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First Dates Ireland *read first post*

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    #332
    fin12
    Registered Users Posts: 10,934 ✭✭✭✭fin12


    armaghlad wrote: »
    If I was a woman I'd be letting men wine and dine me all the time. If a man is stupid enough to do that, why not take advantage?

    I was once stupid enough to do such, now I just meet for a coffee or a drink first to see if there's a connection first, rather than spend/waste up to 100 quid on hours of awkwardness with some beure ill possibly never hear from again.

    ya id never go for meals on a first date or for a good few dates after so I just go meet up for drinks. its just me personally I wouldn't let a man I had no interest in, buy me drink or pay for my meal, that's all I'm saying.


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    #333
    armaghlad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,660 ✭✭✭armaghlad


    fin12 wrote: »
    ya id never go for meals on a first date or for a good few dates after so I just go meet up for drinks. its just me personally I wouldn't let a man I had no interest in, buy me drink or pay for my meal, that's all I'm saying.
    Yeah no I understand and that's very good of you...

    What are women's expectations of a man when it comes to dating?

    I took a girl out for a couple of dates a few months back. She turned out to be as dry as an African footpath but I gave her a second chance because she was kinda hot. Anyway she lived about 60km and could drive (a4 sline), but was old fashioned and wanted me to come collect her and leave her home. Went for a meal - I let her choose where - and ended up in this overpriced ****e restaurant that Tyrone people think is good for some reason. After a mediocre meal with mediocre company, I paid with a generous tip (she insisted) even though service was poor. After a quick shift dropped her off.

    Decided to go for a second date thinking shed maybe liven up a bit and that the first night was nerves. This date was in the cinema which is close to me (4km), but she insisted I collect her and drive her home rather than her drive herself over. I thought that was kinda lousy? She also didn't offer to pay for anything, it's good etiquette for a girl to at least offer, even though I'd never actually let her. I thought she would have at least paid for the sweets/popcorn in the cinema though given it was my birthday! After that debacle I was convinced she just likes having people take her out as she is never done dining out going by her Facebook.


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    #334
    murpho999
    Registered Users Posts: 28,444 ✭✭✭✭murpho999


    smash wrote: »
    Being a gentleman doesn't mean that you pay for a woman who's self sufficient.

    What about just being nice?

    Think about there are 3 options regarding the bill if on a date:

    1) Expect the other person to pay: Totally unacceptable and not expected.

    2) Share the bill: the minimum one would expect and easiest to do and won't offend anyone.

    3) One party pays. Not expected but the only thing one party can do to be nice and do something above minimum expectations.


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    #335
    The Talking Bread
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    Re the meal, I think the lady shouldn't of made such a big deal when he offered to buy it for her. It was a kind gesture, and a compliment to her company. I think it would have been fair of her to just refuse and make a little joke but when he insisted she got cranky and made him feel like it was a bad thing for him to offer.
    Surely in this day of age she has been in situations when a guy has paid for her dinner, or, on a smaller scale for her drink.
    It isn't an insult to her femininity nor a pathway to her pants, its just an act of kindness that many guys have a habit of doing.
    If he didn't offer that is fair game. That was the only other option for her as clearly, conversely she had no intention that she would pay the bill going by her logic of "we both earn a wage, i don't understand why we don't split it".
    I have a feeling she was using the refusal as a defence mechanism as she had clearly made her mind up very quickly she wasn't into him while he seemed very enthusiastic throughout the date. She probably, out of guilt, didn't want him thinking she was giving him a bit of hope!

    I think many men and women would have thought it was ruder if he came out with "ok, lets split this". It isn't rude, there isn't anything wrong with it but it just translates rude.

    And many women would depict that as rude I imagine.

    He kind of pushed it a bit also which made the scene just seem awful awkward but he clearly was out to impress her.


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    #336
    smash
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,809 ✭✭✭✭smash


    The Talking Bread wrote: »
    Re the meal, I think the lady shouldn't of made such a big deal when he offered to buy it for her. It was a kind gesture, and a compliment to her company.

    Which is the complete opposite of when he decided to get up mid-meal and go for a smoke :D:D


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    #337
    The Talking Bread
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    smash wrote: »
    Which is the complete opposite of when he decided to get up mid-meal and go for a smoke :D:D

    huh? I don't think in this day of age someone going for a fag during a long meal is that bad! I don't smoke myself but I certainly wouldnt hold it against someone if the needed a cigarrete !They appeared to be between courses so it wasn't the worst!

    He did seem to be, even admitting it himself, a bit socially inept!


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    #338
    Mindset
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    Mindset wrote: »
    Why do women insist on paying when the guy is trying to show you hes a gentleman?
    Its a date !!

    I just think its nice to offer regardless of whether you want to see her again. If i had a son thats what id bring him up to do. I know being a gentleman is so much more than paying for dinner but even that player guy was like ' no way im paying and thats the end of it' and that girl was so impressed with that and genuinely grateful. Meh i just think women shouldnt play miss independant all the time. Men like to feel like a gentleman sometimes so lets not take that from them too ;)


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    #339
    The Talking Bread
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    You answering yourself mindset ����


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    #340
    Mindset
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    The Talking Bread wrote: »
    You answering yourself mindset ����

    Sorry im new at this 😂


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    #341
    seanin4711
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    Ye would watch anything, officially


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    #342
    smash
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    This one seems like a bit of a gob****e


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    #343
    The Talking Bread
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    So your man says one out of four in Rathoath are gay??? Jesus, must be a LOT of closet gays hiding in the Meath village then!


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    #344
    jluv
    Registered Users Posts: 3,718 ✭✭✭jluv


    I don't think he's going to be into her..


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    #345
    PandaX9
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    Your man, the personal trainer(?), looked mad uncomfortable with the idea of getting a bottle of wine. Bizarre!


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    #346
    Subcomandante Marcos
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    The Talking Bread wrote: »
    So your man says one out of four in Rathoath are gay??? Jesus, must be a LOT of closet gays hiding in the Meath village then!

    No, he said he was one of maybe 4 gay people in his town.


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    #347
    Heat_Wave
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    Why is the PT acting so ignorant? He's not saying anything!


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    #348
    Lady is a tramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭Lady is a tramp


    The two lads seem a bit of an odd match but they seem to be getting on well!


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    #349
    PandaX9
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    Heat_Wave wrote: »
    Why is the PT acting so ignorant? He's not saying anything!


    I feel horrible saying this but his reaction to the menu, his reaction to the bottle of wine suggestion and the whole "Steak? no!" comment gave me the impression that all he was thinking about was the cost of the dinner. But could be wrong of course


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    #350
    The Talking Bread
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    Subcomandante Marcos wrote: »
    No, he said he was one of maybe 4 gay people in his town.

    i thought he said my dating options are limited, theres like one in four gay people where I live" (or something close to that quote)

    But yeah, that makes more sense!


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    #351
    [Deleted User]
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    so it's a quota of 1 gay date per show then? that's the formula so far anyway.


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    #352
    smash
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    PandaX9 wrote: »
    I feel horrible saying this but his reaction to the menu, his reaction to the bottle of wine suggestion and the whole "Steak? no!" comment gave me the impression that all he was thinking about was the cost of the dinner. But could be wrong of course

    I picked up on that too


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    #353
    rodge68
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    What is Kirk actually saying ?


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    #354
    jluv
    Registered Users Posts: 3,718 ✭✭✭jluv


    PandaX9 wrote: »
    Your man, the personal trainer(?), looked mad uncomfortable with the idea of getting a bottle of wine. Bizarre!

    I think he's uncomfortable with the lack of decisions he's getting to make.
    It sounded like they were only allowed 2 courses?
    She decided on the choc fondant which is for 2 so the only choice he gets to make is the main course as she has seemingly decided on the wine also.
    Ha ha good woman:D


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    #355
    The Talking Bread
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    these, i predict, wont be a match AT ALL!


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    #356
    PandaX9
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    What the absolute f did your man just say? I just can't get those Southern Hemisphere accents at all..


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    #357
    PandaX9
    Registered Users Posts: 1,584 ✭✭✭PandaX9


    Also, the little bit with the waistress was nice but Jesus you'd think they'd pick a shot other than her looking around vaguely with her mouth open :D


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    #358
    [Deleted User]
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    The Talking Bread wrote: »
    these, i predict, wont be a match AT ALL!

    they sort of showed that in the preview shown at the end of the show last week. is he south african. reminds of that spitting image song.


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    #359
    Lady is a tramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭Lady is a tramp


    PandaX9 wrote: »
    Also, the little bit with the waistress was nice but Jesus you'd think they'd pick a shot other than her looking around vaguely with her mouth open :D

    She's very cute!


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    #360
    groucho marx
    Registered Users Posts: 1,556 ✭✭✭groucho marx


    Carolyn and your man.... ouch


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    #361
    tomwaterford
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    This not going well atal for that South African chap :pac:


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