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03-04-2019, 08:56   #61
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I'm a married woman and don't have all the power in my marriage, and I'm not in an abusive one either. Most marriages work because they're partnerships, not because one person is whipped.
You're uninformed and incorrect.
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Im married and can do pretty much whatever I want.
Wanna hook up?
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29 is not, I repeat, not 'getting on in years'.
29* is precisely the year everything starts going pear-shaped, just like [insert year]** is old.


* Year can be adjusted with great ease to suit need for self-flagellation.

** Rule: This year is always older than me.
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29 is not, I repeat, not 'getting on in years'.
if you want to have children, it is. Having a baby at 35 is classed as a geriatric pregnancy.
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Not sure why anybody would want to be single when you can get married and have sex on tap for the rest of your life, and never see a lonely day again. It's a well-established fact that only people who live alone could feel lonely...

They also have these new self-drive considerate toddlers, too, so they get up at 8am every weekday morning, and lie on until midday at the weekends. My 2-year-old walked up the stairs last night, climbed into his cliabhán, and went quietly to sleep just as the programme says at 7am.

They are working on new chilled-out MILFs, also, who never ask men to do jobs at home and just jump into their arms the minute they walk in the door.

Why would anybody choose to sit at home alone in their rocking chair reading Jane Austen and drinking cups of tea well into your 20s or even, God save us, your 30s when it could be chilled-out sex-crazed fun, fun, fun all day everyday in marriage?
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03-04-2019, 09:19   #66
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I'm a married woman and don't have all the power in my marriage, and I'm not in an abusive one either. Most marriages work because they're partnerships, not because one person is whipped.
You're uninformed and incorrect.
Just because you don't exercise power, does not mean you don't have it, if you decided you wanted a divorce in the morning, it's you who would be firmly in control and your husband who would see the sharp end of the state beit in terms of access to his kids or dividing of assets

In most cases when a couple get married, the woman instantly sees her net worth go up where as his goes down
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I am 41 and love it. Wouldn't change being single for anything.

Have my own place and can come and go as I please and pursue my hobbies after work for as long as I like.
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I am 41 and love it. Wouldn't change being single for anything.

Have my own place and can come and go as I please and pursue my hobbies after work for as long as I like.
When you say you wouldn't change being single for anything, does that mean that if you chanced by meeting someone who you were attracted to, there was a spark and you had a lot in common with you would consciously decide to avoid any type of occasion or event which may give the opportunity for it develop into something more?

I have enjoyed the periods where I was single for the same reasons that you outlined but there were often moments where I craved companionship, particularly some evenings where you would end up pulling the skeleton out of yourself watching some of the most depraved sh*t on the likes of youporn.
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Im happily married and obviously there are things you cant do in that situation. Mainly just decide to move at a drop of a hat, travel solo for long periods of time etc

But i did a lot of that while i was single so im happy being somewhat restricted. We still travel together a lot anyway, so its not like we are just stuck at home.

I guess whether being single permanently will work depends on what that person does with their time and what they want from life.

If someone is permanently single but all they do with their life is head down the pub with their other single mates and have the craic then this will eventually grind to a screeching halt as soon as their mates settle down, move away, die, stop boozing etc. Eventually they will be left on their own and be that sad old man who sits in the pub alone getting smashed all day.

Then there is the person who travels the world, ambitious in finding new work opportunities, finding new life experiences, new hobbies etc. They might grow old alone, but they will have a lot to show for it.

While i was single there were a few times when i did think to myself "how long would it take before people noticed i was dead" and unfortunately more than once that time was too long, like people would notice the smell long. That motivated me to try and little harder to stay in contact with family and friends.

When you're old its not necessarily who you are with that matters, its what you did in your life that you can sit and remember.

For me it will be a combination of my single life traveling and my married life with the woman I love.
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I am in the middle on this as I think I would be happy both ways. I have am totally happy and committed to my current relationship and never intend to leave it. If it ended however through death or break up or anything I think I would never pursue another one. I would have a "been there done that" feel about it and would just continue on in life single and happily intend to stay that way.

There are advantages to both and I am enjoying all the advantages of not being single and intend to stay that way. If I end up single I will happily explore and enjoy the advantages of that instead.

I do not think I will ever do one and pine for the other.
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Just because you don't exercise power, does not mean you don't have it, if you decided you wanted a divorce in the morning, it's you who would be firmly in control and your husband who would see the sharp end of the state
Yes, this is true, when a marriage ends. But usually both parties are worse off financially, and kids' lives are turned upside down, so it's never a casual choice.

You can't make blanket statements about who has "all the power" in an existing marriage. Being married and separated are two different states.
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Just because you don't exercise power, does not mean you don't have it, if you decided you wanted a divorce in the morning, it's you who would be firmly in control and your husband who would see the sharp end of the state beit in terms of access to his kids or dividing of assets

In most cases when a couple get married, the woman instantly sees her net worth go up where as his goes down
You seem very uninformed and bitter about the reality of relationship break ups. Or maybe you just hate women, there used to be another poster around here with similar views and it turned out he had gotten himself involved with some woman who was denying him access to his child - but if his behaviour in real life was anything like his postings it was no surprise really.

The state doesnt side with the woman. If you are at a point that the state are making decisions then one of you has been spectacularly ignorant and unfair in your dealings with the other person when a fair deal could have been hammered out in mediation.

I know lots of divorced people and more cases where the woman has been left in a worse off situation than the other way.

Anyway, I loved it when I was single and I love being married to my husband because we are good pals and our personal freedoms have not been curtailed by being married. But I know if we broke up or he died tomorrow that once Id gotten over the sadness/loss I would be grand on my own again.
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Im married and can do pretty much whatever I want.
That's the important part.

I'm not married but I may as well be, I can do pretty much what I want too - so long as what I want to do isn't her sister, or sister in law, or friends, or that one across the road with the body of a porn star, or strangers or anyone really.

So not exactly like being single.......not in my case anyway
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Men are better off single, women have all the power in marriages nowadays


You aren't one of these red pill / blue pill gobshítes are you?

I think there is too much bolloxology about "power" in relationships - if your goal in a relationship is to attain power to use over the other person, it's a dysfunctional relationship and you'd be much better off out of it - whether you are the one with the power or not.

Thinking like that is the sign of an unhealthy mind in my opinion.

I have no desire to control my missus, I'm sure as fúck not going to let her control me. That doesn't mean you just go do whatever the hell you want, same as you just don't go take whatever you want in a shop - there are consequences to actions, the price of the action is the payment of the consequence.

I would very much like to bang the one across the road with the porn star body - but not at the expense of hurting my missus, or possibly upending my kids lives. It's a price I wouldn't be willing to pay - that's just reality, not control.

I choose to not do it, my hand is not forced!
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Things I like about being single
1: I can talk innocently to what ever wimminz I want (IE people I work with), without getting: You're talking to her an awful lot, who is she?, How do you know her?, What's going on with you two?, yada yada yada!
2: I can go and have a few beers with the lads with getting: What time will you be home?, who's going?, who's there?, where did you go? - and then the same set of questions asked again 2 or 3 days later
3: I can leave a plate on coffee table and clean up when I get up off the couch, rather than as soon as I've finished eating.
4: I can go and do BOIKES! whenever I want and not have to listen to: You were out last Sunday, Why do you have to do that?, I don't like you doing that
5: I can eat what I want without getting: Ya know that's bad for ya, you should eat more Veg, bla bla bla
6: I can get up when I want and go to bed when I want without getting a running commentary on my dodgy sleep patterns.
7: I can watch TV/Play computer games without hearing Pause that, I want to talk to ya about something - YOU CANNOT PAUSE AN ONLINE GAME I'VE SAID THIS TO YOU A MILLION TIMES!
8: I can go to the Gym as much as I want
9: I have total freedom!!!!!

Things I like about being in a relationship
1: Riding.


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You aren't one of these red pill / blue pill gobshítes are you?
Don't be slagging the Incels!
It's the new COOL thing!

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