How old were you when you moved out?

Dudess

JerryHandbag wrote: »

In what sense? Not over-analysing the significance of moving out, and just going ahead and doing it?

I suppose I was like that a bit. But it was more of a case of I HAD to move out, my job was 20 miles away, and since I didn't have a car at the time I couldn't be asking my parents to collect me every night (late hours of work too). Even though I lived alone at first for a month or 2, it was good for my independence & I'm glad I did it.

Pop culture fail by moi... :pac:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b3LdMAqUMnM

LeeHoffmann

I lived with my family then moved country and moved in with my boyfriend (now fiance) when I was 21. Haven't lived at home since then. There's no room at the old inn now and I doubt I'll ever move back.

maupat

Moved out at 17 when I went to college. Moved back in when I got employment near home when I was 27. At 29 I left again when I got a job in Dublin.

Great to have the independence but good to have the security of knowing you can return home if needs be.

JerryHandbag

Dudess wrote: »

Pop culture fail by moi... :pac:

That flew over my head, and yes I'm old enough to have that on cassette :pac:

flutterflye

starbelgrade wrote: »

No, thankfully not.

It sounds to me like your mother has some very serious mental health issues & a drink problem and that you probably are better off away from her for your own good. But at the same time, it would do you no harm to call her just to let her know that you're OK.

Look I'm not trying to tell you what to do - you're old enough to make your own decisions, but if you don't get in touch it could be something you will live to regret later on in life.

No-one is perfect and it's very easy for people to be overcome by mental health issues & end up with drink or drug problems. Try to look at it this way... if you & your partner had a kid, and for some reason you fell out with the kid when they were a teenager - how would you feel if you didn't see or hear from them for over half a decade?

I know you've gone through some really bad shit, but just one phone call won't hurt anybody & could do a whole lot of good.

Just had to say - I don't speak to my dad very often if I can help it, and soon I won't ever speak to him ever again.
I hope he rots tbh.

I absolutely cannot stand people suggesting that I give him another chance or forgive him etc...
It's just kind of patronising, and none of other people's business to give you unsolicited advice about things they know nothing about.

starbelgrade

starbelgrade wrote: »

I know you've gone through some really bad shit, but just one phone call won't hurt anybody & could do a whole lot of good.

I have to disagree here. It might not hurt anyone physically, but mentally it could have a very very serious affect on the OP. He could end up a hell of a lot worse off for making that phone call.

mariebeth

28 and still living at home. I did go to Australia for a year when I was 24, but when I back, I got a job 5 minutes from the home place, so there was no point in moving out. And now I'm in uni again, so I'll be here til at least June, although if I decide to stay in the country it'll probably be longer.

starbelgrade

flutterflye wrote: »

It's just kind of patronising, and none of other people's business to give you unsolicited advice about things they know nothing about.

This is a public forum. If someone decides to post some personal information about their life, then I - or anybody else - is free to respond as they see fit. You may choose to agree or disagree with what I say, but you cannot say that poster wasn't asking for a response as responding to posts is the whole point of forums.

My response was based on my own personal experience & while it is one I do not wish to share on a public forum, I fail to see how that could be considered patronising.

flutterflye

starbelgrade wrote: »

This is a public forum. If someone decides to post some personal information about their life, then I - or anybody else - is free to respond as they see fit.

My response was based on my own personal experience & while it is one I do not wish to share on a public forum, I fail to see how that could be considered patronising.

This is a public forum?? :eek:

Well it's just one of those general unwritten rules in life really - don't offer unsolicited advice, especially when you don't know the facts.

starbelgrade

flutterflye wrote: »

This is a public forum?? :eek:

Well it's just one of those general unwritten rules in life really - don't offer unsolicited advice, especially when you don't know the facts.

Similar then to the other unwritten rule that if you don't want people responding to your posts, then don't post stuff on the internet.

flutterflye

starbelgrade wrote: »

Similar then to the other unwritten rule that if you don't want people responding to your posts, then don't post stuff on the internet.

Not really similar, no.

oldyouth

Anyhoo,

I left home at 23. Got married at 24 and bought a house.

kowloon

flutterflye wrote: »

Just had to say - I don't speak to my dad very often if I can help it, and soon I won't ever speak to him ever again.
I hope he rots tbh.

I absolutely cannot stand people suggesting that I give him another chance or forgive him etc...
It's just kind of patronising, and none of other people's business to give you unsolicited advice about things they know nothing about.

I don't think anyone is trying to be patronising. People who get on well with their parents or children just find it hard to hear about families being broken up like that.

Benny_Cake

I was 26 *looks sheepish*

It's more common to stay longer at home when you live in Dublin - a lot more people in smaller towns or rural areas move out for college or work. Irish people seem to live at home for longer than Americans or Brits,but not half as long as Italians! Or a lot of other nationalities,I tried to explain to a Malaysian guy once why young people in Ireland might like to move out of the family home (privacy,etc), he was completely baffled.

seamus

19. Parents moved down to Wicklow and I was driving 150km a day going to college and sleeping on people's couches whenever I went drinking. Which was a lot, given that I was in college. Did that for about six months and then said fnck it and moved into my brother's house in Dublin for the next 7 years.

I've never really been able to grasp people living with their parents when they don't have to. I guess for some people the benefits outweigh the hassle. I know for me, even if I've been in my parents house for a few hours, I'm still their child - they're fussing and asking questions and pottering around. I value my time on my own, hate having someone around all the time disrupting what I'm doing.
I was also pretty much washing my own clothes and cooking most of my own meals by the time I was 18 anyway, so I suppose I had less reason to stay than other people.

elaicah

19

saa

Just turned 17, got on a bus to dublin the afternoon the leaving cert finished and never moved back.

foodie66

I think it's unfair to say all people are a 'burden' to their parents if they live at home. Often times it can be the opposite. Sometimes if a parent is unwell or dislikes living alone people feel a duty to take care of them if they are single.

A few friends of mine still live at home and most of them do a lot to help out as well as contribute towards bills. they clean, cook, do the grocery shopping, bring parents to doctor's appointments etc. They still live independent lives working and socialising. It doesn't have to be unhealthy. Especially in these times it often makes more financial and personal sense to live together if you're not married or living far away.

Then of course you have the lazy arseholes who have their parents at their beck and call who never go near a washing machine or a mop. I think the parents are partly to blame for that though. Even if the 'kid' has feck all money there is no excuse for not helping out around the house. I don't know how people like that justify it

gigino

lastlaugh wrote: »

How old were you when you moved out of your parent's house?

I was 24 when I bought a house with my partner.

Do you think it's a bit unhealty for people to stay at home past a certain age?

I know of some people who have no intention of moving out of their parents as they have it too handy, which I think is a bit unnatural...

I was 18 when I moved out for good.

Its weird to see people in their late 20's / thirties still living at home.

ronan45

I have 2 buddies still living with mammy and daddy. One is 36 the other 42
Both Single, Its probably the reason why they are bloody single !

neilthefunkeone

26... Well actually was only 7 months ago i moved out.. Had no need to before that really.. Plus i was on a sh1t wage, still am actually!!!