Men, are you single? Your value system may be the problem

Hoboo · 22-10-2019 08:11AM

And the shelf of 40 year old single women then can't understand why they're still single.

Perfect woman: intelligent, loves cleaning, funny, loves you spending time with your mates, and looks like a Victoria's secret model. They're called unicorns for a reason.

daheff · 22-10-2019 08:13AM

OP

this says a lot about you that you actually seek out and read this tripe.

I hope YOUR value system is right (thats some kinda euphemism, right?)

Thelonious Monk · 22-10-2019 08:21AM

So they want a well rounded individual who is secure in themselves. Stop the press.

FishOnABike · 22-10-2019 08:29AM

TheValeyard wrote: »

Bunny boilers

Needs to be a dab hand at French cuisine too? Sure I'll try throwing together a bit of the oul lapin a la cocotte if it will keep herself happy.

jon1981 · 22-10-2019 09:14AM

daheff wrote: »

OP

this says a lot about you that you actually seek out and read this tripe.

I hope YOUR value system is right (thats some kinda euphemism, right?)

Is this your best shot at an intelligent witty take down?! Try harder.

I thought after hours was the home of innocuous tripe?!

Did I offend you? I'm sorry. Perhaps the article struck resurrected some bitterness inside you

22-10-2019 09:19AM

Homelander wrote: »

Am I mad or is that list just describing most normal people of both sexes, but trying to wrap up in some mysterious, faux-meaningful sounding rubbish?

Yeah it's like your man selling books with "clean your room"

22-10-2019 09:20AM

Fanny **** wrote: »

I need to restrain myself when reading here at times. It's easy to bandy round the term "thickest thing I've ever read" when one can't remember all the stupidity ones been exposed to over the years. However I'm confident this is top 10 absolute minimum, probably top 5

tbh the hitler test is more useful than you're pretending in terms of dismissing or dispelling moronic positivity/personality mantra sheeite

22-10-2019 09:21AM

Why is the op reading stuff like that in the first place?

Raconteuse · 22-10-2019 09:47AM

Hoboo wrote: »

And the shelf of 40 year old single women then can't understand why they're still single.

Who are these mythical 40-year-old single women who can't understand why they're single, and how is that sentence related to this topic?

Perfect woman: intelligent, loves cleaning, funny, loves you spending time with your mates, and looks like a Victoria's secret model. They're called unicorns for a reason.

They're... not called unicorns.

Talk about a random bunch of words cobbled together.

Hector Savage · 22-10-2019 09:50AM

- respects his body & takes care of it

While fat overweight women are celebrated ....

is_that_so · 22-10-2019 09:51AM

jon1981 wrote: »

Are you living out your purpose?!

This is a serious article :pac:

https://psiloveyou.xyz/why-women-lose-interest-its-two-things-afdf9bce098

I'll extract the hilarious part of this tripe:

You can flip that on its head very easily.
Sounds like an extract from a bad self-help book

Feisar · 22-10-2019 10:00AM

sugarman wrote: »

I love these kind of women's ideology of men.. particularly those that almost demand it in their bios on dating websites.

...and it's not just a few either, it's rampant.

They genuinely think that much of themselves and frustrated at the fact they can't find someone that fits their insane criteria.. their "Mr Perfect".

When the reality is, they themselves wouldn't tick half the boxes!

Little do they know, it's a massive red flag and the majority that might happen to read their profile have the sense to swipe left.

Let’s be honest if she’s a cracker with great tits she’s getting a right swipe.

Edit - I'm married so my swiping days are over. Hung up my boots, declared my innings, etc.

El_Duderino 09 · 22-10-2019 10:25AM

is_that_so wrote: »

You can flip that on its head very easily.
Sounds like an extract from a bad self-help book

It might sound like that. But it’s hard to argue it’s bad advice. It might be basic stuff but you never know how much or how little other people know about this stuff. So maybe some people reading it are genuinely helped by it.

chrissb8 · 22-10-2019 10:35AM

Hmm, this stuff always smacks of entitlement:

"He should have A, B and C. That's what women want"

Alright and what are you offering then? because the standard of which you're holding someone to is the same you should hold yourself to. I would hazard to guess anyone who writes or reads this tripe, as in the OP post has not got too much going on if they're reading such brain rot.

is_that_so · 22-10-2019 10:38AM

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

It might sound like that. But it’s hard to argue it’s bad advice. It might be basic stuff but you never know how much or how little other people know about this stuff. So maybe some people reading it are genuinely helped by it.

It falls into that category of the dummies guide to everything. Life is rarely that simple and heal thyself physician is a far better approach.

nkl12xtw5goz70 · 22-10-2019 10:44AM

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

But it’s hard to argue it’s bad advice.

It's terrible advice. It's telling men who may already be insecure, depressed, and lonely that they won't find a girlfriend unless they can turn themselves into some combination of Elon Musk and James Bond — which is likely only to make their feelings of hopelessness worse.

El_Duderino 09 · 22-10-2019 10:50AM

is_that_so wrote: »

It falls into that category of the dummies guide to everything. Life is rarely that simple and heal thyself physician is a far better approach.

Yeah. Some people are dummies. Some people are clueless in certain parts of their lives even if they’re normal in other parts of life.

scamalert · 22-10-2019 10:53AM

why is there no mention of supermodel in her 20s that will raise your flag every time you see her, will cater and cook for you day and night, will clean the house as she was on crack

thats the least criteria one would expect in return :pac:

22-10-2019 10:55AM

I looked at the original article, its navel-gazing drivel from a well off or wealthy American woman how on earth has it any relevance.

El_Duderino 09 · 22-10-2019 10:58AM

Hana Defeated Supertanker wrote: »

It's terrible advice. It's telling men who may already be insecure, depressed, and lonely that they won't find a girlfriend unless they can turn themselves into some combination of Elon Musk and James Bond — which is likely only to make their feelings of hopelessness worse.

Sure but it didn’t any of that, did it? It did t say you won’t get a girlfriend if... It didn’t set wildly highly, James Bond or Elon Musk, standards. It said some basic places to start.

I think the fact that you leapt to hyperbole instead of anything the piece actually said, is interesting. I didn’t think the article says anything revolutionary, I just think it’s grand, entry level advice.

ancapailldorcha · 22-10-2019 11:01AM

Hana Defeated Supertanker wrote: »

It's terrible advice. It's telling men who may already be insecure, depressed, and lonely that they won't find a girlfriend unless they can turn themselves into some combination of Elon Musk and James Bond — which is likely only to make their feelings of hopelessness worse.

Ditto. It's utterly dire. I got as far as below:

He pursues her. This is often where women lose interest, particularly in the early stages of dating. Men: woo her. Never stop wooing her.

If you pursue someone who isn't interested, is that not stalking or harassment? Many modern Feminists have an unfortunate tendency to demonise men and now we're encouraged to do this? No thanks. If she's not interested then I have no intention of playing silly games. The "chase" is just soul destroying and depressing.

nkl12xtw5goz70 · 22-10-2019 11:37AM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

If you pursue someone who isn't interested, is that not stalking or harassment?

Potentially, yes.

If she's not interested then I have no intention of playing silly games. The "chase" is just soul destroying and depressing.

Totally agreed. If she's not interested, then find someone else who is!

Wibbs · 22-10-2019 11:52AM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

No thanks. If she's not interested then I have no intention of playing silly games. The "chase" is just soul destroying and depressing.

and usually counterproductive.

Fanny Wank · 22-10-2019 11:54AM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

tbh the hitler test is more useful than you're pretending in terms of dismissing or dispelling moronic positivity/personality mantra sheeite

I know all those words but that sentence makes no sense

Hoboo · 22-10-2019 11:55AM

Who are these mythical 40-year-old single women who can't understand why they're single, and how is that sentence related to this topic?

Who? You want names or what? Ridiculous question. If you're confused by the relationship to the question, well, your inability to link topics in a discussion is your issue. 10 year old stuff.

Raconteuse wrote: »

They're... not called unicorns.

Who aren't called unicorns? Who are the 'they' you refer to? I don't think you know what a unicorn refers to when talking about men and women.

Raconteuse wrote: »

Talk about a random bunch of words cobbled together.

Good one

Troll on.

Wibbs · 22-10-2019 11:59AM

Hector Savage wrote: »

While fat overweight women are celebrated ....

Not really, it's only in the pages of media aimed almost exclusively at women to A) sell more crap to overweight women, while

trying to keep the levels of insecurity going among the rest so they keep buying more crap so they don't fit into category A. The same outlets will have a story about a "plus sized model, celebrating her authenticity", photoshopped to hell on a beach somewhere, while in the same edition they'll field another section on how to lose weight, shift cellulite and get a flatter stomach. If marketing types thought for a second that the same thing would work with men then fat guys would be "celebrated" too. Real men have curves and that.

ancapailldorcha · 22-10-2019 11:59AM

Hana Defeated Supertanker wrote: »

Totally agreed. If she's not interested, then find someone else who is!

Yeah, I've started adopting the mindset of just expressing an interest once and then moving on. Just gets the whole thing over and done with.

There's a collaborator at work I had some interest in. Unfortunately, I don't think she'll be popping in again and I bottled it last time but I was planning just express an interest by asking her out and then moving on in the likely event of her refusing.

nkl12xtw5goz70 · 22-10-2019 12:08PM

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

Yeah, I've started adopting the mindset of just expressing an interest once and then moving on. Just gets the whole thing over and done with.

There's a collaborator at work I had some interest in. Unfortunately, I don't think she'll be popping in again and I bottled it last time but I was planning just express an interest by asking her out and then moving on in the likely event of her refusing.

That sounds like a good approach, honestly. I'm not into the idea of "the chase" either. Some people watch too many romantic comedies. That said, I hope she does come back in and you have a chance to talk to her again.

ancapailldorcha · 22-10-2019 12:25PM

Hana Defeated Supertanker wrote: »

That sounds like a good approach, honestly. I'm not into the idea of "the chase" either. Some people watch too many romantic comedies. That said, I hope she does come back in and you have a chance to talk to her again.

Yeah. In keeping with the OP, I did sort of just give up and decided to start doing things myself like reading more, solo travelling as my friends are getting engaged and just going to things in London as well like events and museums.

Thanks for that. It would be nice. A colleague interrupted me as I was talking to her. Saw her again at the end of the day and that's when I bottled it. Eurgh.

bnt · 22-10-2019 12:31PM

"He pursues her ... "

Then he had better look like Brad Pitt, or show obvious signs of wealth. If an average-looking guy "pursues", he'll soon be talking to the police.

Men, are you single? Your value system may be the problem

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