"I'll never go out with a guy shorter than me"

af_thefragile

I've herd many women say that many times.

Is it really true?


Just wondering... :pac:

Nevyn

For some women it is, the same way some men say they'd never go out with a blonde or a large woman or a woman taller then they are or a woman who looks like a skanger.

Stheno

Depends tbh in extreme heels I'm 6 foot 2 and always had tall partners.

Current bf is the same height as me in socks, and doesn't bother me at all. Doesn't bother him either!

Think that's what matters, if it's a big issue then you'll never move on from it.

Faith

I'd have serious issues with a guy shorter than me tbh. I'm only 5'5 but I do prefer my men to be 6'+. When a guy is taller than me, it makes me feel girlish and petite. I'm very aware of myself when they're close to my height. I actually hate being taller than anyone, come to think of it!

Queen-Mise

i married one 3 inches shorter than me. And i always said would never go out with a man shorter than me !!!

The hardest part was wearing heels around him, now i dont care.

Havent worn my five inch boots though yet around him (but then could be because they give me vertigo).

unepetite

Faith wrote: »

I'd have serious issues with a guy shorter than me tbh. I'm only 5'5 but I do prefer my men to be 6'+. When a guy is taller than me, it makes me feel girlish and petite. I'm very aware of myself when they're close to my height. I actually hate being taller than anyone, come to think of it!

+1 Well, I wouldn't have issues with anyone being smaller than me or short in stature (have a good few short male friends), I just wouldn't fancy them! And I'm 5'0" so the likelihood of being with a smaller man is relatively slim! I have had a few encounters with men with definite cases of short man syndrome.

However, I'd like to clarify that it's a purely innate, biological thing for me- not being "picky"- I've just never been attracted to short guys.

Morrigin

Could never have gone out with a shorter man but then I'm only five foot so he'd have to be pretty short. Tall men just make me go weak at the knees, hinny is 6 foot 4

There are some guys that will never go out with any girls shorter than them too.

Thankfully, at 5'11, I generally don't have that problem, unless the girl is over 6, obviously.

soupdrinker

I'm 6foot and I have gone out in the past with guys shorter than me but do prefer someone the same height or taller.

I think an inch or two shorter doesn't make a difference but don't know if I could go out with someone who was really small eg 5 foot 6 or sometthing

dirtyghettokid

id have a prob with shorter.... i dunno it would just feel awkward. i wouldn't care what others think, just would be awkward personally.
i'm 5'6" and hubby is 5'8".....when we got married i wore flats because i didn't want to be taller than him or same height in wedding photos

Ickle Magoo

I've never gone out with a guy shorter than me....but then I'm only 5"4.

Sibylla

It wouldn't really bother me to be honest unless the difference was significant. Once you get to know someone you overlook those issues.

liah

I hate to say it but I'm kind of like that. The shortest I've been with was the same height as me, and even that felt a bit funny. I'm not sure why, it's certainly not a conscious decision. I hate it. But there's been guys where I've thought "if you were only a few inches taller, you'd be perfect for me," and haven't really done anything as a result. The idea of looking down at a guy.. it just feels.. unnatural, or something? I can't figure it out.

I dunno. I don't like it but I can't really control how I physically respond, as much as my head may disagree.

That said I wouldn't want him miles taller, either. Within reason.

Otis Driftwood

Its funny cos as a bloke Id find it pretty hard to date a girl taller than me.Kinda like what Faith said above,I feel more manly when my OH is smaller than me,all protecterish .

Having said that if I met someone that I connected with then I probably wouldnt care.I dated a girl for a while that was the same height as me in her bare feet (5 9 or so) and she was fond of wearing heels and it didnt bother me when we were out even though to annoy me she used to put her arm around my shoulders .

xoxyx

I'm 5'8 and I would look for somebody a good bit taller than me. My current OH is 6'3 or so which is perfect.

My first proper boyfriend was only 2 inches taller than me and I bought shoes with a lower heel so that I wouldn't be taller than him. Never again - I love my high, high heels! 5" FTW!

PeakOutput

as a guy im not sure i could go out with some one taller then me, if they were only taller in heels then that would probably be ok

being 6'2 the issue hasnt arisen yet though, i find up to my forehead/nose in heels is my perfect height

Ickle Magoo

Posts deleted.

Okay, this is a thread in The Ladies Lounge asking if women go out with guys shorter than they are - as usual men are welcome to also comment on the thread as long as they do so within the remit of tLL charter.

If you want to make nudge, nudge, wink, wink comments about why men choose specific sizes or shapes of women, feel free to start your own thread somewhere more appropriate - like AH.

Many thanks

shortie_chik

wouldn't put me off a guy if he was shortish. I'm only (nearly) 5'2" mind, so guys shorter than me are few & far between. I've had two boyfriends who were just a few inches taller than me (maybe 4-5 ins taller) and they were a perfect fit!
If I did meet a guy who was much shorter than me, but otherwise perfect for me, height wouldn't be an issue!

Dord

As a guy I wouldn't have any problem dating a girl taller than myself. However, this has never arisen and I doubt would. I'm 6'5" tall.

Larianne

I'm about 5'10, gianormous in heels. I have been with guys smaller than me but as Leah has said, it feels unnatural to me. I don't know, I end up feeling like a man.

I know some people won't understand this. Some women don't have a problem with dating smaller men. Sure my grandmother married a smaller man. But for me, at this moment in time, its very strange.

Giselle

At 5 foot nothing, I don't think its ever going to be a problem.:)

Lia_lia

I've been with guys about the same height as me, but never shorter. Tbh I would find it a little bit odd I'd say. I'm just over 5'9"..but in heels I'm a lot taller. Never wear heels really though.

johnboysligo

Im 5,7 and really if the nicest woman in the room (looks & or personality) outright refused to even look twice at man who is shorter than her I would laugh in her face (using a step ladder if I needed it and for comic effect) and leave her alone.

Its the same as a guy turning to a woman and saying "I only date women with knockers bigger than my head"








Note to mod's im poking fun at the flip side of the op's statement not trying to derail thread :cool:

Black Swan

I once dated a lad shorter than me (I'm 5-10), and when someone would comment about the difference, he would say: "More for me!"

Rocket19

Hmm, I'm a girl and 5'8 (and a half!)

Defo prefer a taller guy. Preferably 6'2. Yum

But...I'm seeing a guy at the moment who is 5'10 and it certainly doesn't bother me. I am taller than him in heels though, which is annoying but I deal with it lol.

Wouldn't go with a guy shorter. Maybe if he was absolutely amazing but I know it would put me off. Feeling a but small sometimes is nice. :P

bronte

It really doesn't make a difference what height he is.

Panthro

I smooched a girl once (I was shocked too!:p)..I'm 5ft 11, and she was 6ft 1, at first it was the novelty of kissing someone near to my own height, but that soon wore off and my god I was so intimated by her height. It just felt unnatural to me.
Say for kissin and cuddling or that, I much prefer being the one to enclose my arms around them, so I'm more likely to be attracted to someone thats a wee bit shorter than myself.

Asphyxia

I'm only 5"1 so if I came across a fella shorter than me I don't think I'd be interested. I love a tall guy who can wrap his arms around me it feels lovely and safe

I think it's the general rule, but I don't feel that way. Shorter guys don't really bother me, even despite the fact that I'm only 5'5. As far as I'm concerned great people come in all shapes and sizes

pow wow

Ideally I'd like someone quite a bit taller but short guys are pretty cute :P Current lurve interest 'claims' he's 5ft10 but I'd say on his tiptoes he'd barely scrape it - perfect height for me tho. I wouldn't rule out short guys but I guess if I was constructing my perfect guy from scratch I'd make him lots taller than me because I'm tiny.

Fluorescence

Well I'm 5'2, so the situation isn't very likely to arise. I probably would find it offputting though (not to the point that I'd reject them solely on height, but it would be odd to date a man under 5'2 say the least)

Eve_Dublin

I´m 5 foot 5 and I like guys the same or just a little bit taller than me or even a bit smaller...as long as they´re bigger than me width-wise. Honestly, I think the reason is I´m too lazy to bend my head back or go on my tippy-toes to kiss them.

But wahey, it doesn´t matter when you´re lying down, eh? Wink wink.

x Purple Pawprints x

I've always said that because I'm only 4ft 11. I think it would be quite rare to find a guy shorter than me tbh.

My boyfriend is a LOT taller than me at 6ft 1. I have to stand on my toes and he has to bend down to kiss or hug me but it works for us.

Princess Peach

I'm 5'5, fairly average. Last boyfriend was the same height as me when I was in heels :P

I don't think it would bother me really if he was shorter, unless there was some extreme difference it might be an issue. But if I really liked him, I don't think being shorter would be a reason for me to not go for it.

Shelga

I used to say I'd never go out with a guy under 6', but my bf is about half an inch taller than me (I'm ~5'7") and I am mad about him!

Hmm don't think I could go out with a guy who was around 5'3" though, now I think of it...

Blush_01

5'11". I don't usually wear heels because I feel a bit silly bending down to have a conversation all the time. I don't envy people taller than me.

Sure, in my head the list of criteria I am willing to totally disregard for the right person includes height etc. but to be honest if I'm so hung up on my partner's height that I'm willing to end the relationship with them then I'm with the wrong person in my opinion.

If someone a foot shorter than me could make me happy I'd buy them a ladder, if it bothered them enough to be an issue, as long as I had them. *shrugs*

G86

Most of the guys I've dated have been around my height(5'10') and it's never been an issue for me, although it has been for 1 or 2 of them. I don't think I'd go for anyone more 2+ inches shorter though, it'd just feel odd.

hightower1

Dord wrote: »

As a guy I wouldn't have any problem dating a girl taller than myself. However, this has never arisen and I doubt would. I'm 6'5" tall.

Woo hoo! 6'5 ftw!
Finally , a normal sized person too!

Handsome Bob

Dord wrote: »

As a guy I wouldn't have any problem dating a girl taller than myself. However, this has never arisen and I doubt would. I'm 6'5" tall.

He ain't lying. :pac: In fact, a lot of boardsies seem to be tall mofos. :P

hightower1

LZ5by5 wrote: »

He ain't lying. :pac: In fact, a lot of boardsies seem to be tall mofos. :P

A new boards section is in order then! We can whinge about the leg room on bus seats and trying to find pants with a leg 36! :mad:

NoDice

I wouldn't go out with a guy shorter than me simply because I wouldn't be attracted to him. I've often thought about fella's "if only you were taller you'd be perfect" but I guess that's like saying "if only you weren't overweight" or "if only you were funny".

My OH now is about 2 or 3 inches taller than me and I'm 5'2.. He's perfect for me and coudln't be happier. Perfect height for kissing!

Scarinae

My boyfriend is around the same height as me... We've never actually tried measuring who is taller! I thought that it might bother him that I'm a bit taller when I wear heels, but he doesn't care

af_thefragile

NoDice wrote: »

I wouldn't go out with a guy shorter than me simply because I wouldn't be attracted to him. I've often thought about fella's "if only you were taller you'd be perfect" but I guess that's like saying "if only you weren't overweight" or "if only you were funny".

You see I don't get this.
Weight and personality are something a person is in control of but height is something he's not.

If a person is overweight, it usually says a little about the person's personality that he doesn't really take much care about himself and he's unfit. Which he can change if he starts going to the gym regularly.
Being funny is a relative thing. What one might find funny other might not and vice versa.

But things like height and skin color are attributes the person has no control over.

But then again attraction is not an intellectual process. Its more like an on/off switch which you don't really have much control over.

baby and crumble

well i'm a girl who's 5'10ish, and I feel weird being with girls taller than me. It just feels odd, like things don't 'fit'. Luckily my girlfriend of 6 years is a titch, so that works out well!

It is kinda strange though. I remember back when I was a teenager and I was with guys (ah, mis-spent youth...) and they were taller than me and it felt really REALLY weird. Now, granted, there was another reason it felt weird (;)) but still. Not to say I wouldn't find someone attractive if they were taller than me, but the logistics of it feel a little off. No idea why.

newbee22

I'm 5 6 and I prefer taller guys...the taller, the better:P

CathyMoran

People have physical preferences and height is one of them - I can not imagine that I would have gone for a man shorter than me but then again I am less than 5ft 2in so it was never an issue. I did like really tall men (6ft+) but the man that I am happily married to a man that while still tall is not that height. People have preferences but are not bound by them - the right person is the right person, no matter what way they are.

rainbow kirby

zoegh wrote: »

well i'm a girl who's 5'10ish, and I feel weird being with girls taller than me. It just feels odd, like things don't 'fit'.

I'm only 5'6" and I'm similar. I do have a bit of a preference for someone a little smaller.

SquirrelFace

Im 5 foot 2 so if i went out with someone shorter i dont think i could bear the munchkin jokes tbh...

Im a girl btw

rannerap

I couldnt go out with someone shorter than me, I'm almost 5"10 and just like to feel like the girl in the relationship, someone around my height wouldnt bother me so much, but anyone I've gone out with has been a lot taller,Big tall country men seems to be my type!

angel01

I did once and I will never do it again, It didn't help that people said he looked similar to me :eek:

I prefer dating taller people and luckily my OH is 6"4

Novella

I have things I am attracted to moreso than others, of course, but I try not to do the whole, "I'd never date a guy who is X, who has done Y" because previously, where I thought I'd never, I have. Life is full of all these buts, and becauses and excepts. Yes, I do find a taller man attractive, but would I rule out a shorter man? No.