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Its something wrong if i am to servile to females?

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    #92
    crisdublin6
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭crisdublin6


    Dial Hard wrote: »
    I think you're missing the point, which is that there's a huuuuuuuge middle ground between these two extremes.

    i dont have woman brain,maybe they prefer when male treat her like whore then queen...


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    #93
    Autonomous Cowherd
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,100 ✭✭✭Autonomous Cowherd


    crisdublin6 wrote: »
    i didnt mind that woman has only!! 2 choices....they are moreeee....but question was if they would has only 2 choices.....

    IF she had only 2 choices, she would be unwell to choose ''female boxer'' over ''kind, polite''. But what is your point? Have you bought into some ''feminazi'' propaganda silliness that is explaining away your lack of success in relationships?
    Number one rule for not subtly driving away women...don't be passively aggressively angry at them for all that ails you.


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    #94
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,695 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    crisdublin6 wrote: »
    you right,if we would do the poll,results would be shocked....


    Reads like a clickbait headline that does -

    "You won't believe what these women wanted..."

    Poll options should include "A man who will rub fecal matter in my hair", just to test OneOfThem's theory that there must indeed be one of them.

    (There can be only one :pac:)


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    #95
    Cold War Kid
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,353 ✭✭✭Cold War Kid


    crisdublin6 wrote: »
    i dont have woman brain,maybe they prefer when male treat her like whore then queen...
    Or maybe they prefer neither.

    Keep being a polite, kind guy but not to the extent that it will be exploited. Value yourself enough not to put up with being taken advantage of.


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    #96
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    I notice it amongst the college undergraduates a lot. Some men lack confidence and tend to get used by some women. It's not pretty to watch. Be confident in who you are and you'll be fine. Do not lose who you are or what you want over a relationship.

    Avoid women who use boys for attention. Those sort of women are also insecure and will use you as an ego boost. Be yourself and you'll attract real women.


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    #97
    JacquesSon
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 758 ✭✭✭JacquesSon


    There's no hard and fast rule. For men or women, I think. Some people are more emotional than others.

    Even the most hardened souls would have to be a bit of a sociopath not to open up with someone eventually.

    Just hope you're with the right one when you do. :)


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    #98
    [Deleted User]
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    steddyeddy wrote: »
    I notice it amongst the college undergraduates a lot. Some men lack confidence and tend to get used by some women. It's not pretty to watch. Be confident in who you are and you'll be fine. Do not lose who you are or what you want over a relationship.

    Avoid women who use boys for attention. Those sort of women are also insecure and will use you as an ego boost. Be yourself and you'll attract real women.

    The reverse is also true. Some people are just too willing to please, and some people too willing to take advantage of that.

    The moral of the story is don't be a doormat, male or female.


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    #99
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Candie wrote: »
    The reverse is also true. Some people are just too willing to please, and some people too willing to take advantage of that.

    The moral of the story is don't be a doormat, male or female.

    Yes there are male and female users who like attention and use the opposite sex for an ego boost.


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    #100
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    OneOfThem wrote: »
    You've posted about this before Cris? The context is you can't get a ride and you're wondering if this behaviour of yours is a contributing factor?

    The answer is yes. If you consitently behave in a way that suggests you are beneath someome, like cleaning up a mess they have made etc, those people will probably see you as beneath them. And women don't want to ride guys they think are beneath them.

    This. Why clean something you didn't break unless the person is in someway incapable of doing it herself. If they ran out of cake let them get cake themselves. Suggest that they go for a walk to burn off the calories from the last cake they ate :)


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    #101
    Buzz Meeks
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 127 ✭✭Buzz Meeks


    steddyeddy wrote: »
    Why clean something you didn't break unless the person is in someway incapable of doing it herself.

    The only exception here is if you want to clean in a sarcastic manner. To mock the person. And you can finish by knocking something else over. On them maybe as well. Or just hit them.


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    #102
    Day Lewin
    Registered Users Posts: 4,641 ✭✭✭Day Lewin


    Why clean something you didn't break unless the person is in someway incapable of doing it herself.

    --- it is an act of loving service. What's wrong with that?


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    #103
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    katemarch wrote: »
    Why clean something you didn't break unless the person is in someway incapable of doing it herself.

    --- it is an act of loving service. What's wrong with that?

    Do you find people being in your service attractive?


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    #104
    wendell borton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,336 ✭✭✭wendell borton


    “Woman's power lies in man's passion, and she knows how to use it, if man doesn't understand himself. He has only one choice: to be the tyrant over or the slave of woman.”
    ― Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, Venus in Furs
    :pac:


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    #105
    Day Lewin
    Registered Users Posts: 4,641 ✭✭✭Day Lewin


    @steddyeddy
    Do you find people being in your service attractive?

    None of your business, lad: this was about the OP.


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    #106
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users Posts: 27,564 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    katemarch wrote: »
    @steddyeddy



    None of your business, lad: this was about the OP.

    Ah right well I don't think it's nice advice to tell the OP that to act in loving service of someone else is a good thing. It's not a good thing to "serve" others and it's not particularly attractive to people.


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    #107
    Day Lewin
    Registered Users Posts: 4,641 ✭✭✭Day Lewin


    Please then, do tell the OP why it's not nice, and not attractive, to offer loving service.

    Many, many millions of happy marriages would tend to disprove this, I think: but of course opinions are free.

    There is a very famous book called "The 5 Love Languages" in which one of five possible ways of expressing love is "Acts of service" (which can take many forms)

    There's even a website with a sort of quiz to find out which yours is...http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/


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    #108
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,695 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    steddyeddy wrote: »
    Ah right well I don't think it's nice advice to tell the OP that to act in loving service of someone else is a good thing. It's not a good thing to "serve" others and it's not particularly attractive to people.


    Ohh I dunno about that now tbh, I've certainly found it very rewarding, and I've never had any complaints either :p

    The OP is a whole different ball game though, trying to be someone they're not, looking for advice on how to be someone they think "a woman" should want to be with.

    It doesn't work like that.


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