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new Author · 22-08-2018 9:09pm

My eldest son died last Wednsday he was only 31 we buried him in a white coffin on Monday because it represented innocence he was born that way and died that way . He had autism and severe learning difficulties and we loved him to bits. Each small thing that he managed to do for himself and new word he learned was a bonus , I miss him so much and feel angry with the world and with God and keep asking why him ? I know itl get that bit easier as time passes I lost my mother 9 years ago and know hes with her and my lovely mam will look after him life just feels so hard at the moment so I just want to say R.I.P my darling Kevin our dear sweet boy youl always be a young man forever and will never be forgotten , mammy and papa xxxxxxx

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otnomart · 10-08-2020 5:39pm

My auntie died this morning.
She was still in her sixties, had a CT scan end of last week - and family was told she had a year to live (cancer) and was supposed to have a follow up call this week to discuss her options. But it was not to be.
Have not seen her much in the last years since I live abroad.
Last time I saw her, it was a trip arranged quite last minute and now am glad we met then.
She was fun, caring, affectionate, stubborn.
Brought up two children and now taking care of three grandchildren.
We will all miss her dearly.

cj maxx · 24-12-2020 7:41pm

I just found out from an old friend that his old girlfriend ( and one of my best friends from 25 years ago in England) has died.
Her name was Kelly.
She spent time04-06 studying French at NUI Maynooth .
And typically of Kelly I have no idea when or how she died.
I do remember the talks we had when ,as bar staff in different pubs, we had the house to ourselves duringthe day beforeour night shifts. I used to say that we could be brother and sister, as she was adopted and her birth mother was Irish.
I also know for a while she had strong feelings for me romantically .
I hope your at peace at last Kelly

CiDeRmAn · 09-11-2021 12:57am

Dad passed away on Saturday.

A friend described loss as a hole that can never be filled but can hopefully be lived with.

And so I hope this to be true.

His funeral is Wednesday,

As the oldest son I have to say a few words.

But, there's so much to tell,

That he was a gentleman, a nice man to everyone.

That he lived with his cancer for over a year and, though it was hard, had more good days than bad.

That a series of strokes robbed him of his final months, precious time to say those things he needed to say, to do those things, tell his wife that he loved her.

That he lived a good life, raised good children, was a great dad.

And I'll never stop missing him.

The world is all the poorer for the loss of him.

Ash.J.Williams · 09-11-2021 1:00am

I don’t seem to grieve in a public normalised way , in rural Ireland it’s something gossipers frown upon , I just don’t see people as dead

wiz569 · 09-11-2021 1:33am

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Sorry for your loss m8 :(

HildaOgdenx · 09-11-2021 9:06am

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So sorry to hear this. Such a beautiful tribute.

May he rest in peace.

sunbabe08 · 17-11-2023 1:07pm

my brother passed away on the 26th of September this year after 2 long hard years of fighting cancer. He was only 45 and it came as a bit of a shock because we have been preparing for a liver transplant for him for the beginning of next year and we have been very positive about it my brother's team did everything in the power to get him there, but his body just couldn't take it I guess. He's been living in the States for the last 12 years and he came home in August for the first time in two years I'm really glad he did come home. We had a family wedding and a funeral while he was here and while the funeral obviously sucked for many reasons, the wedding was lovely I have so many memories of us just hanging out by the door away from the crowd laughing and joking and I have a picture of the both of us hugging and smiling and its hard to believe that 7 weeks later he was gone. Even now 7 weeks down the road everything feels like a blur and my parents are brokenhearted, there is that part of me that wants to cheer them up in some way, but I know I can't do that.

I miss his hugs and his dad's jokes and his smile. i miss the way he would greet me on the phone as well. he was a very lovely gentle soul and humble to boot. i just miss him

HalloweenJack · 27-12-2023 11:46am

I don't know how to express this, really.

Someone I knew briefly over a decade ago passed away recently. He was a good friend of a good friend. I hung out with him a few times and he was sound. I remember once I was visiting my friend and this guy showed me around their hometown while our mutual friend was at work. I think it says a lot about him to give up his free time to help out a friend and a relative stranger.

He was only 37 and he died after being beaten up on a night out. Considering I'd been on a few nights out with him and he didn't seem like a violent type, it all feels so unsettling and senseless.

I suppose I am grieving on some level, even though it was unlikely I'd ever see him again and I can't claim to have known how well or to have even had much of a connection with him.

seenitall · 07-03-2024 2:09am

I’m similar to the preceding post. I found out earlier in the evening someone passed away that I didn’t know her death was going to hit me the way it has. It’s a bit strange. I’m a survivor of familial child abuse and I thought that might be the cause of my usual reactions to deaths in the family where to be honest there is usually barely any grief inside of me to speak of. That’s what comes of having grown up in a fcuked up family.

But I have this evening rediscovered my ability to feel loss and grieve in a slightly strange way.

She wasn’t even family. She was a friend of a relative, she was 83 years old, but there was something in her I was hugely drawn to without properly realising it. A humanity, a warmth that wasn’t even apparent at first; she had a sharp tongue, didn’t suffer fools gladly. But she was a decent, generous, caring human being, always so lovely and kind to me and later to my daughter; it’s a type of love I guess, and for me love has always been at a premium. I didn’t see her often but I saw a lot of her and knew her well enough when it’s all added up throughout the decades. I had this silly notion in my mind that one day I would be able to properly reconnect with her and spend time with her (she lived in a different country and was bedridden for the last few years, so with my own busy life and some other circumstances in the way, this wasn’t really going to happen, not before the time ran out for her with her various serious ailments, anyway). So I am now grieving for someone I wasn’t even supposed to grieve for. I didn’t even know she had died until today, and today was the funeral and also the day I found out. I feel so sad that I’ll never see her again, and that she ran out of time. I wish she’d lived longer and been healthier longer because she deserved a good life far more than some other people I know. (Not that she didn’t have a good life altogether, but it wasn’t a bed of roses either.) And I wish I could have said Goodbye in some way, said something meaningful :(

I don’t understand it. I mean, I do understand it, but it’s messed up, I swear. This is because she was always, always nice to me, and so few of my family have been. I don’t believe I shed a single tear for my aunt who died a few years ago, and there are other such instances. And here I am, crying and missing this woman who I saw or heard from really rarely. I’ll always cherish her memory, That’s all I can do. It’s all there is to do.

Thanks for reading.

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