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January · 18-02-2015 4:57pm

I don't think there is Neyite, you could contact A Little Lifetime foundation (formerly ISANDS) and ask them? I know they have people making blankets and stuff like that for them.

Neyite · 18-02-2015 5:05pm

January wrote: »

I don't think there is Neyite, you could contact A Little Lifetime foundation (formerly ISANDS) and ask them? I know they have people making blankets and stuff like that for them.

I might do that. I've just realised that I know quite a few good seamstresses who may know a few more too. And a few of those do charity crafts from time to time anyway. I'll chat to a few seamstresses first to get their take on it.

Edit: They do have a section for handmade clothing donations but mostly knitted stuff. Nothing like the Angel Gown.

January · 18-02-2015 5:17pm

If you know anybody willing to make a few blankets I know Heart Children Ireland give blankets/quilts to the babies/kids after they have open heart surgery. They're running low at the moment (Addie never got one because of the shortage) so are looking for donations.

I'd love to be able to run up even fleece blankets on a sewing machine for them but I can't even sew a friggin button on a shirt...

Neyite · 18-02-2015 5:19pm

January wrote: »

If you know anybody willing to make a few blankets I know Heart Children Ireland give blankets/quilts to the babies/kids after they have open heart surgery. They're running low at the moment (Addie never got one because of the shortage) so are looking for donations.

I'd love to be able to run up even fleece blankets on a sewing machine for them but I can't even sew a friggin button on a shirt...

I cant knit for sh!te, but I do have wool at home that's doing nothing I could crochet something. Or sew a blanket or two.

Toots · 18-02-2015 6:57pm

Is there an organisation that collects little knitted/crocheted hats for preemies? I could knock hats out fairly quick, but a blanket would take a lot longer.

January · 18-02-2015 7:45pm

The SCBU in the Coombe takes knitted/crocheted hats. Saoirse was taken there after she was born and when I went to visit she had the hat on, I was giving it back when we were leaving and was told that we got to keep it that people knit them and send them in. I'm sure most maternity hospitals would take them.

Milly33 · 19-02-2015 10:41am

They are some lovely ideas...

rainbow kirby · 19-02-2015 11:07am

My mum got her mother-of-the-bride outfit late last week, much better experience in House of Fraser in Dundrum thankfully! She's in royal blue, bridesmaids are in navy - I only copped it when I got off the phone to her last night that it's going to pretty much make the girls on our side look quite Dublin-coloured! :pac:

Toots · 19-02-2015 2:10pm

My mum looked in House of Fraser too, and was very happy with them, she said they were really helpful and had a very good eye for what would suit her. I think in the end she got her outfit in LK Bennett. It looked lovely on her

Esterhase · 19-02-2015 2:26pm

So glad to see talk about donating knitted items to hospitals! I very recently learned how to make little hats for a friend's baby and I'll have some bits of wool leftover. Just the other day I was wondering if any organizations around here take knitted hats and blankets.

I think this means I'm destined for this thread. *sets up camp*

westernlass · 19-02-2015 9:08pm

Christening gowns are another option with material of your wedding dress.

vanity fair in Kildare are great for mother of the bride. They have one of everything out but a huge warehouse with loads of sizes. They are also very lovely

fits · 20-02-2015 5:36pm

How would you folks feel if his niece wore her communion dress to the wedding? Even if your own niece isnt wearing hers. I have no flower girls either. There are two of them making communion this year)

Toots · 20-02-2015 5:44pm

Is that usual? I've never heard of kids wearing their communion dresses to a wedding. Seems a bit weird to me.

Pistachios & cream · 20-02-2015 5:47pm

fits wrote: »

How would you folks feel if his niece wore her communion dress to the wedding? Even if your own niece isnt wearing hers. I have no flower girls either. There are two of them making communion this year)

There's a part of me that says no she shouldn't as its not her communion and she's not a flowergirl. But thats a gut reaction.

Logically i can see it being hard to tell the child/Mother that she can't wear the dress as i can't think of a good reason. Unless you say you don't want her confused as being the flowergirl?

My god daughter who is my flowergirl is making her communion before the wedding and i deliberately picked a pink dress for her as i didn't want it confused with a communion dress.

Milly33 · 20-02-2015 5:59pm

It is a hit and miss one isn't it... mmmm would your niece feel left out then if she wasn't wearing hers... Suppose there is nothing wrong with it (just as long as it isn't one of those mini wedding dress ones) but lets say if it was plain and simple dress I would be thinking yeah go for it. But if it is a big puffie one Id say no....Tough call

fits · 20-02-2015 6:04pm

Toots wrote: »

Is that usual? I've never heard of kids wearing their communion dresses to a wedding. Seems a bit weird to me.

Me too. But i dont particularly want to make a fuss either.

Neyite · 20-02-2015 6:27pm

My thinking on it is maybe the girl sees that dress as the prettiest thing she ever owned and felt like a princess in it, so following that logic, a child might want to wear her best dress to an important family occasion where her uncle is getting married. And currently, that's her best dress?

It may also be that they are trying to cut down on outfits costs for the family and if she wears that, they wont need to get her an outfit for the wedding.

Alternatively, it could be a put-out mother who thinks her child should have been a flower-girl at her uncles wedding, or placating a girl who expected to be one? But then at age 8 I do think that they are old enough to understand that there is only one female who is supposed to wear a white gown at a wedding, and that is the bride.

Could it be customised by adding coloured accessories or by alterations to make it less communion-ny if you know what I mean?

It could cause ruffled feathers on the other side if the other little girl wanted to wear hers. Me personally, I'd not care who wore what, but then I'm not doing the bridesmaids/flowergirl thing either, and would think it kinda cute. But I know my sisters for instance would feel strongly that its a bit weird. So it depends.

fits · 20-02-2015 7:12pm

Yeah I totally get cutting down on outfit costs. And normally I am all for reusing things.

But to be honest, I am a tiny bit put out by it. Anyway, nevermind. Im sure it will be ok on the day.

Electric Sheep · 20-02-2015 7:57pm

Neyite wrote: »

My thinking on it is maybe the girl sees that dress as the prettiest thing she ever owned and felt like a princess in it, so following that logic, a child might want to wear her best dress to an important family occasion where her uncle is getting married. And currently, that's her best dress?

It may also be that they are trying to cut down on outfits costs for the family and if she wears that, they wont need to get her an outfit for the wedding.

Alternatively, it could be a put-out mother who thinks her child should have been a flower-girl at her uncles wedding, or placating a girl who expected to be one? But then at age 8 I do think that they are old enough to understand that there is only one female who is supposed to wear a white gown at a wedding, and that is the bride.

Could it be customised by adding coloured accessories or by alterations to make it less communion-ny if you know what I mean?

It could cause ruffled feathers on the other side if the other little girl wanted to wear hers. Me personally, I'd not care who wore what, but then I'm not doing the bridesmaids/flowergirl thing either, and would think it kinda cute. But I know my sisters for instance would feel strongly that its a bit weird. So it depends.

Memories! My friend was getting married back in the early 80s and money was extremely tight. Her little sister desperately wanted to be the flower girl, but funds were not there to get her a dress. She made her first communion the year before, in a full length dress, which of course a year later was no longer full length. We sewed a ruffle to the bottom to make it the right length, and voila! Flower girl dress!

We had to be inventive back then:)

Milly33 · 20-02-2015 8:07pm

Just incase anyone is looking for flower girls they had lovely little dresses in Pennys.. It is a tough call to make fits I don't envy it, but I am sure whatever ye say they will go with what ye say

lazygal · 20-02-2015 8:17pm

On the day I didn't notice who wore what. It was onto when I got some photo samples and the DVD that I realised several women wore white. I don't think anyone can upstage a bride, especially not a child in a communion dress. I don't see how you can micromanage people's choices and no matter how you word it it'll sound bridezilla like.
We had a black tie wedding, that said, and some men wore regular suits. Their choice.

Toots · 20-02-2015 9:09pm

What sort of communion dress is it?

Pistachios & cream · 20-02-2015 9:28pm

Fits when is your wedding? If its a while away this might sort itself.

The communion is probably only a couple of months away so the mum is probably doing loads of planning and this is one of the ideas she has. However a couple of months after the communion she would probably see that a kid at a wedding in a communion dress will look a bit silly.

Also if it's the simpler style and less communiony type dress then it could be fine with the addition of a cardigan and maybe a matching sash.

stinkle · 20-02-2015 9:30pm

My friend deliberately got married close to her son's communion cos he was growing like mad and they didnt want to buy two suits!

It's a difficult one fits, it could genuinely be a cost issue and the kid just REALLY wants to wear her dress again... in which case it'd be difficult to communicate without sounding bridezilla. It could genuinely be jsut that the kid is excited - my little sister used to insist on dressing up and posing for pics when the rest of us were going to debs and the like and gets mortified when we slag her over it now.

If the parents are being idiots and making a point about her not being a flowergirl or its just some silly attention-seeking stunt then they might be inclined to make a big deal of it if you bring it up and make you seem unreasonable. On the day no one will care what anyone else is wearing, especially you, you'll be having too much fun. and if they parade her around in a big flouncy dress and it's clear she isnt a part of bridal party then anyone with any sense will think theyre like the type who show up to weddings in wedding-y dresses and think theyre awful eejits indeed.

fits · 20-02-2015 10:09pm

Toots wrote: »

What sort of communion dress is it?

No idea. She hasnt made her communion yet although dress is bought. Mum and daughter both very excited about it of course. Im sure it will work out fine in the end.

Toots · 20-02-2015 11:38pm

TBH I think a lot of it depends on what the dress is actually like. I'm just thinking back to my own communion dress, which was very communion-y and there definitely wasn't any other occasion that it would have been wearable at. On the flip side, my cousin just had a plain white dress which was mid-calf length, and when our older cousin got married later that summer, her mum replaced the white ribbon/sash thing with a navy one and it was like a different dress.

I think if it's very communion-y, and as the wedding draws nearer if she's still planning on having the kid wear it, I'd ask your fiance to have a quiet word with her about it. Not because it'll 'detract' from you, but rather because the poor kid will probably look ridiculous. Particularly if there's a bit of a gap between your wedding and the communion.

LynnGrace · 21-02-2015 9:52am

Neyite wrote: »

My thinking on it is maybe the girl sees that dress as the prettiest thing she ever owned and felt like a princess in it, so following that logic, a child might want to wear her best dress to an important family occasion where her uncle is getting married. And currently, that's her best dress?

It may also be that they are trying to cut down on outfits costs for the family and if she wears that, they wont need to get her an outfit for the wedding.

It could cause ruffled feathers on the other side if the other little girl wanted to wear hers. Me personally, I'd not care who wore what, but then I'm not doing the bridesmaids/flowergirl thing either, and would think it kinda cute. But I know my sisters for instance would feel strongly that its a bit weird. So it depends.

+1.

I don't think it's worth risking any fall out over it, not saying that there would be, and you know the families concerned best.

You probably won't even notice it on the day. I think I'd say nothing. She might forget the idea if there is new gear being bought for siblings, and decide on something else.

LynnGrace · 21-02-2015 9:58am

stinkle wrote: »

It could genuinely be jsut that the kid is excited - my little sister used to insist on dressing up and posing for pics when the rest of us were going to debs and the like and gets mortified when we slag her over it now.

Aww

, that is so sweet stinkle!
I love the sheer innocence of something like that. (Don't ruin it now by telling me she was a teenager at the time)

Some kids then go through a phase of not wanting to be in photos, regardless of the occasion.

January · 21-02-2015 11:46am

LynnGrace wrote: »

Aww , that is so sweet stinkle!
I love the sheer innocence of something like that. (Don't ruin it now by telling me she was a teenager at the time)

Some kids then go through a phase of not wanting to be in photos, regardless of the occasion.

My three year old refused to turn around in any of our wedding photos. She is turned away in every single one of them.

LynnGrace · 21-02-2015 12:13pm

January wrote: »

My three year old refused to turn around in any of our wedding photos. She is turned away in every single one of them.

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Toots · 21-02-2015 1:21pm

January wrote: »

My three year old refused to turn around in any of our wedding photos. She is turned away in every single one of them.

Ooh you'll get great mileage slagging her about that when she's older! One of my sisters threw a wobbler on her communion day and decided that she hated her dress (she'd picked it herself, BTW) and in every single photo of her on the day she has a face like thunder! My mum eventually convinced her to put the dress back on a few weeks later so that she could take a few pics where she was actually smiling. We get a great laugh slagging her about it now.

fits · 21-02-2015 5:52pm

Sorted. My niece is going to wear hers too. Its short and simple so it'll be grand, and the other girl won't stick out so much whatever hers is like..

stinkle · 21-02-2015 10:48pm

LynnGrace wrote: »

Aww , that is so sweet stinkle!
I love the sheer innocence of something like that. (Don't ruin it now by telling me she was a teenager at the time)

Some kids then go through a phase of not wanting to be in photos, regardless of the occasion.

Bahaha she was 8 when she was at her worst. Some of those photos turned up recently, it's like she invented the photobomb! sis was trying to explain that she thought everyone got all dressed up and didnt see why she shouldnt join in and get pics taken!

Just remembered that I was so jealous when my older cousins and local kids made their communion (I was 3) and got to dress up that I sat wearing net curtains on my head for the day. Mam likes to remind me that Id been playing in the garden prior to that so was covered in muck as well and looked especially ridiculous. Brides beware if you have any mad kids in the family :pac:

tinkerbell · 25-02-2015 10:41am

Ha! Bridesmaid-gate or specific-gift-gate is mild in comparison to this! :eek:

In summary, guest tells Bridezilla they can't attend wedding on Saturday as their mum just died (on Monday) and Bridezilla posted a rant about it on facebook saying she still expected said guest to attend and if not, pay for their meal/reception drinks. Then guest's aunt saw the bridezilla rant and then proceeded to inform the bride by posting on bridezilla's facebook page that her fiancé was more than a little inappropriate with the stripper on his stag party.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2316632-to-laugh-at-this-second-hand-wedding-drama

I can't believe people like this exist and have people telling them that they are reasonable!

tinkerbell · 25-02-2015 10:52am

Oh and here's another gem! OP has had a crap year and just last week got hit by a van. She's now out of work while she recovers and needs Physio / surgery. Told her bridezilla friend she could no longer afford to attend her wedding abroad (pay for flights and accommodation and also guests expected to make a contribution towards the wedding cost itself!) and bridezilla went nuts saying the OP was attention seeking and causing her problems and could she not just suck it up and do this one favour for her !!

Unbelievable.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2317026-just-told-my-friend-to-f-off

Neyite · 25-02-2015 11:01am

Ooh I've added those to my watch list. I've a medical appointment later so those will keep me entertained in the waiting room!

I love mumsnet purely for the fact that they can swear on it. I've even gotten used to the acronyms and barely mind them anymore.

tinkerbell · 25-02-2015 11:05am

Neyite - it's hilarious! There are some real gems on it. They love a good parking issues thread over there :pac: The acronyms are crazy, there's a parking thread on there and in it there's NAR, FONAR, NDR (neighbour across road, friend of neighbour across road, next door neighbour). Tis nuts!

Milly33 · 25-02-2015 11:32am

Dear lord what a I cant think of a word bint maybe.. It is like one of those American bridal shows. I stick them on mostly to laugh at them, Bridezilla that's it, jes there was one women there who just like thought everything including god and the world revolved around her and no one told her it didn't..She even threw out her sisters school books because she said she wanted to study..

I hate those acronym haha I still get confused with MUA..I had to google that one and still I have to wait for the brian to click in before I get it...

Neyite · 25-02-2015 11:35am

tinkerbell wrote: »

Neyite - it's hilarious! There are some real gems on it. They love a good parking issues thread over there :pac: The acronyms are crazy, there's a parking thread on there and in it there's NAR, FONAR, NDR (neighbour across road, friend of neighbour across road, next door neighbour). Tis nuts!

That was an excellent thread. Go NAR!

LynnGrace · 25-02-2015 11:45am

Yes, I enjoyed that parking one with NAR, FONAR etc.
I saw one of the wedding ones yesterday, but have to read them yet.

Esterhase · 25-02-2015 2:32pm

I love the sheer up-herself-ness of the 'zilla in the strippergate thread with the bereaved guest! How anyone can be so callous towards a grieving person is beyond me. And everyone on FB pandering to her nonsense is just as bad! Very sad to see other mumsnet posters with similar stories.

As an aside, surely breakfast favours can't be a thing now can they...? Is a wedding breakfast a big deal in the states?

rainbow kirby · 25-02-2015 2:47pm

Wedding breakfast is the name given by Brits to the main wedding meal, Mumsnet HQ is in Kentish Town, just down the road from me.

Milly33 · 25-02-2015 2:54pm

Ah really that is an odd one..I always thought they meant breakfeast or like early lunch

rainbow kirby · 25-02-2015 2:56pm

Confused the crap out of me too when we looked at some wedding venues on this side!

Toots · 25-02-2015 3:26pm

I think this site was mentioned in one of those mumsnet threads, but if you haven't seen it, it's gold! Stumbled across it when I googled wedding etiquette while planning my own wedding. Hours of entertainment!

http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/weddingsfhell/weddingfromhell.shtml

liz lemoncello · 25-02-2015 7:42pm

tinkerbell wrote: »

Oh and here's another gem! OP has had a crap year and just last week got hit by a van. She's now out of work while she recovers and needs Physio / surgery. Told her bridezilla friend she could no longer afford to attend her wedding abroad (pay for flights and accommodation and also guests expected to make a contribution towards the wedding cost itself!) and bridezilla went nuts saying the OP was attention seeking and causing her problems and could she not just suck it up and do this one favour for her !!

Unbelievable.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2317026-just-told-my-friend-to-f-off

An update on that thread:

....friend called round at my house this morning as DH was getting ready for work and asked DH if he knew what had happened (he had because I texted him about it) and apparently she then asked him if he could work more hours so we could still sub their wedding costs as a lot of the other guests were a bit put out at having to sub the couple more money and some of them had already payed.
DH said sorry but no he couldn't work anymore.

:eek:

Regarding the wedding breakfast: I believe the BZ (Bridezilla, in mumsnet-speak) is having a wedding breakfast on the morning of the big day, before the ceremony. One poster has clarified this.

There are a lot of wedding posts on there lately. More than one of them refer to guests contributing to the cost of a destination wedding. Can anyone clarify how this actually works, normally? Do the guests get a cheaper rate because they are a group? Do the hosts, (B&G) subsidize the guests costs? Or, are the guests, actually covering the costs of the whole thing?

LynnGrace · 25-02-2015 7:49pm

I wonder is that MN ^^ thread for real. The OP seems to drop back in every so often with another juicy titbit guaranteed to get more outrage going.:pac:

LynnGrace · 25-02-2015 7:53pm

Toots wrote: »

I think this site was mentioned in one of those mumsnet threads, but if you haven't seen it, it's gold! Stumbled across it when I googled wedding etiquette while planning my own wedding. Hours of entertainment!

http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/weddingsfhell/weddingfromhell.shtml

Oh dear, this will keep me occupied for the evening

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ABajaninCork · 25-02-2015 8:29pm

tinkerbell wrote: »

Oh and here's another gem! OP has had a crap year and just last week got hit by a van. She's now out of work while she recovers and needs Physio / surgery. Told her bridezilla friend she could no longer afford to attend her wedding abroad (pay for flights and accommodation and also guests expected to make a contribution towards the wedding cost itself!) and bridezilla went nuts saying the OP was attention seeking and causing her problems and could she not just suck it up and do this one favour for her !!

Unbelievable.

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2317026-just-told-my-friend-to-f-off

Hahahahaha. I read one reply which suggested giving the bride some Canasten as she was an irritating cnut. I laughed so bad, I spat my cranberry juice out!!!

Those women are bat**** crazy!!

tinkerbell · 25-02-2015 10:31pm

ABajaninCork wrote: »

Hahahahaha. I read one reply which suggested giving the bride some Canasten as she was an irritating cnut. I laughed so bad, I spat my cranberry juice out!!! Those women are bat**** crazy!!

ahahahahahahha!!!! ROFLMFAO!!!!

I actually can't stop laughing at that canestan comment.

God I'm loving Mumsnet. I'd never gone on there until I read about the whole AIBU thing on here and then Toots losing the plot / threatening to ban people over people using that acronym!! :pac:

The whole AIBU forum is just epic, and the responses are just too much! I think like Neyite says, the fact that they can use swear words just adds to the outrage they feel :pac:

Liz limoncello- thanks for that! I hadn't seen that update. Unbelievable! I thank whoever invented all bridezillas as it provides so much entertainment for us bystanders (different story though if you're on the receiving end of it ha ha!!)

Toots - that etiquette hell page is just INSANE!!! Love it!!

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