsome and fit makes a big difference,

That's not what your wife told me...

Woke Hogan

Better Than Christ wrote: »

That's not what your wife told me...

Probably to make you feel better about being a minger.

Better Than Christ

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Probably to make you feel better about being a minger.

Well, let's just say I didn't have to approach her...

Leg End Reject

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Probably to make you feel better about being a minger.

How's Tubbs?

Omackeral

Leg End Reject wrote: »

How's Tubbs?

She's grand

Mad_maxx

only ever happened me once

nthclare

I love an aul humble brag now and again and I don't really give a sh1t but I'm approach all the time, because I don't feel any

Richard Hillman

I'd probably freak out if a lady approached me. I would definitely be wary that she was trying to pick pocket me or I was on some hidden camera show.

seenitall

nthclare wrote: »

I love an aul humble brag now and again and I don't really give a sh1t but I'm approach all the time, because I don't feel any

You don't feel any - what?

I approach men, but very rarely these days - I've grown awful picky, it must be the age creeping up... and I do it very subtly, always have.

I like to be the person choosing ("Mmm I like this guy, let's give it a bit of a flirting effort here") instead of the person who is being chosen ("Oh this guy is trying it on...mmm, no I don't think I'll go there"), and one has to be proactive in that case.

seenitall

seenitall wrote: »

You don't feel any - what?

I approach men, but very rarely these days - I've grown awful picky, it must be the age creeping up... and I do it very subtly, always have.

I like to be the person choosing ("Mmm I like this guy, let's give it a bit of a flirting effort here") instead of the person who is being chosen ("Oh this guy is trying it on...mmm, no I don't think I'll go there"), and one has to be proactive in that case.

I'd say you've seen it all before.

seenitall

Deleted User wrote: »

I'd say you've seen it all before.

Ya, pretty much, and that comes from a lifetime spent in the 'dating' world, for better or worse, as opposed to safely ensconced in one or two long-term relationships over the years.

punisher5112

I like women.

seenitall

seenitall wrote: »

Ya, pretty much, and that comes from a lifetime spent in the 'dating' world, for better or worse, as opposed to safely ensconced in one or two long-term relationships over the years.

Interesting point, followed a similar track. Sure there was a long-term relationship or two, however the flings have been more frequent. All educational of course, only a fool repeats the same mistake. A sheltered life is one wasted, no regrets like the song.

seenitall

Absolutely, Bertie's Horse - no regrets is a good thing to live by. Great minds think alike - and average about the same amount of posts on boards per year!

Strumms

I started going to pubs in the late 90’s and back then things were seemingly changing a bit, girls were more open to going over to say me or whoever and initialize conversation. Now you see it all the time.

Thinking how it WAS before where it was ALL on the guy is just the most stupidly retarded thing ever. the first time I was approached by a girl I couldn’t hear properly and I missed what she said as she grabbed my arm and I replied... “the toilet is over there ———>” what she actually said was “were you at the Stone Temple Pilots”... we went out for a good few months but my shock at being chatted up was quite big.

Tell me how

Sorry about that wrote: »

It depends on the age, a 22 year old African such as yourself would probably have a very different dating approach, to an Irish man in his 50's, posing online as a 22 year old African.

This is an epic post.

mr_fegelien

Tell me how wrote: »

This is an epic post.

Are you saying I'm fake? Why does he think I'm fake?

ILoveYourVibes

never approach a man from the left that is his weaker side ....approaching head on is best ...it makes them less nervous

ILoveYourVibes

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Are you saying I'm fake? Why does he think I'm fake?

Well...are you genuine? Is anyone 100 % genuine? Everyone is a lil fake ...;)

Tell me how

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Are you saying I'm fake? Why does he think I'm fake?

No. That's what was so good about the post, they never accused you of being fake.

greenspurs

another Mr Fake-lian thread...

Can someone please stop him !! FFS .

Mister Vain

I remember back in the day you would know the girl was interested if she was standing outside the lads jacks waiting for you. Either that or she would just grab you by the balls. The only thing they're grabbing now is their smartphone to take the obligatory selfie to show everyone on social media that they're having a great time. Dopamine is the new drug and its highly addictive.

razorblunt

Loozer wrote: »

If women are interested they'll let u know

Have they said when?

Loozer

razorblunt wrote: »

Have they said when?

They just come up and say hello mostly

littlevillage

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Can I ask where? at the bus stop, supermarkets, pubs? Are you also tall or just good looking?

Mostly in his imagination.

s7ryf3925pivug

Men might be the ones to approach more often, but usually it is response to signals from women, so they have always been the ones to advance things, just in a relatively passive manner.

I think basic skills and courtesy when it comes to recognising the presence or absence of invitations to approach is enough to do pretty well with women. Even if you lack the normal natural intuition into expressions and social nuance you can learn them easily enough.

s7ryf3925pivug

Springen40 wrote: »

People should develop the confidence to approach without signals, learning to cold approach is a fantastic way to develop your confidence and is actually quite spiritual experience if you approach it right (pun unintended).

In order to fulfill your potential approaching women you need to learn to let go of attachment to outcome. As soon as women feel that you need the interaction to go a certain way it becomes offputting. You need to learn to transcend your ego and be present and accepting of the present moment.

Pretty sure I have fulfilled my potential for approaching women thanks.

Approaching cold still requires you to recognise how someone is responding to you. Not caring if they aren't interested is good, but not caring about being a nuisance isn't.

Omackeral

Thanks ChoreSexGuy!

Ultrflat

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Is it becoming more common or are men still expected to do it in regards to dating? I think in Ireland no one ever cold approaches as our society isn't set up that way. Most romantic interactions occur in the pub.

But even then, does the man have to make the first move?

I think it depends on the situation, its nice when women approach you, but also just as nice when you approach them.

LeYouth

Yeah if I wanted to be whipped /broke for life I would date / marry a woman.

blinding

LeYouth wrote: »

Yeah if I wanted to be whipped /broke for life I would date / marry a woman.

The sooner functional female robots are invented the better.

Just don’t forget to leave the Off Switch handy ! ! !