Now Ye're Talking - to an Irish escort

LaraLushhhhh

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Not without it being noticeable to someone in my life, no. Definitely not.

I could spend 10k every week - but people would be asking where all the new stuff was coming from.

I only know a couple of people who seemed to be living beyond their means and one was stealing from the til in work and the other was selling drugs.

No matter what you might think, most ordinary people do not have that much disposable income weekly.

I really wish you would understand this ..... nobody asks me where i get my money from , nobody notices , nobody gives a ****e to be honest . When you say "people" would be asking you ... I don't have "people" asking me. And I'm so glad to be a confident independent woman who dosnt need to answer to anyone.

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LaraLushhhhh

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By people I mean your family - you previously mentioned you had family?

And your friends? Dont they ask? My friends and I discuss money or "stuff"? (like oooh - where did you get that handbag/shoes/etc..)

You sound very defensive about it tbh - which is odd as surely the whole point of it is doing it for the money?

Ill leave you to it.

I'm just trying to get my point across . You keep nitpicking at what I spend.

Colser

Lara...do you think that some of the men particularly the older ones take Viagra before their visit and if so is that a help or a hindrance for you?

deadanonymau5

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

6 guys is the most.
Yes I always shower between clients
My rates are the same as most girls

Does your skin not dry out?

liam7831 wrote: »

What's the going rate ?

Too much if you have to ask :pac:

Mister Vain wrote: »

When you're putting on a condom, do you grab the tip and roll it down or do you do it the way most other escorts do it, just grab the base of the condom and stretch it out?

I think the escorts you see could do with a sex ed class.

Sinister Kid wrote: »

I don't see why she would need a front business. I can see how easy it would be to go through that amount of cash.... I know I could easily do it if I wanted.

Hotels x3 per wk/ish.
Room service
Travel costs, petrol ect.
Beauty treatments can really add up, hair, nails, waxing & they are just basics... throw in a facial & a massage & your money is going quicker.
Make-up can be expensive if your doing a full face everyday of the week & top up's between clients.
Lingerie can also be very expensive & I'm assuming that she isn't buying it all in Pennys.
Car & it's up keep.
Rent/bills
Putting money by for holidays.
& not to mention socializing.

A grand a week could go pretty easily if you want it to.

Hotels alone are shockingly expensive these days

funkey_monkey

Hi Lara,

Thanks for this - seems to be a very popular thread!

I can sense a hardness in your posts. You don't seem to suffer fools gladly.

Dos this hardness help you to disengage from the emotional side of sex when with a client?

Also, is sex with a escort not a bit 'mechanical'?

Final question. Do single men without 'intimate contact' with a woman for a long period of time start taking the easy way (return visits) out instead of getting it and getting a gf? Essentially, I'm asking is there such a thing as a one off visit?
I can see the attraction of sex with someone out of their league now being within their grasp (so to speak) that it becomes a regular or even irregular habit.

I can see it being based on their personality types, but do people get addicted to the thrill of it and find it hard to stop?

BTW - genuine non judgemental questions. My view on this that I should not be able to tell someone what they can do with their body. Some people get paid for the use of their hands (builders, hairdressers, etc) others for their brains (doctors, lawyers). You are just getting paid for another part of your anatomy!

bmwguy

Great thread. Lay off the money questions guys. I will be buying a car in cash this week nobody is going to be asking me where I got the cash. Big deal. I have hundreds in disposable income on a good week just like Lara. I'm not a gigolo although I would love to be.

Leads me to my question. Is there a market for straight male sex workers? Would be interested in it. Also, do your clients exclusively see you or others? Probably hard to know but they might open up and chat a bit with you if they are regulars and won't be on the job for the full hour.

Taltos

Admin Note
Poster ....... please take a break for a while and let some others interact with the OP. Also during this time please consider how your questions are coming across, as already pointed out the OP is under no obligation to answer anyone here and your last post now crosses the line from asking a question to assigning defensiveness to the OP in how she is quite politely handling your continued questioning.

blastman

It has taken me so long to read this thread that I've forgotten my question! Which should be taken as a compliment as it has been a very interesting read and thanks for your time and patience in answering questions, Lara.

Stepping Stone

Do you find yourself being an agony aunt, for want of a better expression, to your clients?

Would you prefer if they kept it strictly business like you do and not show you photos of their families, etc or do you mind that at all? Just from the perspective of needing to remember details, etc. I know that you said that you have a good memory, but domestic details might not be that memorable!

hufpc8w3adnk65

Say if the maket crashed tomorow and you had to get a normal minimum wage job how much would it effect your lifestyle do you think?



Similar question, if you fell for someone and got pregnant and they had a factory job and brought home €400 a week and you weren't working, you were staying at home do you think you'd resent a lifestyle without shopping sprees and the hi self maintenance you currently have at your disposal?

Gloomtastic!

Will this be the first AMA to need a second thread? Well done Lara, you're doing great! (And it does seem the no. of questions is endless, despite the duplicates!)

People seem to feel entitled to ask financial questions of the OP that they wouldn't ask eg a self employed mechanic, which is strange.

Dizzyblonde

Thank you for your openness and patience Lara. I don't think my question has been asked before but forgive me if it has:
Would you recommend being an escort to others as a good career? (Not for myself, I'm old enough to be your mother). And if you could go back, knowing all you do now, would you still go into it? I've always wondered if the money is hard to walk away from once you get used to it.

Please stay safe.

monpog13

Hi Lara,
This thread has been so interesting to read, was definately ignorant to escorting before this!

i don't expect you to answer this but i'll ask anyway:

do you consider yourself a feminist?
if so, do you not think you are contributing to the way men see women as objects/ and contribute to sexism of women? i know you are empowered by being independant and not having a pimp, you're making your money and that is great. but at the end of the day the guys you see pay a woman to dress up and have sex with them and they leave thinking he was your favourite, they can treat women as sexual objects or would you have a differing view?

thank you!

northknife

Everett Bitter Plate wrote: »

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Everett Bitter Plate meet Lara.... Ohh you two know each other already.......

santana75

Hi Lara, You ever seen that movie Klute? Reading your responses reminds me a lot of the main character(great film btw).
Also you said most of your clients are married men, do you get disillusioned about marriage/long term relationships as a result of your experiences?
Thanks

Muff Richardson

monpog13 wrote: »

Hi Lara,
This thread has been so interesting to read, was definately ignorant to escorting before this!

I'm fairly taken back at the adulation and interest in the responses to questions.

what is that you were ignorant to? absolutely none of what the escort/prostitute has been the least bit revealing or interesting in my opinion. just seems to be an all round bleak situation. I've read the thread from start to end since the outset and I've struggled to come up with a question I'd like to see answered as the rest of them are no different to what I would imagine them to be. The only response that had me in any way interested was just how bad the money is. if €1200 is the weekly max (even by choice)...if this is what someone would choose to do, even at discretionary level where you are not consumed by it I would expect it to be a lot better for what is involved and at stake, and especially if it is by choice and not out of necessity.

monpog13

@Muff Richardson
I was ignorant to individual women setting up their own appointments, from what i know of prostitution is brothels type situations, illegals used as sex slaves, addicts on the streets as prostitutes.
also i always thought escorts were women who went on dates with men and had a sort of madam or pimp running the situation.
then there is the fact she has rules and the location she does it from a hotel. i would just always have assumed again it would be brothel type situation.
not all of us can be experts on this like yourself so again thanks to lara for sharing all she can..

LaraLushhhhh

armaghlad wrote: »

How easy/hard is it to get into this profession? What advice would you give to any young person considering it?

It's very easy get into it but hard to build up a good clientele

LaraLushhhhh

Colser wrote: »

Lara...do you think that some of the men particularly the older ones take Viagra before their visit and if so is that a help or a hindrance for you?

I'm not sure if they do to be honest, it would be a help I guess yes

LaraLushhhhh

funkey_monkey wrote: »

Hi Lara,

Thanks for this - seems to be a very popular thread!

I can sense a hardness in your posts. You don't seem to suffer fools gladly.

Dos this hardness help you to disengage from the emotional side of sex when with a client?

Also, is sex with a escort not a bit 'mechanical'?

Final question. Do single men without 'intimate contact' with a woman for a long period of time start taking the easy way (return visits) out instead of getting it and getting a gf? Essentially, I'm asking is there such a thing as a one off visit?
I can see the attraction of sex with someone out of their league now being within their grasp (so to speak) that it becomes a regular or even irregular habit.

I can see it being based on their personality types, but do people get addicted to the thrill of it and find it hard to stop?

BTW - genuine non judgemental questions. My view on this that I should not be able to tell someone what they can do with their body. Some people get paid for the use of their hands (builders, hairdressers, etc) others for their brains (doctors, lawyers). You are just getting paid for another part of your anatomy!

Yes as I've said I do think you'd need a thick skin to be able to do this as it can become draining.
I have heard about sex with escorts being mechanical so I always make sure I don't act that way because at the end of the day I want my clients to return and if I was the man I wouldn't revisit a robot.

I've had plenty of one offs thou at the beginning, mainly younger very attractive guys. I reckon these guys like variety thou and visit different girls each time

LaraLushhhhh

bmwguy wrote: »

Great thread. Lay off the money questions guys. I will be buying a car in cash this week nobody is going to be asking me where I got the cash. Big deal. I have hundreds in disposable income on a good week just like Lara. I'm not a gigolo although I would love to be.

Leads me to my question. Is there a market for straight male sex workers? Would be interested in it. Also, do your clients exclusively see you or others? Probably hard to know but they might open up and chat a bit with you if they are regulars and won't be on the job for the full hour.

I havnt seen any straight guys advertise, but there's plenty of bi guys
I think there could be a market for them thou of course
My regular clients do tell me I'm the only one they visit but I saying that I tell them all they are my favourite so who's to know

LaraLushhhhh

Stepping Stone wrote: »

Do you find yourself being an agony aunt, for want of a better expression, to your clients?

Would you prefer if they kept it strictly business like you do and not show you photos of their families, etc or do you mind that at all? Just from the perspective of needing to remember details, etc. I know that you said that you have a good memory, but domestic details might not be that memorable!

Not so much an agony aunt no
I don't mind them sharing personal things with me. At the end of the day it shows they trust me and are comfortable with me which is good and a sure sign they will return

LaraLushhhhh

MrMac84 wrote: »

Say if the maket crashed tomorow and you had to get a normal minimum wage job how much would it effect your lifestyle do you think?



Similar question, if you fell for someone and got pregnant and they had a factory job and brought home €400 a week and you weren't working, you were staying at home do you think you'd resent a lifestyle without shopping sprees and the hi self maintenance you currently have at your disposal?

Of course it would affect my lifestyle but only materialisticly so it wouldn't be the end of the world for me. I didn't always have nice things, I didn't grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth so it honestly wouldn't bother me too much as I know I won't always have this income

LaraLushhhhh

Dizzyblonde wrote: »

Thank you for your openness and patience Lara. I don't think my question has been asked before but forgive me if it has:
Would you recommend being an escort to others as a good career? (Not for myself, I'm old enough to be your mother). And if you could go back, knowing all you do now, would you still go into it? I've always wondered if the money is hard to walk away from once you get used to it.

Please stay safe.

It's a tough one. If I say yes I'll get slated but I'll be honest and say if you have thick skin, discreet, be a good actress and, have good judge of character, be headstrong , are able to say no amd enough is enough and know that you have to take the bad with the good then yes why not

LaraLushhhhh

monpog13 wrote: »

Hi Lara,
This thread has been so interesting to read, was definately ignorant to escorting before this!

i don't expect you to answer this but i'll ask anyway:

do you consider yourself a feminist?
if so, do you not think you are contributing to the way men see women as objects/ and contribute to sexism of women? i know you are empowered by being independant and not having a pimp, you're making your money and that is great. but at the end of the day the guys you see pay a woman to dress up and have sex with them and they leave thinking he was your favourite, they can treat women as sexual objects or would you have a differing view?

thank you!

No im not a feminist at all.
They can leave thinking what they want to be honest
It's just a business to me

LaraLushhhhh

northknife wrote: »

Lorenna meet Lara.... Ohh you two know each other already.......

Haha I thought that myself lol

LaraLushhhhh

santana75 wrote: »

Hi Lara, You ever seen that movie Klute? Reading your responses reminds me a lot of the main character(great film btw).
Also you said most of your clients are married men, do you get disillusioned about marriage/long term relationships as a result of your experiences?
Thanks

Yes of course I do, I've said so already. I do look at guys differently now

monpog13

Molsen K wrote: »

When did I say trafficking and pimping didn't exist?

You said yourself that you were surprised that escorts like Lara existed. That's because you are gullible and easily manipulated by the media.

No I am not gullible, I have just gained a new insight into the industry? You think I am not aware of people in porn who willingly do porn without giving cuts to pimps etc?
again my understanding of escorts were they were 'dates' to rich men who then after the 'date' would or wouldn't have sex.
there is plenty of media who give insight to women openly being sugar babies, or doing porn etc so I don't know why you are so against the media.