Unfriendly Neighbours

Andy From Sligo

we have a new family just moved in next door to us (God help em ) - been there a couple of weeks. If we are are the front on the drive we have been saying a friendly "Hi, how are ye" or nodding our heads or smiling towards them .. but we are getting no recognition back , no smiles, no hellos - nothing. Feels very one sided and weird.

With the previous neighbours there we were always saying hi to eachother and chatting over the wall about this and that and smiled at each other if anyone was out there.

How do we play it now? - its a bit silly being friendly to them and getting no kind of feedback whatsover. Do we take it from this that they want to be left alone and not even try anymore? - maybe they are just private people and want their privacy?

Wanderer2010

There is a difference between being private and being a d!ck. I'm a private person who isn't really into the whole chatting over the wall with my neighbours but if I pass them going in or out or in the garden Ill always pass myself, wave and say a few words. I never ever understood why people have to be rude.

timthumbni

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

we have a new family just moved in next door to us (God help em ) - been there a couple of weeks. If we are are the front on the drive we have been saying a friendly "Hi, how are ye" or nodding our heads or smiling towards them .. but we are getting no recognition back , no smiles, no hellos - nothing. Feels very one sided and weird.

With the previous neighbours there we were always saying hi to eachother and chatting over the wall about this and that and smiled at each other if anyone was out there.

How do we play it now? - its a bit silly being friendly to them and getting no kind of feedback whatsover. Do we take it from this that they want to be left alone and not even try anymore? - maybe they are just private people and want their privacy?

As long as they are quiet then you are lucky as the 7th son of a 7th son. Bonus that they don't want to talk. Cuts out the inane chitchat...

Barry Badrinath

Maybe they know you from here OP.

kylith

Maybe your previous neighbours left a note: Don't start talking to those feckers next door, you'll never shut them up.

corner of hells

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

we have a new family just moved in next door to us (God help em ) - been there a couple of weeks. If we are are the front on the drive we have been saying a friendly "Hi, how are ye" or nodding our heads or smiling towards them .. but we are getting no recognition back , no smiles, no hellos - nothing. Feels very one sided and weird.

With the previous neighbours there we were always saying hi to eachother and chatting over the wall about this and that and smiled at each other if anyone was out there.

How do we play it now? - its a bit silly being friendly to them and getting no kind of feedback whatsover. Do we take it from this that they want to be left alone and not even try anymore? - maybe they are just private people and want their privacy?

Andy , my own two cents my give you some perspective, I'm also going to call you Dave in my post .
You'll see why later.

I live in a fairly well to do area on a road with largish sized three bed houses and directly across from my house is a development of four bed houses , part of the same estate.Are you with me , Dave ?

Anyhow I'm the type of guy who one day might drive to work or another day might bus it , as it happened one day I said hello to one of four bed neighbours at the bus stop and he blanked me completely despite living across from me for 10 plus years.

Ok says I , bad night maybe or his wife in the blob, who knows .
Happened a few more times that spring top.

Time passed , the swallows swooped and summer arrived and one evening my doorbell rang.
I answered my door and there was **** Andy my crossroad neighbour and fellow commuter.

Off he went on a spiel about wanting to develop a community spirit and his plan was to have a collection for a barbecue, I loudly announced I'd never seen him before and closed the door.

Most likely its not you Dave , you're probably fairly decent but unfortunately there's knobs everywhere.

fatknacker

Maybe they don't want to get too close because the last neighbours they had all died and that's why they moved because of the trauma.

SmartinMartin

Witness protection.

corner of hells

SmartinMartin wrote: »

Witness protection.

From Jehovah's?

blade1

Reminds of Steve and Rachel or Rachel and Steve!

gifted

Go introduce yourself one evening....

meeeeh

I make sure to waive at everyone on the road. But the sad truth is I never even bothered to remember how some of the next door neighbors look like. I might be polite in the neighborhood but if I met them in the town I wouldn't even recognize them.

But I also remember when I was younger wondering where an elderly neighbor is. She was dead for couple of years and I must have gone at least to wake if not to funeral. Country life is great for community spirit.

Poor Uncle Tom

Wait till they're all home, let yourself in, drop the kaks and plant a log in in the centre of the living room floor, guaranteed to get a reaction then Andy...

Wexfordboy89

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

Wait till they're all home, let yourself in, drop the kaks and plant a log in in the centre of the living room floor, guaranteed to get a reaction then Andy...

And heres me thinking the dog had done it.hope that new sitting room carpet of yours doesnt stain easy

SEPT 23 1989

maybe the two piebalds in the front garden distracted them

Esel

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Maybe they know you from here OP.

Yeah, maybe they heard you had a rep for starting long, boring conversations. They have you on Ignore.

Andy From Sligo

corner of hells wrote: »

Andy , my own two cents my give you some perspective, I'm also going to call you Dave in my post .
You'll see why later.

I live in a fairly well to do area on a road with largish sized three bed houses and directly across from my house is a development of four bed houses , part of the same estate.Are you with me , Dave ?

Anyhow I'm the type of guy who one day might drive to work or another day might bus it , as it happened one day I said hello to one of four bed neighbours at the bus stop and he blanked me completely despite living across from me for 10 plus years.

Ok says I , bad night maybe or his wife in the blob, who knows .
Happened a few more times that spring top.

Time passed , the swallows swooped and summer arrived and one evening my doorbell rang.
I answered my door and there was **** Andy my crossroad neighbour and fellow commuter.

Off he went on a spiel about wanting to develop a community spirit and his plan was to have a collection for a barbecue, I loudly announced I'd never seen him before and closed the door.

Most likely its not you Dave , you're probably fairly decent but unfortunately there's knobs everywhere.

Lovely ditty that - nearly bought a tear to me eye so it did .. nearly!

Andy From Sligo

kylith wrote: »

Maybe your previous neighbours left a note: Don't start talking to those feckers next door, you'll never shut them up.

yep, thats what it was

Andy From Sligo

fatknacker wrote: »

Maybe they don't want to get too close because the last neighbours they had all died and that's why they moved because of the trauma.

Feck! - mind you saying that , since they have moved in my health has deteriorated somewhat :eek:

pauliebdub

I'd say hello to most of my neighbours, some are weird and others unfriendly and never acknowledge me. Though I've lived in the same place for 13 years I don't know any of them particularly well.

Andy From Sligo

well the most strangest of feckin things - about half an hour i was clearing rubbish from the car on the way back to the front door the lady of the house came out and I done me normal lunatic wave and a smile , not expectin nothing back and she only feckin' smiled - maybe we have progress!

I mean I dont want to have a meaninful relationship wiv any of em or babies with any of them but if they give me just a smile once in a while I can live with that - dont feel such a loon now

Esel

They are lurking in this thread - it's the only logical explanation.

corner of hells

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

well the most strangest of feckin things - about half an hour i was clearing rubbish from the car on the way back to the front door the lady of the house came out and I done me normal lunatic wave and a smile , not expectin nothing back and she only feckin' smiled - maybe we have progress!

I mean I dont want to have a meaninful relationship wiv any of em or babies with any of them but if they give me just a smile once in a while I can live with that - dont feel such a loon now

We're you clearing the rubbish from her car ?

blade1

That's 'cause they're on boards ya feckin' eejit!!!:p

Edit:beaten to it by Esel.

Andy From Sligo

Esel wrote: »

They are lurking in this thread - it's the only logical explanation.

i was thinking that - bloody massive coincidence on the same day I post this it does a complete 360 ! :eek:

Andy From Sligo

corner of hells wrote: »

We're you clearing the rubbish from her car ?

Sh!t I WAS :eek: - are you my neighbours? - er welcome to the area!

blade1

Ahhahahahaha!

corner of hells

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

corner of hells wrote: »

We're you clearing the rubbish from her car ?

Sh!t I WAS :eek: - are you my neighbours? - er welcome to the area!

Dave, see what happens when you confuse boards with make believe .

OldMrBrennan83

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Andy From Sligo

Shítesville - how do you feckin delete a thread on this bleeding thing!

Rumpy Pumpy

Patww79 wrote: »

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That's not true. I get on great with the lad's who live either side of me. Buddy and Pal.

OldMrBrennan83

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Rumpy Pumpy

Patww79 wrote: »

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No. Suspect Buddy works in IT, and Pal has the cut of a secondary school teacher - mustard slacks, Dubarry shoes, sports coat.

MonkieSocks

corner of hells wrote: »

We're you clearing the rubbish from her car ?

No, he was clearing rubbish from his own car that the neighbour had left in it from the time when they were dogging with the Labradors.

Think the said Car is up for sale

quickbeam

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

i was thinking that - bloody massive coincidence on the same day I post this it does a complete 360 ! :eek:

You mean you're back where you started?

Andy From Sligo

quickbeam wrote: »

You mean you're back where you started?

no, I meant they have gone right from ignoring our friendly waves and smiles to smiling , well the lady has - I dunno about her partner / husband / live in lover (cross out whats not applicable)

Irish Guitarist

A couple of years ago the neighbour beside my house was having parties every weekend. At 3.00 AM one night she or one of her guests threw an egg at my window. A couple of weeks later there was a bang on my door at about the same time. I answered it and one of her drunken party guests stood there saying nothing. He then tried to walk past me. I shouted at him "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?". He said "do I have the wrong house?". I said "yes" and almost sent him flying across the road with the force I closed the door in his face.

She eventually got kicked out after another of my neighbours complained about the noise. Now There's 'settled travellers' living there. I was coming out of my house one night and heard the woman talking on the phone at the top of her voice. I glanced at the house for a second then went on my way. I then encountered the womans daughter walking towards me who shouted "DON'T BE EAVESDROPPING, THAT'S A BAD THING TO DO".

She wasn't so concerned about her privacy when she thought the mother had commited suicide and the fire brigade were trying to get over my wall to access her house (it turned out she was asleep in bed or something).

Now the house at the other side of my house is being rented by a couple who shout at each other at the top of their voices into the early hours of the morning. And the 'settled travellers' are still there.

I'd gladly swap neighbours with you.

FAILSAFE 00

Rumpy Pumpy wrote: »

No. Suspect Buddy works in IT, and Pal has the cut of a secondary school teacher - mustard slacks, Dubarry shoes, sports coat.

Buddy




Pal

maudgonner

corner of hells wrote: »

Dave, see what happens when you confuse boards with make believe .

Be careful what you wish for. It's only a matter of hours now Dave, before this happens:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkiix0aveRk

Esel

"Dave's not here."

Stigura

I've got the stuff ....!

NickNickleby

quickbeam wrote: »

You mean you're back where you started?

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

no, I meant they have gone right from ignoring our friendly waves and smiles to smiling , well the lady has - I dunno about her partner / husband / live in lover (cross out whats not applicable)

Whoosh!!!!!

hahaha. Fair play Andy, its nice to be nice. Just be yourself, if they can't reciprocate, so what. You're the nice guy.

BTW - complete 180.

Your Face

Hey all, I just moved into a new house and my weirdo neighbour is always trying to chat.
I tried blanking him but he keeps on smiling and nodding everytime I see him.
I think he needs professional help.
Poor creature.

NickNickleby

Your Face wrote: »

Hey all, I just moved into a new house and my weirdo neighbour is always trying to chat.
I tried blanking him but he keeps on smiling and nodding everytime I see him.
I think he needs professional help.
Poor creature.

try a 360

Strangely enough, I have a far better relationship with my dublin neighbours than our neighbours down home in the countryside, where people usually assume neighbours always get on.

we are cursed with unfriendly neighbours at home. There are two in particular.

On one side, our farm is adjacent to their private roadway. To enter one of our fields, you have to drive about 20m up their road and turn into that field.

One day, my brother is coming home on the narrow roadway with a trailer of lambs. He meets Mrs Neighbour in the opposite direction, and he's driving a trailer so can't really reverse. She doesn't want to reverse, for whatever reason so she screams at him "Go back, it's not an Artic lorry you're driving!". So he turns off the engine, picks up the Indo, and starts reading it until she reverses in a huff.

The next day, our gateway was filled-in using a JCB, and they've never spoken to us since. It's been about 15 years. Cue a long series of nasty gestures and activities that I won't get into here.

The other neighbours are a Dublin family who relocated to the countryside. We began grazing in a field that attaches to their property, and the Mum asked us to stop because her kids were afraid of the bull. We were like, 'eh, no, we can't just stop using that field..?' and ever since they've been giving us the cold shoulder. The kids used to come over and help out on the farm on weekends, lovely kids, but now they've been stopped from doing that by their mum.

It confuses me when rural neighbours, in particular, can't make some effort to avoid trouble. This are people you see every day and you never know when you might need someone to help with something, whether it's keeping an eye on your property, or giving you a lift to town, or whatever.

freshpopcorn

Could the neighbours be deaf?

jamesbere

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Could the neighbours be deaf?

Selective hearing maybe

darkdubh

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Strangely enough, I have a far better relationship with my dublin neighbours than our neighbours down home in the countryside, where people usually assume neighbours always get on.

we are cursed with unfriendly neighbours at home. There are two in particular.

On one side, our farm is adjacent to their private roadway. To enter one of our fields, you have to drive about 20m up their road and turn into that field.

One day, my brother is coming home on the narrow roadway with a trailer of lambs. He meets Mrs Neighbour in the opposite direction, and he's driving a trailer so can't really reverse. She doesn't want to reverse, for whatever reason so she screams at him "Go back, it's not an Artic lorry you're driving!". So he turns off the engine, picks up the Indo, and starts reading it until she reverses in a huff.

The next day, our gateway was filled-in using a JCB, and they've never spoken to us since. It's been about 15 years. Cue a long series of nasty gestures and activities that I won't get into here.

The other neighbours are a Dublin family who relocated to the countryside. We began grazing in a field that attaches to their property, and the Mum asked us to stop because her kids were afraid of the bull. We were like, 'eh, no, we can't just stop using that field..?' and ever since they've been giving us the cold shoulder. The kids used to come over and help out on the farm on weekends, lovely kids, but now they've been stopped from doing that by their mum.

It confuses me when rural neighbours, in particular, can't make some effort to avoid trouble. This are people you see every day and you never know when you might need someone to help with something, whether it's keeping an eye on your property, or giving you a lift to town, or whatever.

I'm from the country and sometimes hear similar stories of feuding neighbours, usually over right's of way and boundarys. Not that common thankfully.

Andy From Sligo

Your Face wrote: »

Hey all, I just moved into a new house and my weirdo neighbour is always trying to chat.
I tried blanking him but he keeps on smiling and nodding everytime I see him.
I think he needs professional help.
Poor creature.

hello Neighbour - no need to be afraid, I is just being friendly - I dont wanna bed you or anything ....

Andy From Sligo

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Could the neighbours be deaf?

mr mrs think they could be shy, .. I am a bit shy (stop laughing!) .. but at least I nod or smile ... or do a hand gesture!

NickNickleby

uh oh??

You could have said "wave" , but instead you said "hand gesture". May I suggest sticking to a friendly wave:D:D;)