Men, are you single? Your value system may be the problem

jon1981

Are you living out your purpose?!

This is a serious article :pac:

https://psiloveyou.xyz/why-women-lose-interest-its-two-things-afdf9bce098

I'll extract the hilarious part of this tripe:

When a man is fascinating, a woman will stay interested. This is a man who:

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

He’s figured out what he wants to contribute to the world and is doing it. He’s ambitious but also takes time to relax and have fun. He’s intentional about building and pouring into those important to him. He wakes up each day excited to learn, do, contribute. A fulfilled man.

All of these things are a life force for him. He doesn’t need a woman to complete him. He has a full, thriving life already. He’s got it going on. He’s someone she can lean on, learn from, respect, and desire. He’s fully perfect & external to her. And that grounded, stable presence pulls her in.

We’ve all been in situations where someone we are dating is one but not the other. For example, someone who is fascinated with us but have nothing going on in their own life. That’s a turn off. Or the incredible person with the incredible life, but they barely reach out or make an effort. Also a turn off. Both pieces — fascinated and fascinating — are needed to maintain attraction.

ancapailldorcha

I think I'd rather just stay single than read that.

juneg

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

jon1981

juneg wrote: »

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

He doesn't generate waste and he sh*ts the most fertile compost.

whiskeyman

So a fascinating and fulfilled man is a single man.




Then a woman comes along and changes all that...

banie01

juneg wrote: »

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

Well...
I'll always tell you I will

RobbingBandit

Whooooopaaaa

Junkyard Tom

If I went on a date and she said 'tee-hee-hee *flutters eyeleashes*, I'm looking for a man who':

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

I'd say

'I'll help you find him love'.

Wibbs

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

I think I'd rather just stay single than read that.

Not wanting to be the voice of contention, but to be fair AC, that's fairly good yardstick and template to follow for a man. Put it another way, the man with most of that list going on is going to more attractive to many more women(and people in general actually) than the man who doesn't.

Quantum Erasure

>He doesn’t need a woman to complete him. He has a full, thriving life already. He’s got it going on...

It's true what they say though, love will come along when you're not particularly looking for it

Wayne Jarvis

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

If I went on a date and she said 'tee-hee-hee *flutters eyeleashes*, I'm looking for a man who':

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

I'd say

'I'll help you find him love'.

Never mind who women want me to be, that man you just described is who I want me to be. He sounds positively dreamy!

Austria!

jon1981 wrote: »

takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

Tripe. I can't even get near a woman even though I'm doing all of those down the bookies every weekend.

Padre_Pio

Wibbs wrote: »

Not wanting to be the voice of contention, but to be fair AC, that's fairly good yardstick and template to follow for a man. Put it another way, the man with most of that list going on is going to more attractive to many more women(and people in general actually) than the man who doesn't.

Yep, but do women actually care about that?

How many of those Love Island goons have those qualities, yet they have thousands of women fawning over them?

Women are just a superficial as men, they're just better at hiding it.

Stacksofwacks

How youuuu doin!!

Raconteuse

I mock your value system.

You also appear foolish in the eyes of others.

Wibbs

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

If I went on a date and she said 'tee-hee-hee *flutters eyeleashes*, I'm looking for a man who':

I'd say

'I'll help you find him love'.

Oh I hear that J, though again to be fair...

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner

This should be a biggie. Otherwise you're dealing with a dunderhead. And that can be aimed at women too. So many are not in that zone too.

- has values and lives by them

Sounds a tad "American" for my liking. I'd rephrase that as "has values, tries to live by them, but is always questioning them".

- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)

A1 again. Someone who understands and lives a social life is a better bet. The alternative is someone who has nothing meaningful with friends or family.

- respects his body & takes care of it

Makes good sense too. Some fat lad with a sixty a day smoking habit with whisky chasers is not exactly a great prospect.

- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences

Not a banal couch potato going with the flow. Again a plus point.

- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment

Hardly needs asking for. Again just as much in play for women, who by comparison to men tend to have fewer hobbies/pastimes, beyond reading and travel.

- is living out his purpose

Very American. Who the fcuk knows their "purpose", save for the deluded going on "mindfulness" courses reading Tolle, who don't. "Has some purpose" a better gauge of things.

But yeah, hardly mad stuff?

I saw the title and thought this was gona be pua guy again

I Am The Law

Value system, big cock, I can't keep track.

Wibbs

Padre_Pio wrote: »

Yep, but do women actually care about that?

How many of those Love Island goons have those qualities, yet they have thousands of women fawning over them?

Women are just a superficial as men, they're just better at hiding it.

"Love Island goons" sums it up PP. Yeah you will have some women going for that, but they're airheads/teens(or acting like it)/love island goons[delete as applicable] themselves. Or for some women it's a fantasy, one they know would be a nightmare in reality.

Stacksofwacks

bluewolf wrote: »

I saw the title and thought this was gona be pua guy again

Are those guys still about? I read one of their books years ago and tried their advice and it certainly improved my confidence and got some women on the back of it, yet no deep and meaningful relationships..

Stacksofwacks

Stacksofwacks wrote: »

Are those guys still about? I read one of their books years ago and tried their advice and it certainly improved my confidence and got some women on the back of it, yet no deep and meaningful relationships..

definitely at least one anyway

the rest are probably gone off to redpill

Stacksofwacks

bluewolf wrote: »

definitely at least one anyway

the rest are probably gone off to redpill

I checked out around 2012-13 because it started getting weird. Most of the guys were clear mysogynists and were diverging in other areas that I didn't agree with, like the Alt right.

TheValeyard

Bunny boilers

topper75

When a man is fascinating, a woman will stay interested. This is a man who:

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

As we have broached the far right ...
...I just ran a famous failed Austrian painter through this test. And he almost came out with flying colours, ticking all but one. The hobbies/pastimes probably need improvement but he could say yes definitely to all the other bullet points. He is dead a while though so you won't find his pic on any apps.

daveorourke77

Is this why they marry guys with big flutes and lots of money?

Wibbs

topper75 wrote: »

As we have broached the far right ...

How the ever living fcuk is that the "far right"? Jesus Christ, so that list has you thinking of hitler? Some are so feverishly para about the far right they're seeing them where they're not. Oh and oul adolf would flunk one of the biggest there, namely the family/friends thing. He had eff all of either and he screwed over most. Had no hobbies either beyond going full nazi and hardly took care of his body as he was a wreck by his mid 40's.

fairly inoffensive list except for it being gendered tbh

Homelander

Am I mad or is that list just describing most normal people of both sexes, but trying to wrap up in some mysterious, faux-meaningful sounding rubbish?

facehugger99

I have a value system - I value tits.

Fanny Wank

topper75 wrote: »

As we have broached the far right ...
...I just ran a famous failed Austrian painter through this test. And he almost came out with flying colours, ticking all but one. The hobbies/pastimes probably need improvement but he could say yes definitely to all the other bullet points. He is dead a while though so you won't find his pic on any apps.

I need to restrain myself when reading here at times. It's easy to bandy round the term "thickest thing I've ever read" when one can't remember all the stupidity ones been exposed to over the years. However I'm confident this is top 10 absolute minimum, probably top 5

ancapailldorcha

Wibbs wrote: »

Not wanting to be the voice of contention, but to be fair AC, that's fairly good yardstick and template to follow for a man. Put it another way, the man with most of that list going on is going to more attractive to many more women(and people in general actually) than the man who doesn't.

Aye but surely that's just a given, no? If you try and do some regular exercise, travel the odd time, eat reasonably well and have an actual hobby or two then surely it's obvious that this is better than just lazing around with no ambition or interests.

Hoboo

And the shelf of 40 year old single women then can't understand why they're still single.

Perfect woman: intelligent, loves cleaning, funny, loves you spending time with your mates, and looks like a Victoria's secret model. They're called unicorns for a reason.

daheff

OP

this says a lot about you that you actually seek out and read this tripe.

I hope YOUR value system is right (thats some kinda euphemism, right?)

Thelonious Monk

So they want a well rounded individual who is secure in themselves. Stop the press.

FishOnABike

TheValeyard wrote: »

Bunny boilers

Needs to be a dab hand at French cuisine too? Sure I'll try throwing together a bit of the oul lapin a la cocotte if it will keep herself happy.

jon1981

daheff wrote: »

OP

this says a lot about you that you actually seek out and read this tripe.

I hope YOUR value system is right (thats some kinda euphemism, right?)

Is this your best shot at an intelligent witty take down?! Try harder.

I thought after hours was the home of innocuous tripe?!

Did I offend you? I'm sorry. Perhaps the article struck resurrected some bitterness inside you

This is it

juneg wrote: »

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

Chore sex guy would.

Homelander

Homelander wrote: »

Am I mad or is that list just describing most normal people of both sexes, but trying to wrap up in some mysterious, faux-meaningful sounding rubbish?

Yeah it's like your man selling books with "clean your room"

Fanny ****

Fanny **** wrote: »

I need to restrain myself when reading here at times. It's easy to bandy round the term "thickest thing I've ever read" when one can't remember all the stupidity ones been exposed to over the years. However I'm confident this is top 10 absolute minimum, probably top 5

tbh the hitler test is more useful than you're pretending in terms of dismissing or dispelling moronic positivity/personality mantra sheeite

Why is the op reading stuff like that in the first place?

Raconteuse

Hoboo wrote: »

And the shelf of 40 year old single women then can't understand why they're still single.

Who are these mythical 40-year-old single women who can't understand why they're single, and how is that sentence related to this topic?

Perfect woman: intelligent, loves cleaning, funny, loves you spending time with your mates, and looks like a Victoria's secret model. They're called unicorns for a reason.

They're... not called unicorns.

Talk about a random bunch of words cobbled together.

Hector Savage

- respects his body & takes care of it

While fat overweight women are celebrated ....

is_that_so

jon1981 wrote: »

Are you living out your purpose?!

This is a serious article :pac:

https://psiloveyou.xyz/why-women-lose-interest-its-two-things-afdf9bce098

I'll extract the hilarious part of this tripe:

You can flip that on its head very easily.
Sounds like an extract from a bad self-help book

Feisar

sugarman wrote: »

I love these kind of women's ideology of men.. particularly those that almost demand it in their bios on dating websites.

...and it's not just a few either, it's rampant.

They genuinely think that much of themselves and frustrated at the fact they can't find someone that fits their insane criteria.. their "Mr Perfect".

When the reality is, they themselves wouldn't tick half the boxes!

Little do they know, it's a massive red flag and the majority that might happen to read their profile have the sense to swipe left.

Let’s be honest if she’s a cracker with great tits she’s getting a right swipe.

Edit - I'm married so my swiping days are over. Hung up my boots, declared my innings, etc.

El_Duderino 09

is_that_so wrote: »

You can flip that on its head very easily.
Sounds like an extract from a bad self-help book

It might sound like that. But it’s hard to argue it’s bad advice. It might be basic stuff but you never know how much or how little other people know about this stuff. So maybe some people reading it are genuinely helped by it.

chrissb8

Hmm, this stuff always smacks of entitlement:

"He should have A, B and C. That's what women want"

Alright and what are you offering then? because the standard of which you're holding someone to is the same you should hold yourself to. I would hazard to guess anyone who writes or reads this tripe, as in the OP post has not got too much going on if they're reading such brain rot.

is_that_so

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It might sound like that. But it’s hard to argue it’s bad advice. It might be basic stuff but you never know how much or how little other people know about this stuff. So maybe some people reading it are genuinely helped by it.

It falls into that category of the dummies guide to everything. Life is rarely that simple and heal thyself physician is a far better approach.

nkl12xtw5goz70

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

But it’s hard to argue it’s bad advice.

It's terrible advice. It's telling men who may already be insecure, depressed, and lonely that they won't find a girlfriend unless they can turn themselves into some combination of Elon Musk and James Bond — which is likely only to make their feelings of hopelessness worse.

El_Duderino 09

is_that_so wrote: »

It falls into that category of the dummies guide to everything. Life is rarely that simple and heal thyself physician is a far better approach.

Yeah. Some people are dummies. Some people are clueless in certain parts of their lives even if they’re normal in other parts of life.

scamalert

why is there no mention of supermodel in her 20s that will raise your flag every time you see her, will cater and cook for you day and night, will clean the house as she was on crack


thats the least criteria one would expect in return :pac:

I looked at the original article, its navel-gazing drivel from a well off or wealthy American woman how on earth has it any relevance.