Plenty of Fish

Ultrflat · 27-02-2021 10:20pm

up for anything wrote: »

Don't immediately call your ex a bitch. After a couple of messages when things don't seem to be going your way, resist the temptation to call us fat slag cnuts who you weren't interested in anyway.

Yeah ladies also need to learn to stop talking to there ex's :rolleyes:. Its so painful to listen to.

27-02-2021 10:21pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

If you're a (nice) guy .

grassylawn · 27-02-2021 10:39pm

I tend to think that guys who think of themselves as nice guys are most often not nice, but ia bit overly concerned with their own feelings.

Then again I remember being variously told that in my pics I looked like a terminator robot, American Psycho and an arrogant prick (by women who wanted to date me).

cj maxx · 27-02-2021 10:50pm

I signed up , and paid , for poF st the start of the year and I'm cancelling it. They just ignore distance settings and age ranges. Load of dung site

27-02-2021 10:51pm

cj maxx wrote: »

I signed up , and paid , for poF st the start of the year and I'm cancelling it. They just ignore distance settings and age ranges. Load of dung site

I had a lot of luck with Hinge. No swiping left and right. You tend to get more responses to messages.

No again Danni · 27-02-2021 10:58pm

grassylawn wrote: »

I tend to think that guys who think of themselves as nice guys are most often not nice, but ia bit overly concerned with their own feelings.).

Yes!

Ive seen guys describe themselves as 'genuine', you know and more so they become obsessive!! They are the ones who, if you don't respond tend to turn to either being really angry or keep sending you excessive compliments even though you've softly told them you're not interested and then had to harshly tell them you're not interested or just ignore.

The main problem I've found with what I see from guys I think who are actually genuine nice sound lads or what I think is the problem is they are not sexual and playful enough. They probably do this out of respect which is a good thing but you want to have some fun. It's a thin line I guess and different for everyone so not something you can measure or put a method too.

When it does happen and it all fits that's when you meet 'the one' I suppose. It's just how people fit and click and it's no different for online dating than irl.

Psychlops · 27-02-2021 11:14pm

Gympodie wrote: »

Hi

I am curious to know what peoples experiences are with this dating site. I have been on this site for a week now and while it seems to be active with users, they don't seem to want to talk - at least from my experiences. I am always respectful, polite and friendly but to no avail. Is this the norm for most men? I have uploaded several decent photos (in a suit) and wrote a more than sufficient introduction of myself - but to no avail. They just don't seem to want to talk.

Is this par of the course? Or is it just me?

Did you put up a dick pic? :pac: I am on it & its hit & miss, especially with Covid, some just want chat & "might" meet when restrictions allow.

BorneTobyWilde · 27-02-2021 11:24pm

Online dating is women who most have profiles with ''' any nice guys out there'' but only date loud mouth over confident a s sholes who treat em like dirt and leave em''
No way in the world would these girls even reply to a '' nice guy''
Its players playing players on there.

Stay at home · 27-02-2021 11:38pm

Is this for younger people? Recently separated (well a year) 39 with one child. My friends are trying to convince me to sign up here but not convinced. Not sure I could handle dick pics and head wreckers so not sure.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 27-02-2021 11:39pm

Deleted User wrote: »

Ah, now you lost your shot when you shat the bed in the North Inner City thread!

27-02-2021 11:57pm

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Ah, now you lost your shot when you shat the bed in the North Inner City thread!

Don't know what you're talking about. Nice to see I made an impression on you though, whoever you are!

You just bemoaned the plight of a "nice guy". No more words are necessary.

Capt'n Midnight · 28-02-2021 1:41am

grassylawn wrote: »

I tend to think that guys who think of themselves as nice guys are most often not nice, but ia bit overly concerned with their own feelings.

Loafing Oaf · 28-02-2021 1:49am

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Where are you based?

I'm guessing Clontarf, site of his greatest victory...

bassy · 28-02-2021 1:49am

not another gimp thread on this,ah here......................................................................

BorneTobyWilde · 28-02-2021 1:59am

Stay at home wrote: »

Is this for younger people? Recently separated (well a year) 39 with one child. My friends are trying to convince me to sign up here but not convinced. Not sure I could handle dick pics and head wreckers so not sure.

SOunds like you need Bumble .

aismac · 28-02-2021 3:37am

The reason you get less replies on Pof as a guy is because there’s no requirement to match with the girl first to be allowed send a message. So you’re flying blind. Also unless you have a stunning face or very cool profile “hi how r u” is unlikely to start an amazing rapport. I have a profile it took a little while to write it - if you read it it and comment on something, the chances of a reply basically treble.

Is anyone finding Hinge good? Is it busy?

milehip · 28-02-2021 8:36am

punisher5112 wrote: »

Go after the single mothers on welfare day....

Mickey Tuesday it's know as round these parts.

YellowLead · 28-02-2021 10:33am

aismac wrote: »

The reason you get less replies on Pof as a guy is because there’s no requirement to match with the girl first to be allowed send a message. So you’re flying blind. Also unless you have a stunning face or very cool profile “hi how r u” is unlikely to start an amazing rapport. I have a profile it took a little while to write it - if you read it it and comment on something, the chances of a reply basically treble.

Is anyone finding Hinge good? Is it busy?

Myself and a couple of friends joined a few weeks ago and so far I think it’s great! Doesn’t seem to be any time wasters. There is a mandatory 6 photos requirement and also a certain number of comments (3 I think) to stock questions - sign of a good relationship is x... you’ll find me doing x on my day off etc. so all the profiles have decent info. You have to like a specific photo or comment not an entire profile, and you can send a comment with that - this is great as it can tell you something about the person who is sending the like. You get notified when a like comes in, so you don’t have to pay to see who likes you. You can also filter by ethnicity in addition to location and age if you so choose.

sassyj · 28-02-2021 10:39am

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

If you're a girl - you get inundated with messages from pervy men just looking for sex, most of which you ignore.

If you're a (nice) guy - you get ignored because the women miss your message because it's under the pile of mails from pervy men just looking for sex.

"Active with users" is a misnomer - most of the profiles are fake bots designed to make it look like that way. Or pervy men just looking for sex.

I see this myth repeated again and again. It's just not true. No reply means not interested.

No matter how many messages, I'm not going to miss one from someone I find attractive / interesting.

28-02-2021 11:21am

aismac wrote: »

Is anyone finding Hinge good? Is it busy?

I've just signed up and they could do with giving you a few more likes without a subscription.

Why am I going to subscribe to something when I have no idea how good it is?

I think I got five swipe rights.

YellowLead · 28-02-2021 11:25am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I've just signed up and they could do with giving you a few more likes without a subscription.

Why am I going to subscribe to something when I have no idea how good it is?

I think I got five swipe rights.

Well that turns into a bonus because when people swipe on you you know they are interested as otherwise they wouldn’t waste a swipe. Look - perhaps it works more in women’s favor but one guy friend who just signed up last week likes it too. You just have to have a little patience.

28-02-2021 11:55am

Hinge is great and is relatively cheap, compared to the others. There's plenty of women on it.

Tea For Two · 28-02-2021 11:56am

I had never thought of signing up for online dating but Covid has changed my perspective on this. It’s a bad sign when you start looking at the ads in the Farmer’s Journal! Most of my siblings met their partners online and they are all happily married. I have no interest in joining the married ranks but am thinking of dipping my toe into online dating. Which dating app/website would suit a 44 year old hoping to meet a genuine guy.

28-02-2021 11:58am

Tea For Two wrote: »

I had never thought of signing up for online dating but Covid has changed my perspective on this. It’s a bad sign when you start looking at the ads in the Farmer’s Journal! Most of my siblings met their partners online and they are all happily married. I have no interest in joining the married ranks but am thinking of dipping my toe into online dating. Which dating app/website would suit a 44 year old hoping to meet a genuine guy.

Assuming you're female I'd say Bumble. It's an app where the woman must message first, so it gives you a bit more control.

YellowLead · 28-02-2021 12:00pm

Tea For Two wrote: »

I had never thought of signing up for online dating but Covid has changed my perspective on this. It’s a bad sign when you start looking at the ads in the Farmer’s Journal! Most of my siblings met their partners online and they are all happily married. I have no interest in joining the married ranks but am thinking of dipping my toe into online dating. Which dating app/website would suit a 44 year old hoping to meet a genuine guy.

I would say hinge or bumble. Maybe join tinder for fun as there are genuine people there too....but you have to scroll through lots to find them and it’s exhausting.

Though - a caveat - no matter what app you try there will always be chancers. As most people are on several apps and chatting to a few be prepared to be unmatched or ghosted suddenly - nothing to take offence at just par for the course. Don’t get too invested in people too early on.

Thepoet85 · 28-02-2021 12:02pm

Met my wife there

YellowLead · 28-02-2021 12:02pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Assuming you're female I'd say Bumble. It's an app where the woman must message first, so it gives you a bit more control.

Bumble definitely has more genuine people than tinder....but as a woman I don’t really like using it because I hate having to make the first move because I miss out on the information that comes with how a guy approaches that first move. But that’s just a personal preference - plenty female friends don’t mind that side to bumble.

Fake Scores · 28-02-2021 1:40pm

There's loads of men on it. And a tiny number of women.
But there's absolutely not one single fish there.

BorneTobyWilde · 28-02-2021 1:45pm

Thepoet85 wrote: »

Met my wife there

Haven't we all

28-02-2021 1:58pm

YellowLead wrote: »

I hate having to make the first move because I miss out on the information that comes with how a guy approaches that first move.

Yeah, I get ya. My first move tells me what I want too. I always say "hey, how are things?". Every time the same. If they are expecting an amazing, rom-com opening line, then I don't want to date them.

Greyfox · 28-02-2021 2:07pm

YellowLead wrote: »

Bumble definitely has more genuine people than tinder....but as a woman I don’t really like using it because I hate having to make the first move because I miss out on the information that comes with how a guy approaches that first move. But that’s just a personal preference - plenty female friends don’t mind that side to bumble.

As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

28-02-2021 2:16pm

Greyfox wrote: »

As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

I ignore those.

YellowLead · 28-02-2021 2:24pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I ignore those.

I do make the first move sometimes when I use hinge but I like also having the option of just seeing all the likes and comments coming in and responding to those I like best if I’m feeling lazy.

If I do send the first message it certianly isn’t just ‘hi’ as I ignore those ones myself.

Ultrflat · 28-02-2021 3:30pm

Greyfox wrote: »

As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

Yeah its almost like extracting blood from stone :pac:

Generally I find they're about as open to meeting some one as a closed vault.
I really enjoy when I get chatting to a lady whos open and actually makes and effort to converse. :cool:

Thelonious Monk · 28-02-2021 4:27pm

Greyfox wrote: »

As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

I hate when you get a girl sending you a nice message asking about photos or your interests or something and you look at the pictures and ask yourself why you ever swiped on her in the first place and have to ignore/unmatch!

Thepoet85 · 28-02-2021 6:20pm

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

Haven't we all

Going by some of the lads on this thread probably not.

I actually did though. We met through the site in 2014 and got married in 2019. Our second child was born last week.

Thank god I had a half decent profile picture is all I can say!!!

Feisar · 28-02-2021 6:33pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I ignore those.

Be honest, if she’s hot you don’t!

Ultrflat · 28-02-2021 6:42pm

Feisar wrote: »

Be honest, if she’s hot you don’t!

You sound like you have the depth and awareness of a paddling pool that been filled1/10th!

28-02-2021 6:58pm

Feisar wrote: »

Be honest, if she’s hot you don’t!

Yeah, probably.

28-02-2021 10:27pm

YellowLead wrote: »

Well that turns into a bonus because when people swipe on you you know they are interested as otherwise they wouldn’t waste a swipe. Look - perhaps it works more in women’s favor but one guy friend who just signed up last week likes it too. You just have to have a little patience.

I definitely spoke too soon.

I'm impressed.

Jonathan1990 · 01-03-2021 12:26am

I dislike dating sites and more so POF. With nearly 5 years of bad experiences on there which go from women ignoring messages to been dam right awkward, during the last Christmas period that's just gone I finally exploded and purposely got myself banned off there after a woman blocked me for telling her she looked cute. Said I was been rude. Feeling hurt I then went mad at several other women and called them a nasty name. I'm sure lots of women here would know why she did it too like I've seen when bringing my POF experience up before. POF also has a webcam feature now.

MadameHussein · 01-03-2021 3:13am

Jonathan1990 wrote: »

I dislike dating sites and more so POF. With nearly 5 years of bad experiences on there which go from women ignoring messages to been dam right awkward, during the last Christmas period that's just gone I finally exploded and purposely got myself banned off there after a woman blocked me for telling her she looked cute. Said I was been rude. Feeling hurt I then went mad at several other women and called them a nasty name. I'm sure lots of women here would know why she did it too like I've seen when bringing my POF experience up before. POF also has a webcam feature now.

You seem to be placing the blame of your actions in insulting random women at being "hurt" by this one completely unrelated woman. If you took the high road and just carried on as normal after she blocked you I think most people would be sympathetic and agree she sounds like a headwreck. To be honest though, while I understand online dating can be frustrating, if your first reaction is to go mad at random women after being rejected by one, that's fairly unhinged behaviour and all you've proved is that she was right to block you in the first place.

FanadMan · 01-03-2021 4:33am

Met someone on POF years ago - maybe 2005 or so. Ended up in a long term relationship with her. Back then it was a fairly good site and totally free and people actually responded and conversed. The last time I tried it, it was crap.

Since lockdown I've used FB dating and have met a few women. Have actually physically met one of them during one of the easings but she turned out to be a bit too much - trying to involve me in her family squabbles. Am in regular contact with two others who are sadly from the opposite side of the county to me so any sort of meet-up is still going to be ages away which is a shame. We've done the virtual date nights but it's just not the same.

YellowLead · 01-03-2021 10:29am

I’m going on dates. I just wait 14 days between each new person. As somebody who lives alone I am allowed a support bubble. If that bubble happens to shift every few weeks/months I don’t see the issue as long as I wait 14 days between each person just in case. First date is always outdoors too.
Don’t see the point in endless pen palling - if I wasn’t meeting up I’d just pause my profiles.

Church on Tuesday · 01-03-2021 3:07pm

Jonathan1990 wrote: »

I dislike dating sites and more so POF. With nearly 5 years of bad experiences on there which go from women ignoring messages to been dam right awkward, during the last Christmas period that's just gone I finally exploded and purposely got myself banned off there after a woman blocked me for telling her she looked cute. Said I was been rude. Feeling hurt I then went mad at several other women and called them a nasty name. I'm sure lots of women here would know why she did it too like I've seen when bringing my POF experience up before. POF also has a webcam feature now.

I'd say stay off of POF if it's making you act this way TBH.

Women who ignore messages either A. simply aren't interested in you or dating or B. your message has got lost in the endless noise of of boring opening messages or unsolicited pics. I wouldn't take it personally, not every women will be attracted to you and really vice versa. Simply move on to the next.

You will encounter rude women on POF, many are simply unhinged. I had an unpleasant encounter myself on there a few weeks back, called the woman out on her behavior (not in a nasty way) then blocked and moved on. Pass no heed. Taking your frustrations out on other profiles isn't on and is ungentlemanly, in all honesty, this will be the biggest turn off of all and women can spot that kind of angry behavior in most cases a mile way.

Something to bare in mind in the future.

B.A._Baracus · 01-03-2021 3:26pm

It's good to see attitudes have changed tho.
There has been many threads about online dating in After Hours over the years. Often about POF and if anyone (usually a guy) said anything negative about it, people would jump on them with the usual lines of "something must be wrong with you" / "pof is great" / "you must have boring pics or profile" etc.

Seems most are just calling a spade thusly.

Feisar · 01-03-2021 3:28pm

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

I'd say stay off of POF if it's making you act this way TBH.

Women who ignore messages either A. simply aren't interested in you or dating or B. your message has got lost in the endless noise of of boring opening messages or unsolicited pics. I wouldn't take it personally, not every women will be attracted to you and really vice versa. Simply move on to the next.

You will encounter rude women on POF, many are simply unhinged. I had an unpleasant encounter myself on there a few weeks back, called the woman out on her behavior (not in a nasty way) then blocked and moved on. Pass no heed. Taking your frustrations out on other profiles isn't on and is ungentlemanly, in all honesty, this will be the biggest turn off of all and women can spot that kind of angry behavior in most cases a mile way.

Something to bare in mind in the future.

In fairness you were fairly polite there. It's unhinged to go name calling other people because someone was rude.

The only problem I had with POF back in the day was I was so need deep in women I let a load of good ones go. Meeting six women on a Sat/Sun is tough going.

No again Danni · 01-03-2021 4:05pm

Iren Duke wrote: »

I don't feel bad cos I only do it to the hottest girls, the ones who wouldn't give me the time of day irl. Feels good to take em down a peg or two

Feels good to try to bring them somewhere closer to your level... in your head...more like.

Reminds me of that episode of Catfish where the guy met a trans women. He was adamant that he was straight but was reluctantly willing to meet her because they had such a great connection he couldn't deny.

Turned out, she was just pretending to be trans and was actually a woman :pac: Mr 'Straight' wasn't so interested in her then. The lies people tell themselves.

py · 01-03-2021 4:38pm

up for anything wrote: »

All in all, it's not you, it's us. We have standards. :D:D

Time for a name change so...

1o059k7ewrqj3n · 01-03-2021 4:40pm

Jesus christ I need a bottle of scotch after seeing that twitter link

Plenty of Fish

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