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09-08-2019, 23:06   #1
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'Hey Buddy'

So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago. One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! Does anyone find this annoying?

The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.

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So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago.

One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.
Is he the bloke who eats toilet roll ?
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Keith calls everyone that, you’re really not that special to him.
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I'm not your buddy mate
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He's nuthin but a snake Hun
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I'm not your buddy mate
I’m not your mate pal
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You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.
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You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.
I knew it.
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You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.
Online maybe,but in the real world it pretty harmless,bud.
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Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.
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Chummy chums are such a drag.
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Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.
Great advice there pal.
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I’m not your mate pal
I'm not your pal, chum.
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I’m not your mate pal
He's not your pal, fweind
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Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car
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