Nice Guys = Gay?

This is something that I have been thinking bout lately.

Through a discussion with a friend, she told me that when she first met me she thought I was gay - why? Because I am a nice guy that is good looking (not being vain or anything, I honestly don't think I am...) and because of this, I must be gay.

Has it gotten to a point where guys are expected to be assholes? Otherwise, to be nice thus labels a guy as being gay?

Cake Fiend

You haven't figured out yet that most people are morons?

JC 2K3

^+1

phantom_lord

Cake Fiend wrote:

most people are morons?

qft

Ruu_Old

Cake Fiend wrote:

You haven't figured out yet that most people are morons?

+3

I agree. Thankfully those that know me know I'm not so thats all that counts I guess.

+4!!

challengemaster

cool i didnt know i was gay :rolleyes:

aidan_walsh

challengemaster wrote:

cool i didnt know i was gay :rolleyes:

Your boyfriend suspected though


Seriously, your friend is a moron OP.

11.3 SECONDS

O.P., did she allow you an opportunity to prove your innocence of her allegation ??:)

Rb

I couldn't give a shíte if someone labelled me as gay for being a nice guy, I'm not going to change and start being an asshole to women just to avoid some dunces presuming I'm something that I'm not.

Deleted User wrote:

Has it gotten to a point where guys are expected to be assholes?

Dunno but don't go pretending to be one, they're arseholes for a reason remember
If women want assholes then when they get what they want, they can politely stfu if he cheats on her/abuses her/treats her like shíte, its not as though they weren't warned.

11.3 SECONDS

11.3 SECONDS wrote:

O.P., did she allow you an opportunity to prove your innocence of her allegation ??:)

.... Possibly ....

ferdi

somethimes i wish i was gay...

Sparky

There are tons of "nice" men and women out there. Everyone has different personalities and attitudes. I have been mistaken to be gay myself a few times for the way I am and just because I'm generally a "nice " person, but tbh I'd find it hard to act the general asshole rather than be just who I am.
There is no must be about it. Some of us prejudge before actually getting to know a person. The example is your friend OP. I suppose if some guy has a lisp, he must be gay.

I don't really think the term "nice" is a good description really. How about being a gentleman?

The Walsho

ferdi wrote:

somethimes i wish i was gay...

I see where you're coming from. Then, instead of watching girly soppy movies you could watch monster trucks and stuff.

ferdi

nah, i could get some nasty cock action.

brianthebard

Sparky-s wrote:

I suppose if some guy has a lisp, he must be gay.

Well at least we are all clear about that!:D

c - 13

Nice guys != Gay

Guys who are attracted to guys = Gay

Your friend = Moron

SimpleSam06

I'm all for gays, the more the merrier. Out of the gene pool, lads!

Wait. What?

Crucifix

ferdi wrote:

somethimes i wish i was gay...

Sometimes I wish you were gay...ahem.

I knew a guy who thought all nice guys were gay. The funny thing was he believed it against any evidence to the contrary. He was just convinced the majority of guys he knew were repressed homosexuals.

Backtoblack

Are nice girls gay too?

Backtoblack

I went out with a guy before that acted a bit gay sometimes.. he used to do gay impersonations and act a bit camp at times... used to freak me out a bit to be honest.

brianthebard

Latent homosexuality probably. Hope that helps...

el Bastardo

Of course. But in reality, there are no such things as nice females - the're all bitches (even nice guys know that ) Seriously, I've been accused of being gay and what not (I don't fancy men/boys/etc) just because I don't shag the first woman I see - I'm picky

Backtoblack wrote:

Are nice girls gay too?

Winters

a/s/l @ nice girls.
21 nice male here 4 u

.. anyway.
I would agree with the origional poster. For some reason a fair few lasses' seem to think that if a guy is nice etc. then he has to be gay. Its strange .. but alas, times do change. Tbh, if they are stupid enough to think your gay then they are too stupid for ya.... or something like that. I generally dont quite know what im talking about anymore as I'm sorta falling asleep. I dont even know why im posting this. If your still reading then fair play to you. But back on topic...

Backtoblack

el Bastardo wrote:

Of course. But in reality, there are no such things as nice females - the're all bitches (even nice guys know that ) Seriously, I've been accused of being gay and what not (I don't fancy men/boys/etc) just because I don't shag the first woman I see - I'm picky

egg/chicken!!! - The reason we are bitches is because you lot drive us to it being assholes!
(hey, can you curse on this board and not get it turned into *****?
Cool huh huh!

The Bollox

**** **** ****

... dammit, no

Sparky

Fuck yeah.

There is always a back door.

Backtoblack

Marts wrote:

**** **** ****

... dammit, no

You mustn't have the same level of posting rights as I do....
Are you under 18???? :rolleyes:

The Bollox

under 18 stone... yes
under 18 women... I wish
under 18 wheeler... no
under 18 years... no

you are attractive but I wouldn't go as far as to say you attractive enough to mistaken as gay but you do seem nice enough
In fairness your probably over nice in real life

I often am wary of overly nice attractive guys for the same reason as your mate though

Sangre

Remember scoring a girl who decided to stop and remark how she thought I was gay when she first met me. What a great way to set the mood.

Although she didn't put out, obviously a gay and projecting it onto me.

Lust4Life

Don't fret too hard over that, OP.
Somewhere, somehow, some gal is gonna think you're an a$$hole. It's inevitable!

Backtoblack

Marts wrote:

under 18 stone... yes
under 18 women... I wish
under 18 wheeler... no
under 18 years... no

Rhyme

Marts wrote:

under 18 wheeler... no

That Lego set working out alright yeh?

Some people get affection, attraction and geniality mixed up.

randylonghorn

ferdi wrote:

somethimes i wish i was gay...

ferdi wrote:

nah, i could get some nasty cock action.

So just go bi and have the best of both worlds .... except then you'll get called a greedy bastard!


Seriously, OP, don't take any notice of this kind of sh*te ...

randylonghorn

Sparky-s wrote:

**** yeah.

There is always a back door.

Ahem!

/cups hands to mouth

FERDI!!!!!

fulofh20

I know the nice guy approach from straight guys.
I also know hardmen skinhead types who are gay.
They are still part of the male sex so stereotypes for gays tend to give impression of nice guys but that's because of society. Society is not letting people be who they are inside and as a result so many identity crisis from this.
Your friend is just making statement he hasn't thought much into.

azezil

I find it amusing that she thinks gay guys are nice!

Biggest bunch of bitchy queens EVER... I should know

cormie

Ah the oul you must be gay mentality:rolleyes:

I've also had the "I thought you looked like an asshole before I started talking to you" responses!

so you could say I swing both ways:D

Tar.Aldarion

I'm nice, go on, admit it and have been described as the 'non-gayest' person in the world by more that one person.
You see it's not just being nice that makes you gay, it is also how your hold yourself, your voice and of course your clothes, nothing esle.
There her theory debunked.
Quod erat demonstrandum.

Backtoblack

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

I'm nice, go on, admit it and have been described as the 'non-gayest' person in the world by more that one person.
You see it's not just being nice that makes you gay, it is also how your hold yourself, your voice and of course your clothes, nothing esle.
There her theory debunked.
Quod erat demonstrandum.

Agreed. Being nice isn't a criteria for being gay.
My ex's brother was gay and he was a prat to be perfectly honestly, nothing much nice about him at all really!

Katykaboom

ah no, not all nice men are gay, sometimes though, they may have a "quality" that you just cant put your finger on. Like in Friends.

dceire

aidan_walsh wrote:

Your boyfriend suspected though


Seriously, your friend is a moron OP.

coolsmileygirl

coolsmileygirl wrote:

you are attractive but I wouldn't go as far as to say you attractive enough to mistaken as gay but you do seem nice enough
In fairness your probably over nice in real life

I often am wary of overly nice attractive guys for the same reason as your mate though

Thank you. That's actually pretty nice of you to say.

I've often been asked if I was gay, its gotten to a point where I just take it in my stride- I'm the way I am because I generally don't care what people think (most of the time)

rediguana

A lot of people think I'm gay too (I'm not). It's a compliment, in a way. Maybe try to temper your personality with a few manly things, such as whiskey drinking, football, brashness etc.

Strike that magic balance and - bingo! - the ladies will be all over you like Brian Kennedy over Ronan Keating.

rediguana

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the Shades

azezil wrote:

I find it amusing that she thinks gay guys are nice!

Biggest bunch of bitchy queens EVER... I should know

Took the words right out of my mouth

rediguana

rediguana wrote:

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Webpage dont work for me. Is that an advertisement, no?

rediguana

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Wertz

rediguana wrote:

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I bet you tell all the boys that...

randylonghorn

rediguana wrote:

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Wertz wrote:

I bet you tell all the boys that...

I could see that coming ...