Partner's Internet history - Help!

Newbie54321

Hi OP here
I know. I need to say something and put a stop to this but it’s hard to confront him about something that could potentially finish us when all I have to go on is a gut feeling and his suspect behaviour.
I have nothing concrete to say he is up to anything else. I am willing to draw a line under the porn thing and move on from it but not this behaviour

nikkibikki

First rule should be no porn whatsoever on the tablet the kid has access to. If he's googling porn related terms, even from his own phone, his Google/gmail profile needs to be taken off that tablet.

Regarding him changing his passwords, he may be worried about a virus from these sites. They might be more than a little dodgy.

If it were me I think I would do the following.

Explain that you want to trust him 100% but understandably you have a gut feeling now that he is hiding something you won't like.

Give him an opportunity for full and honest disclosure, if he tells you what it is now, ye're relationship has a chance because you will know you can trust him to be honest.

If he doesn't tell you now and you find out in 6 months/a year etc down the road about something, and these things have a habit of coming out eventually, then it'll mean the end for definite as trust was broken again.

If he swears that there is nothing else, you've got to either believe him, accept it and move on from it or, if you can't shake that gut feeling that he's hiding something bad, then you don't trust him and is there really much point in staying in the relationship if you don't trust him?

Don't actively snoop and tell him you won't be so there's no need for him to be so cagey with his phone.



My husband and I would often use each others phones if for example our own was in the bedroom charging and we were in the sitting room and too lazy to get it to Google something. With permission obviously. What would your partner's response be if you asked him if you could use his phone for a minute to Google something real quick?

.......

nikkibikki wrote: »

My husband and I would often use each others phones if for example our own was in the bedroom charging and we were in the sitting room and too lazy to get it to Google something. With permission obviously. What would your partner's response be if you asked him if you could use his phone for a minute to Google something real quick?

^^ This

I cant see how its possible to guard your phone when you live with someone. Its totally normal to use each others phone from time to time.

He seems to see you like his mammy or something, hiding what he is doing right in front of you like a small child would.

I dont understand people who behave this way.