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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #4862
    VinLieger
    Registered Users Posts: 17,665 ✭✭✭✭VinLieger


    Ankhyu wrote: »
    Been lurking, but don't know if I can get through BOTH threads. But anyway, just signed up to POF about a month ago, went on a couple of dates with one guy but that's it.

    Been messaging a few, one guy I've been talking to all day, getting along relatively well with, and is quite good looking, just admitted that it's not actually his photo, he used a friends photo just to see what the site was like, and that his profile isn't truthful! Has anyone else had this kinda thing before??

    Id ask to see a photo before talking to him further, doesnt put him high on the trustworthy scale if hes not prepared to put up a photo of himself and instead uses a friends.


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    #4863
    JimBob777
    Registered Users Posts: 73 ✭✭JimBob777


    Ankhyu wrote: »
    Been lurking, but don't know if I can get through BOTH threads. But anyway, just signed up to POF about a month ago, went on a couple of dates with one guy but that's it.

    Been messaging a few, one guy I've been talking to all day, getting along relatively well with, and is quite good looking, just admitted that it's not actually his photo, he used a friends photo just to see what the site was like, and that his profile isn't truthful! Has anyone else had this kinda thing before??

    thats strange, no never experienced it. doesnt sound very confident putting up his mates picture which to me suggests he finds his mate more attractive and why lie in a profile for an experiment?
    ask him to update his profile fully to his true self and if he doesnt then i wouldn't bother contacting him again,my advice :)


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    #4864
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    VinLieger wrote: »
    Id ask to see a photo before talking to him further, doesnt put him high on the trustworthy scale if hes not prepared to put up a photo of himself and instead uses a friends.

    I wouldn't even bother keeping in contact to be honest. Too much lying going on there.


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    #4865
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    VinLieger wrote: »
    Id ask to see a photo before talking to him further, doesnt put him high on the trustworthy scale if hes not prepared to put up a photo of himself and instead uses a friends.

    I was in contact with two girls on POF who initiated contact with me but who lost the ability to respond when I asked for a photo seeing they had none on their profile. They really should get that checked out by a qualified professional.


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    #4866
    VinLieger
    Registered Users Posts: 17,665 ✭✭✭✭VinLieger


    Larianne wrote: »
    I wouldn't even bother keeping in contact to be honest. Too much lying going on there.

    Actually your right, thought about it a bit more after i wrote that. Theres plenty of ways to sign up to the sites and not display your photo but putting up another photo entirely is wrong


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    #4867
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    Larianne wrote: »
    VinLieger wrote: »
    Id ask to see a photo before talking to him further, doesnt put him high on the trustworthy scale if hes not prepared to put up a photo of himself and instead uses a friends.

    I wouldn't even bother keeping in contact to be honest. Too much lying going on there.

    Agreed ... In my experience, there are loads of lovely decent genuine guys on those sites, why waste your time on someone who's already proven themselves to be dishonest!


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    #4868
    Ankhyu
    Registered Users Posts: 5,313 ✭✭✭Ankhyu


    Yeah it's a bit odd, I messaged him there anyway, saying as much. I don't think I'll bother though really after that.


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    #4869
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Larianne wrote: »
    I wouldn't even bother keeping in contact to be honest. Too much lying going on there.

    I concur. If they are lying about what they actually look like. Imagine what else they might be lying about...


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    #4870
    JimBob777
    Registered Users Posts: 73 ✭✭JimBob777


    Ankhyu wrote: »
    Yeah it's a bit odd, I messaged him there anyway, saying as much. I don't think I'll bother though really after that.

    also, if he's using that profile as an experiment, then is it fair to assume he using messaging you as an experiment too? not much genuineness in the whole situation tbh..


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    #4871
    Agent Smith
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 21,502 Mod ✭✭✭✭Agent Smith


    awec wrote: »
    The amount of people who don't know where they are from is shocking.

    Location: Dublin, Wicklow.

    Jesus wept. :rolleyes:


    Well, if the person lived in bray (for example) they would be on the border of both (depending on the part of bray)

    Also, Bray (and at a push greystones) are on the dart line, and have Standard dublin bus routes


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    #4872
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Funny story. That girl I went on the date with on Sunday. We've decided that were gonna give the old friendship route a bash since we got on pretty well (no 'spark' though unfortunately). So she added me to facebook just there and I was flicking through her profile (as you do) and low and behold she has a photo of herself holding a snapping turtle by the neck! :eek:


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    #4873
    Discodog
    Registered Users Posts: 15,829 ✭✭✭✭Discodog


    Ankhyu wrote: »
    Been messaging a few, one guy I've been talking to all day, getting along relatively well with, and is quite good looking, just admitted that it's not actually his photo, he used a friends photo just to see what the site was like, and that his profile isn't truthful! Has anyone else had this kinda thing before??

    Maybe he doesn't want his wife to spot him :D. In reality we have no idea how many people do this because you won't know until you meet them. There are plenty of valid reasons not to post a pic on a profile but using someone else's photo is a fraud.


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    #4874
    G-Money
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,199 ✭✭✭G-Money


    Axed my POF profile the other day. Don't think I'll be going back to it for a while either.


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    #4875
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Thoughts - the guy who stood me up Friday message today (we haven't exchanged phone numbers) saying sorry had a difficult few days with family problems. I'm being played, right?


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    #4876
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,695 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Pembily wrote: »
    Thoughts - the guy who stood me up Friday message today (we haven't exchanged phone numbers) saying sorry had a difficult few days with family problems. I'm being played, right?

    Ask him what happened maybe? If it was something fairly serious then yeah give him the benifit of the doubt, but if he says he was at a fecking granny's 90th or something, I say boot him, as in fairness, something like that would be a shíte excuse for not meeting you!


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    #4877
    ChannelNo5
    Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    Pembily wrote: »
    Thoughts - the guy who stood me up Friday message today (we haven't exchanged phone numbers) saying sorry had a difficult few days with family problems. I'm being played, right?

    Ooh! Difficult one. Not necessarily playing you, could be genuine but on the other hand may be keeping you on simmer and a date he had at weekend didn't work out?..:confused:

    If you like him maybe give him a second chance? I probably would if i was really keen on him:)


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    #4878
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    ChannelNo5 wrote: »
    Ooh! Difficult one. Not necessarily playing you, could be genuine but on the other hand may be keeping you on simmer and a date he had at weekend didn't work out?..:confused:

    If you like him maybe give him a second chance? I probably would if i was really keen on him:)

    See this is the thing, I kinda am keen, we have been messaging on and off since October :rolleyes: :eek: Also majorly curious!


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    #4879
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Pembily wrote: »
    See this is the thing, I kinda am keen, we have been messaging on and off since October :rolleyes: :eek: Also majorly curious!

    Am common love, he's taking you for a ride. :rolleyes:


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    #4880
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    KTRIC wrote: »
    Pembily wrote: »
    See this is the thing, I kinda am keen, we have been messaging on and off since October :rolleyes: :eek: Also majorly curious!

    Am common love, he's taking you for a ride. :rolleyes:
    Firstly my name's NOT love...

    Secondly the reason it's been so long is we were messaging for 2 weeks then I started seeing someone and after that finished we started messaging again 3 weeks ago.


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    #4881
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Pembily wrote: »
    Firstly my name's NOT love...

    Secondly the reason it's been so long is we were messaging for 2 weeks then I started seeing someone and after that finished we started messaging again 3 weeks ago.

    Its not ?? just messing with you ;)

    If you think he's worth the extra effort then give it another shot then.


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    #4882
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 53,411 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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    #4883
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    How definite was the arrangement, and how apologetic was he?

    I mean, it's a pretty big deal to just stand someone up! And, no matter what family stuff he had going on, you'd think he could have gotten in touch with you sooner!


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    #4884
    VinLieger
    Registered Users Posts: 17,665 ✭✭✭✭VinLieger


    awec wrote: »
    You know best Pem, whatever you think! :)

    What I would say though, that family problems or not he should still not have stood you up.

    Exactly, i dont think theres much excuse for not messaging you and saying "sorry wont make it"


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    #4885
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Just deleted both of my accounts, had enough messing to last me a life time. Online dating is definitely not for me.


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    #4886
    Pembily
    Registered Users Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    VinLieger wrote: »
    Exactly, i dont think theres much excuse for not messaging you and saying "sorry wont make it"

    You and Awec are right, suppose :rolleyes:

    I am gonna message tomorrow evening as Panthro suggested and see what he says but I am skeptical! Realistically I know I shouldn't message but I am curious!


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    #4887
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,077 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    I used the 'viewed me' feature too but I also check out 'new users'. Has anyone noticed how many new users are looking for 'intimate encounters'? Maybe its just my age group trying to recapture their youth! :D


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    #4888
    GrumPy
    Registered Users Posts: 6,557 ✭✭✭GrumPy


    Pembily wrote: »
    VinLieger wrote: »
    Exactly, i dont think theres much excuse for not messaging you and saying "sorry wont make it"

    You and Awec are right, suppose :rolleyes:

    I am gonna message tomorrow evening as Panthro suggested and see what he says but I am skeptical! Realistically I know I shouldn't message but I am curious!


    I'd be really curious too,but to actually proper stand you up, no message or anything? I'd run for the hills to be honest. starting on the wrong foot, completely from the get go !


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    #4889
    silvervixen84
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional Abroad Moderators Posts: 6,485 Mod ✭✭✭✭silvervixen84


    Date set for tomorrow night :)


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    #4890
    ChannelNo5
    Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    Dovies wrote: »
    I used the 'viewed me' feature too but I also check out 'new users'. Has anyone noticed how many new users are looking for 'intimate encounters'? Maybe its just my age group trying to recapture their youth! :D

    I've been really quite saddened by some of the experiences some of the you guys have had on here lately. I was just about to fill out my profile for getting back on POF last night and i stopped and thought do i really want to put myself through this again? I'm all of a didther now trying to decide if i really need this or am i really better off accepting the single life. I know it's not everybody's experienceand we try our best to have a laugh about it but there are some really horrible people out there:(


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    #4891
    ChannelNo5
    Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    GrumPy wrote: »
    I'd be really curious too,but to actually proper stand you up, no message or anything? I'd run for the hills to be honest. starting on the wrong foot, completely from the get go !


    In hindsight Pem I'd agree with the lads, if he actually left you standing waiting somewhere then the family emergency would have to be a hum dinger for a second chance:)


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