Are you a people person?

Shaungoater

It's not that I dislike people and socialising perse, it's more that most people I talk to outside my circle of friends tend to be dicks. The place I work currently I have for the last three years. Forty of us, I just find them all fake and annoying.

21Savage

I record my Dominos pizza order before I call up

boardsuser1

Despite being in a job where I deal with people everyday I try to avoid as much contact as possible.

I was once described as the thread title by a former colleague.

ROAAAR

One would Imagine that if one were in fact a ‘people person’ that one would yes indeed be a ‘person’.

So, no!

paddylonglegs

I can last about 2 hours with the small talk thing. Anything after that and I get incredibly anxious about what I'll talk about

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anna080 wrote: »

I have a limited social battery. The Christmas season has almost depleted it. I love being around people but in all honestly I find it quite exhausting and tbh I love nothing more than being home in my own company, closing the door on the outer world with the tv on and the dog beside me alone with my own thoughts.

I usually use the analogy of socialising being like having a **** to porn. Very urgent need sometimes, very very interested and focused on it for a short period of time and then immediately after it's served its purpose it's "oh god, bleh,close that down right now please, what are they...bleh".

Social battery though. Think that's the analogy to crack out for small talk.

paddylonglegs

paddylonglegs wrote: »

I can last about 2 hours with the small talk thing. Anything after that and I get incredibly anxious about what I'll talk about

2 hours..Jesus..
After about 15 minutes I'm like "ah, so have you seen any good movies lately?.."

paddylonglegs

[Deleted User] wrote: »

2 hours..Jesus..
After about 15 minutes I'm like "ah, so have you seen any good movies lately?.."

Yeah 2 hours seems like a lot of time. It's generally not a 1 on 1, but interspersed with some excuse to leave the room

Sephiroth_dude

I hate when out with a group of people and even in school I would have people come up to me and say "why are you so quiet?" it really bugged me :mad: . I was at a boards meetup in September (lovely people ) and we were all sat around a table chatting and I was the quiet one just sat back and observed and listened to people and throw in a few words here and there, no judgement from them for being quiet, I loved it and felt at ease and comfortable .

AllForIt

donegaLroad wrote: »

I also think that it's regional. People from particular parts of Ireland are warmer than others.

That is true to a point. When I came back to live in Ireland (not Dublin) I was struck by the warmth of the ppl in my locale. The staff in places like chemists and receptions in various establishments and general shop staff too I suppose. I don't have that quality with ppl I don't know and tend to blank ppl I kinda know when I see them on the street but when I know someone I'm highly chatty and personable.

dd972

donegaLroad wrote: »

I also think that it's regional. People from particular parts of Ireland are warmer than others. I have lived all over the country and this has been my experience, generally speaking.

Navan for example, I found difficult to engage with people.

Derry, Cork and Dublin.. no hassle

That is true and am surprised there aren't more threads on that, I've always found the border counties and midlanders a bit on the dour side.

Lia_lia

paddylonglegs wrote: »

Do you think you were always able to "chat" or did you develop and get better at it because of the role you were in?

No, wasn't always able to. I was a quiet child/young teen and it was only when I started working in jobs where I had to talk to people (from a young age) that I developed these chatting skills.

ArchXStanton

Was very sociable when I was younger,these days more of a 4 wall hermit,I think I've seen all that I've wanted to see

ChikiChiki

For my job I need to be a people person when engaging with various stakeholders. I have no problem with that. However outside of work, I find it difficult to hold and maintain small talk. Walking into a group of people is something I would spend time working up the courage to do.

Beasty

I love a bit of solitude. I've always been a deep thinker, and regularly get comments that I overthink things, which I very much acknowledge to be the case. I'm not one for social occasions, but I find it difficult not to get on with pretty much everyone I meet. I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt - look at things their way and try to understand why someone else's view differs from my own. That's where the solitude and deep thinking come in.

There's an example at work of someone who winds everyone, including me, up regularly. I tend not to hold it against him. I'll adapt to accommodate him - guess it means I don't feel as negatively about others as some do

ShotgunRider

I am a social butterfly in my head and even in my heart, but quite lonely in reality as I am socially awkward. I am very kind and terribly soft hearted to my detriment. I have read this site faithfully every day for years and made many a profile. I have posted once or twice then lost confidence and skidaddled.

I would like to have the confidence to stay but I only seem to have that confidence after a few drinks....hence, here I am again. I love Boards. I think it's a great site with some really good people. I follow some threads here faithfully every day, I have cried and laughed here with you for a long time..

I hope I stay this time. I think most people are good. I think there are others here just like me. I have made one or two friends online over the years who I have never met but they trust me implicitly and I them. If I could only translate how I am when I write to who I am when I speak, I guess I would not be seen as eccentric. But eccentric I am.

So in my heart I am a people person. In reality, I am quite the loner.

Mountainsandh

Same here as other posters who hold "social" jobs.
I have to be a people person at work, it's a huge part of the job.

Outside of work, I'm able for some small talk and a bit of interaction when needed, but I tend to avoid it and prefer to enjoy some quiet time with my own thoughts and activities.

I would be very distressed if I didn't get time to "regroup" with my own self every day, but I'm very well able to skip social interaction for a longer while.

justfillmein

no.

I like people in small doses.
I feel like its a chore to entertain people too often.

and I don't even like pets either. so i'm not a people person, OR a pet person:D

JackTaylorFan

I would say I'm somewhere in between - my Myers-Briggs personality (if you subscribe to that) is almost equally introverted as is it extroverted...

I don't enjoy large groups - but this should not automatically disqualify me as a "people person"...

I'll talk to anyone as long as they are civil ...

And I don't go out of my way to make people feel uncomfortable unless they make me feel uncomfortable first...

paddylonglegs

JackTaylorFan wrote: »

I would say I'm somewhere in between - my Myers-Briggs personality (if you subscribe to that) is almost equally introverted as is it extroverted...

I don't enjoy large groups - but this should not automatically disqualify me as a "people person"...

I'll talk to anyone as long as they are civil ...

And I don't go out of my way to make people feel uncomfortable unless they make me feel uncomfortable first...

I actually prefer large groups, because I know there will be plenty of conversation and not as much pressure on everyone to talk as much. But I would hate to be the centre of that large group, unless I need to speak on something specific.

JackTaylorFan

paddylonglegs wrote: »

I actually prefer large groups, because I know there will be plenty of conversation and not as much pressure on everyone to talk as much.

I feel exactly the opposite - I feel really awkward just sitting there with either nothing to say to people or not being given the opportunity to speak (talked over). I sometimes feel guilty in smaller groups if I monopolize the conversation too

Wibbs

People person here. Though do need some alone time. Which is normal.

Shaungoater wrote: »

It's not that I dislike people and socialising perse, it's more that most people I talk to outside my circle of friends tend to be dicks. The place I work currently I have for the last three years. Forty of us, I just find them all fake and annoying.

What's that old saw along the lines of; if you meet one dick today then you've met a dick, but if everyone you meet is a dickhead, then maybe you're the dick? That's not a slight at you and you have a circle of mates, but I'd start to ask questions of myself if I started to think the majority of people out there were ****.

Westernyelp

Love a lot of people. Not interested in the rest. Im sure your cool an all but. My book is full. Best of luck with it though!

OldMrBrennan83

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js35

I’m definitely not a people person very socially arkward and basically have withdrawn from society over the past few years.
It’s like my motto in life is if I don’t let anybody in I cannot get hurt

Wibbs

Patww79 wrote: »

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They're really not. They're just people for the most part, people with their own strengths and foibles and most of the time they're pretty OK.

I suppose it's how one views the world. If you think it's a dark place and people are pricks, then you will find enough evidence to reinforce this view. Similarly if you think the world is a pretty OK place and people are generally sound, then you will also find enough evidence to reinforce that view. The latter view is a more content and objectively healthier worldview to have and live with.

OldMrBrennan83

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no.8

NollagShona wrote:

Aren’t you just a little trooper!

They gave their honest opinion. Nothing wrong with that.

AnneFrank

js35 wrote: »

I’m definitely not a people person very socially arkward and basically have withdrawn from society over the past few years.
It’s like my motto in life is if I don’t let anybody in I cannot get hurt

My thoughts exactly

NollagShona

no.8 wrote: »

They gave their honest opinion. Nothing wrong with that.

This was for people on the margins, not the happy middle. It was I. The op