General Chat Thread (PLEASE READ POST #1)

Toots · 29-01-2015 1:39pm #1

Hi folks!

Myself and iguana thought it would be a good idea to start a general chat thread in the forum. There can often be a lot of chat on threads, which can sometimes send things off on a bit of a tangent away from the topic of the thread. This isn't a bad thing, but often if someone's posted looking for advice it can be a bit difficult for them to sift through all the chat.

At the moment, the idea is in 'Pilot Mode'. It works well in other forums, but we all know things can get a bit carried away here sometimes, so providing everyone plays nice, it's here to stay.

If the thing becomes one big bitch fest, and becomes a nightmare to moderate, we'll get rid of it.

The idea of the thread is that it's a friendly place for users to come and have a laugh or a general natter, without feeling intimidated. We don't want to be too rigid with rules, but in order to preserve the light-hearted nature of the thread there are a couple that we'll need to make clear:

The forum Charter, and the Boards.ie sitewide rules still apply to this thread.
There'll be zero tolerance on posters acting the dick in the thread. This includes, but is not limited to, being overly judge-y, thinly veiled digs at other posters, open digs at other posters, being bitchy or nasty in general. Basically, the best thing to do is stop and think "If this post was addressed to, or written about me, would I be happy about seeing it?" if the answer is no, then don't post it.
If you're posting a link to something that might not be suitable to be viewed in the workplace, please make sure and warn that it's NSFW.
If you see a post that goes against the above, please PLEASE use the Report Post button. We'd really appreciate it!

So without further ado, let me introduce you to our new general chat thread; The General Chat Thread!! (It took us hours to come up with the name! :pac:)

So basically anyone who wants to talk about stuff that's very loosely related to weddings (or any old random stuff really) come on down and post here! Also, if a thread is getting very cluttered up with chat, we'll just move the posts here, so the discussion can continue without derailing the other thread.

Happy chatting!

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 1:49pm

Great idea!! Thank ye

Dolbert · 29-01-2015 1:49pm

Way hey! I love how normal the posters are here compared to certain other corners of the internet

Toots · 29-01-2015 1:56pm

Dolbert wrote: »

Way hey! I love how normal the posters are here compared to certain other corners of the internet

Yeah, that's true! Curiosity got the better of me last night and I read that mumsnet thread. The highlights for me were:

Bridesmaid's +1 was revoked, she can have it back if she's in a relationship by the time the wedding rolls around, providing her OH passes some sort of arbitrary bridal screening test.
Bride hasn't slept with her hubby-to-be for 'a long time' although, she says she'll do him before the wedding, cos they want kids soon, and she doesn't want him to think he's just getting the ride for procreation purposes.
Marryoke - Fcuk. Right. Off.
Bride wants the groom to stand outside her bedroom window on the night before the wedding, holding up cardboard declarations of love a la "Love Actually"

Neyite · 29-01-2015 2:27pm

you forgot: He isnt allowed to look around in the Church because she wants him to hear the audience congregation 'gasp' when she walks in. My fave response to that one was:

'Why? Will she be naked?':)

Its actually sadder than Bridezilla. Its a total fabrication of a relationship that is an utter fantasy, and that is only going to end one way. Its all about the wedding with precious little thought to an actual marriage.

Toots · 29-01-2015 2:30pm

It'll be gasps of "Oh my god, she's coming! He can't run away now!"

fits · 29-01-2015 3:17pm

Can we link to loopy threads in other forums cos i really have seen some crackers on that american one [/bold fits]

29-01-2015 3:35pm

fits wrote: »

Can we link to loopy threads in other forums cos i really have seen some crackers on that american one [/bold fits]

Oh, please, please, pleeease! I really need to see this:

Toots wrote: »

Bride wants the groom to stand outside her bedroom window on the night before the wedding, holding up cardboard declarations of love a la "Love Actually"

tinkerbell · 29-01-2015 3:49pm

Oh please allow linkage!!! That mumsnet thread was pure gold! :pac:

XxMCRxBabyxX · 29-01-2015 4:10pm

I'm nowhere near marriage but can I follow this just to find some great crazy brides reading material? This forum has provided plenty of gold in the past!

MistyCheese · 29-01-2015 4:36pm

I wonder if the reason that mumsnet bride and her hostage husband haven't had relations in a while is because she's doing that thing, that no-sex-till-the-wedding-so-our -wedding-night-will-be-super-awesome thing. Possibly not though as didn't she also say something to the tune of "but we'll do it after the wedding because we want kids".

So another theory is maybe she's recently become super religious and believes in sex-for-procreation-ONLY. If the wedding is on a Friday and they are serving meat them that's that theory gone too.

LynnGrace · 29-01-2015 6:05pm

I admit I'm slightly addicted to mumsnet

, despite the acronyms

.

It can often yield good bridezilla threads. There was a similar-ish one not too long ago, but not as extreme, in terms of the money involved, or gasps being required when the bride walked down the aisle.

allym · 29-01-2015 6:26pm

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

I'm nowhere near marriage but can I follow this just to find some great crazy brides reading material? This forum has provided plenty of gold in the past!

I'm right there with ya! Endless gold from those threads.

January · 29-01-2015 9:22pm

Someone please link the mumsnet threads.

I think it's also good to note that the two most recent mega threads on the Weddings forum here have been linked in other forums for people to have a good look at.

ShazGV · 29-01-2015 9:37pm

XxMCRxBabyxX wrote: »

I'm nowhere near marriage but can I follow this just to find some great crazy brides reading material? This forum has provided plenty of gold in the past!

Ditto! Not gonna lie, this is one of my favourite forums.

liz lemoncello · 29-01-2015 10:06pm

ShazGV wrote: »

Ditto! Not gonna lie, this is one of my favourite forums.

It's good to see that I'm not alone.

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 10:24pm

A question how would you say like kids on the rsvp and no.. Done up a test invite and had Kids No. and a space but it looks weird

January · 29-01-2015 10:39pm

As in number of kids? Or No Kids?

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 10:42pm

number of kids. I want to invite them but then you would be writing names on the invites forever. So was just thinking of putting something on the rsvp but we would need to know how many would be going

January · 29-01-2015 10:45pm

I'd put on your invite

'Children of guests are welcome to attend, please state on the RSVP if your children will be attending'

And then on the RSVP have the space for attending Yes/No and then

'No. of Children attending with you' and a box for a number.

Toots · 29-01-2015 11:02pm

It's ok if people want to link the other threads.

Milly33 · 29-01-2015 11:04pm

January wrote: »

I'd put on your invite

'Children of guests are welcome to attend, please state on the RSVP if your children will be attending'

And then on the RSVP have the space for attending Yes/No and then

'No. of Children attending with you' and a box for a number.[/QUOTE

It just seems like a lot of extra wording on the invite..was hoping to get lets say a neater way of doing it, if we were caught for space

ShazGV · 29-01-2015 11:12pm

Maybe on the invite 'John & Mary Smith + family', then on the RSVP a space for them to write their names with 'No. of Children' underneath?

Faith · 29-01-2015 11:35pm

I'd address them as "Smith family" and then have " __ of __ attending", where you'd fill in the total number invited and they'd fill in the number attending. So you'd send it out as "__ of 5 attending", and they'd send it back as "0/1/2/3/4/5 of 5 attending"?

Toots · 30-01-2015 3:06am

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2930468/A-ring-bearer-defecating-aisle-usher-passing-altar-song-testicles-dance-Wedding-guests-share-worst-nuptials-time.html

This was a bit of a laugh! Number one must have either had balls of steel, or was very stupid indeed!

jaja321 · 30-01-2015 6:04am

Out of curiosity, what's the average people spend on a honeymoon? I know it's kinda like asking how long is a piece of string..but on average for say a 2-3 week long haul destination.

tinkerbell · 30-01-2015 10:09am

jaja321 wrote: »

Out of curiosity, what's the average people spend on a honeymoon? I know it's kinda like asking how long is a piece of string..but on average for say a 2-3 week long haul destination.

It's kind of a pointless question really .... It depends on your finances. Some can only afford €50 a night, others spend €200 a night and then others can afford to spend €1000 a night. Whatever you can afford is the answer to your question, I don't see the relevance in what other people spend tbh.

jaja321 · 30-01-2015 10:12am

tinkerbell wrote: »

It's kind of a pointless question really .... It depends on your finances. Some can only afford €50 a night, others spend €200 a night and then others can afford to spend €1000 a night. Whatever you can afford is the answer to your question, I don't see the relevance in what other people spend tbh.

As I said - just curious.

tinkerbell · 30-01-2015 10:19am

Toots wrote: »

It's ok if people want to link the other threads.

Woohoo!!

The bridesmaid who had already had to spend £1500 and was then asked to pay another £40 for a goody bag for the bride, crazy thread:

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a2291570-To-have-another-rant-about-friends-wedding

Groomzilla who wanted to charge the bridesmaids for the free rooms they were getting to make money back (hotel made a mistake and gave more free rooms than they were supposed to) and wasn't charging the best men anything for the rooms:

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2098691-Bridesmaid-asked-to-pay-for-free-room

XxMCRxBabyxX · 30-01-2015 12:34pm

Toots wrote: »

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2930468/A-ring-bearer-defecating-aisle-usher-passing-altar-song-testicles-dance-Wedding-guests-share-worst-nuptials-time.html

This was a bit of a laugh! Number one must have either had balls of steel, or was very stupid indeed!

Or got the bride in on it for a great money maker! ;-)

Milly33 · 30-01-2015 12:39pm

thanks for the tips ladies on the kids number..

tinkerbell · 30-01-2015 12:58pm

Some more epic wedding-zilla threads:

Toilet paper gate:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/wedding-toilet-paper-t104582.html

Cupcake gate:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/would-you-think-this-is-cheap-t116760.html

Turkey and Ham gate:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/turkey-ham-cheap-t149887.html

Neyite · 30-01-2015 1:55pm

This reddit thread will keep me going over the weekend...

Abrean · 30-01-2015 2:01pm

This is my favourite thread ever! Seriously don't know how I'm going to get any work done with so much reading to do!

pooch90 · 30-01-2015 6:51pm

tinkerbell wrote: »

Some more epic wedding-zilla threads:

Toilet paper gate:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/wedding-toilet-paper-t104582.html

Cupcake gate:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/would-you-think-this-is-cheap-t116760.html

Turkey and Ham gate:
http://www.weddingsonline.ie/discussion/turkey-ham-cheap-t149887.html

I'm working my way through these, enough to fill an evening!!
Never realised WOL used to be so bitchy, wish I was on it then!

Toots · 30-01-2015 7:36pm

Neyite wrote: »

This reddit thread will keep me going over the weekend...

Dear god! Some of those make cheapskategate look like an elegant soiree!

liz lemoncello · 30-01-2015 8:34pm

tinkerbell wrote: »

Woohoo!!

The bridesmaid who had already had to spend £1500 and was then asked to pay another £40 for a goody bag for the bride, crazy thread:

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a2291570-To-have-another-rant-about-friends-wedding

Groomzilla who wanted to charge the bridesmaids for the free rooms they were getting to make money back (hotel made a mistake and gave more free rooms than they were supposed to) and wasn't charging the best men anything for the rooms:

http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2098691-Bridesmaid-asked-to-pay-for-free-room

Am I being unreasonable (see what I did, there?

) to think that most of the threads on the AIBU board sound kind of whiney? I blame the board title itself as most posts are written in a very defensive manner, even ones where I agree with the OP.

LynnGrace · 31-01-2015 1:09pm

liz lemoncello wrote: »

Am I being unreasonable (see what I did, there? ) to think that most of the threads on the AIBU board sound kind of whiney? I blame the board title itself as most posts are written in a very defensive manner, even ones where I agree with the OP.

They can be very entertaining, but sometimes a bit annoying because no matter what anyone says, e.g in ones where the bridesmaids are spending loads of money, you just know they are going to do nothing except gripe, on the internet, but never actually say anything, to the bride.

There was a great (non wedding) one a while back, but the poster eventually tied herself in knots. She couldn't resist coming back to gild the story a bit further. It got deleted, in the end, but it was good while it lasted.

fits · 31-01-2015 4:22pm

This is a good one from a few months back about someone agonising for one year about changing their massive Cartier ring to an almost identical massive tiffany ring...

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-change-my-engagement-ring/

jaja321 · 31-01-2015 4:26pm

fits wrote: »

This is a good one from a few months back about someone agonising for one year about changing their massive Cartier ring to an almost identical massive tiffany ring...

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/should-i-change-my-engagement-ring/

Oh my god, I didn't even realize this world exists! Completely nuts.

Toots · 31-01-2015 5:14pm

Knife edge, cathederal, wtf?? Seriously, though, a year later and wanting to change it is a bit mad. Although in fairness, any guy who's buying the ring before proposing should definitely check the store's return policy before forking out a wad of cash. Maybe the ring won't suit his intended, or worse yet, what if she says no!!

January · 31-01-2015 6:50pm

Did you see the price of the bloody ring?!

Neyite · 31-01-2015 9:30pm

That link is bringing me to the main page, not the thread. Can anyone repost another one.

tinkerbell · 31-01-2015 10:35pm

Neyite wrote: »

That link is bringing me to the main page, not the thread. Can anyone repost another one.

That is so strange .... I could see it earlier but not now? It's bringing me to the main page now too.

Toots · 31-01-2015 10:43pm

January wrote: »

Did you see the price of the bloody ring?!

How much are we talking?? I googled the name of the ring and it brought me to the Cartier website, which had a link where you contacted them to 'enquire about the price' so I reckon it's a buttload!

January · 31-01-2015 10:59pm

There's a range of them on ebay starting between 4,500 dollars and going up to 11,000 dollars.

This website has it priced at anything between €8,000 and €90,000 depending on the diamond :eek:

http://luxehighlife.com/jewellery/top-10-engagement-rings

fits · 31-01-2015 11:23pm

I think a post was deleted on there since but as far as I remember they stood to lose a lotta money.

Weird about the link not working... if you search for Cartier and tiffany and "should I change my engagement ring" you'll find.

Toots · 01-02-2015 2:23am

January wrote: »

There's a range of them on ebay starting between 4,500 dollars and going up to 11,000 dollars.

This website has it priced at anything between €8,000 and €90,000 depending on the diamond :eek:

http://luxehighlife.com/jewellery/top-10-engagement-rings

Holy crap!!! OK, I think the guy's not entirely blameless here, unless he's completely loaded, you don't go and drop that kind of moo on something you can't return.

On another note, OMgod the no.3 ring on that list is stunning!

fits · 01-02-2015 9:43am

Toots wrote: »

Holy crap!!! OK, I think the guy's not entirely blameless here, unless he's completely loaded, you don't go and drop that kind of moo on something you can't return.

On another note, OMgod the no.3 ring on that list is stunning!

They are completely loaded. But I agree. But if she didn't like it at the start... they should have changed it then. And I am sure it was returnable.

It just confuses me cos the two rings look exactly the same to my eye and only a jeweller would notice the difference.

tinkerbell · 01-02-2015 10:18am

fits wrote: »

They are completely loaded. But I agree. But if she didn't like it at the start... they should have changed it then. And I am sure it was returnable.

It just confuses me cos the two rings look exactly the same to my eye and only a jeweller would notice the difference.

No they are actually quite a bit different - there was also a comparison pic on that thread when I saw it yesterday. The T&C ring has a 6 prong setting, the 1895 ring has a 4 prong setting

LynnGrace · 01-02-2015 10:53am

Toots wrote: »

Holy crap!!! OK, I think the guy's not entirely blameless here, unless he's completely loaded, you don't go and drop that kind of moo on something you can't return.

On another note, OMgod the no.3 ring on that list is stunning!

My eyes were out on stalks, looking at those...not even so much at the rings, as the prices! 46k! 90k! I was trying (and failing) to imagine going around every day with something that cost so much, on my hand

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General Chat Thread (PLEASE READ POST #1)

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