First Date Nerves

Shamozzle

I've been texting this girl for a few weeks now and I asked her earlier if she would like to go to the cinema on Sunday evening and she said she'd love to, great I thought but as Sunday edges closer I am getting increasingly nervous. I'm a shy guy by nature and have never really been on a proper date with a girl (not while sober anyway). To make matters worse I have never actually met this girl, we exchanged numbers on a dating site and have been texting every day ever since. We get on well and have a laugh, she's really easy to talk to and she's gorgeous too.

Don't really know why I started a thread about this but I guess I'm just looking for other people's experiences and advice.

Ihatecuddles-old

You never go to the cinema on a first date!!!

castletownman

Cool story OP

I remember when I was 12

Annasopra

OP You might get some good advice on the new online dating forum. PM knucklehead6 and ask for access

Richard Hillman

Half a naggin of vodka in a soft drinks bottle before you go in. It will loosen you up whilst not feeling the effects of being drunk. Have a **** before it too.

mikemac1

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

You never go to the cinema on a first date!!!

Worked for that lad Byran last year

What a great thread!

woodoo

Make sure to rub your penis up and down her leg half way through the film, tongue hanging out the side of your mouth eyes rolling in your head. she'll love that.

Chucken

mango salsa wrote: »

OP You might get some good advice on the new online dating forum. PM knucklehead6 and ask for access

The what now?

Ihatecuddles-old

Text her and ask her does she fancy a drink instead. You can then chat and get to know each other, without the awkwardness of the cinema. Nobody wants to eat popcorn or slurp their drink! You cant talk, you have to sit there and you get hot and sweaty with the nerves!

Drinks are much easier, and she's more likely to sleep with you after a few vodkas!!

Last bit was said in jest...kind of.

Seachmall

Don't do the cliché dinner or cinema.

Do something that allows conversation but should the banter die you still have something fun to be doing together.

Like sex.

Shamozzle

I can't drink as she lives a good bit away so I'll be driving.

Steve O

Bring soft drink flavoured rohypnol, be the gent and buy her drinks.

Full proof.

Ihatecuddles-old

Shamozzle wrote: »

I can't drink as she lives a good bit away so I'll be driving.

Its not you we're trying to get drunk anyway!

lkionm

Bring her to your mothers house for tea first.

Shamozzle

lkionm wrote: »

Bring her to your mothers house for tea first.

I'd have a job, she died in a car accident 7 years ago.

vicwatson

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

You never go to the cinema on a first date!!!

But if you do, be sure to get the large popcorn and cut out the mandatory hole in the bottom of it

Hazys

You're definitely going to score so i'd say put the condom on now to save time later.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Don't foget the customary popcorn surprise.

EDIT:- Damn you Vic!

Oh and get a small popcorn...it will make it look bigger.

yermandan

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhwbxEfy7fg

vicwatson

You could bring her to knitting classes? No?

irishgirl19

I think the cinema is really awkward for a first date! you can't talk or anything and ya don't know what to be doing

Gorilla Rising

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

You never go to the cinema on a first date!!!

There are no rules when it comes to dating.

It's up to the individuals. If they're happy with it then that's all the matters.

mikom

Clean the pipes OP.........

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ep_35qLFbo

And as for all the "dating" experts roaring at you not to go to the cinema on a first date............... I'm with my missus over 10 years....... first date, the cinema.
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Shamozzle

irishgirl19 wrote: »

I think the cinema is really awkward for a first date! you can't talk or anything and ya don't know what to be doing

Watch the movie perhaps?

Clandestine

Some advice:

-Don't go to the cinema, go to, say, a decent restaurant instead or somewhere that you are comfortable so you will feel relaxed. Offer to pay the bill, if she offers to pay half, then let her.
-Be yourself, don't do anything you wouldn't do around people you respect
-Dress properly, wear decent clothes e.g round neck jumper with shirt underneath, good jeans, nice shoes that are not formal nor casual either

humbert

When you try to put your arm around her and it goes wrong and you're sitting there in absolute horror trying to decide to remove it or leave it think of the joy you're bringing to the people in the row behind you as they watch.

Ihatecuddles-old

mikom wrote: »

And as for all the "dating" experts roaring at you not to go to the cinema on a first date............... I'm with my missus over 10 years....... first date, the cinema.
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Oh, well then its f*cking foolproof so!! Put a deposit on a ring now OP :rolleyes:

Clandestine

Shamozzle wrote: »

Watch the movie perhaps?

But then you only have the film to talk about, the point of a date is to get to know the other person.

mikom

Clandestine wrote: »

Some advice:

-Dress properly, wear decent clothes e.g round neck jumper with shirt underneath,

Jaysus.......

Tune in next week for another Tubridy dating tip.
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lkionm

Bring her to confession first.

shopaholic01

Clandestine wrote: »

Some advice:

-Don't go to the cinema, go to, say, a decent restaurant instead or somewhere that you are comfortable so you will feel relaxed. Offer to pay the bill, if she offers to pay half, then let her.
-Be yourself, don't do anything you wouldn't do around people you respect
-Dress properly, wear decent clothes e.g round neck jumper with shirt underneath, good jeans, nice shoes that are not formal nor casual either

Grandad ......... is that you?

Gorilla Rising

Clandestine wrote: »

But then you only have the film to talk about, the point of a date is to get to know the other person.

The OP has stated he's nervous and shy.

Maybe a trip to the cinema is a good thing as he won't feel constant pressure to keep a conversation flowing all evening.

Plus, they have something to talk about after.

I don't see why they should have to justify their choice of a date - she was happy to say yes after all.

Sitec

Sitec wrote: »

Beta as fcuk

1. Take her to a coffee shop or pub. Cinema is for when you've been dating a couple of weeks already.
2. Use this as a learning experience for the next time you're on a date. You'll be less nervous the more times you do this.
3. Remember the immortal words of Phil Lynott - "If that chick don't want to know, forget her....."

BillyMitchel

Lad you're messing up before you even start. Trust me!

Drop the cinema now or it WILL be very awkward, especially if its crap and after she just says I'm going home. What then? Another ****??

If you don't drink or she doesn't fancy drinking dont just walk around town like a gimp in awkward silence. Do something fun, something you both will be laughing and talking. If she gives ideas listen and then try mix it in with your own. Surprise her (not from behind though).

I'll also tell you another thing, the oul dating site is a strange one. I've gone on more than a few from them and 90% of the time they've lied about something or something didn't add up or they were just completely different from text and mail. Hate to put a downer on it but thats been my experience.

Relax don't over think things, if it goes well, sort something out again and if it doesn't just enjoy the day and who knows you still might to play hide the sausage!

Good luck

A lot of jealous and/or emotionally immature people on her taking the p*ss out of the OP

darced

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Clandestine

darced wrote: »

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ok?

Steve O

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Oh, well then its f*cking foolproof so!! Put a deposit on a ring now OP :rolleyes:

You must be his wife.

Steve O

Deleted User wrote: »

A lot of jealous and/or emotionally immature people on her taking the p*ss out of the OP

Surrreee yes, i'm just going to type that up on my invisible typewriter.

Ihatecuddles-old

Steve O wrote: »

You must be his wife.

Yeah, I like to call him 'cuddles' :pac:

lkionm

Deleted User wrote: »

A lot of jealous and/or emotionally immature people on her taking the p*ss out of the OP

If he wanted real advice, he should stay away from after hours.

All we have is hookers, cocaine, and anal.

PizzamanIRL

Don't go to the cinema. It's your first time meeting up. Yee aren't interested in the film anyway. Yee will just sit in silence waiting for it to end, letting out the odd fake laugh here and there.

What happens after the cinema? You ask her what did you think of it and then go home? Just cut the cinema out and get to the talking out of the way first.

lkionm

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Yeah, I like to call him 'cuddles' :pac:

Well done, I managed more than a snort of air from my nose that time.

December2012

Cinema is ok first date, make sure you go for coffee or meal after.

It does give you something to talk about and does give you a way to get to know each other.

Be friendly but don't be a doormat.

It's nice to offer to pay, she should offer to pay too though. Or like you buy the tickets and she buys the snacks, etc.
Compliment her and ask her questions but again, moderately.

And it's ok to be nervous. Most people are om a first date.

Rastadoyle

just dont fart!

monkeysnapper

pure genious answers on here for you op.

you should print the whole lot off.

Theres hundreds of years of pure wisdom here at your disposal.

Enjoy the date and remember to get back to us and tell us how you got on.

We really need to know.

(oh and one last thing... if you end up getting married can you invite all your boardie friends that helped you out. I have a hat already.)

Lone Stone

A Ice cream bar place and turn on the charm tiz in the bag so it is.

BUBBLE WRAP

Op.

Eeeh, let HER pic the film. The last thing she wants to look at is cars blowing up and boobs.
If it's a sad film (where someone dies that even better.) once she crys. Put your arm around her. Don't buy a large popcorn, you look fat if you do. If she is cold outside give her your jacket. (worked for me. ) If you go for a few drinks after the movie, I think once you drink 1 or 2 you will relax.

EoghanIRL

Ever watch cat fish op ?

Captain Chaos

When ya drop the hand and it feels like you're feeding a horse you're in there lad.

Larianne

Do you have a smart phone OP?

Go geocaching!