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The middle aged Irish woman
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You see this exactly the point,you wear no make up why not?Whats middle aged these days? 40+? Nearly there :eek:
I am not a babe or a stunner, I have roots that need doing, I need to lose a stone ( or two
), I could do with some decent new clothes, I don't wear makeup. No man would look twice at me but so what?
I am actually in a very happy place, much happier now than when I was obsessing about looks, trying to be something I could never attain. I am probably a lot more crabby these days, work, kids, the recession tend to do that but again so what?
I think my man knows he is lucky to have me and wouldn't swap me for the world
A little overweight then deal with it,cranky because of the recession then it's time to do something about that.
Your man knows he is lucky,does he or is he just being a saint and tolerating you.0 -
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You see this exactly the point,you wear no make up why not?
A little overweight then deal with it,cranky because of the recession then it's time to do something about that.
Your man knows he is lucky,does he or is he just being a saint and tolerating you.
I don't wear make up cause its not practical for my job. I'll wear it on a night out but I have better things to do than spend hours in front of the mirror.
Of course I am cranky about the recession aren't we all?
A bit overweight...I am doing something about it. It takes time.
My man is very happy. As am I. If I was walking around like the unhappy soul you appear to be then he would probably hate to be around me. But he is a realist, he knows what he signed up for. If I didn't look like a supermodel at 18 he'd be a fool to think I look like one now
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I have to say, fair play - you sound like you have it sorted. My wife spent years on diets, gave up a year ago, put on a little, now pleasantly plump, far happier. Still goes hill-walking, gardens, etc. Takes a glass or two etc, without guilt. Life's too short for going around with a head full of crap.I don't wear make up cause its not practical for my job. I'll wear it on a night out but I have better things to do than spend hours in front of the mirror.
Of course I am cranky about the recession aren't we all?
A bit overweight...I am doing something about it. It takes time.
My man is very happy. As am I. If I was walking around like the unhappy soul you appear to be then he would probably hate to be around me. But he is a realist, he knows what he signed up for. If I didn't look like a supermodel at 18 he'd be a fool to think I look like one now0 -
Wearing makeupYou see this exactly the point,you wear no make up why not?
A little overweight then deal with it,cranky because of the recession then it's time to do something about that.
Your man knows he is lucky,does he or is he just being a saint and tolerating you.
I don't wear make up cause its not practical for my job. I'll wear it on a night out but I have better things to do than spend hours in front of the mirror.
Of course I am cranky about the recession aren't we all?
A bit overweight...I am doing something about it. It takes time.
My man is very happy. As am I. If I was walking around like the unhappy soul you appear to be then he would probably hate to be around me. But he is a realist, he knows what he signed up for. If I didn't look like a supermodel at 18 he'd be a fool to think I look like one now
Does not take hours,surprisingly my missis can apply it in a record 15 minutes and it looks great minimally applied.
Yes we all could do without this recession but hey just accep the fact that the paper money was never real.
Being overweight good for you that your addressing the issue.
Your husband does not expect you to look the same as you did at 18 or 28 but he expects a certain amount if upkeep as you should of him.
It's a two way street and both partners need to pull that chain or it's just going to lead down a slippery rope of self neglect.0 -
.My own father has a 6 pack in his 60's and can easily do 50 military chin ups in a row,he eats his food without sauce,never gets desert and I have never seen him drunk,why because he has iron discipline.
People used laugh at him 30 odd yrs ago because he was so regimental about his diet and fitness now they are amazed he is so active.
My point being if a man or woman is putting on weight just stop stuffing your face,if a woman is going grey then dye your hair,it's not that hard to make an effort .you see women of other nations looking stunning in their early 40's,it's not handed to them but they work hard at looking good and it pays off,no excuses why you can't keep on top of it all.
Are you my brother? That describes my dad to a 'T'(he was in the Irish Guards when he was young)?
Btw way I don't have to make much of an effort I'm naturally goodlooking(ish) and quite slender(good genes don't you know, as my dad was fond of saying 'you can't fatten a thoroughbred')!
Your wife takes 15 minutes to put on her slap? Get her into Bare Minerals - she'll have that down to around 8!0 -
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Wearing makeup
Does not take hours,surprisingly my missis can apply it in a record 15 minutes and it looks great minimally applied.
Yes we all could do without this recession but hey just accep the fact that the paper money was never real.
Being overweight good for you that your addressing the issue.
Your husband dies not expect you to look the same as you did at 18 or 28 but he expects a certain amount if upkeep as you should of him.
It's a two way street and both partners need to pull that chain or it's just going to lead down a slippery rope of self neglect.
Maybe that works for you and your other half but I am perfectly happy. I think its quite easy to see when the person you live with is really happy or just putting up with a situation they hate and I agree if something is causing a problem it has to be addressed not ignored.
But as hard as it is for you to believe people can actually be happy without looking like a vision of perfection. Beauty is a very subjective thing after all.
I'm no oil painting but the people around me don't care, more to the point neither do I Happiness doesn't come from knowing you look good, it comes from feeling good. 0 -
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Ha ha good for you with your lucky good genes,yepp my dad is ex army ranger hence the regimental attitude but he does not let it dominate his life just fits it in nicely..My own father has a 6 pack in his 60's and can easily do 50 military chin ups in a row,he eats his food without sauce,never gets desert and I have never seen him drunk,why because he has iron discipline.
People used laugh at him 30 odd yrs ago because he was so regimental about his diet and fitness now they are amazed he is so active.
My point being if a man or woman is putting on weight just stop stuffing your face,if a woman is going grey then dye your hair,it's not that hard to make an effort .you see women of other nations looking stunning in their early 40's,it's not handed to them but they work hard at looking good and it pays off,no excuses why you can't keep on top of it all.
Your wife takes 15 minutes to put on her slap? Get her into Bare Minerals and she'll get that down to around 8.
Your wife takes 15 minutes to put on her slap? Get her into Bare Minerals - she'll have that down to around 8!
Are you my brother? That describes my dad to a 'T'(he was in the Irish Guards when he was young)?
Btw way I don't have to make much of an effort I'm naturally goodlooking(ish) and quite slender(good genes don't you know, as my dad was fond of saying 'you can't fatten a thoroughbred')!
I'm not having a go but it does amaze me when I see cousins etc as big as a station wagon purely from lack of self discipline.
I'm early 30's and cannot eat the crap I used to eat as I would just balloon in weight,my wife never eats junk and as a snack would rather eat savoury over sweet,I am the opposite but I know it's just shyte for me so I just sacrifice and go without.
I bumped into an old school friend last week,had not seen the guy in12 yrs and he was as grey as mercury,huge belly on him and an aged face.
Now I literally did not recognise him and had to think who's this until it clicked.
All I am saying is 45 mins a day upkeep
Is all it takes and the discipline to say no the food or dink is toxic to my body I don't need that and you are well on your way to looking good and feeling good.0 -
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As a preference I just dislike grey hair on a woman especially when you have so many options to deal with it.Ha ha good for you with your lucky good genes,yepp my dad is ex army ranger hence the regimental attitude but he does not let it dominate his life just fits it in nicely.
I'm not having a go but it does amaze me when I see cousins etc as big as a station wagon purely from lack of self discipline.
I'm early 30's and cannot eat the crap I used to eat as I would just balloon in weight,my wife never eats junk and as a snack would rather eat savoury over sweet,I am the opposite but I know it's just shyte for me so I just sacrifice and go without.
I bumped into an old school friend last week,had not seen the guy in12 yrs and he was as grey as mercury,huge belly on him and an aged face.
Now I literally did not recognise him and had to think who's this until it clicked.
All I am saying is 45 mins a day upkeep
Is all it takes and the discipline to say no the food or dink is toxic to my body I don't need that and you are well on your way to looking good and feeling good.
You are talking obesity there and yes thats a problem.
There is a big difference between being very obese and having a few extra pounds though.
As for the other thing, who are you to judge a woman with grey hair who doesn't wear makeup.
You seem very critical, I can't imagine its much fun to be so self obsessed. I hope you tone that message down for your kids.
I don't have kids just a dog who thinks he is one
I wouldn't push my own opinions on them if I ever have them but I would try and steer them in the right direction to maintain themselves accordingly,I look at the body as a car,it need regular upkeep constant attention,put the right fuel into it.
There is no excuse for a lack of exercise,30 mins when the tv is in you can be exercising.
I don't think I am overly critical but I see my older siblings,hectic lives kids etc and they cram in exercise daily,never eat crap etc.
I just have standards and won't tolerate self neglect,if my wife suddenly balloons in size I would help her lose it mainly for health reasons but also for my own benefit.
She is also the first to tell me if I put on a little weight as are her friends,one commented a few months back ohh your feeding him well and I thought right time to
Nipp that little excess in the budd and it's gone.
My wife has friends in there 40's and 60's who just look amazing for there age and 90% of it is down to the food they consume.0 -
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As a preference I just dislike grey hair on a woman especially when you have so many options to deal with it.
I don't have kids just a dog who thinks he is one
I wouldn't push my own opinions on them if I ever have them but I would try and steer them in the right direction to maintain themselves accordingly,I look at the body as a car,it need regular upkeep constant attention,put the right fuel into it.
There is no excuse for a lack of exercise,30 mins when the tv is in you can be exercising.
I don't think I am overly critical but I see my older siblings,hectic lives kids etc and they cram in exercise daily,never eat crap etc.
I just have standards and won't tolerate self neglect,if my wife suddenly balloons in size I would help her lose it mainly for health reasons but also for my own benefit.
She is also the first to tell me if I put on a little weight as are her friends,one commented a few months back ohh your feeding him well and I thought right time to
Nipp that little excess in the budd and it's gone.
My wife has friends in there 40's and 60's who just look amazing for there age and 90% of it is down to the food they consume.
Your posts come across like image is an obsession...maybe thats just how it reads but it looks like you put a lot more thought into your image than most people and while its admirable to want to be the best you can its a fine line between that and an unhealthy mental attitude.
What happens when you have kids and you are tired and stressed and surviving on little sleep? Do you really think your priority is going to be touching up the grey or wearing mascara?0 -
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Ohh classic denial but hey whatever floats your boat.
If I come across bitter then I am at a loss as I certainly don't feel bitter and am in a damn good place at the moment.
I have a life,I have partied excessesd to the max with everything but that's no longer an option for me anymore and I got to look at how I consume fuels and I how I burn them.
If you believe that you can put whatever into your body without it having a toxic effect then you are being naieve.
Yes it does bother me when I see people neglecting themselves as it should be a basic priinciple in our lives to maintain our body.
I'm not talking supermodel looks just some daily upkeep.
Denial of what exactly?
I look younger for my age, little wrinkles, no grey hair, I barely ever drink, don't smoke so no skin damage from that and once again, I am a very petite size 6, so I don't need to kid myself about my weight because I kept the same one for the last 22 years /except for the pregnancy/. I eat normally and low-fat stuff and diets are not welcome in my house or my kitchen /as I love cooking and baking from scratch/. I don't keep my weight or exercise out of vanity, because I am obsessed with how I look, I do it because I like feeling fit and don't compare myself with others.0 -
I look at my wifes friends,they have kids and manage to pull it all together still looking great and surviving as you put it.As a preference I just dislike grey hair on a woman especially when you have so many options to deal with it.
I don't have kids just a dog who thinks he is one
I wouldn't push my own opinions on them if I ever have them but I would try and steer them in the right direction to maintain themselves accordingly,I look at the body as a car,it need regular upkeep constant attention,put the right fuel into it.
There is no excuse for a lack of exercise,30 mins when the tv is in you can be exercising.
I don't think I am overly critical but I see my older siblings,hectic lives kids etc and they cram in exercise daily,never eat crap etc.
I just have standards and won't tolerate self neglect,if my wife suddenly balloons in size I would help her lose it mainly for health reasons but also for my own benefit.
She is also the first to tell me if I put on a little weight as are her friends,one commented a few months back ohh your feeding him well and I thought right time to
Nipp that little excess in the budd and it's gone.
My wife has friends in there 40's and 60's who just look amazing for there age and 90% of it is down to the food they consume.
Your posts come across like image is an obsession...maybe thats just how it reads but it looks like you put a lot more thought into your image than most people and while its admirable to want to be the best you can its a fine line between that and an unhealthy mental attitude.
What happens when you have kids and you are tired and stressed and surviving on little sleep? Do you really think your priority is going to be touching up the grey or wearing mascara?
My best mate has a young son and the guy is in impeccable shape,gets in his cycles every weekend and has great discipline.
So yes if I ever choose to have kids I will prioritise exercise and good nutrition even higher to combat the lack of sleep and daily stress as will my wife I am inno doubt.
Having kids is no excuse to let yourself go.0 -
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I'll send the cheque later for that consultation haminka,thanks so much for your cosmo psycho analysis.
You sound like the stereotypical sex and the city gal but inside your just craving that other persons life,you know that friend without the responsibilities who can dinar they please without recourse and still manage to loom good.
Believe me, I'm as remote from the sex and the city type of woman as can be /even to the extent that I have never watched it, only know it from the occasional reference in the newspapers/. And no, I would never want to go back to the nice and easy careless childless life I had before, even though I had more time for my exercise and going to the cinema but my daughter and my husband are the most important persons in my life. So sadly, you rather missed the point here. 0
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