Someone taking your baby name - would you be mad?

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 8:06pm #1

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akamossy · 01-02-2011 8:10pm

Can't imagine I would be furious but I might be a small bit annoyed if they had known that was the name I had my heart on but I'd get over it. I wouldn't fall out with anyone over it and ya if I thought the name suited any baby I may have then I would use it anyway

Ronan H · 01-02-2011 8:11pm

I would not be mad. I would use the name anyway.

I have seen close friends fall out (for years, and still) over this. I think that is utterly ridiculous to be honest.

Chuchoter · 01-02-2011 8:12pm

I'd be pretty furious tbh if they knew you liked it. Maybe I'm petty :P

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 8:14pm

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Acoshla · 01-02-2011 8:28pm

I've always loved a particular girl's name, and mentioned it to a pregnant friend, she then named her baby that name. Now it doesn't bother me that she did, but I know that if in a few years I had a baby girl and called her that name this friend would be furious that I "copied" her, but I distinctly remember telling her that I would definitely pick that name. It was actually two names together that I liked, and she called her daughter a slight variation of it, a few letters difference.

But when I said I wanted to call my new cat Jack she told me I couldn't because that's what they want to call their first son :rolleyes:

sam34 · 01-02-2011 8:31pm

what if you had a girl?

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 8:34pm

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lynski · 01-02-2011 8:35pm

Have a female isreali friend called Noa

sam34 · 01-02-2011 8:37pm

oh dear lord she sounds like a treat!

some people get so ridiculously competitive about all sort of stuff

The Lovely Muffin · 01-02-2011 8:38pm

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

IMO, there are more important things to consider when you have a baby, than wondering whether or not any of your friends will be annoyed/upset with you for picking a particular name. So long as baby and mammy are healthy, that's whats important, not a name.

No matter what name you chose someone will always be upset/miffed/whatever.

All that said, I don't have kids and I don't kids, but if I did ever have kids, I would chose a name I and baby's father liked, not a name that kept others happy.

3DataModem · 01-02-2011 8:40pm

Simple solution: don't tell people your planned baby names!

People may love a name they hear, and plenty of people change their mind once the kids are born.

I kept the name "Blossom" for my first daughter a secret for about 7 years. Thankfully one of the twins was a girl... and we decided to use the name. But they could have been boys, or we could have changed our minds.

I certainly wouldn't have expected to give people a list of my preferred names 7 years ago and then maybe have a change of mind on the day!

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 8:40pm

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DeadlyTwig · 01-02-2011 8:43pm

I would go crazy!! I think most women would.

My sister has her name picked out already and I decided to call my car the same name :P

needless to say it drives her mad!!

Asphyxia · 01-02-2011 8:47pm

If I told a friend that I loved a certain name and she ended up using is it knowing I was dead set on using it also I guess I would be a little bit put out but I wouldn't loose a friendship over it that's just silly :rolleyes:

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 8:50pm

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Aishae · 01-02-2011 9:04pm

makes me think of Friends - when rachel cant think what to call her baby and monica says she doesnt want to tell her the name she always liked cos she'll want it. rachel says she wont but when monica says 'emma' rachel wants it and monica says i want you to take it.
it is a bit cheeky when you knew they loved that name for a baby. but if both people decide to use that name what the heck, plenty of emma's out there already. i think a friend would be ok, it might sting a bit. although as has been said, some would be mighty pissed if they used a baby name they knew you wanted, and when your baby is born a few years later.. eep.

my cousin had a baby a few years ago and when she said she was gonna ask our aunt could she name her niamh we were surprised.
we have a cousin niamh.
but she was ok with it and niamh was delighted the baby got the same name.

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 9:08pm

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Aishae · 01-02-2011 9:19pm

no its a cousin and another older cousins baby i still dunno why she went for that - it wasnt her first baby, it was her 2nd girl.

Das Kitty · 01-02-2011 9:41pm

My friend and I both like the same girl's name, it's no big deal. I hate this notion of "my baby name". Since when can you take ownership of a name? When I found out I was expecting a boy my friend told a mutual acquaintance of ours. She straight away she started saying that Jayden was her name and that my friend should tell me that. We had some fun for a couple of weeks where we were telling her that we were thinking of calling him after our Dads John and Aiden and were thinking of combining them. The steam was coming out of her ears. Our Dads have totally different names btw.

Aishae · 01-02-2011 9:44pm

was she pregnant at the time?
i know theres some names we all like but crikey... its not a copywright issue, lol

Cadyboo · 01-02-2011 9:55pm

I have been in this situation with my sis in law. Told her that I loved a certain name and my first daughter would have it. She then got pregnant and called the baby that name. Was shocked that she couldnt think of a name herself, but Im glad now as the names suits her and there are millions of them out there now.:P

Blush_01 · 01-02-2011 10:33pm

Wouldn't bother me, to be honest. It's not like they're going to be the only one with "x" name, are they? I know what I'd like to think I might call my children, if I have any, but that could change completely based on meeting the right person and their views on the issue, and on whether I (we?) think the name suits said children when (if?) they arrive.

A friend wouldn't tell anyone what she wanted to call her baby while she was pregnant in case someone "stole" her name. The name she ultimately chose is very ordinary, I just don't understand that kind of thing. I appreciate it was her prerogative, but at the same time, it's not like she had something amazingly unique in mind!

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 10:42pm

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The Lovely Muffin · 01-02-2011 10:45pm

What's mean about it?

There obviously going to me a lot more than one, two or even 50 people (babies or adults) with the same name, so what does it matter if your friend/cousin/family member/whoever chooses *that* name?

Neyite · 01-02-2011 10:53pm

We have a boys name already picked. Its extremely unusual, but I wont be telling anyone until we have a boy to name. Not because I'm worried someone will copy us, but I just could not stand everyone spouting their opinions etc. We both like it and thats all that matters. No girls name yet, but we know the middle name that we will have, which is the name of a family member who passed on. We are hopefully starting our family as soon as the lazyass stork gets a move on so hopefully it wont be long until I can use the names.

sashafierce · 01-02-2011 10:56pm

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Stheno · 01-02-2011 11:12pm

I'd not, same with friends and their babies. In my extended family, there are at least two sets of cousins who have the same first name, on facebook, they are differentiated by their middle names. In the older generation, there are LOADS of Mary's, Peters, etc etc.
If people want to call their babies a certain name, then they should just go ahead imo.

The Lovely Muffin · 01-02-2011 11:15pm

Nope, not at all.

WindSock · 01-02-2011 11:21pm

If it'd bother you so much then don't announce to people your favourite names.

hondasam · 01-02-2011 11:51pm

lots of fathers and sons have the same name, I have first cousins with the same name because the were called after their grandfather. It was common years ago to keep the names.

hondasam · 01-02-2011 11:54pm

It would only be mean if the did it on purpose. people often change their mind when the baby is born.

WindSock · 02-02-2011 1:46am

That's why you have to tell them your fave names are Gertrude and Fergal

echosound · 02-02-2011 1:57am

I wouldn't be mad at all, especially when you mention that you don't particularly want children, but at some stage in the hazy future if you *were* to have a child you'd like a certain name. I dunno, I just don't think people can have an indefinite "right" to a name and no-one else can ever name their child that, especially when it's not a highly uncommon name and there's plenty of other "x"'s out there.

I have a list of names that I like, and have been trying for a baby for over 5 years now. There's been lots of babies born to friends and family in the meantime, and some of them have used names that I wanted myself. No biggie (except for the fact that I get a little sad that people are having children all around me while all we get to have is infertility and some miscarriages

). So if I ever get to hold my own baby, I won't give a hoot if someone else has used the name I want to give that baby, I'll go right ahead and use it

I might get a teeny bit put out if I had a really unusual and quite unheard of name, and someone used it after I mentioned it to them, but TBH that's not going to happen as I don't mention the more unusual names

And if they came up with it themselves without hearing it from me, well then good on them and I'd definitely have no cause for being put out.

I also wouldn't find it strange in the slightest two people having the same name in the family - I know plenty of families, my own included, where there is duplication of names, oftentimes as a result of being named after an older relative.

CK2010 · 02-02-2011 1:58am

this kind of happened with me and a girl i knew.

i had just had a baby girl and she was pregnant, she was cooing over my girl, asking her name and the likes, and i asked her if she knew what she was having and she said its a boy, i asked had she thought of names and she told me the name she had chosen.

two weeks later i hear from a mutual friend that she had a girl and named it the same name as my baby girl!!

i was fuming, irrationally so in hindsight, but it was more the fact that she had said about it being a boy and all and then out of nowhere she has a girl with the same name as mine and never even told me!
just felt a bit hard done by since the babies were so close together and all, but tbh i reckon there'll be a few with her name in her class- i hear it being shouted by scumbags all over the place!

ArtSmart · 02-02-2011 2:00am

you ever see the Springfield episode bout that?

very, very funny.

psycho-hope · 02-02-2011 2:28am

really wouldnt bother me, tho me and my friends like completely different baby names, i prefer the older more traditonal ones like sophie and james etc, where as they like either more irish ones or more unusual ones

LegacyUser · 02-02-2011 8:32am

Presently I do not want children. Infact I am of the mindset that I probably will never want children. Yet, in the case of an unplanned pregnancy, or if I ever change my opinion on having kids... it seems doubtful that I will, but I'm in early 20's now so I'm not going to be adamant that I will not have different views at say 30, then I have names I really really like, and would use if I did ever have kids of my own.
I have one girl's name that I would definitely use. It is very unusual and I have never met anybody called it, just heard it in a film years ago.. It is not a weird name or hard to pronounce, it is infact both a noun and a name and is incredibly feminine, yet exotic imo. I would be very very annoyed if someone copied my idea, that is why I never tell anybody it, only my boyfriend and my sister.
My sister had a boy, and she named him after our father who died. I had thought if I ever had a boy I would have liked the name, but it suits my nephew perfectly and she got there first so I'm happy about it.

Das Kitty · 02-02-2011 9:50am

No, she wasn't even going out with anyone.

Oi! That's my son's name, don't steal it! ;p

stovelid · 02-02-2011 4:30pm

People also forget that baby names are often part of a - relatively unseen at the time - trend of popularity so a lot of people want to call their kids by that name. I would have considered Noah to be a slightly fashionable name at the moment so it's understanable that people - including friends - want to call their kid by the same name as you.

We gave one of my sons the same name as my first cousin (also one of my best mates) and none of us cared.

sashafierce · 02-02-2011 6:50pm

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Xiney · 02-02-2011 7:01pm

My parents did this to my dad's sister and her husband. My sister was born two months to the day before their daughter and my parents chose the name they'd chosen. They didn't know they'd chosen that name though.

They hastily came up with another one, but I have to admit, my sister's name is nicer.

Nevyn · 02-02-2011 7:05pm

People get stroppy cos they think they can call dibs on a name for a child not even concieved? WTF

mumto3 · 02-02-2011 9:18pm

I only met my dad when i was 21,and by this time had 2 kids.It turned out my dad had a son (my half brother who refuses to have anything to do with me),and a couple of years ago he had a son who he named the exact same name as my son!!!
The cheek of that,so now my dad has 2 grandsons with the exact same name,and my half brother knew my son was called that!!Also a cousin on the same side of the family had a baby a short while later and named her same name as my daughter,p*ssed me right off,its so cheeky when its close family like that.
I also knew a friend at school whos father had a daughter from a previous relationship and named her carol,then went on to have my friend with a dif woman and also named her carol!!!!

sashafierce · 02-02-2011 9:31pm

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mumto3 · 02-02-2011 9:33pm

He sure did!!madness!!

sam34 · 02-02-2011 9:34pm

i really dont see what the issue is, tbh.

it's a name. the person they develop into is far more important, and worth worrying about a hell of a lot more.

if i was pregnant, i would be so consumed about the child's helath, my hoeps and dreams for their future etc that i doubt i would give a flying fcuk if their friends/cousins/neighbours had the same first name.

tbh, imo, this opinion is right up there with the "you cant announce your engagement the same year as I announce mine, or get married the same year i get married" brigade - unsufferably precious and self-centered.

Ickle Magoo · 02-02-2011 9:36pm

We didn't have a baby name, per se. We both chose our top five name choices of both sexes and then waited for the child to be born so we would know A) what sex they were and

whether they suited the names we liked...on the first we ended up picking a name not even on our choice list so would never "a" baby name for someone to take, never mind be mad at them - unless it's a name we made up then it's not going to be unique anyway so I don't see the point of getting hung up about it.

Nevyn · 02-02-2011 9:58pm

So what if a person has two grandsons with the same name, it used to be the way esp when the kids were called given family names. That why you hear of Sean óg, Sean dubh, Sean dearg, Sean beag and the same with Marys or Grainnes and the descriptive additions are nice and tell a story to them.

Das Kitty · 02-02-2011 9:59pm

Hee hee. Sean dearg.

I should point out I do know a Máirín Mór Buí

Acoshla · 02-02-2011 10:18pm

My Grandad is Michael, my uncle (his son) is Michael Og, or Oige (Oh-gee), and I have the same name as my mother so we are big and small Spadina, or Snr and Jr, or I'm Spadina Og, but mostly family refer to us as "The two Spadinas", it's like being a twin, I don't have my own persona!

...It sounds much catchier with our real name!

Someone taking your baby name - would you be mad?

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