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What do you think of sending condolences via text?

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  • #122
    Cicero
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    Close friends and family will phone you for a family bereavement...but people like work colleagues will tend to text..and you know you'll talk to them and see them at the funeral itself or in time.....but in the meantime and while you're organising the funeral arrangements, it's nice and comforting to get such messages...that's my experience anyway...


  • #123
    Truley
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,628 ✭✭✭Truley


    hondasam wrote: »
    we can all feel sorry but we cannot understand someone's grief or pain unless we have suffered the same loss.
    Me comparing my mothers death to some one losing their child is not the same.
    Grief is something personal until it happens you have no idea how you will cope or react.

    That may be so but if the comment isn't said with maliciousness then reacting violently is way out of order, in my opinion. I don't like the thought of people threading on eggshells or even avoiding reaching out and offering support because they fear saying the 'wrong thing.' There are very few arbitrary right or wrong ways of going about condolences, what's helpful to one person can be offensive to another but when you know that person is only trying to help what makes people think they have Carte Blanche to act in such a sh**ty and abusive manner. Like I said we all have to experience grief at some stage.


  • #124
    hondasam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34,418 ✭✭✭✭hondasam


    Truley wrote: »
    That may be so but if the comment isn't said with maliciousness then reacting violently is way out of order, in my opinion. I don't like the thought of people threading on eggshells or even avoiding reaching out and offering support because they fear saying the 'wrong thing.' There are very few arbitrary right or wrong ways of going about condolences, what's helpful to one person can be offensive to another but when you know that person is only trying to help what makes people think they have Carte Blanche to act in such a sh**ty and abusive manner. Like I said we all have to experience grief at some stage.

    The poster did say she was wrong so cut her some slack, grief can make us do things that are not nice or normal.
    People are just saying what they feel you want to hear but it gets a bit tiring after awhile but I would not be rude to anyone offering condolences.
    we all have to experience grief but there are different levels of grief.


  • #125
    Dudess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    An abusive reaction is probably the hurt manifesting itself though... But it doesn't make it right.


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