Did you experience much bullying whilst at school/college?

freshpopcorn

I went to a mixed school for Junior and Senior infants and there wasn't much bullying that vi can remember. A couple of guys did pick on me a few times but I ended up friends with them later on.
It was an all boys school from 1st to 6th class and there was very little bullying apart from the odd name being thrown around my class generally got well.
Secondary school was also generally good once you realised it wasn't as soft at primary school. There was the odd name thrown around but people generally got on. There was few a lads who'd act up the odd time but nobody really let them get to them.
From reading Boards.ie I thought college was going to be great because bullying didn't exist and everybody was mature. It was the worst experience of bullying that I've ever seen off people from name calling to snide comments to people isolating laying people and people treating others generally badly most of this was done by female member of the class.
Did you ever experience bullying whilst at school/college?

howamidifferent

Yes

One eyed Jack

freshpopcorn wrote: »

From reading Boards.ie I thought college was going to be great because bullying didn't exist and everybody was mature. It was the worst experience of bullying that I've ever seen off people from name calling to snide comments to people isolating laying people and people treating others generally badly most of this was done by female member of the class.
Did you ever experience bullying whilst at school/college?

Schoolboy error there really. How did you go to college when you still believe anything you read on Boards as if it's any representation of reality? :pac:

Honestly, yeah, there was a bit of bullying went on from my early days in primary school right through and up to third level, and in employment thereafter, and at each level I told myself it would stop once I got to the next level.

At some stage I realised the issue wasn't that other people were bullies, it was that I let myself be bullied, and people were only doing what came naturally to them. I haven't been bullied since I taught myself to be assertive. Whatever else I learned in education, that was the most valuable and important lesson.

JTL

Quite a bit in 2nd year in secondary school. Thankfully only lasted a short time and the bullies moved on. Forever disappointed with myself that I didn't confront them though.

Went to a small secondary school, typical rural Ireland, 40 in each year, everyone knew everyone and families all knew each other so little or no bullying. Small hierarchy things, we were sent down town at lunch to buy cigarettes for older years, we in turn did it. We all got dunked in the toilets, but it was good natured. It was almost a sign of popularity, I knew everyone that did it when it was my turn and everyone (including me) was laughing at the futility of my protests. Some of them always looked out for me when it came to football matches or fights against other schools, and are great friends today. It wasn't selective or nasty, it was just part of the order.

Would hate to be a kid now, in larger schools, with social media and all the other pressures.

ednwireland

English comprehensive. Plenty.
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To Elland Back

From teachers, yes. Physical and psychological

MilesMorales1

From my father yes.
From my teachers, who were informed by my father how wicked and awful I was, yes.
From 99% of my fellow pupils, yes.



Definitely not bitter though

freshpopcorn

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Schoolboy error there really. How did you go to college when you still believe anything you read on Boards as if it's any representation of reality? :pac:

In my head in knew bullying would exist in college but when ever you see a thread on here about somebody being bullied in secondary school there always basically told it disappears in college.

Peregrine

School: yes. College: no.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

School: No. University: No.

Penny Tration

School: hugely, resulted in mental health issues (amongst other causes). Still can't bring myself to say hello when the cnuts say hi in passing.

College: No, everyone was lovely and I enjoyed it and made great friends.

KingBrian2

Their were messers but no bullies.

Keane2baMused

None of the kids picked on me. I was a shy kid/teenager but I had a don't fcuk with me vibe all the same. A friend of mine was tormented though and we didn't know, when we found out it was stopped pretty lively.

A teacher in secondary school did bully me however. She was a known power tripping bully, especially to the younger classes. She humiliated me more times than I care to remember. So much so I felt physically ill going to her class and eventually stopped going and would hide in the bathroom.

I eventually told my parents who spoke to the principal. She gave some excuse about this teacher having a rough time personally. No excuse to treat a 15 year old like sh1te!! It never happened after that.

Wibbs

Thankfully no. I seem to have been lucky in that I saw(nor discovered later) almost no instances of consistent bullying among my peers in my class at school. There was some pretty minor social exclusion, but even there the small number who suffered didn't suffer it as a continuous thing and they had their own friends anyway. There was one instance of a deviant teacher who had groomed one poor bugger, but that was discovered years later and the deviant got a gaol term.

SpannerMonkey

i was 6ft at 12 and 6ft 5 at 14 so no not really bar the name calling for being huge for my age

Chain Smoker

In primary a fair bit but I've repressed the hell out of it so I'm not sure how accurately I can gauge it. My parents were very much on the "if you don't acknowledge it they'll get bored" cowardly way of avoiding dealing with their kids problem, so I tried doing that through primary.

By secondary, I had realised you need to fight back sometimes, so school was actually okay most of the time. Virtually every boy bully eventually led to a confrontation where I got the ****e beaten out of me but seemed to send a message of either (a) that what they were doing was really hurtful or (b) that I'm capable of making some pretty cutting verbal retorts and not especially afraid of the consequences after a certain point.

The only stuff that's bothered me long term were the girls from the convent that shared our bus who bullied me.
Honestly, as ridiculously petty as it is, if I could give 11 year old me a few words of advice; there's a fair chance it'd include shaming the hell out of several girls who decided endlessly berating me was how they'd cover up their fairly huge insecurities. It was one of those situations where there was absolutely no one on your side anyway so you may as well go for broke.

poa

Bullied? No. Bully? Yes.
I attended a boys Grammar school, and there was a culture of bullying in every year.
Rather than discourage it, the teachers turned a blind eye; and saw it as character building.
For example, in one football match I took at shot at the goal and the keeper saved it.
So I walked up to him and punched him in the face for not letting the ball in.
The teacher never said a word. He just let the game carry on as if nothing had happened.
For 5 years one boy paid me a weekly tax not to be beaten up. Sometimes I just punched him in the face anyway, even after he had paid up.
That was the culture there, be the bully or be bullied. The older boys respected the known faces, and left you alone; as they knew you were the top boy in your year.
I was by no means the most vicious though, and the worst case I saw was a boy having lighter fluid poured over his blazer and school bag. He was then set fire to.
The code of silence meant that the bully got away with it. Grassing on a bully was a like signing a death sentence in that school.
Do I have any regrets? None.
It was character building, and hardened me up for my profession later in life; which was full of sociopaths and totally ruthless animals. Bullies often get to be CEO's and Directors; as it's a character trait.
When I look back, some of the bullying was psychotic. But I would be a liar if I said the thrill of the violence and power wasn't intoxicating as a teenager. There is a delicious pleasure in controlling another human being, and getting want one wants from them.
In life, one has the choice of being the bully or bullied, that's the reality.

poa

poa wrote: »

Bullied? No. Bully? Yes.
I attended a boys Grammar school, and there was a culture of bullying in every year.
Rather than discourage it, the teachers turned a blind eye; and saw it as character building.
For example, in one football match I took at shot at the goal and the keeper saved it.
So I walked up to him and punched him in the face for not letting the ball in.
The teacher never said a word. He just let the game carry on as if nothing had happened.
For 5 years one boy paid me a weekly tax not to be beaten up. Sometimes I just punched him in the face anyway, even after he had paid up.
That was the culture there, be the bully or be bullied. The older boys respected the known faces, and left you alone; as they knew you were the top boy in your year.
I was by no means the most vicious though, and the worst case I saw was a boy having lighter fluid poured over his blazer and school bag. He was then set fire to.
The code of silence meant that the bully got away with it. Grassing on a bully was a like signing a death sentence in that school.
Do I have any regrets? None.
It was character building, and hardened me up for my profession later in life; which was full of sociopaths and totally ruthless animals. Bullies often get to be CEO's and Directors; as it's a character trait.
When I look back, some of the bullying was psychotic. But I would be a liar if I said the thrill of the violence and power wasn't intoxicating as a teenager. There is a delicious pleasure in controlling another human being, and getting want one wants from them.
In life, one has the choice of being the bully or bullied, that's the reality.

You put a lot of effort into portraying yourself a certain way. None of it is convincing.

MilesMorales1

poa wrote: »

Bullied? No. Bully? Yes.
I attended a boys Grammar school, and there was a culture of bullying in every year.
Rather than discourage it, the teachers turned a blind eye; and saw it as character building.
For example, in one football match I took at shot at the goal and the keeper saved it.
So I walked up to him and punched him in the face for not letting the ball in.
The teacher never said a word. He just let the game carry on as if nothing had happened.
For 5 years one boy paid me a weekly tax not to be beaten up. Sometimes I just punched him in the face anyway, even after he had paid up.
That was the culture there, be the bully or be bullied. The older boys respected the known faces, and left you alone; as they knew you were the top boy in your year.
I was by no means the most vicious though, and the worst case I saw was a boy having lighter fluid poured over his blazer and school bag. He was then set fire to.
The code of silence meant that the bully got away with it. Grassing on a bully was a like signing a death sentence in that school.
Do I have any regrets? None.
It was character building, and hardened me up for my profession later in life; which was full of sociopaths and totally ruthless animals. Bullies often get to be CEO's and Directors; as it's a character trait.
When I look back, some of the bullying was psychotic. But I would be a liar if I said the thrill of the violence and power wasn't intoxicating as a teenager. There is a delicious pleasure in controlling another human being, and getting want one wants from them.
In life, one has the choice of being the bully or bullied, that's the reality.

I call shenanigans on that.

poa

Candie wrote: »

You put a lot of effort into portraying yourself a certain way. None of it is convincing.

Agreed. It's the mark of a sociopath.

poa

poa wrote: »

Agreed. It's the mark of a sociopath.

Or the insecure attention-seeker.

Keane2baMused

Candie wrote: »

Or the insecure attention-seeker.

Exactly This.

I was called a troll for responding to his drivel.

Attention seeking at its finest.

poa

Candie wrote: »

Or the insecure attention-seeker.

Well I caught your attention, so I must be doing something right then.
I just need to work on that insecurity now.

MilesMorales1

poa wrote: »

Agreed. It's the mark of a sociopath.

Nah its not true. Sorry.

poa

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Exactly This.

I was called a troll for responding to the drivel.

Attention seeking at its finest.

More stalking my posts I see.
That is a real fixation you have with me now.
You just can't help yourself can you?
The irony is strong with this one.

IamtheWalrus

Yes, 5 years of therapy since and still have anxiety.

tomwaterford

In primary school a fair bit...but then they left as older than me and twoz ok for the last year

In secondary school not really...didn't have much friends etc and tbf while I hated school they were very good about anti-bullying



And when I left school first I went to a small garage and first thing they showed/taught me was to stand up for myself and years later met the boss there who gave me the impetus to leave a job I was getting in effect bullied in




I've been somewhat lucky as I know people who's life's have been ruined by bullying and Its one thing I fcuking hate seeing happening

Keane2baMused

poa wrote: »

More stalking my posts I see.
That is a real fixation you have with me now.
You just can't help yourself can you?
The irony is strong with this one.

Gway. Nobody cares who you ride in a graveyard or who you bullied in school.

It's boring made up crap.

At least invent something believable.

Lots of it from a young age right up to my leaving cert. It scarred me so badly that I didn't go to college out of fear of it continuing and I've been in and out of counselling and therapy for years.

Keane2baMused

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Gway. Nobody cares who you ride in a graveyard or who you bullied in school.

It's boring made up crap.

At least invent something believable.

I wouldn't bother tbh, it's the attention he likes.

Keane2baMused

Karsini wrote: »

Lots of it from a young age right up to my leaving cert. It scarred me so badly that I didn't go to college out of fear of it continuing and I've been in and out of counselling and therapy for years.

That's awful. I hope they are truly ashamed at how the treated you.

poa

Keane2baMused wrote: »

Gway. Nobody cares who you ride in a graveyard or who you bullied in school.

It's boring made up crap.

At least invent something believable.

You still can't see the irony can you?
It's so amusing at this stage.
You do realise the only one you are showing up is yourself?
When in hole, stop digging.

MilesMorales1

Keane2baMused wrote: »

That's awful. I hope they are truly ashamed at how the treated you.

Apparently lots of bullies at that age do experience regret? Provided they mature and grow up a bit.

poa

Candie wrote: »

I wouldn't bother tbh, it's the attention he likes.

You are mistaken. I don't like attention, I love attention. Always have done.
Attention and control. Both equally intoxicating.

Fox_In_Socks

Primary school alright, but by people who I considered friends. It was confusing, or maybe I was naturally thin skinned.

poa

poa wrote: »

You are mistaken. I don't like attention, I love attention. Always have done.
Attention and control. Both equally intoxicating.

There you go, you've had your attention. Now go knock yourself out and have a slice of banoffi and let the grown-ups talk.

tomwaterford

poa wrote: »

You are mistaken. I don't like attention, I love attention. Always have done.
Attention and control. Both equally intoxicating.

Have you taught on buying a puppy :pac: :P

RayM

poa wrote: »

Bullied? No. Bully? Yes.
I attended a boys Grammar school, and there was a culture of bullying in every year.
Rather than discourage it, the teachers turned a blind eye; and saw it as character building.
For example, in one football match I took at shot at the goal and the keeper saved it.
So I walked up to him and punched him in the face for not letting the ball in.
The teacher never said a word. He just let the game carry on as if nothing had happened.
For 5 years one boy paid me a weekly tax not to be beaten up. Sometimes I just punched him in the face anyway, even after he had paid up.
That was the culture there, be the bully or be bullied. The older boys respected the known faces, and left you alone; as they knew you were the top boy in your year.
I was by no means the most vicious though, and the worst case I saw was a boy having lighter fluid poured over his blazer and school bag. He was then set fire to.
The code of silence meant that the bully got away with it. Grassing on a bully was a like signing a death sentence in that school.
Do I have any regrets? None.
It was character building, and hardened me up for my profession later in life; which was full of sociopaths and totally ruthless animals. Bullies often get to be CEO's and Directors; as it's a character trait.
When I look back, some of the bullying was psychotic. But I would be a liar if I said the thrill of the violence and power wasn't intoxicating as a teenager. There is a delicious pleasure in controlling another human being, and getting want one wants from them.
In life, one has the choice of being the bully or bullied, that's the reality.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g4bftQ4xxFc

poa

MilesMorales1 wrote: »

Apparently lots of bullies at that age do experience regret? Provided they mature and grow up a bit.

That's a myth. Often childhood bullies go on to become workplace bullies.
Managers and Directors don't get where they are in their careers from being weak. They are natural leaders, and if that means some bullying to rise through the ranks; then its done. Maturity has nothing to do with it. 50 year old men will bully in life the same as an 18 year old.

Fox_In_Socks

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

Primary school alright, but by people who I considered friends. It was confusing, or maybe I was naturally thin skinned.

Probably a combination of both. The frenemy thing is pretty common I think.

I've never been bullied, not overtly anyway. I was excluded a bit in secondary school but it didn't bother me too much. The problem in a boarding school is there's no getting away from it, so you just build a wall and cope. I've witnessed more serious bullying, and always tried to intervene on behalf of the victim. That might have been what stopped them from ever going for me wholesale.

School was pretty good about anti bullying stuff to be fair.

Ogogo

Yes.

poa

tomwaterford wrote: »

Have you taught on buying a puppy :pac: :P

Teachers taught pupils.
Teachers thought about the curriculum.
See the difference?
Now you have learned something haven't you.
And no, I am not an animal lover. I prefer women.

Keane2baMused

tomwaterford wrote: »

Have you taught on buying a puppy :pac: :P

Noooooo...poor puppy!!!

tomwaterford

poa wrote: »

Teachers taught pupils.
Teachers thought about the curriculum.
See the difference?
.

This is like a bad google translate

Agricola

Primary: A small rural parish school, zero bullying in my entire time there. It was country idyll where everyone sang confirmation songs!

Secondary: Rural small town vocational. A tough nut principle who would eat you for breakfast made sure no real bullying ever got started. There were a couple of hardcases, mountainy lads who ate hurls for lunch usually. They gave meeker guys a hard time now and again but it was harmless and never sustained. Young lads acting the bollox basically.

College: Never heard of it. I went to an IT and it was every bit exactly what I'd expect from third level.

MilesMorales1

poa wrote: »

That's a myth. Often childhood bullies go on to become workplace bullies.
Managers and Directors don't get where they are in their careers from being weak. They are natural leaders, and if that means some bullying to rise through the ranks; then its done. Maturity has nothing to do with it. 50 year old men will bully in life the same as an 18 year old.

Nah you talk ****. Ignoring you now.


I had it at home, in school, pretty much everywhere, for years. Hence why my adult life has been infinitely preferably to my life before I turned 18. There's a big age difference between 17 and 18 even, that you don't think, and specially between ages 18 and 21. People change a lot.

poa

Candie wrote: »

There you go, you've had your attention. Now go knock yourself out and have a slice of banoffi and let the grown-ups talk.

Its sad the lack of education and literacy on here. Banoffee.
If one is going to attempt to insult, it's more effective if one spells correctly.
Otherwise you make yourself look thick.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Na, a few bitchy moments in secondary school that were devastating at the time, but I tended to take things kind of hard back then anyways. The school I went to was pretty good about it really, the attitude and culture from the top down does make a big difference, though there'll always be shíts. There was a girl in another year who my sister ended up friends with after school, I avoided her for years because I'd seen he be such a rotten bully but she turned out lovely. She's a teacher now actually!

poa

poa wrote: »

Otherwise you make yourself look thick.

Oh, I'd really hate to make myself look thick.

Wouldn't you?

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

poa wrote: »

Its sad the lack of education and literacy on here. Banoffee.
If one is going to attempt to insult, it's more effective if one spells correctly.
Otherwise you make yourself look thick.

wel dnt let da door hit u on da way owt