After how long with zero success should I delete my pic profile

#1 · 17-06-2021 9:40pm #1

I've been on plenty of fish for many months and have had zero success.
No views, no conversations, nothing.
I tried putting up a photo, deleting my photo etc.
How long with no activity or success whatsoever is long enough to say screw it this is useless it's time to delete this?
I'm a male by the way so looking for answers from a male perspective.

FanadMan · 17-06-2021 10:04pm

POF is crap unless you state that you are tall, handsome and extremely rich.

jimjangles · 17-06-2021 10:10pm

FanadMan wrote: »

POF is crap unless you state that you are tall, handsome and extremely rich.

Ok that would be zero out of three.

corner of hells · 17-06-2021 10:13pm

jimjangles wrote: »

Ok that would be zero out of three.

Be creative, say that you're married in your profile.

SpitfireIV · 17-06-2021 10:16pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I've been on plenty of fish for many months and have had zero success.
No views, no conversations, nothing.
I tried putting up a photo, deleting my photo etc.
How long with no activity or success whatsoever is long enough to say screw it this is useless it's time to delete this?
I'm a male by the way so looking for answers from a male perspective.

Now would be my advice! Get out into the real world, join a club, society, group whatever, expand your social circle* Plenty of Fish?! Plenty of Pish! It's a waste of time....

*Please adhere to government guidelines and maintain a two metre social distance and wear a mask when in crowded areas or indoors. Terms and conditions apply if you do not keep up your payments you may lose your home.

17-06-2021 10:17pm

Have you messaged many people?

jimjangles · 17-06-2021 10:19pm

SpitfireIV wrote: »

Now would be my advice! Get out into the real world, join a club, society, group whatever, expand your social circle* Plenty of Fish?! Plenty of Pish! It's a waste of time....

*Please adhere to government guidelines and maintain a two metre social distance and wear a mask when in crowded areas or indoors.

I can't I live in a rural area where there's nothing to do unless you're a footballer.

mikemac2 · 17-06-2021 10:23pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I can't I live in a rural area where there's nothing to do unless you're a footballer.

Macra na Feirme?

Have you land with good drainage? Much road frontage with full planning permission?

SpitfireIV · 17-06-2021 10:23pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I can't I live in a rural area where there's nothing to do unless you're a footballer.

Ah that could be a problem alright. Seriously though, been there done that whatever women are on that are constantly being bombarded with messages, even if you are lucky enough to get through they'll likely drop you as soon as some other potential stud comes along. It's all very superficial and false.

Roger Mellie Man on the Telly · 17-06-2021 10:25pm

Just give up and accept that you're repulsive. It's a relief and you'll be able to get on with your life.

17-06-2021 10:25pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I've been on plenty of fish for many months and have had zero success.
No views, no conversations, nothing.
I tried putting up a photo, deleting my photo etc.
How long with no activity or success whatsoever is long enough to say screw it this is useless it's time to delete this?
I'm a male by the way so looking for answers from a male perspective.

If its getting ya down,pull the plug imo

Hardly worth it like??

Potatopie · 17-06-2021 10:29pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I've been on plenty of fish for many months and have had zero success.
No views, no conversations, nothing.
I tried putting up a photo, deleting my photo etc.
How long with no activity or success whatsoever is long enough to say screw it this is useless it's time to delete this?
I'm a male by the way so looking for answers from a male perspective.

Have you tried adding a few more photos. Ladies like to get a good idea of who they are messaging.
Do you have any info in the bio?
You need to reel'em in

jimjangles · 17-06-2021 10:35pm

[Deleted User] wrote: »

If its getting ya down,pull the plug imo

Hardly worth it like??

Yep probably will

FanadMan · 17-06-2021 10:35pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I can't I live in a rural area where there's nothing to do unless you're a footballer.

I'm very rural as well and found most of the dating sites terrible. But did manage to meet someone very nice on Facebook Dating. We first made contact during lockdown and didn't meet till about 4 months later. Think that really did make a difference as we got to know each other via whatsapp.

Quantum Erasure · 18-06-2021 12:13am

mikemac2 wrote: »

Macra na Feirme?

Have you land with good drainage? Much road frontage with full planning permission?

Two outta three ain't bad

FFVII · 18-06-2021 12:56am

3.5 years on them apps. Got nowhere.

Women on there are the worst.

They want BMW, house, 6ft etc.

All they have is some other fellas kid.

You talk for a few weeks and then you realise shes talking to 4 others.

Most on there are on there for a reason. That reason reveals itself pretty quickly.

And you know yourself why you are there.

Burt Renaults · 18-06-2021 1:10am

Try Tinder or Bumble instead. I had way more success on those sites than on Plenty of Fish. But bear in mind what others have said: women are bad. They want all sorts of unreasonable stuff and it's entirely their fault when I turn out not to be what they're looking for.

Morby · 18-06-2021 1:34am

Have you got a female friend you can send your profile onto so they can give you some pointers?

18-06-2021 2:12am

Save your money. Fly somewhere with a good exchange rate. Pick a pricey hotel near the beach and sit at the bar. Better odds.

Just put it to one side, and build your balance.
Dont even engage in the nonsense that goes on here.

Ubbquittious · 18-06-2021 2:23am

Get rid of all your pics, delete account and make a fresh new one with all new pics every 3-6 months

The Mighty Quinn · 18-06-2021 11:06am

Haven't used apps since 2014. I met my now wife on POF. It used to be an absolute sh*tshow of an app, I probably went on first dates with 30 women I met on it, maybe second dates with 15.

Talked to about 200 women, painful.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 2:09pm

I tried Tinder before and eliminated all the women on it within a few days.
I got rejected by everyone.
I don't know anything about Bumble but I doubt it's any use either.
I'm going to give up.
There's no decent woman out there for me.
This is over.

YellowLead · 29-06-2021 2:12pm

Try hinge as well. In fact be on a few apps and out the time in, it’s time consuming but worth it. An engaging bio and interesting photos that paint you in your best light will help. It’s amazing how bad some peoples profiles are yet they themselves are attractive physically and mentally. I second the advice to show profile to female friend who is on apps and see what they say.

silverharp · 29-06-2021 2:18pm

FFVII wrote: »

3.5 years on them apps. Got nowhere.

Women on there are the worst.

They want BMW, house, 6ft etc.

All they have is some other fellas kid.

You talk for a few weeks and then you realise shes talking to 4 others.

Most on there are on there for a reason. That reason reveals itself pretty quickly.

And you know yourself why you are there.

is requiring a height a thing on these sites? I hope you asked about their weight in response?

B.A._Baracus · 29-06-2021 2:40pm

I've known many people who've used pof over the years. Their response is always the same:

Man:
Joins pof and sends out 200 mails, lucky to get one reply.

Woman:
Joins pof and within 10 minutes gets a dozen mails.

Pof is all bollocks. If you can manage to swim past all the bs that comes with it, such as people saying they are not looking for sex but they are, the head bangers, the serial daters, the users who just want a free night out etc etc etc. Yes, maybe if you keep trying you can find that special someone and get off the bloody thing.

kowloon · 29-06-2021 2:49pm

silverharp wrote: »

is requiring a height a thing on these sites? I hope you asked about their weight in response?

I seem to remember Bumble having it as one of the very few bits written on your profile. That app is tailored for women to choose so it's a little different. I'm not sure if it was a thing on PoF.

ShatterAlan · 29-06-2021 3:21pm

FanadMan wrote: »

I'm very rural as well and found most of the dating sites terrible. But did manage to meet someone very nice on Facebook Dating. We first made contact during lockdown and didn't meet till about 4 months later. Think that really did make a difference as we got to know each other via whatsapp.

So......?

Have you thrown her on the bed and drilled right down to the mattress yet?

razorblunt · 29-06-2021 3:24pm

Keep the picture. Change your head.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 3:36pm

It's going to be the same sh1t no matter what you try anyway.
Women are selfish and ignorant and lousy and don't care and men flood all these apps.
Online dating is a con to make fools of ordinary men.
I give up on it all it's a waste of time.
I know I'll never find anyone online or offline but I have to just put up with that.

gsi300024v · 29-06-2021 3:48pm

Women are selfish and ignorant and lousy. THIS
This probably comes across in your texts to women, and the just getting nowhere gets you down.
I remember an online date, the lady looked like she was ready for a **** date, get it over with and go home, I can see why you'd get like this after few dates now working, we 'd a drink like planned and then she wanted to know could we go for food, think I needed surprise her that we could actually have fun.
I meet my GF on Tinder, I couldn't get out of my head it's tinder, and can you really get a proper relationship come about off of tinder, but we did.
Helps I'm in Dublin, I did use to live in Wicklow, I'd save my swipes for Dublin and Swipe away when I was in the city, you do need massage a lot of women to get dates.
I did feel a bit used by women a bit, saying they wanted a relationship but then were afraid to actually get into one, but then I've GF to show for tinder time and I've had other relationships from online dating.
Have you tried MEETUP.COM, kinda is an undercover dating app, and you get a decent day out with hikes and stuff, but you might need to drive a bit to meet people.
You do seem to have a not so great opinion of women, might be worth looking at yourself a little rather than blame online dating women, you can make changes with you, hard to change women online to how you think they should be.

razorblunt · 29-06-2021 3:52pm

jimjangles wrote: »

It's going to be the same sh1t no matter what you try anyway.
Women are selfish and ignorant and lousy and don't care and men flood all these apps.
Online dating is a con to make fools of ordinary men.
I give up on it all it's a waste of time.
I know I'll never find anyone online or offline but I have to just put up with that.

Awful smell of "nice guy Reddit" off this.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 3:54pm

Completely different story irrelevant.
Zero dates, zero messages for me just nothing.
It's incomparable.
Unless people are here to boast for their own entertainment I just don't see what's the point.
I ignore sarcasm.
I disdain it.

kowloon · 29-06-2021 4:00pm

razorblunt wrote: »

Awful smell of "nice guy Reddit" off this.

I'm a nice guy, the bitches should thank me for the privilege of being in my shadow. They'll see, they'll all see!

dvdman1 · 29-06-2021 4:04pm

Only use PAY sites when dating, weeds out all the nonserious people....pof n the likes are a complete waste of time

nj27 · 29-06-2021 4:10pm

One of my friend's brothers is not all there, not sure what it is or if it's diagnosable, but he went on a date with a chick he met on one of these dating sites. He proposed 4 times over the course of the date, including the first which occurred just 15 minutes after they met. She pulled a dine and dash and he had to pick up the bill! Should have dropped few quid on the table before she left imo.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 4:18pm

nj27 wrote: »

One of my friend's brothers is not all there, not sure what it is or if it's diagnosable, but he went on a date with a chick he met on one of these dating sites. He proposed 4 times over the course of the date, including the first which occurred just 15 minutes after they met. She pulled a dine and dash and he had to pick up the bill! Should have dropped few quid on the table before she left imo.

What a bitch I see she ate her full feed.
I'm probably lucky to not have met anyone.
It appears a lot of women are the scummy lowlives these days.

Church on Tuesday · 29-06-2021 4:49pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I can't I live in a rural area where there's nothing to do unless you're a footballer.

Move somewhere more urban, it's really your only hope .

29-06-2021 4:52pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I've been on plenty of fish for many months and have had zero success.
No views, no conversations, nothing.
I tried putting up a photo, deleting my photo etc.
How long with no activity or success whatsoever is long enough to say screw it this is useless it's time to delete this?
I'm a male by the way so looking for answers from a male perspective.

POF is no more than
Entry point for Zoosk.

POF is a romantic ebay.

frosty123 · 29-06-2021 4:52pm

if all else fails OP, tell them you've got a big mickey

29-06-2021 4:55pm

jimjangles wrote: »

What a bitch I see she ate her full feed.
I'm probably lucky to not have met anyone.
It appears a lot of women are the scummy lowlives these days.

Deleting your pic profile is the least of your worries.

29-06-2021 4:55pm

Maybe dating sites should set up a program where its $100 a month for the guys and free for the women.

I'll put that in my notebook.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 5:34pm

isha wrote: »

Deleting your pic profile is the least of your worries.

Care to elaborate?
The woman took advantage of a man who obviously had issues and ran out and he was forced to pay her bill.
Therefore she was a scummy lowlife taking advantage and getting a free meal.
Now tell me what your problem is with me then eh?

29-06-2021 5:41pm

jimjangles wrote: »

Care to elaborate?
The woman took advantage of a man who obviously had issues and ran out and he was forced to pay her bill.
Therefore she was a scummy lowlife taking advantage and getting a free meal.
Now tell me what your problem is with me then eh?

You hear one story and a lot of women are scummy low lives?

ShatterAlan · 29-06-2021 5:43pm

jimjangles wrote: »

I tried Tinder before and eliminated all the women on it within a few days.
I got rejected by everyone.
I don't know anything about Bumble but I doubt it's any use either.
I'm going to give up.
There's no decent woman out there for me.
This is over.

It's all about your profile blurb.

If it's some sh!t like "Sensitive guy, loves to laugh, enjoys long walks on the beach, knows what he wants, doesn't take life too seriously" or some crap like that you would sicken a pig.

Say what you mean and make women interested and make them laugh. And direct it at women who might be a bit different and adventurous.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 6:05pm

isha wrote: »

You hear one story and a lot of women are scummy low lives?

Well I'm sure there are.
You like to think all women except one are perfect then?

29-06-2021 6:06pm

Try Hinge, there's no swiping in that the app is setup for people to take things slowly.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 6:09pm

If things go any slower for me I'll be an octegenarian before I get my first date.

29-06-2021 6:16pm

OP since you're not really serious about deleting your profile why not for the hell of it change profile to somebody like Adrian Mole.

Then post a few melancholic inconsolable posts.

But do you have the bottle

29-06-2021 6:16pm

jimjangles wrote: »

Well I'm sure there are.
You like to think all women except one are perfect then?

No people are perfect. Men or women. But you are not going to get very far in the love championships if you casually believe a lot of women are scummy low lives. That's just a fact.

jimjangles · 29-06-2021 6:21pm

I haven't even entered the qualifiers in the love championships so it's not going to make a whole lot of difference anyway.
I've nothing to lose

NiceFella · 29-06-2021 6:46pm

OP,

You're being far too negative.

Online dating is a pain in the arse, and you will encounter a lot of time wasters. But after a while if you are paying attention you get a feel for who is worth messaging or engaging with. It takes time but you will get a feel for it. Don't just go for looks, go for someone you think you might be able to a connect with

As for getting no messages, I too had very bad luck with POF and Tinder. I found these to be a waste of time. These apps at least to me were full of attention seekers. With Bumble I had the most success as the women have to message first and in that way you tend to get ones who are more genuinely interested.

When you say there is nothing to do in the area apart from football is that really true? I'm sure there are things but you may want to broaden what you are willing to do.

Also I'm reading a small bit of self esteem issue. I had and still have issues here. I just did a bunch of exercise, looked after myself and also lowered my expectations in when dating. It helped dramatically. So if that is something you think might be true for you if urge you to look at things as a challenge.

After how long with zero success should I delete my pic profile

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