Lets all be anxious/depressed together.

stinkle

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

I got such good news today but i literally cant be happy because of another thing that has been nagging me and nagging me. Im so down because of this and i cant stop crying. Its easy for people to say i need to focus on the positive but the negative just has such a strong hold on me that i cant get rid of it.

sorry to hear about this. As lukesmom said, can you get the negativity off your chest at all? Its horrible how bad stuff overshadows good news. Is there any way you can either a) deal with it or b) convince yourself not to worry about it until you absolutely have to?

herisson

lukesmom wrote: »

Hi is there anybody you can speak to about this thing nagging you? Family or a friend? To get it off your chest might help a bit.

I text my counsellor to see if i could get an appointment for tomorrow instead of next week. She knows i would never ask unless i needed it, and this week i need it. The problem im having i text my sister and she helped me a bit, i still cant shake it off.

herisson

stinkle wrote: »

sorry to hear about this. As lukesmom said, can you get the negativity off your chest at all? Its horrible how bad stuff overshadows good news. Is there any way you can either a) deal with it or b) convince yourself not to worry about it until you absolutely have to?

Its not as simple as that. Im not comfortable writing it here, as its personal. Its one of those things that has broken my confidence entirely.

Gremlinertia

Pixie, you don't have to write anything you're not comfortable with here.. Maybe you'll take a bit of comfort from the fact that there are many regular posters looking at your entries and nodding their heads in understanding - feel less alone.

Grem

kryptonmight

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

delthedriver

kryptonmight wrote: »

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

Revisit your GP and follow his /her advice. Perhaps you may need to take meds for a little while just to get you through the present anxieties.
Be kind to yourself:)

delthedriver

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Pixie, you don't have to write anything you're not comfortable with here.. Maybe you'll take a bit of comfort from the fact that there are many regular posters looking at your entries and nodding their heads in understanding - feel less alone.

Grem

There are quite a few regular posters here who understand fully.

Perhaps an initial PM to someone may go some way in assisting you?:)

Remember we are all soldiers in the War against Depression

hallo dare

Posted this on a previous thread, but i also suffer with depresion and i am currently going through a second phase of counselling with the company below.

I find them excellent in every way. I am one of those people who find it impossible to talk about anything and keep it all in. Well the time came when it finally became too much and went to a very bad place. But with thanks to an amazing wife, family and friends i pushed myself to meet with this company and it's the best thing i've ever done and it helps so so much. I think they have Counsellors all over the Country so finding a place close to you might be easy enough.

If anyone needs to get anything off their chest please feel free to PM me. Remember, you don't have to go through anything alone.

Hope this helps someone.

Abate Counselling & EAP Limited, 63 Claremont Crescent, Glasnevin, Dublin 11

Phone: 01 8309613 Fax: 01 8301699 Email: info@abatecounselling.com

lukesmom

kryptonmight wrote: »

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

Yes I was on ciprimil for 5 years and now I've been cymbalta, seroquel and mirtazapine for 5 months. Go to your gp and have a chat. Take care.

Gremlinertia

kryptonmight wrote: »

Is anyone here on medication/anti-depressants long-term?

I was on cipramil for several months and it really seemed to work and my anxiety attacks were effectively zero. Things were better with work and other aspects of my life so after talking to the GP, we agreed I would come off them and she took me off them gradually over several weeks. I came off them with no problems but since then, I ended up out of work (not unexpectedly as my contract was due to finish and it was uncertain whether it would get extended and in the end it didn't). I was then out of work for 3 months and I recently started a new job but the anxiety has come back somewhat. I don't think it's as frequent as it was but it is very uncomfortable when it kicks in. I know the new job is the main reason for it as I'm there a while and still not doing much which drives me insane. They know I want training and want to train me but are just very busy.

I'm trying to control other aspects of my life such as trying to get enough sleep, get exercise and trying to eat proper healthy food and avoid processed food or stuff that might trigger anxiety.

However I'm wondering if I will just have to bite the bullet and go back to the GP and ask to go back on them for a while. I still have some left from my last prescription but there's no point starting to take them without their approval plus I don't have enough for more than about a week or two.

Suppose I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to have to take anti-depressants long-term now.

Medication is a great support for some people, i'd think about some form of talk therapy too. I went for a while, was good for me, might also be worth a look for you.

kryptonmight

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Medication is a great support for some people, i'd think about some form of talk therapy too. I went for a while, was good for me, might also be worth a look for you.

Thanks.

I was seeing a psychologist for quite a while but we scaled back the appointments as things got better. Unfortunately she has since moved away so if I want to continue with appointments, I will need to find someone else.

Gremlinertia

Damn thinking.. Was away for a break for a week, it was good, just even to be out of town visiting friends and not travelling, as was the case any other time this year, outside the county for funerals.. Coming back was hard, into work immediately, and have to say it used be the one thing that would keep me stable enough, but that's changed somewhat over the last few months, if i had the guts i'd think about a big change, like a move, job change and stuff. Back to the thinking though, that's so confusing that i'm frozen.. So, having tried quite a few things i am now working up to contacting a hypnotherapist friend of mine to try alleviate stress/anxiety symptoms to help me think.

The focus it took to type this has wrecked me..

LegacyUser

I'm suffering from/ living with chronic anxiety, it's not too bad, but I hardly go out at all, have very little motivation to. Havnt been to the doc in 2 years maybe. Don't see the point because he'll put me on anti depressants, I'll take them for a month, and not bother going back, I knew that was going to happen the last time, and the time before, but I just can't seem to... Whatever, either overcome the anxiety, or get the motivation, to actually do things,

I've a driving test coming up, and I need a few lessons, but I can't just ring and book them. I think I'll end up cancelling the test.

Basically, I'm wondering how you get over that first hurdle of anxiety/ complete lack of motivation, and how do you keep it going,

RubyXI

Having such a hard time at work at the moment. There's a new girl and she just won't leave me alone. The other people here got used to me not going places but she is being very pushy and persistent. I manages to get out of one and now there's another one. I said I can't go but she just keeps going on about it. And then there will be a Christmas night out soon which I will also not be going to. Can't people just let me make my own decisions instead of trying to force their opinions on me? I know she will soon get annoyed with me and start to dislike me like the rest of them do. Even if I wasn't generally bad at going out, I don't think I'd want to go. I don't really get on with most of them anyway. But surely it should be my choice. I think it's very inappropriate of people to tell others what to do. I would never tell them they shouldn't go. It's just unbearable.

herisson

^^^^

People like that annoy me to no end. If you don't want to go then no one should force you or pester you until you agree.

I'm lucky my friends were like that until they realised that I am just not up for it. I don't like going out they know it and they will not force me but they will be so appreciative if I do manage to come out.


Work rang me this morning to come into work, I said no, turned around and had a little cry. I'm just not able for it tbh.

delthedriver

phi3 wrote: »

Having such a hard time at work at the moment. There's a new girl and she just won't leave me alone. The other people here got used to me not going places but she is being very pushy and persistent. I manages to get out of one and now there's another one. I said I can't go but she just keeps going on about it. And then there will be a Christmas night out soon which I will also not be going to. Can't people just let me make my own decisions instead of trying to force their opinions on me? I know she will soon get annoyed with me and start to dislike me like the rest of them do. Even if I wasn't generally bad at going out, I don't think I'd want to go. I don't really get on with most of them anyway. But surely it should be my choice. I think it's very inappropriate of people to tell others what to do. I would never tell them they shouldn't go. It's just unbearable.

Absolutely, it is very wrong of your colleague to continue badgering you to attend nights out with the crew, in my opinion it is subtle bullying.
In the case of the Christmas night out perhaps for political reasons it may be appropriate to attend the meal and have a cab organised to take you home. Sometimes it is important to be seen by your boss , who may well be paying for the event, to attend the function.
Other than that I would not commit myself to attend other unofficial nights out with the crew. Personally I resisted any pressure to attend always thanked them for inviting me , and offered my apologies. You have no reason to offer excuses, just be true to yourself and be your own person. Bluntly, your colleagues are simply people with whom you need to have a cordial working relationship, no more, no less. What you do in your spare time quite frankly is none of their concern.:)
Like yourself I never had reason to socialise with the "team", people can get messy and obnoxious when they have had too much to drink.

RubyXI

Our Christmas Party isn't paid for by the company anymore. But ya there's more pressure to go if it is. I'm terrified of meals - eating in front of people- so that's very hard too. I know there is an argument saying if you're scared to do it then that's all the more reason to do it but I think I need to do that on my own terms.

Gremlinertia

phi3 wrote: »

Our Christmas Party isn't paid for by the company anymore. But ya there's more pressure to go if it is. I'm terrified of meals - eating in front of people- so that's very hard too. I know there is an argument saying if you're scared to do it then that's all the more reason to do it but I think I need to do that on my own terms.

I can completely understand about the meal, i can't do that at the best of times, my stress levels go through the roof and even my arms lock up..

My usual to combat this is say i have a prior engagement meaning that i'll miss the meal but will make it in afterwards, there might be a bit of a grumble but all in all it's usually worked for me..

RubyXI

Gremlinertia wrote: »

I can completely understand about the meal, i can't do that at the best of times, my stress levels go through the roof and even my arms lock up..

My usual to combat this is say i have a prior engagement meaning that i'll miss the meal but will make it in afterwards, there might be a bit of a grumble but all in all it's usually worked for me..

I've tried that too! Said I had to go somewhere else but would try to make it in for a while, then never turn up. But there's only so many times you can get away with that!

Gremlinertia

phi3 wrote: »

I've tried that too! Said I had to go somewhere else but would try to make it in for a while, then never turn up. But there's only so many times you can get away with that!

But do turn up is the thing, it'll count so that's how i do it, people remember you were there if asked and you get to skip the meal, plus, because they are now relaxed there'll be no stress to feed off in the place. Deep breaths.

RubyXI

Gremlinertia wrote: »

But do turn up is the thing, it'll count so that's how i do it, people remember you were there if asked and you get to skip the meal, plus, because they are now relaxed there'll be no stress to feed off in the place. Deep breaths.

Ya but I'd probably have a panic attack if I had to turn up! It's not just the meal I can't do. Can't do any of it!

Gremlinertia

phi3 wrote: »

Ya but I'd probably have a panic attack if I had to turn up! It's not just the meal I can't do. Can't do any of it!

Suppose it's a matter of picking your battles, maybe this one isn't worth it.. Depends on you. I tend to push myself the odd time.. (Though i couldn't refuse to show up at my sister's wedding, that was tough) Like everything, it's your own journey so no one can pick what to go or not go to.. Just hope the pressure lessens for you.

Gremlinertia

Off to the monsterathon shifts soon.. Feeling mad lonely, so hope the work will distract me..

delthedriver

phi3 wrote: »

Our Christmas Party isn't paid for by the company anymore. But ya there's more pressure to go if it is. I'm terrified of meals - eating in front of people- so that's very hard too. I know there is an argument saying if you're scared to do it then that's all the more reason to do it but I think I need to do that on my own terms.

Well then, If the Company are not paying for the party I see no reason to put yourself under pressure to attend. Simply thank the organiser and politely decline . You are not obliged to give a reason. Don't let anyone bully you.

If the truth is known quite a number of the attendees on the night will wish they were some place else also.

On the evening in question you can always chat with your friends here, so in effect we can be a prior engagement!!!!:D

delthedriver

Gremlinertia wrote: »

Off to the monsterathon shifts soon.. Feeling mad lonely, so hope the work will distract me..

Just take good care of yourself.

No need to feel lonely, we are here for you:)

delthedriver

Christmas Office Party

The whole subject can bring out goose bumps on the best of us.

It is important to remember to protect oneself and put oneself first.

It is not worth having a panic attack and upsetting one's physical and psychological health to attend a social event.

Be kind to yourself and trust your own judgement. If you feel the event is something which is going to cause you untold stress, there is no need to put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

Politely decline the invitation and move on with your life.

Perhaps with age and experience I have learned how unimportant the Office Party is, versus, the importance of good physical and emotional health.

I am aufait with the peer pressure put on colleagues to attend these events. If you don't attend after a couple of days no one will remember who was there and it is then 360 odd days to the next one .:rolleyes:

Call Me Jimmy

Just dropping a line to say that I feel great. Really great. I mostly post negative **** but this morning there just isn't any. Not even afraid of a fall. **** it when I fall I fall - if I fall.

It's nice to feel nice. Ye'd think I got the leg over but nothing like that at all. Just fresh. I'm gonna make the most of the ups from now on because **** the downs, I can experience them without trying, but I live in fear of them so miss the good times. Enjoy the good times as intensely as I suffer the bad. Straightforward.

Cheers.

delthedriver

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Just dropping a line to say that I feel great. Really great. I mostly post negative **** but this morning there just isn't any. Not even afraid of a fall. **** it when I fall I fall - if I fall.

It's nice to feel nice. Ye'd think I got the leg over but nothing like that at all. Just fresh.

Cheers.

CMJ,

Well done! Keep up the good work.

)

murria

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Just dropping a line to say that I feel great. Really great. I mostly post negative **** but this morning there just isn't any. Not even afraid of a fall. **** it when I fall I fall - if I fall.

It's nice to feel nice. Ye'd think I got the leg over but nothing like that at all. Just fresh. I'm gonna make the most of the ups from now on because **** the downs, I can experience them without trying, but I live in fear of them so miss the good times. Enjoy the good times as intensely as I suffer the bad. Straightforward.

Cheers.

Good for you CMJ, you deserve to feel good or even just normal. Thanks for making me smile this morning. xx

handbagmad

Somewhere deep inside me must still be a flame that wants to live. I had planned on doing"something silly/stupid" during the week back out at last minute.
I've lost control. Im desperate for help to get better. I am going to kick ass this week to get the help I need. Still waiting for counselling.
Services in this country R a joke.
Im really scared of what the journey will be like. I have a lot of demons to fight, a lot of work to do. It is scary.
I hope I can find the right people to help me