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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    That is exactly why I for one, am offended. This kind of attitude should not be accepted or encouraged anywhere in society, even in a message board.



    That would obviously be just as unacceptable.
    If some bird is happy to degrade herself by dropping to her knees to a randomer in a bathroom, who are we to stop people judging her?

    This is not "being a bit promiscuous", this is being a complete slapper.

    If you're the type to do this, by all means go for it, but be prepared to be judged in a negative way by people because 99% of the population would find it unacceptable.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,983 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    She didn't sign up public humiliation. Anyway, if she was such a slapper, why was he with her then?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    rb_ie wrote: »

    She is a slapper, plain and simple. As is any girl who goes and gives a bouncer a BJ probably ten minutes after meeting him.

    Yes but doesn't that make what the bouncer did just as bad? Worse even since he proceeded to make an exhibition of her (unconsenting) and himself. Why is she judged more? It's the double standards that kill me.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 831 ✭✭✭Laslo


    Dudess wrote: »
    But I'm sure you know he's reading or you wouldn't have posted a nasty dig like that.
    Don't use After Hours to make snide remarks directed at other posters. Be a grown-up about it (instead of a "little boy") and use the PM facility.

    Pfffffft! This is a discussion board. The old mod status gone to your head a bit there? :rolleyes:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    Yes but doesn't that make what the bouncer did just as bad? Worse even since he proceeded to make an exhibition of her (unconsenting) and himself. Why is she judged more? It's the double standards that kill me.
    Just as bad?No, not by a long shot. It just means Mairt has no standards whatsoever when it comes to women :D

    Regarding showing the lads it, well yeah, it's bad but such a girl has put herself in a position to be laughed at, I'm sure had her mates seen it they'd have either laughed or been disgusted by her behaviour.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    rb_ie wrote: »
    Just as bad?No, not by a long shot.

    Could you please explain why as I really cannot see much difference?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Laslo wrote: »
    Pfffffft! This is a discussion board. The old mod status gone to your head a bit there? :rolleyes:
    Ok so. As a mod I'll say nothing at all - in case I risk accusations of it "going to my head". :rolleyes:

    I made my point clear and simple. You don't use this forum to make thinly veiled snide remarks, instead you say it to the person straight out. Clearly you don't have the balls to do so.

    And if you're going to question anything I've said as a mod, take it to Feedback/Helpdesk.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    Could you please explain why as I really cannot see much difference?
    She met a guy working on a door, offered him a blowjob, then went into the dirty toilets and dropped to her knees and took a strangers knob in her mouth. He could have been carrying fcking anything, yet she still just dove in head first.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    rb_ie wrote: »
    Ladies, provided you have somewhat normal morals (as I know Dudess does), then you should differentiate yourselves from women such as the one in the story and be able to laugh at them along with everyone else.

    Laughing at someone else's misfortune? Nasty.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    She is a slapper, plain and simple.

    In your opinion.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    As is any girl who goes and gives a bouncer a BJ probably ten minutes after meeting him.

    I would agree it is not something I would want my daughter to do, but it's still a HARMLESS ACT she CHOSE to do. She should not be mistreated for that.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    DublinDude, don't give me this "Different women have different moral values" bs, in society it's unacceptable to go around randomly sucking men off in toilets.

    No it's not. It's frowned on by people like you (which is the majority), but it's not "unacceptable".
    rb_ie wrote: »
    It's prostitute behaviour and are prostitutes accepted members of our society?Hell no, should they be?Probably not.

    WTF.

    How is it prostitute behavior? Was she paid to do it?

    How are prostitutes not accepted members of our society? I know many prostitutes (as part of an old job I had) and they are completely accepted members of our society.

    Did you know it's LEGAL to be a prostitute?

    Why should prostitutes not be accepted members of society? That's a pretty vicious thing to say.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    Some would simply view such a person (random blowjob giver) as a slapper, others in this country would take the attitude that they're a fcking slut and a disgrace to their family, not my attitude but I'm sure there's a lot who'd possess such one. Unless you are a prostitute or just hang around with a load of them/were brought up by them, then you're going to view such a person in a negative way.

    I personally think people should be allowed to do whatever they want, as long as it's not harming anyone.

    How come you haven't pointed out how Mairt is being a "slapper" too?

    Why is your anger just directed towards women?
    rb_ie wrote: »
    Sure, what Mairt did was somewhat degrading, but the girl had already done 95% of the work involved in degrading herself in the first place. That's not to say what Mairt did was right, but the instead of abusing him on the matter, maybe you should look at what the woman did and think "Well, she did put herself in the position, maybe had she practised somewhat tighter morals, this type of thing wouldn't happen".

    I can't believe what I'm reading. She and Mairt chose to do a sex act together. Under your logic, she has already degraded herself and is 95% responsible for what Mairt then does. Mairt then secretly forces the girl to perform a sex show.

    Somehow she's to blame?

    *my head is spinning*
    rb_ie wrote: »
    If your daughter came home and said "Hey Dad, tonight I sucked off a bouncer in X club bathrooms, but I got free admission", even those with slightly looser morals wouldn't think "Oh, that's great honey, well done on saving a few quid", you'd be sick to your stomach at her behaviour.

    You're suggesting the girl was a child. We don't know what age she was.

    If a married daughter came to her parents house and said "Hey Dad, tonight I sucked off my husband in our garden", he would also be horrified.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    As I said, to normal women with relatively normal moral values, you should completely differentiate yourself from them. They're not the same as you and you're nowhere near the same as them, so why take offense on their behalf? Or why take it as a dig at the female race as a whole? It's not, it's simply targetted at slappers who go down on their knees to random men in filthy cubicles in club bathrooms.

    It's because women deserve to be degraded in certain mens eyes. You just don't get it...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,983 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    rb_ie wrote:
    She met a guy working on a door, offered him a blowjob, then went into the dirty toilets and dropped to her knees and took a strangers knob in her mouth. He could have been carrying fcking anything, yet she still just dove in head first.

    Well, coversely, she too could have been carrying anything, and yet, he let her do it. Plus, you don't know whether she instigated it or him.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    rb_ie wrote: »
    She met a guy working on a door, offered him a blowjob, then went into the dirty toilets and dropped to her knees and took a strangers knob in her mouth. He could have been carrying fcking anything, yet she still just dove in head first.

    He let a drunk stranger who was obviously promiscuous and could also have been carrying anything put his knob in her mouth. Same difference. The only real difference here is yours and society's attitude. I thought you would come up with something much better than that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    It seems odd to me that mairt is expected to respect someone in that situation. There are women in the world who are sluts, slags and slappers. If you're having sex with a randomer in a pub or club toilets, it makes you all three, regardless of gender.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    Boston wrote: »
    It seems odd to me that mairt is expected to respect someone in that situation. There are women in the world who are sluts, slags and slappers. If you're having sex with a randomer in a pub or club toilets, it makes you all three, regardless of gender.


    What he did was equal to what she did, therefore he has no right to judge.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    I always thought you should have respect for everyone. Am I weird?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 24,608 ✭✭✭✭arybvtcw0eolkf


    Davei141 wrote: »
    I had a feeling afterhours would of had the fun sucked out of it when you became a mod.


    You can't say 'sucked' in this thread :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    dublindude wrote: »
    Laughing at someone else's misfortune? Nasty.

    Wait, you're confusing yourself there. One minute you're saying it's a harmless thing to do, and the next you're saying she's unfortunate to have put herself in that position, what?
    dublindude wrote:
    In your opinion.

    Yes, but I speak for the majority. Society views these type as slappers, like it or lump it but you're in the minority here.
    dublindude wrote:
    I would agree it is not something I would want my daughter to do, but it's still a HARMLESS ACT she CHOSE to do. She should not be mistreated for that.

    Mistreated? Explain...
    It's also potentially extremely harmful, he could well have been a nutjob and physically harmed her, or he could have been carrying something and infected her. It's not a completely harmless thing to do, particularly not with a complete stranger. Also, she should be well aware she's being used as a "piece of meat", how the fck can she respect herself, or demand respect from anyone else when she's aware of this? Is she deriving sexual pleasure from it? No, she's not, she's performing oral sex on a man she doesn't know for more than a few minutes, how the fck does she expect to be viewed and treated after that? As a normal girl? Hardly!

    dublindude wrote:
    No it's not. It's frowned on by people like you (which is the majority), but it's not "unacceptable".

    ok, perhaps not "unacceptable", I mean I can accept that some people are just tramps who'll go down on anything that takes their knob out to them, but with that it's to be accepted that a lot of people will view them as that, slappers/tramps/sluts.

    dublindude wrote:
    WTF.

    How is it prostitute behavior? Was she paid to do it?

    If she benefitted in any way, such as free admission or free drinks, then the argument could be that she was paid for it. Also, there's only one type of woman that participates in such activities, prositutes. I'll speak for myself but I know not one woman who'd do such a thing, nor have I ever. A lot would have a huge amount more respect for themselves, despite their sexual desires, than to perform such an act in such a place.
    dublindude wrote:
    How are prostitutes not accepted members of our society? I know many prostitutes (as part of an old job I had) and they are completely accepted members of our society.

    Lol, why am I not surprised?
    dublindude wrote:
    Did you know it's LEGAL to be a prostitute?

    So...? They still spead their legs to dirty old men for money down laneways. Really respectable women. lol.
    dublindude wrote:

    Why should prostitutes not be accepted members of society? That's a pretty vicious thing to say.

    See above.
    dublindude wrote:
    I personally think people should be allowed to do whatever they want, as long as it's not harming anyone.

    Oh I agree, but they should be aware of the image they'll give themselves as a consequence and accept it that a lot of people won't be ok with their behaviour. But they're free to do it, of course, just doesn't mean we have to think it's completely normal and self-respecting behaviour (which it isn't).
    dublindude wrote:
    How come you haven't pointed out how Mairt is being a "slapper" too?

    So he is, but am I offended by his actions as a member of the male species?No, it was his choice, sure enough I could berate him and understand if others did so, or made comments about his behaviour, but I certainly wouldn't take offence to them
    dublindude wrote:
    Why is your anger just directed towards women?

    What anger?I'm not angry, I'm just trying to say to Dudess and any other woman who felt offended by Mairts comments/actions to not be, as they're completely different people to the type of person that was involved in the incident with Mairt.

    What she did won't have a consequence on other woman, i.e just because one female does it, we should treat them all the same. Different women will get different levels of respect ( as with men ) and if you respect yourself then you'll be shown the same amount of respect. Fairly basic stuff.
    dublindude wrote:
    I can't believe what I'm reading. She and Mairt chose to do a sex act together. Under your logic, she has already degraded herself and is 95% responsible for what Mairt then does. Mairt then secretly forces the girl to perform a sex show.

    Well she put herself in the position, god only knows what kind of man Mairt is and what he could do to her, she accepted that and went into the jacks with him. I'm sure she didn't know that she'd be watched, but she'd be 110% aware that the rest of the lads would know as soon as it was done (or even before).
    He also started laughing at her during it, yet she kept going...classy girl.

    I'm not questioning that what Mairt did was bad, but she is much more to blame for it happening (if she hadn't offered then it would have never happened etc).
    dublindude wrote:
    Somehow she's to blame?

    Again, she put herself into a situation where she could easily be abused. She's with a stranger in a cubicle, did she expect him to respect her? If so, that would be an outrageous expectation given that she'd be well aware how such a person making such an offer would be viewed.
    dublindude wrote:
    You're suggesting the girl was a child. We don't know what age she was.

    I didn't suggest she was a child. She could be 18-30 for all I know, or younger (which would be a lot worse on Mairts part). It doesn't matter what her age was, the point still stands that if your daughter came home and said such a thing, you'd be sickened.
    dublindude wrote:
    If a married daughter came to her parents house and said "Hey Dad, tonight I sucked off my husband in our garden", he would also be horrified.

    Not to the same extent though, I would imagine.

    dublindude wrote:
    It's because women deserve to be degraded in certain mens eyes. You just don't get it...

    No, what you should say is that certain women deserve to be degraded in certain mens eyes. Not all women will be viewed the same, but we learn what type of a woman they are by how they carry themselves and the level of respect they show themselves.

    For instance, and I might be wrong here, if Mairts wife of say, 10 years, were to be passing by work one evening and she suggested they had a bit of a romp before she left, would he show the lads? Hell no (I would hope anyway), it's completely different than if some young one comes up and goes "Here mister, fancy a BJ for free admission". DUCY?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    Boston wrote: »
    It seems odd to me that mairt is expected to respect someone in that situation. There are women in the world who are sluts, slags and slappers. If you're having sex with a randomer in a pub or club toilets, it makes you all three, regardless of gender.
    Wahey. Someone sees the light (regarding respect)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,277 ✭✭✭✭Rb


    dublindude wrote: »
    I always thought you should have respect for everyone. Am I weird?
    Yes.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 24,608 ✭✭✭✭arybvtcw0eolkf


    Time to put an end to this rubbish...

    You take everything posted here as gospel?..

    Well I did say I took some 'licence' with the story, like 99% of the other sh*t on AH.

    I'm not backpeddling either, a life time ago I was one nasty bastard for sure & things got a whole lot worse than I've posted here.

    But ya know, your past makes you what you are now. At least if you learn from your mistakes, but most of you here are either too young to recognise your mistakes or have yet to make them.

    Other's here at made mistakes, but would rather the rest of us think they're pure as the driven snow - bullsh*t.

    I'm 100% positive there's not a person in this thread who hasn't done something, even just once, which they'd rather not have done.

    So the next time someone wants to pass judgement on someone else here, personally peoples opinions of me here don't matter a damn to me, but before standing in judgement over someone. Ask yourself can you afford to cast the first stone.

    Thats my last word on this, guys - try to be friends, its easier than the hate.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    What he did was equal to what she did, therefore he has no right to judge.

    Didn't say he did. I judge them both to be slappers.

    Dublindude: Welcome to the real world. Someone doesn't respect themselves, no one else will.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Iago wrote: »
    Ok, I've checked the charter and there's no mention of being offensive to non-users who are nothing but a generic person not identified in any way, so I'm not sure why Mairt would be at risk of a banning from that.
    Because it's offensive to women.
    Also I've reported the post from Dudess where she tells Mairt to STFU as it's abusive against a fellow poster which is covered in the charter.
    It's not abusive, I haven't called him anything. It's regularly used by mods here. It's aggressive, yes, but not insulting. Sometimes a little aggressiveness is unavoidable considering the sh1t people throw up here - in fairness not too often, most posters are great, but once in a while.
    there will be impressionable 12-15 year olds readng this thread and thinking "well if everyone else thinks it's cool, I should be doing it as well"
    Agreed. But as you can see, I'm flagging such posts in a bid to dismantle the sheep-like mindsets people have in relation to sexual behaviour.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    Ladies, provided you have somewhat normal morals (as I know Dudess does), then you should differentiate yourselves from women such as the one in the story and be able to laugh at them along with everyone else.
    Thing is, rb_ie, I don't think sex is a moral issue. Plus, I've had one-night stands and given head on such occasions. In the "sex on a first meeting?" thread, I was one of those who voted I would. And I have continued to date some of those guys afterwards. Very few of us haven't had one-night stands. Sometimes when you go out, you score. It's not unusual from age 18 on.
    However, I wouldn't give head in a toilet to just any bloke. I would have to be EXCEPTIONALLY physically attracted to the guy and I would go back to his place or my place or a hotel room etc. And I would have MY pleasure in mind, not really his (it's not a relationship). I certainly wouldn't be out to simply offer the goods to make a guy like me etc. I have dignity, respect for myself, and confidence and self-belief. Sadly there are girls who DON'T have any of the above. They're in a crap place and it's not fair to laugh at them and make them feel worse about themselves.
    She is a slapper, plain and simple. As is any girl who goes and gives a bouncer a BJ probably ten minutes after meeting him.
    But then he shouldn't accept it - do you not see how infuriating it is for THAT to be considered ok?
    DublinDude, don't give me this "Different women have different moral values" bs
    It's true. See two quotes above.
    in society it's unacceptable to go around randomly sucking men off in toilets. It's prostitute behaviour
    But again, the guys on the receiving end CAN choose to keep it in their trousers.
    Unless you are a prostitute or just hang around with a load of them/were brought up by them, then you're going to view such a person in a negative way.
    It is indeed a bad thing but the fact that there are girls who value themselves so little is a terrible thing, and such attitudes from males hardly helps the situation.
    but the instead of abusing him on the matter, maybe you should look at what the woman did and think "Well, she did put herself in the position, maybe had she practised somewhat tighter morals, this type of thing wouldn't happen".
    Once again (it seems to require being drilled in): she can offer away all she likes and none of the guys need to comply. Then no head is given and nobody has degraded themselves...
    If your daughter came home and said "Hey Dad, tonight I sucked off a bouncer in X club bathrooms, but I got free admission", even those with slightly looser morals wouldn't think "Oh, that's great honey, well done on saving a few quid", you'd be sick to your stomach at her behaviour.
    Of course. And just imagine what Mairt's reaction would be...
    As I said, to normal women with relatively normal moral values, you should completely differentiate yourself from them. They're not the same as you and you're nowhere near the same as them, so why take offense on their behalf? Or why take it as a dig at the female race as a whole? It's not, it's simply targetted at slappers who go down on their knees to random men in filthy cubicles in club bathrooms.
    Ok, but when the men are willing to take the head and then call the girls "slappers" a red mist drifts across women's eyes. It's misogynistic - anti-women. Maybe not anti-ALL women, but anti-women nonetheless.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    If some bird is happy to degrade herself by dropping to her knees to a randomer in a bathroom, who are we to stop people judging her?

    This is not "being a bit promiscuous", this is being a complete slapper.

    If you're the type to do this, by all means go for it, but be prepared to be judged in a negative way by people because 99% of the population would find it unacceptable.
    Better still. The guys should keep it in their trousers and help to prevent this kind of seediness from going on.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    She met a guy working on a door, offered him a blowjob, then went into the dirty toilets and dropped to her knees and took a strangers knob in her mouth. He could have been carrying fcking anything, yet she still just dove in head first.
    Aw please! In the above comment, apart from the bit speculating that he might be carrying an STD, you only mention "her" and "she" as if she carried out the whole thing singlehandedly. Mairt accepted the blowjob, accompanied her to the toilets, pulled down his pants, sat on the toilet and put it in her mouth. That's a whole lot you've left out...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    rb_ie wrote: »
    Wait, you're confusing yourself there. One minute you're saying it's a harmless thing to do, and the next you're saying she's unfortunate to have put herself in that position, what?

    I said the blowjob is harmless, not the forced sex show!
    rb_ie wrote: »
    Yes, but I speak for the majority. Society views these type as slappers, like it or lump it but you're in the minority here.

    I agree.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    Mistreated? Explain...

    If you don't think what Mairt did was mistreatment, then you need help. I'm sorry, but that's a psycho attitude to have.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    It's also potentially extremely harmful, he could well have been a nutjob and physically harmed her,

    I agree.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    or he could have been carrying something and infected her.

    That's irrelevant. We could all be carrying something. Whether they waited 10 minutes or 10 months before having sex doesn't matter if either of you have an undiagnosed STI.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    It's not a completely harmless thing to do, particularly not with a complete stranger.

    Assuming neither of them caught an STI from it, it is harmless.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    Also, she should be well aware she's being used as a "piece of meat", how the fck can she respect herself, or demand respect from anyone else when she's aware of this? Is she deriving sexual pleasure from it? No, she's not, she's performing oral sex on a man she doesn't know for more than a few minutes, how the fck does she expect to be viewed and treated after that? As a normal girl? Hardly!

    But she chose to do it... it's none of our business why she wanted to give him a blowjob. The blowjob is irrelevant. What's important here is that Mairt (and many others!) has a cruel, misogynistic streak.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    What she did won't have a consequence on other woman, i.e just because one female does it, we should treat them all the same. Different women will get different levels of respect ( as with men ) and if you respect yourself then you'll be shown the same amount of respect. Fairly basic stuff.

    You're basing respect on women not being allowed to do what they want though. I don't know how you can't see this. You are trying to control womens behaviour. If you do X, Y will happen.

    I don't mean to sound dramatic, but the Taliban are just a more extreme version of this.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    No, what you should say is that certain women deserve to be degraded in certain mens eyes.

    That's so ****ed. You have a terrible attitude towards women.
    rb_ie wrote: »
    For instance, and I might be wrong here, if Mairts wife of say, 10 years, were to be passing by work one evening and she suggested they had a bit of a romp before she left, would he show the lads? Hell no (I would hope anyway), it's completely different than if some young one comes up and goes "Here mister, fancy a BJ for free admission". DUCY?

    IMO all humans should be respected.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    rb_ie wrote: »



    Yes, but I speak for the majority. Society views these type as slappers, like it or lump it but you're in the minority here.

    So do you think that slavery for example shouldn't have been abolished because "like it or lump it" that's just the way things are? Extreme example I know but that's the attitude you are portraying.


    rb_ie wrote: »
    It's also potentially extremely harmful, he could well have been a nutjob and physically harmed her, or he could have been carrying something and infected her. It's not a completely harmless thing to do, particularly not with a complete stranger. Also, she should be well aware she's being used as a "piece of meat", how the fck can she respect herself, or demand respect from anyone else when she's aware of this? Is she deriving sexual pleasure from it? No, she's not, she's performing oral sex on a man she doesn't know .

    She could have been a nut job and bit his knob off!:D Did it ever occur to you that some women might actually like giving head?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,061 ✭✭✭✭Terry


    dublindude wrote: »
    I said the blowjob is harmless, not the forced sex show!



    I agree.



    If you don't think what Mairt did was mistreatment, then you need help. I'm sorry, but that's a psycho attitude to have.



    I agree.



    That's irrelevant. We could all be carrying something. Whether they waited 10 minutes or 10 months before having sex doesn't matter if either of you have an undiagnosed STI.



    Assuming neither of them caught an STI from it, it is harmless.



    But she chose to do it... it's none of our business why she wanted to give him a blowjob. The blowjob is irrelevant. What's important here is that Mairt (and many others!) has a cruel, misogynistic streak.



    You're basing respect on women not being allowed to do what they want though. I don't know how you can't see this. You are trying to control womens behaviour. If you do X, Y will happen.

    I don't mean to sound dramatic, but the Taliban are just a more extreme version of this.



    That's so ****ed. You have a terrible attitude towards women.



    IMO all humans should be respected.
    Careful now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Boston wrote: »
    It seems odd to me that mairt is expected to respect someone in that situation.
    He's not expected to have respect for her - it would be difficult considering she doesn't have much for herself. Instead, what he's expected to do is keep his penis in his trousers and tell her to cop the fukk on when she offers him head, rather than accepting it - you know, behaving like a professional, responsible doorman, rather than adhering to the stereotype which he gets all defensive about on other threads where bouncers are slagged off.
    If he decides to accept the blow-job then he is expected to accept that he has had a part to play in it too, and he is expected NOT to call her a slapper and NOT to put on a show for his mates.
    There are women in the world who are sluts, slags and slappers. If you're having sex with a randomer in a pub or club toilets, it makes you all three, regardless of gender.
    What about the "randomer" in question? They too play a part you know...
    Mairt wrote: »
    I'm not backpeddling
    You ARE backpeddling... because not even 24 hours ago you were acting as if what you did was just one big laugh and you weren't remotely ashamed of yourself for being so horrible. Yet now you are.
    Other's here at made mistakes, but would rather the rest of us think they're pure as the driven snow - bullsh*t.

    I'm 100% positive there's not a person in this thread who hasn't done something, even just once, which they'd rather not have done.

    So the next time someone wants to pass judgement on someone else here, personally peoples opinions of me here don't matter a damn to me, but before standing in judgement over someone. Ask yourself can you afford to cast the first stone.
    A lot of people wouldn't have done anything so mean... and been so proud of themselves years later.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    Both of them are slappers.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 23,555 ✭✭✭✭Sir Digby Chicken Caesar


    yes, but she didn't take pleasure in sexually humiliating him.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 24,608 ✭✭✭✭arybvtcw0eolkf


    Dudess wrote: »
    A lot of people wouldn't have done anything so mean... and been so proud of themselves years later.

    Oh I said I was proud of myself now did I?.

    You know what, I did alot of sh*t was I was 20, 21 22 etc, I'm 42 now, and you know that.

    Am I the same person now as I was then?... No, are you the same person you were even five year's ago?..

    Now I feel that your aim now is to bully me. Drop it please.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    yes, but she didn't take pleasure in sexually humiliating him.

    She put herself in that situation. Some people want to be used and degraded, doesn't make it ok, but shes far from the victim here.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Susannahmia


    Mairt wrote: »
    Oh I said I was proud of myself now did I?.

    You know what, I did alot of sh*t was I was 20, 21 22 etc, I'm 42 now, and you know that.

    Am I the same person now as I was then?... No, are you the same person you were even five year's ago?..

    Now I feel that your aim now is to bully me. Drop it please.

    Mairt in all fairness, the flippant way that you described the incident gave the impression that you felt that your behaviour was acceptable and something to joke about.


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