Are you a people person?

RobbingBandit

Nope can't even seem to make imaginary friends let alone real ones, smelling like Katy Bates in heat doesn't help though.

I’m fine with people, was a bit shyer when I was younger like most people I’d say but if I’m at a gathering with friends and there are people there who we are all unfamiliar with I’ll usually be the first to strike up conversation. I don’t think it’s healthy to “hate people”. I mean youre going to spend the rest of your life having to interact with them at work and in general so it’d always be better if you didn’t feel negatively towards others as a default, but everyone has their reasons I’m sure. Seeing so many people say such things here makes me wonder how boards can have such a centre-left, politically correct bent to it - surely that’s at odds with “hating people”?

Vela

I like my own company and definitely not a "people person" by nature. But I can switch it on when/as needed.

justfillmein

so I can safely presume that nobody will be organizing any meet ups in here:pac:

pauliebdub

It depends on my mood, I need to be in the right mood to go out, otherwise I'll just stay in. When I do go out I tend to enjoy myself and I like engaging with family and friends.

soups05

i used to be a people person, 20 years in retail changed that. now i just wanna kill you all.











well, not all, but most.

Hector Bellend

People are a great big pain in my swiss.

If I had my way people could all go and f**k off

s7ryf3925pivug

Neither of those. Not a social animal, but I'm pretty outspoken, dispute my inability to read non-obvious facial expressions or social cues.

DoozerT6

I have found that a combination of my job (public facing, oh joy!!) and living alone for several years has changed me. I'm generally 'all out of spoons' when I finish work, so when I come home to an empty apartment, I quite like it - but conversely, that has had the effect of turning me into a bit of a hermit. I go for long periods without actually having a conversation with anybody outside of my work (in person) or immediate family (usually by phone).

These days, I go to great lengths to avoid socialising, especially outside of my family. Sad, I know. Back in my heyday, I would have no problem chatting to people day-to-day. I would also do myself up, head into town with a friend or two and have a night out every couple of weeks. Nowadays, due to my self-esteem being in my boots for various reasons, that would be my idea of hell.

Ideally, I would like to win the Lotto (me and everyone else of course), not have to work, maybe volunteer someplace a few hours a week, and build up a social life that way. While I enjoy my own company, I would hate to become a statistic: an old lady who died in her home, and nobody found her for months - because nobody missed her. Human interaction is important, in varying degrees depending on the individual of course, but still. Everybody needs somebody.

Rubberlegs

I find that my people skills reflect how I am in general. I agonise over things far too much and overthink things, get myself in a heap over small situations. When I am actually involved in doing whatever it is I am grand and look back on it wondering why did I lose sleep over something so trivial. I feel sick sometimes at the thoughts of being around people, especially those I don't know well, but when I am in the thick of it I manage to make small talk and hold my own. I am usually the one that sits in the front of the taxi and talks sh1te with the taxi driver . There will always be a part of me though that will worry that people think I am a weirdo coming from people repeatedly pointing out to me how quiet/shy I was as a child

frozenfrozen

Here's one you can all have for free.

You're in a group of people and someone will turn to you and say "you're awful quiet"; just say "jesus that's the first thing you've said all night you quiet bastard." Especially if they haven't stopped talking all night, because baby you know that means they're just about to walk themselves into:

"no I've been talking nonstop!"

"well then maybe you should give being quiet a go for fook sake!"

Go forth and turn an awkward moment into rupturus laughter from the table beside yours. You are welcome.

*your mileage may vary. Tested on animals.*

RonanP77

I'd say I'm more of a people person than I was a few years ago. I think I'm mellowing with age.

I joined a sports club 2 years ago and 99% of the people in it are sound, though I only really chat to one outside of class. I changed jobs 8 months ago and deal with a lot more people in my new role, I guess I'm just more used to mixing with people now.

On the other hand I still mainly prefer my own company and there are very few people I talk to by choice. I'd gladly head off to a desert island for 6 months with a case of books and a fishing rod and not see a single person in that time.

Mutant z

Im perfectly happy with only having myself for company.

Gaia Mother Earth

I was painfully shy as a child but I was lost in a big family, wedged in between two very outgoing sisters.

As I've got older, I'm definitely more sure of myself and can chat easily to people.

However, being around people I have nothing in common with would zap my energy. I love being around people I have things in common with.

I heard the term ambivert on here and I'm definitely that.

Love my own company and I'm very independent but I would feel lonely if I didn't have human company on a regular basis.

JupiterKid

I would consider myself a "people person" in that I can adjust to social situations pretty well and can make conversation easily. However, I often feel quite anxious when meeting people for the first time or people I haven't seen in ages but once I make the effort to interact, I'm usually fine.

But as the years have gone by I find myself more happy to be in my own company. Some people can be very irritating and having to make platitudes and BS small talk with people you don't really like gets tiring.

KatW4

I don't really know how to describe myself. I work with kids and I could chat away to them all day but put me in front of a group of adults that I wouldn't know too well and I can't speak. I over think everything, I mentally rehearse what I want to say and then I turn red in the face when I say it. I can't handle people looking at me in group situations so I find it quite difficult to join in with the conversation. I don't want people to think I'm strange/stupid.

But if I know you or we have something in common, I never shut up. I'll chat for hours on end.

Overall though, I love my own company. I have to spend a few hours by myself every day or I get cranky.

jigglypuffstuff

NollagShona wrote: »

I find this most trying. Please Fcuk off. I don’t care we’re both born on the same land mass

Haha this brought a smile to my face :'D

OldMrBrennan83

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Patww79

Patww79 wrote: »

The poll is very promising in that maybe people are finally leaning towards leaving others alone.

I feel a bit sad for you.

OldMrBrennan83

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spindex

I'm not a people person, ye are all a bunch of cnuts, especially that twat in the mirror every morning.

I love social occasions and have no trouble dealing with people or making conversation with strangers, but after a day or night of it, I like some peace and quiet.

It's not always one or the other, you can like to be alone and enjoy being with others, the issue is getting the balance right.

Sociable introvert, basically.

NollagShona

Funny, I'm not a wallflower, but not a people person. I could deliver a speech to a crowd, but one to one conversations I don't do well.

paddylonglegs

NollagShona wrote: »

Funny, I'm not a wallflower, but not a people person. I could deliver a speech to a crowd, but one to one conversations I don't do well.

Agree! Not that I go around making speeches that often, but I would be relatively ok about it.

The one on one small talk I find difficult as I don't find it genuine if I have to think of things to say.

What makes it worse are people that won't make an effort on their side either

Mick Head

What exactly is a a "people person"?

Most responses here have consisted of I don't like people apart from my girlfriend/boyfriend and my friends and people I socialise with.

I would think that's not exactly an example of someone not being a people person and yet loads of people here have claimed they aren't a people person despite being sociable and having friends.

Sounds like a lot of people on this thread like the idea of sounding different and edgy by claiming they are misanthropic or socially awkward without actually being so.

Foxhound38

I am because my job requires me to be, but it doesn't come "naturally" to me really really. In fact, often when I'm done with work I need some time to just be on my own and not talk to people after a full day of yapping because it makes my brain tired.

Lorelli!

I went through a sort of quiet phase when I was a teenager and a family friend use to say "it's always the quiet ones" like she was suspicious of me or something

cantdecide

"Do you know people on *the other team are actually afraid of you".

I used to think I was an introvert but basically I'm shy and suffer from resting c*** face. People (especially strangers) are uncomfortable which makes me uncomfortable. I genuinely wish I could learn to be more charming but the words just don't come together for me. I hate having hills to climb with people when I meet them first. The workplace can be a nightmare.







*Worked in a large contact centre on a wide open floor where my team used to QC the work of another team with whom we had little direct interaction. This colleague moved from the other team to our team. The comment arose after a week of patiently mentoring him.

Steve F

I'll just leave this here

WEDDINGS!!

jigglypuffstuff

This "YOLO" overindulged, over-privileged, egocentric, narcissistic, self obsessed generation are most definitely the bane of the human race.

Id rather live in isolation than be among them

So, no....definitely not a people person