Things you'd like to say to them

You would have laughed at this Dad. You managed to get summoned for jury duty yesterday. Mam had to make an interesting phone call and even fill out a form for those morons to explain that you obviously can't make it. I think we all said the same thing when we saw the jury summons with your name on the kitchen table.

"Ha! Morons! He would have found this hilarious"

Zanablue

Hey Dad, I just want to wish you a Happy Birthday, I will have a drink later to celebrate like we used to. Miss you so much and we still all love you to bits.xxx

fussyonion

I miss you. I wish we'd have spoken more in recent times, but I always thought you'd be around forever.
I haven't stopped thinking about you since I heard the news. I can't believe you're gone. I miss you.

redshoes15

For all your faults you are still the best man I have ever known & I miss you dearly. I hope you are ok and that all of your demons have gone. Please give us the strength to continue without you, 8 years but it feels like yesterday. I will miss you everyday of my life until we meet again..

etymon

I wish you could walk me down the aisle?!

jaded_pause

Do you see the same stars as me at night?
I don't think you do
When I look up at the moon so bright
All I see is you.

Do you see the same stars as me at night?
The wind chill in the air
When I see those little tiny lights
My heart is in a snare.

Do you see the same stars as me at night?
It makes me feel so blue
Because when I see these pretty lights
I only think of you.

I'm starting to loathe these stars at night
And they're so far away
The spiteful moon, with it's jolly light
Couldn't even make you stay.

DeltaWhite

To Mam


Only 6 months since you passed and we get the news that Dad has cancer. I just cannot take anymore. I really cant. I must have been a right oul cnut in my past life to deserve the cards I keep being dealt. I don't believe in god, so I have absolutely no comfort at all. I don't have anything or anyone to "pray" to for hope. Even you passing hasn't brought me any solace or comfort because I don't feel like your spirit is with me. Wherever your spirit is I hope you can hear me pleading with you to keep Dad safe, please don't take him from me I just cannot cope without him. I am crumbling as it is without you, I cannot cope without Dad Just cannot cope with anymore heartache. Why is it always the best people with the worst luck. He's going on his first holiday next week in 17 years. He does not deserve this cruel sentence on his plate now. I don't know who I'm praying to but please let the outcome be good for us all. We don't deserve this sh!t Miss you Mamsy and please hear my prayers to you

Would trade the entire world for a chat with a pint and a bag of dry roasted peanuts in the local with you today old man. I've an idea but I need want your approval



"You know it makes sense" :pac:

LegacyUser

Such a short time has passed and already it feels like you've been gone forever, the silence is killing me, from now to infinity without you feels unbearable. Without that recording of your voice and those few photos you'd only exist in my mind, how can that be? I hate this new reality, life is not the same, life will never be the same again! I miss you and took you for granted when you were here, that stupid assumption that there was plenty of time, that bad things happened to others because we had never been visited by sickness or death. Why you? Sometimes I get confused with my realities, I wake up and think you're alive, other times I wake and I fear you are a character from my dreams and never actually existed, how messed up is that? Why can life begin with such joy and then become such a sinister end game? I rage at life because having you for that short time was a teasing torture of what true happiness can be but can never be fully experienced again! I don't want you there with the angels, I don't care for that, I want to manipulate time, find our parallel universe and live that true happiness with you one last time, fully appreciating every day with you, and for good measure live it in slow motion then leave the same time as you because I couldn't handle the pain of losing you all over again!

banie01

8yrs...
I don't know where the time has gone, sometimes it feels like just yesterday...
Sometimes it feels like an eternity.
I get scared that I'm forgetting things, the sound of your laugh, the curve of your smile or the warmth of your hug....
Then I see our boy grinning at me, and I see those parts of you shine through.
Loved and missed always Kate...
More than chips xoxo...

P.S Knew today would be sunny ��

LadyAthame

You taught me so many lessons. Mostly how kind and sweet you were.I love you. XX

jaded_pause

I'm going to learn how to drive in your car. I can just imagine your face if you were here now for me to tell you that!

I'm also going up to your house tomorrow and we're going to start cleaning out all your crap, good lord there's a lot of hoarded sh!t up there. I'm half afraid to consider the attic too. I'm not going to enjoy it. I'm not going to be much help.

I just want you to give me a hug and tell me everything is going to be alright. Everyone is looking after me as best they can though.

Oh! Dave got a call yesterday, he was shortlisted for an interview for his 'big job'! Soon my life will be changing again and you're not here for me to show you I can be a capable adult (mostly!). I miss you Dad, too much.

Lola18

4weeks tomorrow, i went to ring you on tuesday to tell you about A meeting his principal for big school. He keeps mentioning you, walking around the shop he decided he needed a hug because he misses you. i miss you, i love you, and im sorry...i know you always hated to see me cry x

princess-lala

Nanny, i know i talk to you everyday but i just need you to know one little thing.

Daddy is coming back to you next week, he's ready now! He has fought so so bravely over the past seven months!!

Please mind him, you know how much I adore him!! He's the only man like a dad to me, he told me he's very excited to see you!

I love you both so so much xxx

Split

On 03/03/15 you robbed your son back to you-way too young to become an angel. Is he alright now ? Did he know we spent 4 days praying he would recover before praying he would die ? . Their is no quenching the heartbreak of us all. Our dad cant get through a day without his heart tearing into a million pieces . We walk around and think of you both Im sorry that you dont see me at the graveyard I dont , I wont and I cant .
Tell J to watch everyone and stop making birds crap on us . Its not funny any more and Im getting my hair done next week and wont be impressed ! Your never really dead to me just stepped out of the room .. Miss and love you rogues

The Dash
by Linda Ellis

I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
from the beginning...to the end.

He noted that first came the date of her birth
and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
that she spent alive on earth...
and now only those who loved her
know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own;
the cars....the house...the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard...
are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left.
(You could be at "dash midrange.")

If we could just slow down enough
to consider what's true and real,
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
and more often wear a smile...
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy's being read
with your life's actions to rehash...
would you be proud of the things they
say about how you spend your dash?

SATSUMA

It is supposed to get easier but for me it's getting harder. I cannot imagine my future without you and the thought of it fills me with terror. No one can really, truly understand another's loss. If i could press rewind on my life i would, and then i'd press pause but if i knew then what i know now i'd press fast forward so it never would have happened. You didn't deserve to die the way you did, i miss you and i love you. xxx

Payton

I come in here to this forum every now and then for no other reason that to get some type of solace from my mothers death 14 yrs ago and to read what I would call "Happy Stories" and never thinking id be writing a paragraph myself.

Our Sister Marie passed away on the 24th Feb...sick for 13 years with Cancer, I can only describe her as the most courageous person I've come across in my life...treatment after treatment and every time there was bad new we brought you back with the help of the wonderful staff at St. James.
The day we got the phone call to go to the hospital and to be told its only a matter of hours. Lost in emotions, fear of the unknown but we knew you were in the best of care. Life has just been going on the best we can, with dad in hospital and the burying of your ashes this weekend its been a bit of a roller coaster and its hard to let go.
I want to thank you for the beautiful memories you gave us, the way you stepped into the mother role when mam passed away was truly great.
To all your nephews and nieces the stories we have been told are so great of the love you had for them.
You've left a void that cant be replaced but the joy you brought into so many peoples lives in person or through the cancer society is a testament to your kind heart. Sleep well and watch over the little ones.

Life is too ironic, it takes sadness to know what happiness is, noise to appreciate silence and absence to value presence.

CarpeDiem85

Mum, I miss you more and more everyday. I have yet to meet anyone else like you. You knew compassion and empathy like no one else I know now. Your softness and kindness made you the most wonderful and beautiful soul I have ever met. Your wee soft Donegal accent was just heavenly. The way you sat in your rocking chair by the warm range looking at the world through loving eyes and never a bad word spoke about anyone else. Your were unique, I wish I could copy you a million times over. I really hope I can be the same mother to my daughter as you were to me. You really are an inspiration to me.

The other day you knew I was upset about missing you and never meeting your grandchild. I brought her to her wee music lessons. She played with feathers there and then they were all tidied away. When we got home a few hours later, what did I find tucked inside her jumper, only a feather! Thank you for this sign that you are always with me. You are some woman for one woman, as you used to say

LadyAthame

Remember when I used to do you hair?? :-) I love you so much xxx Please be with me ...and be happy! xxx

Only no looking in the toilet etc....

LegacyUser

At home for a few nights, but you're not here. Feels so different. Miss you so much. All the wonderful years we spent here, chatting about nights out 'anyone nice?' Sitting on the bed with two cups of tea and brown bread 'one slice with marmalade and the other without' 😊. I'm afraid of forgetting these small things. I'm afraid I'll forget how I felt being here at home, that comforting feeling of home. And all the chats we had. That easy relaxed way you had about you. I hope I can become more like that instead of 'always rushing and racing'.... I keep trying to imagine you're still here, just sitting downstairs watching TV or pottering around the kitchen. That familiar clanging of dishes as you religiously cleaned up before bed. I can still hear your walk on the stairs. I don't want to forget. Love you Mum xx

Mam of 4

Your fourth birthday away from home yesterday, Happy Birthday . No , didn't cry, I don't cry now. Yes I miss you, every day Mam , but I honestly think the love we shared and your sense of spirit has me becoming more like you with each passing year, and for that I am truly blessed. So instead of people thinking I'm must be hard, not getting upset when I talk about you, I wish they could understand that I appreciate and love every memory , the tears and the laughs, the quiet moments, and that these are things to be cherished and smiled about, not remember with sadness

So if I continue to be myself, with just a tiny bit of your understanding,love,compassion,and time for to help others, well , I believe I haven't and won't let you down . Love you always Mam x

eviltwin

4 years tomorrow and we still don't know why. I keep thinking of this day four years ago, that last night out, everyone together..was that just luck or by design? you hugged me goodbye and said you'd see me later, why couldn't you have told us, why couldn't you have held on for just one more day. The space you left is too big to fill.

Galwayguy35

19 years gone today Dad, RIP

DeltaWhite

Dear Mam

Please please let it be good news on Thursday. Even if it's something we can deal with I'll be happy. I am sick of everyone telling me how strong I am, when inside I feel so weak. I think they just say these things to keep me going. Please let Dad get good news. I really cannot take anymore, I need my Dad with me I cant be left behind with the boys. I am sick of the sight of them. I don't have you around to calm me down anymore so they must think I'm a right b!tch.

I'm supposed to be going on an unreal holiday on Sunday, and I cant even get excited about it. Worried about D being a weapon to me over there Please stay with me. Miss and love you always.


ETA: I know you heard my endless prayers So absolutely ecstatic with the good news today!

princess-lala

I miss you so much! even though I knew it was coming for so long I still had so much I wanted to say to you.

You were the one man who never judged me, you just loved me regardless! I wonder daily now why my own father couldn't have been more like you??

Da I love you, your empty chair is so hard to look at now, when you were in hospital I could at least think you were coming home. Now i know you're not!

I just can't go to the graveyard, not until it has settled down a bit. But i still talk to you, i do hope you hear me??

Love you always pops xxx

LegacyUser

It's only been a few days since you passed so unexpectedly, much too young. We're all so much in shock that we're walking around like ghosts, unspeaking. I want you to know we're taking care of everything even if we're not quite ourselves right now.

I don't even have proper words to express how I feel but this hit us like an avalanche out of nowhere. I know if you'd been here you'd have been one of the first to crack a smile and pull us together.

We'll miss you for the rest of our lives.

heretothere

Please don't go x

marthabarry

I'd say you're a great sister and a great friend and support to me always. I wish you were here still and that we could still head off on adventures together and go out for meals. I'd tell you that I love you and give you a big hug

Gremlinertia

So, today is best friends day, whoever 'they' are that came up with that.. I've been thinking of you all day since it was mentioned, i miss you, you're still my best.. Mind the rest of them up there. I love you.

princess-lala

We had cemetery Sunday today.

I hadn't been to the graveyard in a week! The whole way up i was thinking of you and that I had brought you last year!

Then i got to the graveyard and saw your name on the headstone! Da I miss you so much! You were and always will be my daddy!! Mam met my real father recently - didn't even ask how i was!!! That's where you're different, I love you so so much!!

Have you noticed I've started sitting in your chair? With my foot up like you??

9 months since you sat in your chair, i honestly thought you'd come home! But just two months ago you finally went home to nanny!!

I wish I could have one last chat with you! Before you were sick!