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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Rubbish.:mad:

    You don't even believe that yourself.

    Don't expect anyone to believe that BS.
    Hallelujah! Praise be!


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    I'm very cynical about comparing any job to working in porn. I don't think working in Afghanistan can be compared to porn. I worked on a military base in the United States for a summer while studying law and the PTSD cases there are nothing like what porn stars experience. I'd warrent that at least people are not ashamed to say they work for the military the way they might be to say they work in porn.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    lazygal wrote: »
    I'm very cynical about comparing any job to working in porn. I don't think working in Afghanistan can be compared to porn.

    If we're talking about an occupation likely to "damage the psyche", we can.
    I worked on a military base in the United States for a summer while studying law and the PTSD cases there are nothing like what porn stars experience.
    I can't say and possibly neither can you. After all where it comes to psychological damage caused by the industry (not pre-existing), there appears to be far less evidence of that in the modern porn industry than in the military - I've met enough mercs to have figured that one out.
    I'd warrent that at least people are not ashamed to say they work for the military the way they might be to say they work in porn.
    That's certainly true (although try telling people in polite conversation that you sell small arms to developing nations and see how accepted you are) - nonetheless, is that the fault of porn or of the society that morally damns porn.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,260 ✭✭✭Viper_JB


    I find it funny how we always need a scape goat for these crazy people who decide to go out and rape/murder/assault poeple. This stuff and worse has been happening since we learned how to pick up sticks - some people are just plain mad and they will go out and do these horrific things reguardless of if they've seen a porno or not. There always seems to be a need to pin it on just one thing...like the whole issue with the headshops for a good while there anyone involved in murder or an assault was blaming it because they were on "legal highs" not because they were dicks or physco's and then of course everyone believes that this is now the problem and not the current convenient excuse and goes ahead with the standard knee jerk reaction - and of course the murders and batterys don't stop they're just blamed on something else. These things have always and will always happen reguardless of porn being avalible to them it's just this particular person believe's this to be the current scape goat - where as there is no real explaination - it's just in some peoples blood to go out and do these things.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 506 ✭✭✭Waking-Dreams


    Can anyone who works as a porn actor/ actress really be emotionally healthy? For some reason, I can't help but think that something, somewhere has to have gone horribly wrong there. When I bring this topic up, cries of 'empowerment' abound, yet I can't help but think a part of that person has died inside. Do well adjusted people really end up in the porn/ sex industry?

    I doubt anyone really aspires to become a ‘porn star’, (as in the true reality of the situation, and not the glamorous exterior that the industry projects). Remember, this is an industry that deals in human desire and fantasy, don’t kid yourself that it can’t pull the wool over your eyes. They want you to believe that everyone loves doing porn. And back it up with some testimony from the stars, while ignoring any negative testimony (usually women who have left).

    People look at the industry from the outside in, maybe base their opinions on some ‘behind the scenes’ interviews with stars who made it and figure it’s a good way to make money doing something they love. Yet, while the below quote is obviously vitriolic and jaundiced, the parts in bold are still factually correct.
    Is not sexual violence committed to the women in the porn shoot or porn movie? Don't you accept that real violence is being committed against these women? A woman who is exploited and made to degrade herself by being triple penetrated by multiple men before being drenched in ejaculation while untold millions of masturbating men watch her on the internet is a victim of hatred and violence. Female porn stars endure hours and hours of scenes when they must have sex with men with over large penises. STD infection and abuse of painkillers are at epidemic levels among performers. The psychological damage inflicted on these women is extraordinary. Porn hurts women. It is a vile evil industry.

    In fact you can see it in scenes where the female star places her hand on the male’s leg to tap him as a signal to ease off on the thrusting or whatever, etc. There are many stories of girls who were coerced into performing for long hours and ended up with internal bleeding and even a tear or two. Of course, I understand that anecdotes don’t make for good science.
    They choose to join the industry.

    Personally, I think this statement is a textbook case of cognitive dissonance.

    No one likes to think they are contributing to the suffering of others, like the consumer who wear his Nike shoes - famed for their dubious ethical production values, where wage-slaves work 14+ hours a day for a pittance - and then rationalises it, “well, it’s business. They can quit working there if they want.”

    I’m not anti-porn (because there is some quality erotica stuff out there), but I’m under no illusions that it’s all harmless fantasy either. And lately, there does seem to be an overwhelming amount of ‘gonzo’ porn; the real degrading kind. Most of us are adults and weren’t exposed to this kind of stuff at age 11 but what does it communicate to the younger generation of boys who are just hitting puberty and whose brains are still developing?
    Assuming that these women have chosen to do this work for whatever reason, do you not think that you're actually taking power away from them by immediately labelling them as victims of some male propaganda? Surely they've made their own choice and are capable of dealing with that?

    There’s lot of women who choose to stay with chronic wife-beaters too. But yeah, they’ve made their own choice and are capable of dealing with that, right? :rolleyes: I think there are a lot of damaged women in porn. Of course, the industry will always highlight and make a big deal out of the successes; the Jenna Jameson’s and Tera Patricks but aren’t these like the lottery winners?

    So, would it be fair to compare some porn stars who endure abuse to say, spouses who endure a similar kind of abuse from their husbands/boyfriends?

    It’s funny, you rarely hear men defending the abusive partners in such relationships, stating that the lady can and should leave or get help. Yet, in the case of the porn star, so good is the illusion that they all must love it, men are content to let cognitive dissonance kick in to take care of any conflicting moral imperatives.
    What would people's reactions be if:
    1) Their daughter expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    2) Their wife/partner expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    3) Their son expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    4) Their husband/partner expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    5) They started a relationship with someone and subsequently was told by the person concerned that he/she worked in the industry?
    6) They started a relationship with someone and found pictures/footage of the person, not having been told about it?

    That is interesting. I’d love to hear some more answers from people here.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    Rubbish.:mad:

    You don't even believe that yourself.

    Don't expect anyone to believe that BS.

    You have a very patronizing view of women :(


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    lazygal wrote: »
    Lets have a list of all the people who came from stable, middle class, non abusive environments who have experianced nothing but positive elements of the industry then.

    That is some what of a leading question.

    Lets have a list of all the people who have experienced nothing but positive elements of any industry.

    All industries have negative elements. I just came out of a meeting where one of my co-workers nearly broke down because she has so much work to do at the moment and her boss isn't re-distributing the work load.

    I have another social worker friend who has been on 3 months sick leave because of being attacked by someone she was trying to interview.

    If you are looking for a list of people from pretty average backgrounds who seem perfectly happy working in the porn industry, of the top of my head some of the more well known ones

    Sasha Grey
    Asia Carrera (quote:- "Trust me, they don't exploit women, and watching porn has never been scientifically shown to lead to any increase in crime rates, be it rape, pedophilia, or any other sexual crimes.")
    Eva Angelina
    Devon


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    Fair enough. Would you like to give responses to the other questions I asked? I read that, its hard to get context across on this but I am not trying to be patronising, I would like to hear about how people would feel about the scenarios I posed.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    I doubt anyone really aspires to become a ‘porn star’
    potential03.jpg
    Yet, while the below quote is obviously vitriolic and jaundiced, the parts in bold are still factually correct.
    One can be factually correct and lie at the same time - all you need to do is be selective about which and how many facts you give.

    I'm not sure anyone has suggested that this is an industry that people aspire to or love, however that is not the point. The point is whether this industry is relatively worse or better to 'socially acceptable' industries or not. And if it is only worse because it is not 'socially acceptable', then we might want to examine our social mores rather than the industry.
    Of course, I understand that anecdotes don’t make for good science.
    Anecdotes can be useful where you have no other evidence to draw from, but I would note that quite often they can also be selectively used - like your aforementioned "testimony from the stars, while ignoring any negative testimony (usually women who have left)."
    Personally, I think this statement is a textbook case of cognitive dissonance.
    Only if you can demonstrate that they are contributing to the suffering of others and I don't think you have.

    Edit: In fairness practically all consumerism involves some level of cognitive dissonance in the consumer as exploitation and suffering occurs in most industries.
    I’m not anti-porn (because there is some quality erotica stuff out there), but I’m under no illusions that it’s all harmless fantasy either.
    I don't think anyone should be under any illusions that any job is all harmless fun. Welcome to life and modern Capitalism.
    There’s lot of women who choose to stay with chronic wife-beaters too. But yeah, they’ve made their own choice and are capable of dealing with that, right? :rolleyes:
    Straw man.
    So, would it be fair to compare some porn stars who endure abuse to say, spouses who endure a similar kind of abuse from their husbands/boyfriends?
    No, as I said, you presented a straw man argument.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    lazygal wrote: »
    What would people's reactions be if:
    1) Their daughter expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    2) Their wife/partner expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    3) Their son expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    4) Their husband/partner expressed a desire to work in the indsutry?
    5) They started a relationship with someone and subsequently was told by the person concerned that he/she worked in the industry?
    6) They started a relationship with somenone and found pictures/footage of the person, not having been told about it?

    This post appeals to what is called „argument from emotion“.

    If it was genuinely the career path they wanted to enter into then I would be fine with it. If they were entering into it and it was not what they really wanted to do, I would not.

    However I can not think of a single career that that paragraph would not fit, which I think makes my point for me.

    Id certainly prefer it as a career path to... say... entering the army in a role of active duty on the ground in the front lines of current war time for example.

    What you are appealing to here also is the concept of monogamy. This of course will be in stark opposition to the relationship many people want. However again this does not indict porn in any way. There are innumerable careers that are in direct opposition to many things people might want from a relationship. For example if what you want most of all from your partner is that they are there a lot of the time to be with the kids, there are certain "on call" jobs, jobs with travel or jobs in high level management that clearly can not work with that.

    In short: In an attempt to indict an industry you otherwise can find nothing wrong with, you are appealing to how some aspects of the work can often contrast with some aspects of what people want from their relationships. As I said, this is appeal to emotion and an attempt to equate "I do not want MY wife to do that" with "therefore porn must be bad".


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  • Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    I just wanted yes or no answers, not looking for an emotional response.

    Monogamy is not part of the argument for me, I am monogamous, don't really care either way for others as long as it works for them.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    No one said anything about giving you an emotional response.

    What I said was that you MADE what is called "Argument from emotion" or "appeal to emotion".

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Appeal_to_emotion
    lazygal wrote: »
    I just wanted yes or no answers

    Aside from that I am not sure how you expect people to answer:

    „What would people's reactions be if:”

    with a "yes" or a "no".


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    So you're not answering questions because you think they are emotionally based? Humans are inherently emotional, I'm more interested in why you won't give a straight answer. Its yes or no to each, don't see how you can mix emotion into that.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    lazygal wrote: »
    So you're not answering questions because you think they are emotionally based? Humans are inherently emotional, I'm more interested in why you won't give a straight answer. Its yes or no to each, don't see how you can mix emotion into that.

    Wow, how dishonest can one be? Have some decorum please. Re-read my post. I DID answer your question. If it helps you at all you will find that I did so in the paragraph starting “If it was genuinely….”

    So sitting there and telling me I did not answer your question is as dishonest as one can get.

    And AGAIN I ask you how can it be “yes” or “no” to each? Not only have you clearly not read MY reply, you have not even read your OWN questions. How can you respond to “What would people's reactions be if:” with a yes or a no? LOL LOL LOL

    Person 1 “How would you react if I hit you now?”
    Person 2 “Yes”
    Person 1 “errrr what?”

    This is of course BEFORE you point out the other problem that there are few, if any people, in Ireland who can answer BOTH question 2 and 4 in your list for example.


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    If you don't want to answer my questions, that's fair enough. I'm not really bothered about the comments on them TBH, but continue to post on my arguments if you want to waste your time.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    lazygal wrote: »
    If you don't want to answer my questions, that's fair enough.

    Wow, still sticking with this are you? Someone answers you and you just say over and over they didn’t answer you. Nice.

    Dishonest much?

    If anyone is not answering questions it is you. I have asked twice now how anyone is expected to answer YES or NO to the question "How would people react?"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    lazygal wrote: »
    Fair enough. Would you like to give responses to the other questions I asked? I read that, its hard to get context across on this but I am not trying to be patronising, I would like to hear about how people would feel about the scenarios I posed.

    It is a bit difficult to answer the questions with any sincerity since you are asking for what my reaction would be. I've no idea what my reaction would be because I don't know the context in which the situation would arise.

    I assume the overall point of the questions is to gauge if think people are being hypocrites. The issue is, as nozzferrahhtoo points out, is that this is all some what irrelevant.

    For example, say I said that I would not want my daughter working the porn industry.

    What conclusion would you drive that that? Would it be that I'm a hypocrite, that I'm happy for other people to do it but I wouldn't want someone I care about to do it? Or would it be that I simply would like my daughter to do something academic, and that I no more desire for her not to work in porn than in McDonalds.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,872 ✭✭✭strobe


    lazygal wrote: »
    What would people's reactions be if:
    1) Their daughter expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    2) Their wife/partner expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    3) Their son expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    4) Their husband/partner expressed a desire to work in the indsutry?
    5) They started a relationship with someone and subsequently was told by the person concerned that he/she worked in the industry?
    6) They started a relationship with somenone and found pictures/footage of the person, not having been told about it?

    1) Most men don't like to even think of their daughter having sex, full stop. Wether that be with their husband, some guy they met in a club or whatever. Rightly or wrongly most parents will always view their daughter as their little girl. So obviously they wouldn't want thier daughter working in an industry where they would have to think or them having sex. On top of that it is an industry with inherent risk (std's etc) most parents want their children in as safe an occupation as possible, they wouldn't want them trialing medicines either.

    2) Wouldn't be an option for someone in a monagamous relationship obviously.

    3) {see 2)}

    4) {see 1)}

    5) {see 2)}

    6) {see 2)}
    Genuinely curious, also its difficult to tell but it seems that most of those who think porn is acceptable/ not harmful are men. I may be wrong, open to correction.

    Well looking at the people who have thanked the posts disagreeing with the article in the OP, I can recognise the usernames of several female posters, so.....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    lazygal wrote: »
    So you're not answering questions because you think they are emotionally based?
    I answered your questions, why did you not answer my points?
    Humans are inherently emotional, I'm more interested in why you won't give a straight answer. Its yes or no to each, don't see how you can mix emotion into that.
    Yes or no answers are quite misleading. One may be against their spouse or daughter working in the porn industry, but that may be because of the stigma against it, rather than the industry itself - which is hardly the fault of porn.

    So far I fail to see much of a difference between porn and many other industries other than social attitudes. That we are now appealing to emotive reactions as a means to examine possible differences does betray a certain level of desperation in the anti-porn arguments though.

    Would it not be better to view the porn industry and attempt to objectively say why this is so much worse than other, socially acceptable, industries? If the social acceptability is all that it comes down to, then perhaps it may be time we look at that rather than porn - no pun intended.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,120 ✭✭✭fungun


    lazygal wrote: »
    What would people's reactions be if:
    1) Their daughter expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    2) Their wife/partner expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    3) Their son expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    4) Their husband/partner expressed a desire to work in the indsutry?
    5) They started a relationship with someone and subsequently was told by the person concerned that he/she worked in the industry?
    6) They started a relationship with somenone and found pictures/footage of the person, not having been told about it?

    Too many problems caught up in the same question imo

    1. Ill be chasing her bfs away so would hate it anyway
    2. If I considered myself to be non-monogamous and lived in a society where porn was not viewed in a discriminatory way like some people are on here view it, then i would be ok with it....as long as it did not interfere with our own personal sex life :)
    3. Fair play, wish Id done it.
    4. NA
    5. See 2 if it was ongoing (and again this would be my insecurity because of society; if society deemed porn to be ok id prob be ok with it). Otherwise honestly do not mind her past if its in the past, unless it was so prominent my mates would have seen her in which case see 2.
    6. As with any dishonesty, I would feel bad about this....but this actually has nothing to do with the industry itself


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  • Registered Users Posts: 37,295 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    In porn, men have to be well endowed. Women can literally be of all shapes and sizes.
    Female porn stars endure hours and hours of scenes when they must have sex with men with over large penises.
    STD infection and abuse of painkillers are at epidemic levels among performers.
    The psychological damage inflicted on these women is extraordinary.
    Porn hurts women.
    It is a vile evil industry.
    What's your view on lesbian pron. You know, the porn where the only man may be the cameraman (if even that)?
    Wicknight wrote: »
    I can't think of one male porn star who as famous as say Jenna Jameson.
    Ronald Jeremy Hyatt (Ron Jeremy)?
    The male equivalent is the boxing industry which damages men physically and psychologically.
    An odd thing to say, as every boxer train for a long time to box, build muscle, technique, and does it as long as they can.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 506 ✭✭✭Waking-Dreams


    potential03.jpg

    One can be factually correct and lie at the same time - all you need to do is be selective about which and how many facts you give.

    I'm not sure anyone has suggested that this is an industry that people aspire to or love, however that is not the point. The point is whether this industry is relatively worse or better to 'socially acceptable' industries or not. And if it is only worse because it is not 'socially acceptable', then we might want to examine our social mores rather than the industry.

    Anecdotes can be useful where you have no other evidence to draw from, but I would note that quite often they can also be selectively used - like your aforementioned "testimony from the stars, while ignoring any negative testimony (usually women who have left)."

    Only if you can demonstrate that they are contributing to the suffering of others and I don't think you have.

    Edit: In fairness practically all consumerism involves some level of cognitive dissonance in the consumer as exploitation and suffering occurs in most industries.

    I don't think anyone should be under any illusions that any job is all harmless fun. Welcome to life and modern Capitalism.

    Straw man.

    No, as I said, you presented a straw man argument.


    A straw man argument? Really?

    You don’t see a similarity between a wife/girlfriend who rationalises her abusive partner’s behaviour, be it down to low self-worth, etc, and a porn star who, with a similar mindset, does the same regarding her situation?

    I mean, I’m sure you’re willing to accept that many religious people truly believe they’re doing God’s work when they indoctrinate kids, but you reject the idea that a porn star isn’t capable of being deluded, and not suffer from a cognitive bias and rationalise why she does what she does? We all have to feed ourselves to live and some people end up in jobs that cater to those who haven’t got a lot of choices but can offer other services. I mean, what kind of person ends up being a prostitute for that matter? I’ve heard men rationalise that industry too. Desires before morals. Cognitive dissonance once again.

    I’m not arguing that every porn star is a slave but it seems like all the justifications from people here, “They choose to do that”, “They can quit if they want” are just dismissive self-justifications because they themselves use some nasty types of porn to get off and it helps them feel better.

    Though I’m curious why you didn’t address the part about ‘gonzo’ porn and how young males hitting puberty will be affected by such stuff - seeing as you dissected every other part of my post.
    Edit: In fairness practically all consumerism involves some level of cognitive dissonance in the consumer as exploitation and suffering occurs in most industries.

    Of course, but such other forms of exploitation don’t involve being screwed some place very uncomfortable because the job ‘requires’ it. And again, there are alternatives for consumers, so why don’t people take them? For example, fake fur has been on the market for quite a while yet some consumers want 'real' fur, which we all know what is involved there. Likewise, there’s lots of porn that is well-produced and not so exploitative, yet the demand seems to be for low-budget, crude, gonzo porn where young girls are seemingly consenting to acts that they wouldn’t have dreamed of in their worst nightmares before they ever heard of the words: porn-industry.
    So far I fail to see much of a difference between porn and many other industries other than social attitudes.

    Ah come on now, you know there is. I just think it’s easier to point to every other bit of exploitation going on in the world so you don’t feel so bad. Children use those kind of arguments, “Yeah, but, he was throwing stones too mammy! It wasn’t just me!”

    What I find is that intelligent people are very, very good and defending all kinds of beliefs. Religious apologists/theologian scholars come to mind, but that's for another forum. :cool:


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,120 ✭✭✭fungun


    Of course, but such other forms of exploitation don’t involve being screwed some place very uncomfortable because the job ‘requires’ it.

    My only point would be that if someone prefers this to working 9 to 5, then thats fine by me, and I cant see why anyone would feel otherwise.

    You put this up as a terrible thing because this is your moral standpoint - someone else might say that if your industry wrecks the environment and theirs means they have sex with strangers - that its your industry should be the one people rail against.

    Its only when the industry becomes exploitative its lousy, but that happens in many industries.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,386 ✭✭✭Killer Wench


    Rubbish.:mad:

    You don't even believe that yourself.

    Don't expect anyone to believe that BS.

    Actually I do believe that.

    Here in Seattle, there is an annual amatuer Porn Film Festival. There are thousands of contributions made by many citizens of Seattle, the state of WA, and the surrounding states. Regular people like soccer moms, college students, grandmothers, etc. have submitted their own short porn films to be reviewed by a panel and watched by several hundred people. There are awards given at the end of the festival; and, the tapes are destroyed once the festival has ended.

    You cannot say that all of those people come from damaged backgrounds or have no self-worth or are addicted to drugs. Seattle is the most educated city in the United States; we are the home to such corporations as Microsoft, Costco, Amazon.com, Expedia, and several other small offices of larger companies. There are people from these occupations who have participated.

    For further info:

    http://post.thestranger.com/gyrobase/Hump2010/Page?show=hump
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HUMP!_(film_festival)

    As a progressive and educated woman, it is incredibly offensive to me to see such patronizing attitude from many individuals who share my sex and gender. There are women who choose to seek a profession in the adult industry; not all of them are damaged. Some of them are just greedy. There are also a select few who actually enjoy the sex and the filming. If you need references, send me a PM and I can name you a few actors who you'd be hard pressed to argue are not enjoying themselves.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    I’m not arguing that every porn star is a slave but it seems like all the justifications from people here, “They choose to do that”, “They can quit if they want” are just dismissive self-justifications because they themselves use some nasty types of porn to get off and it helps them feel better.

    Ah good tactic. Suggest that anyone who disagrees with you, must be doing so because of some sordid private bias on their part that is over ridding their rational arguments. It could not possibly be that they just disagree with you could it?

    I have little interest in porn myself. I find it to be the sexual equivalent of going to a restaurant where you read the menu, place the order, they bring you the food, show it to you, then take it away again and you go home. It, in other words, is pointless to me.

    But that is the most damning thing I can say about it generally. That said therefore, it is clear I am not one of the people who suffer from the imaginary bias you are so keen to slap on everyone with an alternative view point to you.

    And I can say right now that I do have such a view point. Every industry has people who do not want to work in it but they “fall” into it because of one reason or another. This does not indict the industry itself in any way. I have known people working in McDonalds who keep telling themselves “Just a few more months until I get on my feet and I will be back in college to finish the masters I’ve always wanted….” But they never quite make it.

    The fact that there are SOME people in an industry that do not want to be in that industry is irrelevant when talking about the industry as a whole. There ARE other options for girls, both inside and outside the industry. Penetrative sex is not the only type they can do. There are some well paying websites out there who want nothing of the sort, and they are not even that hard to find. Without much effort at all I could find you a soft core website that pays well and is up there in the top 10000 most visited sites in the world… hence their ability to pay well.


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    Actually I do believe that.

    Here in Seattle, there is an annual amatuer Porn Film Festival. There are thousands of contributions made by many citizens of Seattle, the state of WA, and the surrounding states. Regular people like soccer moms, college students, grandmothers, etc. have submitted their own short porn films to be reviewed by a panel and watched by several hundred people. There are awards given at the end of the festival; and, the tapes are destroyed once the festival has ended.

    You cannot say that all of those people come from damaged backgrounds or have no self-worth or are addicted to drugs. Seattle is the most educated city in the United States; we are the home to such corporations as Microsoft, Costco, Amazon.com, Expedia, and several other small offices of larger companies. There are people from these occupations who have participated.

    For further info:

    http://post.thestranger.com/gyrobase/Hump2010/Page?show=hump
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HUMP!_(film_festival)

    As a progressive and educated woman, it is incredibly offensive to me to see such patronizing attitude from many individuals who share my sex and gender. There are women who choose to seek a profession in the adult industry; not all of them are damaged. Some of them are just greedy. There are also a select few who actually enjoy the sex and the filming. If you need references, send me a PM and I can name you a few actors who you'd be hard pressed to argue are not enjoying themselves.


    If the people involved are proud of what they do why destroy the tapes?


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,338 ✭✭✭nozzferrahhtoo


    There are women who choose to seek a profession in the adult industry; not all of them are damaged. Some of them are just greedy. There are also a select few who actually enjoy the sex and the filming.

    Indeed. In fact many people, male and female, apparently even do it for the fun of it, for no money and no prizes in competitions like that you list above. In fact some people PAY for the privilege of being able to make porn for the world. A quick google search I performed last time I got involved in this debate revealed this website for example…

    www.newbienudes.com

    … where people post naked and sexual acts of themselves for the sheer hell of it, and actually sometimes pay for “member” accounts that make their pictures get viewed by more people than the non-paying members.

    So these are people who just enjoy making porn, and are not even "greedy" like the ones you mention. And if some people just enjoy making it, is it a big step to think that there are some who enjoy making it and are happy to, or greedy enough to, want to get some money while they are at it?


  • Registered Users Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    lazygal wrote: »
    If the people involved are proud of what they do why destroy the tapes?
    I don't know much about it, but I imagine there's a "fantasy" aspect to the entry process which is now encapsulated in the whole film festival.

    Many men and women are exhibitionists who have exhibitionism fantasies and may act these out in private (home sex tapes anyone?) but wouldn't dream of distributing them to a wider audience. There are many reasons why someone wouldn't want the films made public - social mores, family opinion, their work relationships, etc etc.

    Such a festival would seem to provide added thrill for these kinds of people without going the whole hog and turning them into porn stars. That is, they can submit an entry and enjoy the thrill of being watched by others, safe in the knowledge that the publication is limited and will ultimately be destroyed.

    There is a difference between shame and modesty - being modest about oneself in public doesn't mean that you're ashamed of anything.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,386 ✭✭✭Killer Wench


    lazygal wrote: »
    What would people's reactions be if:
    1) Their daughter expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    I would ask her what was the basis of her decision. If she provided a substantive rationale for her choice, and it was not grounded on someone else's desire, then I would support her.

    2) Their wife/partner expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    Same as above. But, I would ask my partner to always wear protection and to receive quarterly testing.

    3) Their son expressed a desire to work in the industry?
    Same as above.

    4) Their husband/partner expressed a desire to work in the indsutry?
    Really, this is the same question as #2 and the answer still applies for #4.

    5) They started a relationship with someone and subsequently was told by the person concerned that he/she worked in the industry?
    I would ask how they got into the business. I would be curious to know what their motivations were and how they feel about it.
    6) They started a relationship with somenone and found pictures/footage of the person, not having been told about it?
    If these were pictures/footage from previous relationships or were taken before I met my partner, I would feel that I would be invading their privacy by confronting them on the subject. If they were taken while we were in a relationship, I would look at the context. If they did it for money, I'd probably be more about: how dare they keep this extra income secret. If they were doing it for their own personal pleasure, I'd be: shoot, I could have taken these for free.

    Genuinely curious, also its difficult to tell but it seems that most of those who think porn is acceptable/ not harmful are men. I may be wrong, open to correction. Obviously I'm a woman and I studied this industry in college. There are a lot of damaged people in it-Jenna Jameson was abused and gang raped in high school, but with the amount of fast money to be made who is exploiting who?

    I am a woman. I recently posted an ad for a roommate and received a response from a corporate executive in town asking if he could serve as my house slave. I actually contemplated doing it but I couldn't get over the "owning" another human being.

    I have known women who were strippers. I have a relative that does fetish work. I am not unfamiliar with sex workers. Many of them choose to do the work because they like the relatively easy money; others actually like the thought that there are men lusting after them. It gives them a high but they like doing it and they made the choice to do it.

    I wonder how many people here have an objection to adult personal sites like AFF. There are hundreds of thousands of profiles and there are many, many videos of regular folks having sex and doing some raunchy things. There are also numerous other amateur porn sites (like youtube) where regular people can upload videos of themselves. They are not doing it for the monetary gain as they are not paid to film themselves and their partners. I have seen videos of soldiers, doctors, nurses, moms, and students; I truly doubt that all of them feel exploited. They simply like showing other people that they are getting some.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 2,386 ✭✭✭Killer Wench


    lazygal wrote: »
    If the people involved are proud of what they do why destroy the tapes?

    The festival destroys the tapes on behalf of those who submit them; it is just their policy to do so that others are more comfortable submitting them. However, most people who submit them, keep their own copies and there have been past winners that went mainstream.

    Regardless if the tape is destroyed or not, it does not negate that there are average people who knowingly and willingly filmed a pornography movie with the intent of having it shown in public.


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