Men, are you single? Your value system may be the problem

jon1981 · 21-10-2019 10:33PM #1

Are you living out your purpose?!

This is a serious article :pac:

https://psiloveyou.xyz/why-women-lose-interest-its-two-things-afdf9bce098

I'll extract the hilarious part of this tripe:

When a man is fascinating, a woman will stay interested. This is a man who:

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

He’s figured out what he wants to contribute to the world and is doing it. He’s ambitious but also takes time to relax and have fun. He’s intentional about building and pouring into those important to him. He wakes up each day excited to learn, do, contribute. A fulfilled man.

All of these things are a life force for him. He doesn’t need a woman to complete him. He has a full, thriving life already. He’s got it going on. He’s someone she can lean on, learn from, respect, and desire. He’s fully perfect & external to her. And that grounded, stable presence pulls her in.

We’ve all been in situations where someone we are dating is one but not the other. For example, someone who is fascinated with us but have nothing going on in their own life. That’s a turn off. Or the incredible person with the incredible life, but they barely reach out or make an effort. Also a turn off. Both pieces — fascinated and fascinating — are needed to maintain attraction.

ancapailldorcha · 21-10-2019 10:36PM

I think I'd rather just stay single than read that.

juneg · 21-10-2019 10:39PM

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

jon1981 · 21-10-2019 10:40PM

juneg wrote: »

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

He doesn't generate waste and he sh*ts the most fertile compost.

whiskeyman · 21-10-2019 10:47PM

So a fascinating and fulfilled man is a single man.

Then a woman comes along and changes all that...

banie01 · 21-10-2019 10:48PM

juneg wrote: »

Ya but will he still put out the bins???

Well...
I'll always tell you I will

RobbingBandit · 21-10-2019 10:49PM

Whooooopaaaa

Junkyard Tom · 21-10-2019 10:55PM

If I went on a date and she said 'tee-hee-hee *flutters eyeleashes*, I'm looking for a man who':

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

I'd say

'I'll help you find him love'.

Wibbs · 21-10-2019 10:55PM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

I think I'd rather just stay single than read that.

Not wanting to be the voice of contention, but to be fair AC, that's fairly good yardstick and template to follow for a man. Put it another way, the man with most of that list going on is going to more attractive to many more women(and people in general actually) than the man who doesn't.

Quantum Erasure · 21-10-2019 10:58PM

>He doesn’t need a woman to complete him. He has a full, thriving life already. He’s got it going on...

It's true what they say though, love will come along when you're not particularly looking for it

Wayne Jarvis · 21-10-2019 11:01PM

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

If I went on a date and she said 'tee-hee-hee *flutters eyeleashes*, I'm looking for a man who':

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

I'd say

'I'll help you find him love'.

Never mind who women want me to be, that man you just described is who I want me to be. He sounds positively dreamy!

Austria! · 21-10-2019 11:04PM

jon1981 wrote: »

takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

Tripe. I can't even get near a woman even though I'm doing all of those down the bookies every weekend.

Padre_Pio · 21-10-2019 11:08PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Not wanting to be the voice of contention, but to be fair AC, that's fairly good yardstick and template to follow for a man. Put it another way, the man with most of that list going on is going to more attractive to many more women(and people in general actually) than the man who doesn't.

Yep, but do women actually care about that?

How many of those Love Island goons have those qualities, yet they have thousands of women fawning over them?

Women are just a superficial as men, they're just better at hiding it.

Stacksofwacks · 21-10-2019 11:08PM

How youuuu doin!!

Raconteuse · 21-10-2019 11:10PM

I mock your value system.

You also appear foolish in the eyes of others.

Wibbs · 21-10-2019 11:11PM

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

If I went on a date and she said 'tee-hee-hee *flutters eyeleashes*, I'm looking for a man who':

I'd say

'I'll help you find him love'.

Oh I hear that J, though again to be fair...

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner

This should be a biggie. Otherwise you're dealing with a dunderhead. And that can be aimed at women too. So many are not in that zone too.

- has values and lives by them

Sounds a tad "American" for my liking. I'd rephrase that as "has values, tries to live by them, but is always questioning them".

- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)

A1 again. Someone who understands and lives a social life is a better bet. The alternative is someone who has nothing meaningful with friends or family.

- respects his body & takes care of it

Makes good sense too. Some fat lad with a sixty a day smoking habit with whisky chasers is not exactly a great prospect.

- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences

Not a banal couch potato going with the flow. Again a plus point.

- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment

Hardly needs asking for. Again just as much in play for women, who by comparison to men tend to have fewer hobbies/pastimes, beyond reading and travel.

- is living out his purpose

Very American. Who the fcuk knows their "purpose", save for the deluded going on "mindfulness" courses reading Tolle, who don't. "Has some purpose" a better gauge of things.

But yeah, hardly mad stuff?

21-10-2019 11:13PM

I saw the title and thought this was gona be pua guy again

I Am The Law · 21-10-2019 11:14PM

Value system, big cock, I can't keep track.

Wibbs · 21-10-2019 11:15PM

Padre_Pio wrote: »

Yep, but do women actually care about that?

How many of those Love Island goons have those qualities, yet they have thousands of women fawning over them?

Women are just a superficial as men, they're just better at hiding it.

"Love Island goons" sums it up PP. Yeah you will have some women going for that, but they're airheads/teens(or acting like it)/love island goons[delete as applicable] themselves. Or for some women it's a fantasy, one they know would be a nightmare in reality.

Stacksofwacks · 21-10-2019 11:17PM

bluewolf wrote: »

I saw the title and thought this was gona be pua guy again

Are those guys still about? I read one of their books years ago and tried their advice and it certainly improved my confidence and got some women on the back of it, yet no deep and meaningful relationships..

21-10-2019 11:26PM

Stacksofwacks wrote: »

Are those guys still about? I read one of their books years ago and tried their advice and it certainly improved my confidence and got some women on the back of it, yet no deep and meaningful relationships..

definitely at least one anyway

the rest are probably gone off to redpill

Stacksofwacks · 21-10-2019 11:33PM

bluewolf wrote: »

definitely at least one anyway

the rest are probably gone off to redpill

I checked out around 2012-13 because it started getting weird. Most of the guys were clear mysogynists and were diverging in other areas that I didn't agree with, like the Alt right.

TheValeyard · 21-10-2019 11:37PM

Bunny boilers

topper75 · 21-10-2019 11:51PM

When a man is fascinating, a woman will stay interested. This is a man who:

- is curious about the world and is a life-long learner
- has values and lives by them
- has deep, meaningful relationships (family and friends)
- respects his body & takes care of it
- takes real risks, and consequently, has interesting life experiences
- has hobbies/pastimes that bring him enjoyment
- is living out his purpose

As we have broached the far right ...
...I just ran a famous failed Austrian painter through this test. And he almost came out with flying colours, ticking all but one. The hobbies/pastimes probably need improvement but he could say yes definitely to all the other bullet points. He is dead a while though so you won't find his pic on any apps.

daveorourke77 · 21-10-2019 11:52PM

Is this why they marry guys with big flutes and lots of money?

Wibbs · 22-10-2019 12:44AM

topper75 wrote: »

As we have broached the far right ...

How the ever living fcuk is that the "far right"? Jesus Christ, so that list has you thinking of hitler? Some are so feverishly para about the far right they're seeing them where they're not. Oh and oul adolf would flunk one of the biggest there, namely the family/friends thing. He had eff all of either and he screwed over most. Had no hobbies either beyond going full nazi and hardly took care of his body as he was a wreck by his mid 40's.

22-10-2019 01:01AM

fairly inoffensive list except for it being gendered tbh

Homelander · 22-10-2019 07:33AM

Am I mad or is that list just describing most normal people of both sexes, but trying to wrap up in some mysterious, faux-meaningful sounding rubbish?

facehugger99 · 22-10-2019 07:38AM

I have a value system - I value tits.

Fanny Wank · 22-10-2019 07:43AM

topper75 wrote: »

As we have broached the far right ...
...I just ran a famous failed Austrian painter through this test. And he almost came out with flying colours, ticking all but one. The hobbies/pastimes probably need improvement but he could say yes definitely to all the other bullet points. He is dead a while though so you won't find his pic on any apps.

I need to restrain myself when reading here at times. It's easy to bandy round the term "thickest thing I've ever read" when one can't remember all the stupidity ones been exposed to over the years. However I'm confident this is top 10 absolute minimum, probably top 5

ancapailldorcha · 22-10-2019 07:44AM

Wibbs wrote: »

Not wanting to be the voice of contention, but to be fair AC, that's fairly good yardstick and template to follow for a man. Put it another way, the man with most of that list going on is going to more attractive to many more women(and people in general actually) than the man who doesn't.

Aye but surely that's just a given, no? If you try and do some regular exercise, travel the odd time, eat reasonably well and have an actual hobby or two then surely it's obvious that this is better than just lazing around with no ambition or interests.

Men, are you single? Your value system may be the problem

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