The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

stargazer 68

Cazale wrote: »

I met my Fiancee online and we are together eight years next month. She is mortified though when people ask how we met and makes up some story about through a friend of a friend etc. I don't think it matters myself and think its preferable to meeting in some dingy nightclub at 2am! Anyone have an opinion on it?

I think in the initial stages I wouldn't be too open with where we met however after 8 years I would have no problem with it at all. Congrats.

johnr1

Larianne wrote: »

Do you think that because you'd almost given up, you might have been more relaxed about the whole thing and went into meeting up with the lady with more of an open mind and without as much pressure??

Not saying that you were a stressed out dude going on your dates, but that maybe your mindset change subsonsciously somewhat? Or was it all just luck?

I dunno, I'm usually confident enough on dates, but then, both of us went expecting no more than good conversation, - that the other wouldnt be interested beyond that, so yeah maybe.

We're both a little bit unusual when compared to our peers in terms of life history, interests, conversation topics, socialising preferences etc so that obviously helps.
Many of the Irish gals i find attractive find me too boring/sensible/oldheaded, and then vice versa with the ones that are interested in me. (Irish gals are the best IMO, but that's how it's happened for me). She wasn't born here, - moved here in her teens from very far away, and has some slightly different outlooks on life, which just happen to line up with mine very well. We were a 95% match on OKC having answered over 300 questions, so that has to count for something. Tbh it's obvious enough when we chat.
The defining factor was attraction though, - I just though she was gorgeous, and I believe her reaction was similar. We then proceeded to chat till 6 in the morning!

Sorry for necessitating the use of sick-bags here, I'll stop now.

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KTRIC

I'm fairly picky when it comes to sending out messages, I really have to like what I see or read but I've been getting zero responses

I'm not going to bother any more.


Oh and for those of you who might remember "mystery girl" from earlier on in the thread. She disabled her profile after she cancelled our date claiming not to be in the right head space. Then low and behold enables it again 2 weeks later :rolleyes:

Pembily

johnr1 wrote: »

Sorry for necessitating the use of sick-bags here, I'll stop now.

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Who needs a diet :P :P :pac:

I joke, I am really happy for you and it gives me hope!

That_Guy

Cazale wrote: »

I met my Fiancee online and we are together eight years next month. She is mortified though when people ask how we met and makes up some story about through a friend of a friend etc. I don't think it matters myself and think its preferable to meeting in some dingy nightclub at 2am! Anyone have an opinion on it?

I've an upcoming date and told my mam about it.

"Where did you get talking to her"

"Online dating site", I responded.

"That's a bit weird", was her response. :rolleyes:

I didn't realise that there's still a bit of a stigma around these sites.

Itwasntme.

Congratulations John!! All the best in your new relationship.

JohnR1's success story makes me want to give online dating another chance. But. I am going to be away from Dublin for three and a half months (end of May through the second week of September)- should I even bother? Wouldn't that be a waste of time for both parties? Am I looking at this the wrong way?

Larianne

Really happy to read your little story JohnR. I do think that maybe because you guys didn't have high hopes for the date, it did help maybe.

That_Guy wrote: »

I didn't realise that there's still a bit of a stigma around these sites.

I definitely think its still there. I told one of my close college mates at the weekend about the guy I'm seeing and she was cool with it. She said she had thought about using it herself at one stage. But I did ask her not to say it round to others as I don't think everyone in my class would be so cool about it.

Galvasean

That_Guy wrote: »

I've an upcoming date and told my mam about it.

"Where did you get talking to her"

"Online dating site", I responded.

"That's a bit weird", was her response. :rolleyes:

You should have yelled, "You're a bit weird!" in response. That usually works.

I see POF no longer lets you use the 'viewed me' feature unless you pay.
This means I can stalk the girls who shunned me.

VinLieger

Galvasean wrote: »

I see POF no longer lets you use the 'viewed me' feature unless you pay.
This means I can stalk the girls who shunned me.

God damnit just noticed this, really makes a ****ty site even worse tbh, ahh well my views were down the toilet recently anyway

finipops

Can't use the "viewed me" feature anymore unless you pay for it so that kinda sucks! :mad:

Dravokivich

Don't see what the issue is. If someone's viewed you and not sent a message, I'd be inclined to think they weren't interested.

Larianne

finipops wrote: »

Can't use the "viewed me" feature anymore unless you pay for it so that kinda sucks! :mad:

Why? How does it make a difference to who you send a message to?

finipops

Larianne wrote: »

Why? How does it make a difference to who you send a message to?

I rarely send out the first message but i would like to know who viewed the profile and such.

Galvasean

VinLieger wrote: »

God damnit just noticed this, really makes a ****ty site even worse tbh, ahh well my views were down the toilet recently anyway

Guess that 'sharking' tactic can't be used now. I got my last 2 dates from girls visiting my profile a couple of times within a week to draw me out to message them. Oh well, I guess they'll just have to send me a mail straight up so! :P

Was just reading a girls profile on POF. Very pretty girl. Articulate and well written profile. Was going to mail her until I read her very last paragraph:
"If you’re less than 5 -7 tall, don’t even think about messaging me. Go back to leprechaun land and find your pot of gold!"
The mask slipped huh? Do people actually think being a cow is a good way to get people interested in you? I was very interested until the cruel streak surfaced.

Beefy78

Yeah it's a function that I use a lot. Out of interest if nothing else.

They obviously think that it's an important function hence why it's the latest to be chaged for.

Larianne

I'd rarely look at who viewed me. I think it was annoy me to know who'd looked at my profile and not messaged me. :cool:

Galvasean

Yeah, they keep removing functions. Not a whole lot left now.

awec

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Beefy78

Galvasean wrote: »

Guess that 'sharking' tactic can't be used now. I got my last 2 dates from girls visiting my profile a couple of times within a week to draw me out to message them. Oh well, I guess they'll just have to send me a mail straight up so! :P

Was just reading a girls profile on POF. Very pretty girl. Articulate and well written profile. Was going to mail her until I read her very last paragraph:
"If you’re less than 5 -7 tall, don’t even think about messaging me. Go back to leprechaun land and find your pot of gold!"
The mask slipped huh? Do people actually think being a cow is a good way to get people interested in you? I was very interested until the cruel streak surfaced.

hahaha I read that profile yesterday.

She seemed to be looking for a Premier League footballer, mate. Definitely looked high-maintenance. She's quite the stunner though.

Pembily

Galva that is horrid! I hope no one over 5'7 NEVER EVER messages her!

I like the viewed me for the giggle

KTRIC

Galvasean wrote: »

Guess that 'sharking' tactic can't be used now. I got my last 2 dates from girls visiting my profile a couple of times within a week to draw me out to message them. Oh well, I guess they'll just have to send me a mail straight up so! :P

Was just reading a girls profile on POF. Very pretty girl. Articulate and well written profile. Was going to mail her until I read her very last paragraph:
"If you’re less than 5 -7 tall, don’t even think about messaging me. Go back to leprechaun land and find your pot of gold!"
The mask slipped huh? Do people actually think being a cow is a good way to get people interested in you? I was very interested until the cruel streak surfaced.

I recognise that line as well

To be honest I was going to message her until I read that. I'm 6ft4 so I think I might be tall enough for her but I found the line a completely off putting.

Beefy78

The 'viewed me' function still works on the Android application, btw.

awec

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Galvasean

awec wrote: »

I also read that one. She's hot, and her profile was actually really well written until you got to that bit.

Strangely, I meet all of her criteria but am ironically not interested now.
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awec

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Galvasean

Actually, I didn't read her tagline beforehand..
BAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!

Oh man, she's being mocked by nerds, NERDS!

finipops

Beefy78 wrote: »

The 'viewed me' function still works on the Android application, btw.

You're right as i have just checked.

Pembily

awec wrote: »

I also read that one. She's hot, and her profile was actually really well written until you got to that bit.

What is a really well written profile?

Beefy78

Pembily wrote: »

What is a really well written profile?

It was long - but not too long. It was interesting, it was funny. It said a fair bit about her, her background and her motivations. She'd clearly put a lot of effort into it. Coupled with her pictures it made a very appealing pitch (other than the last line).

awec

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