Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

Deregos.

Does anybody else have this internal switch, where if someone says something intentionally cruel or hurtful that you can't remember what they even said?

It happened to me at the weekend and it's been going around in my head and making me anxious and nervous ever since.

RabbleRouser2k

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123383288#Comment_123383288

Like it strikes a nerve, or something? That little element of impostor syndrome or 'open wound' that they manage to strike at or pour salt into?

Yeah, I have those moments. It doesn't even have to be said to me, personally, it could just something I read.

Wanderer78

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123383288#Comment_123383288

rumination?

Croissantsandchampagne

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123258320#Comment_123258320

Hi @SuperBowserWorld,

Found your post extremely relatable.

I am looking at other people in and around my age (30s), all ages really… functioning, creating lives, having kids, buying houses etc and it’s like looking at aliens.

SuperBowserWorld

Nice calm summary to slow the **** down.

https://youtu.be/QO0wol4A86M?feature=shared

SuperBowserWorld

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123394856#Comment_123394856

I'm older and have a house and kids! But we have some very difficult problems to deal with which leads to constant anxiety, stress, and consumes so much free time and mental energy. I can just about manage my job on top of that. But it's a "just existing" life with little joy.

Good points out of all of that is that I stopped binge drinking as that would convert the anxiety into reckless stuff and severe depression. We got a dog that gets walked everyday. Honestly, I **** hate getting up, but feel great after waking the dog(s) (I also walk another dog sometimes). And I feel so grateful to be alive at this time of year. Any time really when we don't have constant rain. I've put my "career" on the backseat. I'm trading lower pay for less bullshit, competition and stress. I had not gone to concerts in years and have been to many of brilliant concerts in the last few years. I tell my mind to shut the **** up and I book a concert.

Now, I need to slow down further and get rid of more physical and mental clutter. And stop beating myself up mentally at every opportunity. I'm telling my mind to shut the **** up. Then I can start to plan and move forward and do more rewarding stuff.

Wanderer78

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123427139#Comment_123427139

similarish experiences, thankfully im gaining better insight and ive walked away from activities that were not benefiting me, gave up drinking years ago, my disability services provide really good supports, including meditation classes and more. the dog gets walked first thing in the morning, that only began during covid and have kept it up since, its been a god sent, truly benefits my mood by lifting it first thing in the morning, as it tends to be low in the morning.

also seen some great concerts in my time, but i just dont have the energy or money to do them as much, i was very obsessive about concerts when younger, but im learning to balance my energy, making sure to get enough rest and sleep, and its working, sleeps have improved immensely, which of course helps mood, i still have great memories from past concerts though, so ive no regrets there, but i must listen to my body and minds true needs

SuperBowserWorld

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123427793#Comment_123427793

I meant to edit my message. It wasn't really about going to concerts or not ... it was about putting that anxiety/fear voice aside and doing positive/regular things with my life until they become normal.

RobbingBandit

Lost myself again not the first time but went further than the last time and passed out.

I'm feeling sick about everything and anything I am and what I could have been. Life has no meanings for so long and I am tired of the pain and uncomfortably level of expectations.

SuperBowserWorld

Have a brutal long term illness to deal with in my family. Been going on for years. Has come to a head these last few months. Can not **** think with worry. Hoping for some temporary relief next week. I am exhausted, afraid and angry.

Gremlinertia

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123480777#Comment_123480777

You're not alone, in fact remember the impact on you is it's own long term problem.

I've mentioned it here before but maybe I'll just say again for anyone reading - remember the advice you get in case of emergency on a plane, you MUST put your oxygen mask on first if you are to assist others..

You cannot keep others propped up if you drain your own resources in the effort..

It's very, very hard to put yourself first but it's a priority if you are to help

Sorry Bowser that turned into an essay and is for all readers not berating you.

JP Liz V1

My anxiety really high and nothing is helping, I am worried about a relative and friend who are both really sick, went to the supermarket the other evening and just stopped in an aisle not knowing why I was there, ran out and just sat in the car in a daze for half an hour

Dazler97

My anxiety is so so at the moment, medication must be working , it's from October onwards My seasonal depression kicks in on rop of general depression 🫥 that I am not looking forward to , I'm in a world of my own the last 3 months , feels like the weeks are flying in and it's August already. I have to snap out if it because otherwise it will be Christmas and another year of life wasted so to speak , I think I prefer my dream world than real life it's better I'm happier and really successful.

Fionne

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123708248#Comment_123708248

I think it's perfectly understandable considering how stressed you are. It happens to me too, usually means I get home and sit in the car staring into space for an hour. I suppose it's exhaustion, mental and physical. Try to rest as much as you can, easier said than done I know.

Fionne

I'm sitting here the last 20 mins when I need to be having a shower and getting ready for work. I'm very anxious the last few days. I know I'm overwhelmed, have a house move coming up as well as trying to organise things for a family member returning from abroad (accommodation for a family of 6 to find) so feeling a lot of pressure.

Can't sleep much for racing thoughts. Have been trying to breathe deeply, jumped on the exercise bike to try to burn off some adrenaline but nothing is working yet. I don't even have much to be anxious about in the grand scheme of things, nobody is sick or dying. But that's anxiety, isn't it? It just becomes overwhelming and builds up to something far more than it merits.

This too shall pass. I hope.

Sunrise_Sunset

Having a very hard time lately too. Constant anxiety and overwhelm.

I have no one really I can turn to. I do the best that I can to help myself but it's hard.

Gremlinertia

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123751037#Comment_123751037

Have you tried external sources of help?. One of the weirdest things I found was how ok I was with saying what I felt was unspeakable to a stranger once I felt I clicked with them