The Official "rant/bitch/moan" Thread

John

Andrew, there's no need to be jealous, I'm sure Christine was just fainting in terror at the sight of me. I'm still dressed up for Halloween.

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Nietzschean wrote:

i only edited so as it would be midly entertaining

In fairness Ian your "entertaining" modding has come into question before.

Andrew 83

John wrote:

Andrew, there's no need to be jealous, I'm sure Christine was just fainting in terror at the sight of me. I'm still dressed up for Halloween.

While I've no doubt she may have fainted if she saw you the problem is that she didn't!

Tricity Bendix

europerson wrote:

[RANT]
Relationships FTL.
[/RANT]

hugs.

I'm beginning to think becoming single was the best decision I never made. Bar the crippling loneliness, that is.

Boston

Crippling loneliness, lack of intimacy, disillusionment with life, and abstract despair. Yes, good times had by all...

europerson

b.ie curious wrote:

hugs.

I'm beginning to think becoming single was the best decision I never made. Bar the crippling loneliness, that is.

Thanks. We're officially "on a break". I'm not quite sure how that works.

Edwardius

You'll need a pager.

Boston

europerson wrote:

Thanks. We're officially "on a break". I'm not quite sure how that works.

It means things will be drawn out and painfull.

ApeXaviour

europerson wrote:

Thanks. We're officially "on a break". I'm not quite sure how that works.

Never let a woman take a bandaid off you. They do it slowly or in parts, so it'll be "less painful". This officially makes them stupid.

Of course stupidity is not sex specific, we tend to be so far up our ass in denial we almost deserve this maltreatment.

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europerson wrote:

Thanks. We're officially "on a break". I'm not quite sure how that works.

Sorry Mattie . It's too late now so I'll give you a call in the morning.

ApeXaviour

Ibid wrote:

Sorry Mattie . It's too late now so I'll give you a call in the morning.

Yeah actually. Sometimes breaking up seems like the worst thing that can happen to you. Not because of the person but because of the sense of loss at what you expected from your future/life etc. And I think men tend to take it a lot worse than women what with the lack of social acceptance of any sort of emotional outreach.

So yeah, if it turns ugly be sure not to bear it alone. Do it the only way men can, get as drunk as possible with your buddies and get it the hell outta your system. Either that or turn to misogyny. The latter apparently makes you more attractive btw. hence outlaw biker (see ladder theory)

gymrabbit

Well there are only 2 ways significant relationships for young adults can go. Either they progress to the next level - an acceptance on both halves that the relationship is serious and of a long term nature with a look to the future or, one or both parties within the relationship realise/accept that the relationship has no long term future and there is no point maintaining the status quo.

In other words, there comes a point in which you should confirm you're both going in the same direction together or it's time to diverge and take different paths.

I'm aware europerson hasn't asked for any advice and this is perhaps not the medium for forcefeeding him unsolicited advice but how'n'ever.

I'm not trying to endorse this GUYS VS GALS sentiment expressed by Apexaviour but I strongly beleive "on a break" is some kind of limbo only women seem to think is an acceptable status to bestow on a relationship. At least it's an opportunity for you to get an idea of how it feels to be single again. Do you feel free? Or do you feel abandoned? Are you sure you want to stay with girl or is it the relationship you're attached to?

All you can do is not do anything rash. Hopefully, given time, she will come to a rational decision. She either wants to continue going out with you and understands the mistake she made going "on a break". Or she doesn't want to go out with you and she will break up with you properly and you'll get some closure and move on. Slowly but surely.
I'd encourage you not to feel bitter about the outcome. People make mistakes, girls break up with people they're still in love with because of fear/other irrational responses. Don't burn bridges but don't linger expecting her to come back if she does go. Don't go and score some one cheaply to try and make yourself feelbetter but don;t but totally oblivious to opportunities for new relationships.

Tricity Bendix

Can't you feel the love on this forum?

Its all so beautiful. I love you guys.


I recommend you do one of two things. Either stay in bed all day, only getting up to pee and get ice cream. Or, go out and do stuff.

On the subject of getting rip-roaringly drunk, It can be either really good or really bad. I'd advise you stay out of the pub/offy for the next while.

Boston

Drowning one's sorrow at the bottom of a bottle is usually a bad idea. Phone calls are made, things are said which can never be taken back.

Pet

Oh wow. I go away for a few days, and...


The last two pages of this thread are sheer gold.

(as you were)

europerson

First of all, thanks everybody for the comments and advice. All contributions are welcome.

LiouVille wrote:

It means things will be drawn out and painfull.

I tend to try to be optimistic.

ApeXaviour wrote:

Yeah actually. Sometimes breaking up seems like the worst thing that can happen to you. Not because of the person but because of the sense of loss at what you expected from your future/life etc. And I think men tend to take it a lot worse than women what with the lack of social acceptance of any sort of emotional outreach.

Well, I put it on Boards!

So yeah, if it turns ugly be sure not to bear it alone. Do it the only way men can, get as drunk as possible with your buddies and get it the hell outta your system. Either that or turn to misogyny. The latter apparently makes you more attractive btw. hence outlaw biker (see ladder theory)

Hee-hee!

gymrabbit wrote:

Well there are only 2 ways significant relationships for young adults can go. Either they progress to the next level - an acceptance on both halves that the relationship is serious and of a long term nature with a look to the future or, one or both parties within the relationship realise/accept that the relationship has no long term future and there is no point maintaining the status quo.

In other words, there comes a point in which you should confirm you're both going in the same direction together or it's time to diverge and take different paths.

I think that's what she is worried about.

I'm aware europerson hasn't asked for any advice and this is perhaps not the medium for forcefeeding him unsolicited advice but how'n'ever.

It's quite all right. Thanks, and work away!

I'm not trying to endorse this GUYS VS GALS sentiment expressed by Apexaviour but I strongly beleive "on a break" is some kind of limbo only women seem to think is an acceptable status to bestow on a relationship. At least it's an opportunity for you to get an idea of how it feels to be single again. Do you feel free? Or do you feel abandoned? Are you sure you want to stay with girl or is it the relationship you're attached to?

Hmmm... I kind of feel abandoned. I miss both, as far as I can gather.

All you can do is not do anything rash. Hopefully, given time, she will come to a rational decision. She either wants to continue going out with you and understands the mistake she made going "on a break". Or she doesn't want to go out with you and she will break up with you properly and you'll get some closure and move on. Slowly but surely.

It sounds so simple!

I'd encourage you not to feel bitter about the outcome. People make mistakes, girls break up with people they're still in love with because of fear/other irrational responses. Don't burn bridges but don't linger expecting her to come back if she does go. Don't go and score some one cheaply to try and make yourself feel better but don;t but totally oblivious to opportunities for new relationships.

About the lingering thing, it's not as if I can be sad or be happy or whatever, because I don't know what the outcome is going to be, so I'll have to reserve that for the time being. In terms of the scoring thing, it wouldn't really be my style, so I wouldn't worry!

b.ie curious wrote:

Can't you feel the love on this forum?

Its all so beautiful. I love you guys.

It sure is. Group hug everyone...

I recommend you do one of two things. Either stay in bed all day, only getting up to pee and get ice cream. Or, go out and do stuff.

I'll do the latter, I'm sure.

On the subject of getting rip-roaringly drunk, It can be either really good or really bad. I'd advise you stay out of the pub/offy for the next while.

No worries there. I'm only a social drinker.

Pet wrote:

Oh wow. I go away for a few days, and...


The last two pages of this thread are sheer gold.

(as you were)

They're wonderful. So many good people here.

Barry Aldwell

I concur. Down with women

xebec

It's just after 1 in the morning and there's water dripping from the light fitting in our bathroom! And it's not coming from upstairs so it's obviously a mysterious leak. Security informed us that there would be a plumber along - but when?! Tonight, tomorrow, next week?!

Edit: OK, so now it's half 2 and the buildings office guy is after pulling the light out of the ceiling and has concluded there is a leak Ah well, at least he's being nice about it and has put one of my towels into the ceiling to stop the dripping - guess there's no point in waking the whole house by pulling the ceiling down at this hour

Tricity Bendix

xebec wrote:

It's just after 1 in the morning and there's water dripping from the light fitting in our bathroom! And it's not coming from upstairs so it's obviously a mysterious leak. Security informed us that there would be a plumber along - but when?! Tonight, tomorrow, next week?!

Edit: OK, so now it's half 2 and the buildings office guy is after pulling the light out of the ceiling and has concluded there is a leak Ah well, at least he's being nice about it and has put one of my towels into the ceiling to stop the dripping - guess there's no point in waking the whole house by pulling the ceiling down at this hour

Could you not have worked that post to somehow blame women for the leak? Your kind of ruining the beautiful thing we've got going.


A few more posts and I would have been well on my way to creating the world's first gay commune.

Pet

Bedtime now. Curses upon this crazy, reversed, London-induced sleep-schedule.

xebec

b.ie curious wrote:

Could you not have worked that post to somehow blame women for the leak? Your kind of ruining the beautiful thing we've got going.


A few more posts and I would have been well on my way to creating the world's first gay commune.

Well it's two women who live above me so I'm blaming them! It's all their fault! Bloody women!



Happy now?!

Tricity Bendix

Goddam political handlers. They make my life a living hell. Politicians are generally nice people. Its those parasites that feed off their existence who are the real crooks in this world.

So, despite xebec's best efforts, I'm in a foul mood today.

coffee_cake

my qft and gen rel lecturers are completely useless. completely.
books ftw. =/

What the hell does FTW/QFT/IMHO/etc mean anyway?

Why can't people speak proper English anymore??

FTW - for the win.
QFT - quoted for truth / quantum field theory
IMHO - in my honest/humble opinion

And it's quicker

coffee_cake

In this case it was quantum field theory, yes

stupid thing =(

Edwardius

optical fibres make baby jesus cry.

John

****ing credit card fraud again!

Time Magazine

You personally or in general?

Sorry if the former's the case .

gymrabbit

Stop buying viagra via email john!