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Thanks for the disambiguation
That gives me things to wrap my head around. Things are getting entangled in my head. One needs the diagnosis to get treatment, but one does not need the diagnosis to identify. So medicine - or what? psychology? - and...something else, something deeper, innate, collide. You recognise in yourself that something is different, and even if someone puts a name on it, it's still the same thing all along. I feel, if it were me, I would need that diagnosis in my back pocket, regardless if I wanted to transition or not. It would help people understand that this is not a conscious choice. It's like people with mental illness. No, no hear me out. Like people with mental illness. Sadness is just exaggeration and fantasy until it's given a title - and then, voila, people suddenly sit up and take you seriously. Or, say, something wrong in your tummy is just a pain until it's given a name.Then people want to help. I'm probably rambling. I'm looking at the sentence where I should have stopped. Doesn't everyone love stream-of-consciousness? :cool:
But yes. I've got them both side by side in my head now. Clear as an azure sky of deepest summer. Thank you for your patience 0 -
was I really the last person to post here? This makes me look like such a spammer.
Anywho
I like crossdressing sometimes! It's fun! I look incredibly sexy in a shirt and tie, let me tell you.
Does that mean I'm like an off-duty drag king? I hate them so much! Please say no. Does it mean I'm a closeted trans person?
I haven't done it in a good while though, on account of the fact that the boyfriend likes girls
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was I really the last person to post here? This makes me look like such a spammer.
Anywho
I like crossdressing sometimes! It's fun! I look incredibly sexy in a shirt and tie, let me tell you.
Does that mean I'm like an off-duty drag king? I hate them so much! Please say no. Does it mean I'm a closeted trans person?
I haven't done it in a good while though, on account of the fact that the boyfriend likes girls:)
It just means you like to wear a shirt and tie.
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they are drag kings not trans.
why would they have natural facial hair if they are women? (unless they had a hormone problem).
thats like saying drag queens should have natural long feminine hair.
women come in all shapes and sizes. as to men.
also make sure to ask your boyfriend if you can HIT THAT!0 -
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it was a most excellent show - thought i should report backLovely Dyke wrote: »actually has anyone one been to see the new drag king act in the george on a thursday night?
is he hot? i am gonna go to this thursday. will check it out and him
i'd say i will be dripping!
so good that it carried into today. the whole thing has been a blur but very enjoyable. was in panti tonight.
and now it is morning. i hear the birds sing (tweet tweet)
goodnight x0 -
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ItsThatManAgain wrote: »Bit the bullet and went on my first clothes shop. Found some cute clothes.
oooh, do tell!0 -
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Ok so had my appointment with Dr. Kelly on Saturday, was so nervous going in, but i dont think ive ever met a nicer guy. So relaxed, really made me feel instantly at ease. Next appointment is on Saturday coming, cant wait! 0
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not so much a question but maybe to help direct discussion on the gender queer topic.
This still reflects how I feel but the general consensus seems to be you have to be one or the other or else you're not valid as a human being.it's all about balance ..a little bit of this..a little bit of that, just nod your head and agree. (its what I do)
I wasn't able to identify with being gay, it didn't fit but it's almost impossible to explain to anyone else why not. When I was younger I identified as male predominantly and small things like wanting my hair cut or the need to wear jeans were emotional joyrides. My mother eventually let me cut my hair but then made me get my ears pierced so others wouldn't have difficulty determining I was female. I didn't progress to boys naturally other than as playmates and my first sexual experiences were with girls. I genuinely believe they accepted me as male or innocently recognised me as one naturally, because I probably thought I was. If I'm honest this still happens today and I get the same buzz out of it, it's as exciting to me now as it was then because it's affirms a massive part of me.
There was a period in between where I was nothing and I didn't exist on any level. I suffered from depression, was asexual for over a decade and had decided that was the way it was going to be. I dedicated my life to parenthood and I was nearing thirty before I had time to think about my life again and it was my daughter's interest in trans issues which gave me the courage to go further.
Four years on and I've learned how to just be myself. I've also learned to like parts of me I was unable to associate with before. While sometimes it can be jarring being touched intimately (it's like a reminder of what I am) I am also quite proud of my physical self and what I've overcome to get here that I don't feel the need to change it. In a way it's like an old reliable car that has got me this far and I love it too much to want to get rid of it.
I also discovered that working out helps me feel better. I trained vigorously as a youth, had a lot of energy and was quite strong, it's no surprise to find the same dynamics work just as well now and are beneficial for my physical and mental well being. I've learned I can increase my testosterone levels through training combined with the right diet which is reflected in my focus and mood levels (if I don't do it after a while I start to feel crappy) so I've developed ways of finding the balance I need. It's not a medical story but it is relevant.
I like when my sisters call me bro, or if someone mistakes my gender at first glance, or being able to use the gents in an emergency :P
I also like that for me it's been nothing more than natural progression and that I finally get to appreciate the qualities of both.
(I stopped using my full first name years ago preferring the shortened version of it as it's preferably non gender specific)0 -
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