Living alone, yay or nay?

OldMrBrennan83

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John_Rambo

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No, you're right. If you're telling people to **** off and storming off with your lunch because they talked to you you're better off in the car. Hope you've leather seats!

OldMrBrennan83

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John_Rambo

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Except chatting with them on forums of course.

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Well, be careful not to spill any sauces or liquid on the cloth. They can be a bitch to clean.

NollagShona

Yes!!!!!

justfillmein

alone if it wasn't for the squatter kid.
thankfully we are nearly close to the teenage years and he'll want to see feck all of me then, and I can have the gaf all to myself again:cool:

John_Rambo

justfillmein wrote: »

alone if it wasn't for the squatter kid.
thankfully we are nearly close to the teenage years and he'll want to see feck all of me then, and I can have the gaf all to myself again:cool:

He's on his laptop looking up old folks homes right now.

justfillmein

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i'm with you on that one.
I don't mind a bit of chit chat, but if I was eating and someone came and sat beside me, I wouldn't be impressed at all

justfillmein

John_Rambo wrote: »

He's on his laptop looking up old folks homes right now.

he wouldn't even be that kind to me. he'll feck off and leave me to rot on my own:D

Katgurl

If only...

KERSPLAT!

Reading this makes me really appreciate my situation. Sharing but rarely seeing my housemate (A few times a month at most) and who I know my while life so any issues are fairly easily sorted.

Right now I'd prefer my own place but this is the next best thing

John_Rambo

KERSPLAT! wrote: »

Reading this makes me really appreciate my situation. Sharing but rarely seeing my housemate (A few times a month at most) and who I know my while life so any issues are fairly easily sorted.

Right now I'd prefer my own place but this is the next best thing

Yeah, agreed, coming from someone that was lucky enough to be able to buy on my own and live on my own in a time when it was possible, I do feel for very hard working people that simply can't, no matter how hard they work and save.

I don't mean that in a smug way like some of the live alone posters here do.

Thich Nhat Hanh

I live alone and love it. I did my fair share of flat sharing over the years. I have plenty of friends and am very interactive but I really don’t want to have to talk to people when I get home. I know I’m lucky I don’t know what I’d do if I hadn’t got a place before prices went nuts again.

Pac1Man

As the revolutionary Viet Cong leader Ho Chi Minh once said:

"Much prefer living on me own to be honest. Don't have to deal with dried bolognese sauce residue on the counter in the morning when all I want is a bowl of Weetabix before me morning walk along the local trail."

Alone, though that includes with my girlfriend. We lived in shared accommodation years ago, and while it's fine, we both work from home now and want peace and quiet.

My brother is gonna stay with us for a while now soon but he's sound and is the only other person I'd want living with us.

Noveight

No, it wouldn't be for me. I lived alone in college digs for 2 weeks as all the housemates had finished exams early and gone home. It was great for getting study done but eerily quiet at times.

ANDREWMUFC

Go to the pub or bookies that’s the best way to pass time

smilerf

I am disabled and I live with my parents. I have disabled friends who have moved out of their family home just so they can prove they can be independent. Good for them but personally I don't understand it. Going from having company to living alone I would hate tht

Baron Kurtz

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I don't know really, maybe it's not, but I couldn't do it. You'd know for a start that all the staff would be talking about the weirdo on his own. People always feel the need to make conversation too like you're some sort of weirdo magnet.
I stop at rest stop petrol stations all the time for lunches because of my job but one day someone decided to join me and annoy me while I was trying to eat, so ever since then I bring it out and eat in the car. People should just leave you alone.

Your last few posts raised an eyebrow, but this confirms you have a few issues that might need addressing.

OldMrBrennan83

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seamus

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Your last few posts raised an eyebrow, but this confirms you have a few issues that might need addressing.

Nah, he doesn't. I get it. I wouldn't be quite that bad - if eating at my desk wasn't an option then I'd probably just suck it up and go sit in the work canteen and hope nobody sits down.
He doesn't have "issues", it's that he would prefer to sit in silence in his own company than share an awkward silence with someone he barely knows, or have "that guy" sit down and yammer at him about sports or some other inane topic while he forces his food down as fast as possible so he can go back to work.

On the OP's topic, I expect the feeling of loneliness is proportional to the size of the property. If you're living in a large house on your own, gonna be a bit lonely. If it's a small apartment, being alone is probably bliss.
I lived alone in my brother's house for a few months and it was bliss. We got a lodger in, he was a nice guy, worked shift and went back "home" whenever he had a long break, so that worked well. But when he was not on shift and decided to hang around for a few days, it was definitely less comfortable; two adults trying not to intrude into eachother's space in a standard 3-bed house is not comfortable.
When my brother moved home, it was way easier to share with him than a stranger, naturally.

RacoonQueen

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Nah, he doesn't. I get it. I wouldn't be quite that bad - if eating at my desk wasn't an option then I'd probably just suck it up and go sit in the work canteen and hope nobody sits down.
He doesn't have "issues", it's that he would prefer to sit in silence in his own company than share an awkward silence with someone he barely knows, or have "that guy" sit down and yammer at him about sports or some other inane topic while he forces his food down as fast as possible so he can go back to work.

Yeah...I would often (during the summer) go to my car at lunch, read my book and eat lunch. Suns shining outside, windows down. Peace to loose myself in my book.
Remember getting back from lunch one day, early summer and one of my colleagues asking me what I did for lunch.
Told him I went to my car to read my book...to which he replied "Wow...that's kinda depressing..."

Me: .....

To this day, still not sure what would be 'depressing' about reading your book in peace where you can take it in. But, y'know...OK...
I mean I can read in the office but there's too much activity.

_Roz_

I eat at my desk to avoid conversing with my (very lovely) colleagues, because conversations with colleagues aren't really a relaxing thing for me, due to introversion/anxiety. Instead, I'll enjoy chats with them as part of day to day work, and chill out with some reading at lunchtime.

As for living alone - my partner and I live alone and its bliss. I always struggled when sharing, for the same reason I avoid my colleagues at lunch, I would always attempt to avoid housemates and it was very difficult and stressful. Ironically, probably more stressful than just having the odd chat with them but tell that to my anxiety. I'm very happy now, though. Lovely little house, partner who understands the need for alone time, and a dog who does not understand personal space at ALL, but is adorable and so gets away with it.

c68zapdsm5i1ru

I don't know where people get this idea that if you live alone you don't get to chat to people and have social interaction. You do, but you also get downtime to yourself.

I live alone but have plenty of friends, activities I really enjoy and regular contact with family members. I'm also out at work all day so plenty of people to talk to there.

Unless you make little effort to go out and socialise, or call in to visit family, there's nothing lonely about living alone. It just means you also have total peace and quiet when you want it.

Obviously, if you move to a part of the country where you know no one that might be different. But if you're living in an area where you have an established life, I'd prefer to live alone than with random people, or even with friends that might start getting on my nerves after a while.

bucketybuck

I am as social as anybody, but if I was in a cafe eating my lunch and some stranger sat down in front of me and started a random conversation I would absolutely tell them to **** right off.

Citygirl1

I've lived on my own for most of the last 14 years, the last 10 years in my own house, and it's definitely my preference.

I am a person who needs my own space, and while I really enjoy being with friends or family, after a while I find it quite tiring!

I did house share for a number of years, and it's astonishing the little and big things people do that can be so irritating....

Conversely, living alone can allow me to do things that I know would be annoying for others, or I would be too self conscious to do with anyone else around. eg. Staying in my dressing gown until lunch time (when not working), playing the same piece of music three times in a row or watching random clips from Friends on YouTube.

It also means that I can keep the place tidy, without anyone else messing it up. But if I'm in a hurry and need to leave a mess that's ok, as I'm not annoying anyone else, and can get to it in my own time.

I suppose, the above does show that living alone has allowed me to become somewhat set in my ways, and less flexible.

Sephiroth_dude

Citygirl1 wrote: »

playing the same piece of music three times in a row or watching random clips from Friends on YouTube.
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I thought I was the only one........

Citygirl1

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

I thought I was the only one........

He he. Even worse, I've often found myself looking at the most random clips from Sex and the City, 7th Heaven, Lord of the rings...all a bit sad I know, but very relaxing and amusing as they are usually the best bits.

There are also some good documentaries on YouTube, and old Period Dramas, which interest me but not any of my family, so I can watch this kind of thing on demand when I'm alone. However, if I have a family member to stay generally the TV is turned on, to what ever they want to watch....

Was at an event recently and it struck me, 2 of the people at it were single and living alone and you could tell it straight away. They were both inclined to say stuff that was less...diplomatic than others. Not remotely a criticism, in fact I kinda like it when someone says what they think, I was more interested in the fact that it was so obvious from their mannerisms.

danganabu

Differnet strokes for different folks really...........never understand the need of some people to make everything so definitive and black and white, like most of lifes great questions the answer to the OP is ''it depends''

Personally I have done both, lived in shared accomodation from age 18 - 30 but for the last few years have lived alone in my own house. I would certainly prefer my current situation but would hate to have missed out on the former and all the good times I had as part of that as well.