Things you'd like to say to them

Payton

I suppose this time of year brings up all sorts of memories, the things that reminds us of that special person/s that are no longer with us especially with family all around for the Christmas.
We can spend as much as we can on kids and family members and have the dinner with all the trimmings and if you can do it all the better.
Take a moment out for yourself...It's important and spare a taught for those that are not with us this time of year and be mindful of others who have their own troubles for what ever reason. A hug or a brief word could help in any way.
Be kind to yourself and no harm to have a cry and remember loved ones gone...and be thankful they were in your life...they made an impact on you for them to be on your mind, we've gotten this far and day by day a little bit stronger.
Thank you all for sharing your words...your taughts in this forum in some ways we keep getting drawn into it
Have a wonderful and peaceful Christmas what ever way you celebrate it.

jaded_pause

So this is going to be my first Christmas without you. I felt it when I was buying presents and your name on my list was conspicuous by it's absence. I wonder what I would have surprised you with this year? Let's face it, nothing could have topped last year's, but I would have gotten you something you would have enjoyed. Something I would have wrapped beautifully and presented to you and you would have left it there next to you until I'd say "Dad, open the present omg." Our little joke of you leaving things unopened as long as you could to annoy me makes me happy now.

I'm doing well lately. I have goals again and since I quit smoking I feel like I can achieve them now. Christmas in itself was never really a fun time for us was it? We pottered through it though, and the one we spent here with Joe will forever be one of my favourites. I spent hours cooking that dinner, and even more cutting up the fresh fruit because you were both on a "diet" and wouldn't have wanted trifle or pudding. And after we sat and watched An Idiot Abroad and myself and Joe laughed and laughed and you smiled, not because you found it funny, but because we did. I still have the gift you got me last year, all neatly hung in the wardrobe. I'll probably never wear it again but it will be my favourite.

You would laugh at all the people who promised me "We'll be here for you whenever you need us" and are now also absent. You'd have an "I told you so" face on you but you'd never say it.

Oh by the way, I did a really good roast chicken the other day, you would have loved it.

Merry Christmas Dad

SATSUMA

I miss you both so much. The silence really is deafening. Four of us instead of six. So small and so wrong. I always loved Christmas. I believed in it...i felt it. It wasn't perfect or fancy. It was just us laughing and fighting and so much noise and food and wrapping paper. Dogs barking. But you are gone now, even the dogs. It's just the four of us. Broken and lost in grief.

LucaDat

They want me to go through the grieving process and become angry with you... it all seems a waste of energy.

But you do seem to have alot to answer for in the afterlife - good luck with that.

John Mason

Happy Birthday, N.

I seem to miss more each day rather than less. I find myself crying a lot at completely random times. Bawled my eyes out on the bus this morning - I can just hear you "**** sake K, what are you doing"

LegacyUser

To my amazing brother. I miss you. I love you. At Christmas and always. Your Xmas birthday was harder this year for some reason. There's no sign of any of this getting easier even 3+ years on.

XplaygirlX

I'm being told by others to put MY grieving aside and focus on my son and da... What about ME??? I'm doing so much for others and NEVER get a break or time to myself anymore... I'll never get over losing you ma. And feel as if I'm going insane. In my mind your not gone - your here with me. **** that I'll go insane without u. And maybe one day I'll see u very soon. I can't live without you....

Lux23

You don't put your grieving aside, you share it with those you love. I know it is very hard to lose a parent, however you have to understand that losing a partner is a very different animal. My mother lost her husband last December, but he was more that that, he was her best friend, confidante, her rock. You need to sit down and talk about how you're feeling with someone impartial.

I miss you every single day, but Christmas magnifies it. We're all happy to be together, but there's a vacuum in the room, the space that you should occupy. The face missing from around the table. I see mum and dad feel it, and try not to make the rest of us sad.

I say your name all the time, so it feels a bit like you're still here.

banie01

Hi Kate, I was booking a flight yesterday and as part of the booking process the website gave a countdown to the flight date.
206 days, which means 207 days until I get married. It was a shock, I didnt realize it was so soon.
Aa I was taking it in, smiling and looking forwardto it, my weird brain did one of its weird things!
Something it hasnt done in a while but one thats kinda freaky if anyone knew....
It started flashing a different number,3180!
3180 days since we lost you...
That stupid "year 0" clock that started in my head when I lost you is still ticking still totting up in the recesses of my mind.
There's a part of me thats always yours, and the rest is learning to live and love again...
But that said...
Love ya more than chips babe, and always will.

BUBBLES1978

well cuz another christmas over and i wonder what far flung part of the world you would have been in sending us pictures and making us all jealous. or would you have been home and having a few pints in our local just being the happy smiling person you were...

miss you.xxx

jaded_pause

Dad, wonderful news, your son got engaged in Sydney after midnight. He decided to start 2016 on a great note. We'd be saving like mad to go to a crazy Oz wedding for the next few months! I'd imagine we'd have both saved a bit and bought you your ticket, as a surprise and you'd have said we didn't need to but on the inside you'd have been YIIISSS I DON'T HAVE TO BUY A TICKET you old meiser!

Just wanted to let you know

Love you Dad, happy new year.

XplaygirlX

Mam, it's a glorious day out today, gorgeous crisp weather and absolutely bitter. I know your looking down on me and ______ I miss you beyond words... I wish I could see you again love you forever xxx

LucaDat

You left one thing unfinished.

jaded_pause

Had a sh!tty day today Dad, you were the only one who ever really made an effort for my birthday. I know you would have done something nice for me, you always did. I keep thinking how different my life would be now if you didn't leave. It's not fair on me or anyone else to dwell on what ifs. I just want a hug.

Shadow1983

jaded_pause wrote:

Had a sh!tty day today Dad, you were the only one who ever really made an effort for my birthday. I know you would have done something nice for me, you always did. I keep thinking how different my life would be now if you didn't leave. It's not fair on me or anyone else to dwell on what ifs. I just want a hug.

Happy Birthday, I hope things will get better for you.

XplaygirlX

Mam, if I could take back what he has done to you, I would in a heartbeat. I never thought you'd be betrayed by the one person who is supposed to love you unconditionally - and I hate him for it. Not him - but the fact what he has done to you and our family. I'll never ever forgive him for this

jaded_pause

Hey Dad, it's been a whole year since you left me. I got an awful craving for porridge for breakfast. I still remember the snow when we went to the hospital to see you that last time. It was so beautiful but I couldn't enjoy it like I usually do, and there hasn't been any snow since. It doesn't feel like a year, not by a long shot, but then I think of the months as they flew by. Just happens when you get older I guess. It's weird, only you would die before a leap year, so even though today is the calendar date, yesterday was the real 365th day. You were on my mind all day. And your son sent me nice messages on the face book. But then today everyone else is sad. Nothing queer as folk eh?

So I went about my business today and just got waves of happy, I feel like you were telling me you're ok, so I should be ok too. I got my form to reapply for college too, and when I graduate you would be extremely proud. I know all you wanted was to see me succeed, but I just felt like I had all the time in the world to do it. The curse of being young(ish)!

Anyway you old git, I'm going to go and do some things. Please keep looking after me, and encouraging me in the way only you could.

Your Daughter xxxx

Gremlinertia

Woke up to the news you were dead and A is in a bad way. Cant move I'm so shook. I'll miss you.

chooey

We had a surprise trip away planned for you tonight. I hope you know how much we all loved you and it's painful how much we miss you.

Gremlinertia

Well M, today A joined you, guess he had to go with you. Mind yourselves wherever it is we go..

Elemonator

I wish I could talk to both my granddads again. Not sure how I'd phrase any of it. I'd just hope they would be proud, I will always regret that I didn't have that type of figure in my life, at least for as long as I wanted.

XplaygirlX

I'm a complete mess without you. I want to be with you mam... I love you forever xxxxx

KikiDee

I really need a cuddle from you mammy xx

Gremlinertia

Second funeral today. You guys have some amazing family and friends. Remember that.. See you both in the future xx

Shadow1983

You've both been gone so long, almost half my lifetime, but I still think about you all the time. I've been told you're always around me, protecting me. I desperately need you now, I'm really struggling.

Buona Fortuna

Dad, I miss you every single day. Mum is doing do well, you'd be so proud.












And the number of times I've started this and then deleted it because ... miss ya so much

Ocditsme

Your sudden passing has turned my life around. I feel your presence every day... think bout you every day Nana. Xxx

SATSUMA

Miss you so much little sis. 3 years on and my heart is so broken.

Zanablue

Hey Dad, Happy Birthday, miss so much! Please watch over our little man as he is going through a hard time. love you xx