Girlfriend loves me but doesn't seem to care

Penny Tration

He should absolutely NOT go to relationship counselling. It's recommended to not go to relationship counselling with an abusive partner because when you're in that open, honest place, your honesty can be used against you by the abusive partner after the session.

zoobizoo

What do you love about her Op?

stateofflux

Get the hell out of there OP. Immediately. Dont even say goodbye. Block her number.

People like this are a type sociopath and will destroy you.

LegacyUser

You have a slice of the world on this thread OP, and not a single person thinks you should stay.

That's one thing, and while I very strongly believe that you need to get away from your abuser, I understand that it can be difficult to do so

However. You're talking about bringing an innocent kid into this toxic and abusive relationship. Make your own choices for yourself OP, but if you participate in bringing a kid into this F up - well that's on you. I'm sorry to sound mean, but it will be your fault if you have a kid wth this woman, and the kid is (inevitably) messed up

tara73

2826x wrote: »

You have a slice of the world on this thread OP, and not a single person thinks you should stay.

That's one thing, and while I very strongly believe that you need to get away from your abuser, I understand that it can be difficult to do so

However. You're talking about bringing an innocent kid into this toxic and abusive relationship. Make your own choices for yourself OP, but if you participate in bringing a kid into this F up - well that's on you. I'm sorry to sound mean, but it will be your fault if you have a kid wth this woman, and the kid is (inevitably) messed up

I think this is a very, very good point. It's one thing to decide for yourself to be messed around and accept to be messed up by a second person, but by bringing in a child into this and by knowing this womans' character and what it will do to the child, it's a different level and actually a nasty thing to do.

Please, really, really take on board all the good advice here, seperate from her and don't bring a child into this. Try to get help if you think you can't make it on your own, call AMEN, that's perfectly fine. Everybody, men or women need help at some stage in their life, no need to be ashemd of.

I'm sure you can make it and I wish you all the best!!

Milly33

Walk away OP heard this story many times before. You sound like a very nice person and she is taking advantage of that. Don't for a second think all these things she is doing is not pre-empted by her or normal... Pack her bags and walk away

Realt Dearg Sec

The OP hasn't been back online at all since his second post on the thread. Why that is, I don't know, but I doubt it's anything good to be honest. But either way, he's unlikely to have read anything after the second page of the thread. Hope he's well, that's all I can say.

Peist2007

timtim45 wrote: »

I don't even know how I would go about breaking up with her or if I could find someone else if I did.

This jumped out at me and is the reason a lot of people end up in crap relationships. If you break up with this woman OP and never end up touching another woman again you have still definitely won.

We have one life people. Social convention should not be a reason to end up ruining half of it.

dudara

The OP hasn't responded in over 2 weeks, so therefore I am closing this thread. If the OP comes back and wishes to re-engage, they can PM me or another member of the mod team and we will reopen the thread.

dudara