The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

The Big Red Button · 02-02-2012 9:24am

Dravokivich wrote: »

Guys don't like to be called cute.

I'm from Sligo. It's different to Dublin meaning!

missbelle · 02-02-2012 9:54am

mood wrote: »

Some people just don't have the time. And I've gotten abuse and pestered for sending a polite no thanks. I'm sure some guys have had the same experience.

Overall though, it is politer to just reply saying thanks but no thanks, you're not my type. I've ignored a few people who've messaged me, and they continued to message me, so I had to mail them to put them out of their misery

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 9:56am

Couldn't just block'em no?

stargazer 68 · 02-02-2012 10:16am

missbelle wrote: »

Overall though, it is politer to just reply saying thanks but no thanks, you're not my type. I've ignored a few people who've messaged me, and they continued to message me, so I had to mail them to put them out of their misery

Some of them men creatures are persistent little buggers! :rolleyes:

Itwasntme. · 02-02-2012 10:16am

Dravokivich wrote: »

Guys don't like to be called cute.

In a message:

me: You're cute
him: I choose to take that as a compliment.

So yeah, why are guys iffy about cute. Cute is a good thing- where I am from at least. What's the Dublin meaning that Chaterpillar is talking about?

Maguined · 02-02-2012 10:26am

Itwasntme. wrote: »

In a message:

me: You're cute
him: I choose to take that as a compliment.

So yeah, why are guys iffy about cute. Cute is a good thing- where I am from at least. What's the Dublin meaning that Chaterpillar is talking about?

Cute often gets used by girls to describe men they are not attracted to in a relationship way, they say the guy is cute like a little brother or good friend relationship. If a guy is attractive to a woman they are more likely to be called handsome or good looking rather than cute.

That's the generalisation anyway. One step up from cute is adorable, worst thing to hear from a woman you are interested in.

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 10:55am

Maguined wrote: »

Cute often gets used by girls to describe men they are not attracted to in a relationship way, they say the guy is cute like a little brother or good friend relationship. If a guy is attractive to a woman they are more likely to be called handsome or good looking rather than cute.

That's the generalisation anyway. One step up from cute is adorable, worst thing to hear from a woman you are interested in.

I was thinking it's a very feminin type of compliment more so.

Pembily · 02-02-2012 11:05am

I've a very bad habit of saying guys are pretty

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 11:11am

Pembily wrote: »

I've a very bad habit of saying guys are pretty

I'm not too sure which'll be worse

Just don't use'em together :pac:

Itwasntme. · 02-02-2012 11:51am

Dravokivich wrote: »

I was thinking it's a very feminin type of compliment more so.

Feminine is good. Dudes need to connect more with their feminine anyway.

Pembily wrote: »

I've a very bad habit of saying guys are pretty

Although I don't think it's a bad habit. I think guys should appreciate and even own this- it makes you more 'relatable'.

Maguined · 02-02-2012 11:59am

Itwasntme. wrote: »

Feminine is good. Dudes need to connect more with their feminine anyway.

Although I don't think it's a bad habit. I think guys should appreciate and even own this- it makes you more 'relatable'.

Don't want to start a war on this thread but any woman I have ever met that says guys need to connect with their feminine side I have always found they eventually dumped their boyfriends for not being "man enough". Be careful what you wish for! :P

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 12:01pm

Itwasntme. wrote: »

Feminine is good. Dudes need to connect more with their feminine anyway.

I'll let a woman have a feminine side and I'll connect with that thank you very much.

kingtut · 02-02-2012 1:14pm

I asked her on a second date ..... she said yes

stargazer 68 · 02-02-2012 1:20pm

kingtut wrote: »

I asked her on a second date ..... she said yes

Woohoo go you!!

The Big Red Button · 02-02-2012 2:18pm

Itwasntme. wrote: »

In a message:

me: You're cute
him: I choose to take that as a compliment.

So yeah, why are guys iffy about cute. Cute is a good thing- where I am from at least. What's the Dublin meaning that Chaterpillar is talking about?

Maguined wrote: »

Cute often gets used by girls to describe men they are not attracted to in a relationship way, they say the guy is cute like a little brother or good friend relationship. If a guy is attractive to a woman they are more likely to be called handsome or good looking rather than cute.

That's the generalisation anyway. One step up from cute is adorable, worst thing to hear from a woman you are interested in.

OK well "adorable" is definitely friend-zone territory!

I think that maybe the Dublin - well, Irish - meaning of cute, is similar to "adorable" - cute like a puppy dog! I don't mean it that way though, if I describe someone as cute, it means I think they're hot/rideable/yummy/etc. :pac:

ardmacha · 02-02-2012 2:24pm

if I describe someone as cute, it means I think they're hot/rideable/yummy/etc

So if Jackie Healy-Rae is a cute Kerry hoor, then you think he is hot/rideable/yummy or is this an etc?

missbelle · 02-02-2012 2:25pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

Couldn't just block'em no?

Hm never thought of that - very direct way that of letting someone know I'm not interested

missbelle · 02-02-2012 2:26pm

chatterpillar wrote: »

I don't mean it that way though, if I describe someone as cute, it means I think they're hot/rideable/yummy/etc. :pac:

Me too! I tell guys they are cute, means I like them, but am too shy to say they're gorgeous or gimme butterflies in the tummy feeling

I'm a shy girl around guys I fancy :P

The Big Red Button · 02-02-2012 2:34pm

ardmacha wrote: »

So if Jackie Healy-Rae is a cute Kerry hoor, then you think he is hot/rideable/yummy or is this an etc?

Jackie Healy-Rae is certainly cute, but definitely falls into the "etc" category of the definition! :pac:

missbelle wrote: »

Me too! I tell guys they are cute, means I like them, but am too shy to say they're gorgeous or gimme butterflies in the tummy feeling
I'm a shy girl around guys I fancy :P

God, this shyness thing, I really need to learn it! I really don't know how to be shy ... I have no shame! If I fancy a guy, he knows it!

awec · 02-02-2012 2:54pm

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Panthro · 02-02-2012 2:54pm

A girl messaged me "Hi how u"
That doesn't usually warrent a response from me, I had a look at her profile anyways. My god but some people need a good shake sometimes!
First off..txt spk..she's mid 20's, grow up.
Second off, (now bear in mind it was written in txt spk but this is pretty much what I could make out)..she wants someone to be with her all the time and when he is not with her, to be emailing and texting her, and wait for it...thinking about her when she's not with him.
I mean for effs sake, Needy MacNeedyson! "G'wan out of that" says I..to aul Mr Brennan..(rant)

missbelle · 02-02-2012 2:56pm

chatterpillar wrote: »

God, this shyness thing, I really need to learn it! I really don't know how to be shy ... I have no shame! If I fancy a guy, he knows it!

Ah no, you're just right, I think I'm just afraid of rejection or being laughed at, even if it's plainly obvious they like me too! I guess my body language would give off signals though.. Sometimes after they hold my hand or kiss me I tell them...

missbelle · 02-02-2012 2:58pm

awec wrote: »

:eek::eek: :pac:

What?

I sometimes do just mean they are cute, nothing more! I meant if I'm with someone in person, not over messages!

awec · 02-02-2012 3:29pm

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andreac · 02-02-2012 3:34pm

Oh for gods sake, just got another mad message...:rolleyes:

OMG!!!!! u r such an existing angel on earth, how are u? I liek ur pet, watz de name?
Hope u r taking gud care of it?

This time its from a guy in the USA.

missbelle · 02-02-2012 5:11pm

awec wrote: »

Ack you didn't get the in-joke.

When you were critiquing my okc for me you said my photo was "cute". :pac:

Haha yea I thought that when I was replying, I was thinking I'd said cute... it is cute, but I need an older man :cool:

Itwasntme. · 02-02-2012 6:26pm

Date moved to today. In a few hours to be exact. I don't really fancy the dude. He's funny and cool though so I thought, why not? Still, I am so effing nervous. :eek:

awec · 02-02-2012 6:31pm

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AnnyHallsal · 02-02-2012 8:35pm

This thread is awesome. Now could you all put links to your profiles in your sigs for the chronically curious lurkers among us? *Not me*

Explosions in the Sky · 02-02-2012 8:45pm

First profile view by a guy, is this normal

?

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 8:57pm

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

This thread is awesome. Now could you all put links to your profiles in your sigs for the chronically curious lurkers among us? *Not me*

If you want to check some of us out, just ask ;P

awec · 02-02-2012 9:03pm

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AnnyHallsal · 02-02-2012 9:18pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

If you want to check some of us out, just ask ;P

My boyfriend is surely already thinking: "Why does she spend so much time reading a thread about online dating?"

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 9:21pm

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

My boyfriend is surely already thinking: "Why does she spend so much time reading a thread about online dating?"

Well then its "Know your clubbers" for you as well so :P

awec · 02-02-2012 9:32pm

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Larianne · 02-02-2012 9:32pm

Itwasntme. wrote: »

Date moved to today. In a few hours to be exact. I don't really fancy the dude. He's funny and cool though so I thought, why not? Still, I am so effing nervous. :eek:

Bit late, but hope it goes well!!

Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 9:33pm

awec wrote: »

Does my picture still show in that thread? When I go to it I can't see it?

Yeap

timewilltell · 02-02-2012 9:36pm

I find it quite ironic that I'm writing a thesis based around love...

*Dips in to bucket of ice cream. Nom.

foxinsox · 02-02-2012 10:29pm

long time lurker

ok feck feck feck... I've done it..

I swore I'd never go back to it..

Just signed up again..

Jaysus here goes nothing and everything..

The fact that I'm a bit older makes it a bigger quagmire than for you youngsters..

Wish me luck and hope I can entertain you with my experiences..

I'm terrified already..

awec · 02-02-2012 10:31pm

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Dravokivich · 02-02-2012 10:32pm

foxinsox wrote: »

long time lurker

...first time caller?

:pac:

g'luck

awec · 02-02-2012 10:34pm

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foxinsox · 02-02-2012 10:38pm

OMG..

Ok forget this dating lark..

On the site I signed up to, first thing I spot is free download of retro games..

Sonic the Hedgehog :eek:

Men on site may have to wait for ravishing..

foxinsox · 02-02-2012 11:33pm

Apologies for double post..

But..

Only one hour in and I got me some winners :rolleyes:

"hello!! princes!how are you doing?"

princes ????????????

20yr old from Spain

64yr old from Oz

53yr old from UK

28yr old from Waterford

19yr old from Laois

58yr old from Germany

DerekDGoldfish · 03-02-2012 12:36am

Explosions in the Sky wrote: »

First profile view by a guy, is this normal ?

Only your first? Dispite only seeking women I get about one e-mail a month or so from guys looking for "straight" guys because its more fun which is pretty weird when you think about it.

03-02-2012 12:40am

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

My boyfriend is surely already thinking: "Why does she spend so much time reading a thread about online dating?"

Aaaannd cue a load of guys staring disappointingly at their screens.

I see OKCupid has changed their site a lot. Apparently I get 13 views a week. Not bad, I guess, considering I barely go on there now.

Itwasntme. · 03-02-2012 2:10am

Just got back from the date. He was exactly what I expected. Funny and cool and I still don't fancy him. :-( Now I don't know what to do. He was so nice and when he asked me if I wanted to go out again, I said yes.

He was so nice- I couldn't say no. Now I feel like a ****ty person.

KamiKazeKitten · 03-02-2012 2:35am

Itwasntme. wrote: »

Just got back from the date. He was exactly what I expected. Funny and cool and I still don't fancy him. :-( Now I don't know what to do. He was so nice and when he asked me if I wanted to go out again, I said yes. He was so nice- I couldn't say no. Now I feel like a ****ty person.

Imo I wouldn't go out with him again, it's not fair to string him along I think. Not your fault if you don't fancy him though!

I hate being asked that at the end of dates though, I mean you sort of have to say yes then don't you?
(Or at least if you're cowardly like me you do... :rolleyes: )

awec · 03-02-2012 2:37am

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GrumPy · 03-02-2012 9:26am

awec wrote: »

Puts you on the spot a bit. Would ask in a text later / the next day.

Definitely! would be unfair to ask them on the spot at the end of the date imo.

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