Would you date a smoker?

boobar

My Mrs smoked for years...thankfully she kicked the habit over a year ago.

I didn't like her smoking not out of any personal taste thing, but I really worried about the effect on her health.

summonerm

I would, since I'm the one.

Question for the audience: Would you date a person who vapes e-cigarettes? After all,they don't smell badly.

Penny Tration

summonerm wrote: »

I would, since I'm the one.

Question for the audience: Would you date a person who smokes e-cigarettes? After all,they don't smell badly.

You vape ecigs

summonerm

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

You vape ecigs

Corrected, my apologies

Lemsiper

Jenny Thalia wrote: »

I've 'broken free' of the addiction, and no, it's very bloody far from easy. If you've not experienced it, how can you say it's easy?

I have experienced it, that's why I'm qualified to say it's easy.

Hence having an opinion.

Menas

Lemsiper wrote: »

I have experienced it, that's why I'm qualified to say it's easy.

Hence having an opinion.

I tried unsuccessfully to quit for years. In the end I gave up booze, chocolate and smoking on the same day....intending to stay off all three for a month .

Giving up smoking was the least of my cravings in the month that followed! So it was easy in the end for me.

Am still off them thankfully.

Lemsiper

Menas wrote: »

I tried unsuccessfully to quit for years. In the end I gave up booze, chocolate and smoking on the same day....intending to stay off all three for a month .

Giving up smoking was the least of my cravings in the month that followed! So it was easy in the end for me.

Am still off them thankfully.

That's amazing! And I'd have to agree with you, beer and chocolate would certainly prove more challenging for me.

And congratulations on still being free of cigarettes.

Mesrine65

Not a problem, as long as she doesn't smoke my Cohiba's, we all good

RichardCeann

Menas wrote: »

I tried unsuccessfully to quit for years. In the end I gave up booze, chocolate and smoking on the same day....intending to stay off all three for a month .

Giving up smoking was the least of my cravings in the month that followed! So it was easy in the end for me.

Am still off them thankfully.

Chocolate and beer tastes even better once you start to regain your taste buds!

Wizard!

First of all I have to state that my parents smoked 2-3 packages per day.
My mother quit when she was at around 60yo
My father quit when he was 50yo, however he died from lung cancer 8 years later.

After a bad "divorce" (we were engaged, not married), I started dating a new girl every week. Once, I arranged a dinner with a very beautiful girl I met in a party. We sat down, we ordered dinner, and as the waiter left, she opens her bag, and pulled out a cigarettes package. I asked her "do you smoke?". She responded "yes, do you mind?". I said no... Then I went to the restaurant owner, who he is a friend of mine, asked him to cancel my order since I had to leave. Never saw that girl again.

So, it is a no.

My wife, was smoking occasionally when I met her, but I expressed her my fillings towards smoking. After a while she stopped smoking completely and never smoked since (we are together 11 years now).

pauliebdub

No, it's an awful habit, a total waste of money and the house would stink. An absolute no for me.

RWCNT

Wizard! wrote: »

First of all I have to state that my parents smoked 2-3 packages per day.
My mother quit when she was at around 60yo
My father quit when he was 50yo, however he died from lung cancer 8 years later.

After a bad "divorce" (we were engaged, not married), I started dating a new girl every week. Once, I arranged a dinner with a very beautiful girl I met in a party. We sat down, we ordered dinner, and as the waiter left, she opens her bag, and pulled out a cigarettes package. I asked her "do you smoke?". She responded "yes, do you mind?". I said no... Then I went to the restaurant owner, who he is a friend of mine, asked him to cancel my order since I had to leave. Never saw that girl again.

So, it is a no.

You left her sat on her own in the restaurant just because she smoked? After telling her you didn't mind?

You sound like a lovely person. Lucky escape for her, too bad for your wife ending up with you.

TerrorFirmer

RWCNT wrote: »

You left her sat on her own in the restaurant just because she smoked? After telling her you didn't mind?

You sound like a lovely person.

Yeah, that's a disgraceful thing to do if true. If you feel that strongly about smokers surely you could just politely get through the meal, but decline further dates.

cournioni

Lots of very tetchy smoking boardsies in this thread! Do yourselves a favour and have a smoke, chill out...

I wouldn't be all that interested in being around somebody who smoked all of the time. Its not what I'd call enjoyable.

Wizard!

RWCNT wrote: »

You left her sat on her own in the restaurant just because she smoked? After telling her you didn't mind?

You sound like a lovely person. Lucky escape for her, too bad for your wife ending up with you.

TerrorFirmer wrote: »

Yeah, that's a disgraceful thing to do if true. If you feel that strongly about smokers surely you could just politely get through the meal, but decline further dates.

Both true but do not judge too quickly. As I said, it was a strange period for me. I was dating any girl I liked, however I was looking for the "perfect" one. So any handicaps or disadvantages, were a red flag for me. I did not care what they though for me, nor what others did.

Later, after a period of 5-6 months and 27 different affairs, I settled, looked to things from another point of view, thus leading me to meet my wife. She smoked when I met her, but I lowered my standards, since my previous behavior clearly was bad and offending. After o while, she quit on her own, just because I said to her I didn't like it.

Wizard!

Wizard! wrote: »

I started dating a new girl every week. Once, I arranged a dinner with a very beautiful girl I met in a party. We sat down, we ordered dinner, and as the waiter left, she opens her bag, and pulled out a cigarettes package. I asked her "do you smoke?". She responded "yes, do you mind?". I said no... Then I went to the restaurant owner, who he is a friend of mine, asked him to cancel my order since I had to leave. Never saw that girl again.

Wizard! wrote: »

5-6 months and 27 different affairs

And they say a lot of women love dickheads....

Wizard!

Wizard! wrote: »

I was dating any girl I liked, however I was looking for the "perfect" one...

Ah sure then you were entitled to be incredibly rude and sneak out on some poor woman sitting down, waiting for you to return.

You find out how long she sat there? How red did her face turn? How mortified did she get?

Or was it all about you, your 27 "affairs" (were you married?), your search for perfection, your "strange periods", your this, your that...

Wizard!

Relax guys, I am not a criminal. I had a period in my life. Maybe I hurt some people. I am not proud of myself for that time. I just wrote the incident to describe how I reacted on dating a beautiful girl who was a smoker. The world out there is much worse than that. People are like that with their wives, their kids, they are hitting them, raping them and they are doing this for life.

@Conor74 not, I wasn't married. Actually I have never cheat in my life. If I liked someone else, I would break up before doing anything.

Wizard!

Wizard! wrote: »

Relax guys, I am not a criminal. I had a period in my life. Maybe I hurt some people. I am not proud of myself for that time. I just wrote the incident to describe how I reacted on dating a beautiful girl who was a smoker. The world out there is much worse than that. People are like that with their wives, their kids, they are hitting them, raping them and they are doing this for life.

And I think people are reacting by saying that, in the scenario you presented, the worst aspect was not the smoking.

Leaving some poor woman sitting alone on a restaurant is of course not a crime, nor is it rape. I don't think anyone implied that it was either.

etoughguy

I went one better and married one

Mister Vain

Wizard! wrote: »

I started dating a new girl every week.

Wizard! wrote: »

a period of 5-6 months and 27 different affairs.

Sweet Jesus. You should be giving advice on the dating forum.

When the Sun Hits

Yeah, if they were attractive.

Would try to avoid dating anybody with an addiction - be it smoking, drinking, internet, overeating or gambling - as they all indicate the person hasn't done the necessary work on resolving their underlying issues.

Yes, it's a long list!

BoJack Horseman

No.

And why would I want to?

Plenty of non-smokers out there.

MadDog76

Wizard! wrote: »

First of all I have to state that my parents smoked 2-3 packages per day.
My mother quit when she was at around 60yo
My father quit when he was 50yo, however he died from lung cancer 8 years later.

After a bad "divorce" (we were engaged, not married), I started dating a new girl every week. Once, I arranged a dinner with a very beautiful girl I met in a party. We sat down, we ordered dinner, and as the waiter left, she opens her bag, and pulled out a cigarettes package. I asked her "do you smoke?". She responded "yes, do you mind?". I said no... Then I went to the restaurant owner, who he is a friend of mine, asked him to cancel my order since I had to leave. Never saw that girl again.

So, it is a no.

My wife, was smoking occasionally when I met her, but I expressed her my fillings towards smoking. After a while she stopped smoking completely and never smoked since (we are together 11 years now).

Read that post back to yourself ........ you do not come across well in it tbh.

MadDog76

Wizard! wrote: »

Both true but do not judge too quickly. As I said, it was a strange period for me. I was dating any girl I liked, however I was looking for the "perfect" one. So any handicaps or disadvantages, were a red flag for me. I did not care what they though for me, nor what others did.

Later, after a period of 5-6 months and 27 different affairs, I settled, looked to things from another point of view, thus leading me to meet my wife. She smoked when I met her, but I lowered my standards, since my previous behavior clearly was bad and offending. After o while, she quit on her own, just because I said to her I didn't like it.

How nice of you to "lower your standards" ......... your wife is a lucky lady!!

WeHaveToGoBack

3 months ago id have said no. Now that I'm with one, I don't really mind.

dudara

Absolutely not. Can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke.

RoyalCelt

Mena wrote: »

Oh please, exactly how naïve are you. You obviously don't understand addiction in the slightest.

His addiction to fags is bigger than his addiction to love.

MadDog76

RoyalCelt wrote: »

His addiction to fags is bigger than his addiction to love.

I've rarely seen a post as absurdly childish as this one ..........