Partners having sex toys

El Guapo!

Purely hypothetical question here.
I was chatting to a mate of mine today and the conversation got on to girls using vibrators (don't ask how the conversation got there!) and it got me thinking, how would you react if you found out your partner regularly used a sex toy?
I know there's been a few threads about if you mind your partner playing with themselves and I've always thought "yeah that doesn't bother me one bit". But if I found out my gf had a giant 14" dildo that she used regularly, I dunno how I'd react. I suppose something like that would make you feel inadequate or something.
So how would you react in that situation? For the lads....what would you do if you found out your gf had a monster sex toy that she regularly used?
And to the girls....what if your fella had a Fleshlight tucked away under the bed that he broke out every time you weren't home?!

Amirani

Couldn't care less. I fap away all day, she can use whatever she wants as long as it's not alive.

Millicent

Hypothetical. :pac: OP, hide the batteries or she'll leave you after an Ann Summers party.

cson

Dean09 wrote: »

Purely hypothetical question here.

Yeah yeah I bet it is

Dean09 wrote: »

But if I found out my gf had a giant 14" dildo that she used regularly

She has and she does.

stupidusername

While I find the idea of a guy using a fleshlight odd,i would have no problem with it at all.

I do want to know do they actually make 14" dildos? :eek:

Mrmoe

Sex toys are a lot more fun when you don't use them on your own

Super-Rush

I am my partners sex toy.

Giggidy.

Immaculate Pasta

I am way out of my depth with this question :cool:

mad m

Duracell FTW....

Liam Byrne

stupidusername wrote: »

While I find the idea of a guy using a fleshlight odd,i would have no problem with it at all.

Freudian slip ?

El Guapo!

Millicent wrote: »

Hypothetical. :pac: OP, hide the batteries or she'll leave you for after an Ann Summers party.

44leto

I object when they use them on the bus.

Princess Peach

Few of mine were gifts from boyfriends. I got one for my boyfriend, but its one we use together.

If I could get a fleshlight replica of myself I genuinely would. My boyfriend doesn't want one. I have asked, cause I would get him one if he wanted.

rcaz

Are you worried about being superceded by a piece of plastic? :pac:

Millicent

You should be delighted if she's using one. Cures hysteria, doncha know? Invention predates the vacuum cleaner--good auld Victorian priorities. :pac:

stupidusername

Liam Byrne wrote: »

Freudian slip ?

What?

seanybiker

stupidusername wrote: »

What?

Its when you say one thing but mean your mother.




why would it bother me? pfft fook that.

Millicent

seanybiker wrote: »

Why would it bother me? pfft fook that.

You can with a fleshlight. :pac:

LighterGuy

Since a guy can jerk off .... I guess a woman using a toy to do the same isnt bad.. I wouldnt have such an issue with it.

However, if the girl preferred the toy to the real thing. yeah, get lost!

stupidusername

Thanks sean,i do know what a freudian slip is,i'm just not getting what mine was meant to be.

Princess Peach

LighterGuy wrote: »

Since a guy can jerk off .... I guess a woman using a toy to do the same isnt bad.. I wouldnt have such an issue with it.

However, if the girl preferred the toy to the real thing. yeah, get lost!

If she preferred the toy to the real thing, that's really just a bad reflection on you hun.

3rdDegree

One of our partners used to have a penis pump. Didn't bother me too much, but everyone else hated it when he used it in meetings.

krudler

wouldnt bother me in the slightest, have bought them for girlfriends, some women can't climax through just penetration so using a toy as well helps, tis all fun anyway. Dunno why people get so insulted, everyones different, what works for one woman like just sex, oral, rubbing her etc wont work for all of them, half the fun is finding out what does work and going with it.

stupidusername

Princess Peach wrote: »

If she preferred the toy to the real thing, that's really just a bad reflection on you hun.

Yeah he should learn to vibrate better

alwaysadub

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

El Guapo!

I actually suppose it wouldn't be too bad as long as she didn't prefer it to the real thing. And they can be good fun when used together.

Fart

3rdDegree wrote: »

One of our partners used to have a penis pump. Didn't bother me too much, but everyone else hated it when he used it in meetings.

Ours, penis pump, everyone else, meetings :eek:

Millicent

stupidusername wrote: »

Yeah he should learn to vibrate better

Hahahaha! I couldn't just thank this, I had to applaud that comment!

LighterGuy

Princess Peach wrote: »

If she preferred the toy to the real thing, that's really just a bad reflection on you hun.

:rolleyes:
even if it was,
why should I continue to date a person I couldnt please?

So in my example, if that was the case, yes i'd have an issue with it and pack my bags. The same could be said about a woman who cant get her guy off. He prefers his hand. She'd have an issue too.

44leto

I envy women their sex toys seem so satisfying

And yeah I am not getting any.

flutterflye

For some reason in my head, it's fine for girls, but weird for guys.
I don't know why.
It's completely hypocritical, but that's how I feel.
Probably just because it's socially acceptable for girls these days.
I wouldn't insist that he stops using it, it would just take me a while to get used to it I think.

El Guapo!

flutterflye wrote: »

For some reason in my head, it's fine for girls, but weird for guys.
I don't know why.
It's completely hypocritical, but that's how I feel.
Probably just because it's socially acceptable for girls these days.
I wouldn't insist that he stops using it, it would just take me a while to get used to it I think.

I think that's because it's bred into us that in todays society if a girl uses a sex toy then she's an independant, cosmopolitan, "sex in the city" type girl who's to be applauded.
But if it's a guy then he's somehow a perverted sexual deviant!

Totally hypocritical but that seems to be how it's perceived.

stupidusername

44leto wrote: »

I envy women their sex toys seem so satisfying

And yeah I am not getting any.

You cant cuddle a vibrator

AnnaGram85

THEY MAKE 14" DILDOS?!?!?!

Seriously? No, I wouldn't have an issue. Then again, if I had my way, he wouldn't have the TIME or ENERGY for any other sex toy

I use mine fairly often, although 'fairly often' could mean different things to different people. I agree that it's more fun if used WITH the partner. I wouldn't hide the fact that I have one - even my housemate knows at this stage [nothing to do with noise, something to do with the fact that I left my drawer open and she was sitting on my bed chatting to me..........., only noticed when she was gone!! ]

starbelgrade

flutterflye wrote: »

For some reason in my head, it's fine for girls, but weird for guys.
I don't know why.
It's completely hypocritical, but that's how I feel.
Probably just because it's socially acceptable for girls these days.
I wouldn't insist that he stops using it, it would just take me a while to get used to it I think.

How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend liked to take it up the ass from women wearing a strap on?

Would you ride that horsey all the way home or would you gallop out of there like a frightened mare?

flutterflye

starbelgrade wrote: »

How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend liked to take it up the ass from women wearing a strap on?

Would you ride that horsey all the way home or would you gallop out of there like a frightened mare?

Gallop, definitely gallop!
There are some things I could get used to in time, but strap ons up the ass are not one of them!

Millicent

How do you know a blonde's been using your vibrator?

She's chipped her teeth. :pac:

44leto

stupidusername wrote: »

You cant cuddle a vibrator

LOL
Speaking for a lot of males that is a big plus.

Millicent

starbelgrade wrote: »

How would you feel if you found out your boyfriend liked to take it up the ass from women wearing a strap on?

Would you ride that horsey all the way home or would you gallop out of there like a frightened mare?

There's a whole world of pleasure points up your (as in the male "your") bum, Star. But you already know that. You wouldn't be asking Flutterflye to test the waters by any chance, would you? :pac:

starbelgrade

Millicent wrote: »

There's a whole world of pleasure points up your (as in the male "your") bum, Star. But you already know that. You wouldn't be asking Flutterflye to test the waters by any chance, would you? :pac:

I was working my way up to seeing if she likes a bit of backdoor action.

But you've blown my cover now.

AnnaGram85

starbelgrade wrote: »

I was working my way up to seeing if she likes a bit of backdoor action.

But you've blown my cover now.

You should never start with the 'But' anyway

smash

At this stage it's acceptable for girls to have toys, I thInk ever girl I know has at least one and has no problem admitting it. But it would be weird if I knew a guy friend had a rubber pussy or something.

flutterflye

starbelgrade wrote: »

I was working my way up to seeing if she likes a bit of backdoor action.

But you've blown my cover now.

Oh darn it.
Sorry, I should have told you earlier - I'm not a gay man.

starbelgrade

flutterflye wrote: »

Oh darn it.
Sorry, I should have told you earlier - I'm not a gay man.

Millicent

starbelgrade wrote: »

I was working my way up to seeing if she likes a bit of backdoor action.

But you've blown my cover now.

I think "blown" is an unfortunate choice of words here.

flutterflye

starbelgrade wrote: »

Don't mind me!
Wheeee...... Off I go.

(If you have to explain, there's no point. The moment's gone. Let it die.:))

Jemmy

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest!

exaisle

Whats sauce for the goose is lubricant for the gander.....

Briany3

When playing with your partner,? would you take up the A H.

Briany3

No would not be able for it. Not gay. In anyway never done it.

stupidusername

LighterGuy wrote: »

here is an interesting question ...

What if your partner was using some big 12 inch toy? .. would you still be accepting of its use.

But the original question was posed with a 14",are you saying what if it was a different size,or what?