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Anyone else fed up of dating apps?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,257 ✭✭✭Elessar


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    I'm actually sad now after reading that. Thanks Elessar.

    Why?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,700 ✭✭✭Feisar


    voldejoie wrote: »
    I've been sick of the dating apps for years, but it's very hard to meet people without them.

    I'm a lesbian and the pool is very, very small to begin with. Every time I get fed up with the apps and delete them, I realise they really are the option in terms of meeting people, the best of a bad lot :(

    Mate of mine is a lesbian, says that the pool is really tiny and apps are the only way to go.

    First they came for the socialists...



  • Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Try online dating in the North West of the country where we are forgotten about. Add all the normal issues to a severe lack of people.

    I'm single sure, are you;

    A. A woman

    B. Hot

    North Whest based too :cool:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,700 ✭✭✭Feisar


    It's just another string to the bow.

    The beauty is it works for you when yer on the couch watching telly or asleep. Also brilliant if one is in a new town or city. Was in Turkey with a friend last year and he hopped onto tinder and had two successful nights.

    First they came for the socialists...



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 634 ✭✭✭waxmelts2000


    I'm single now 5 months having met my previous partners on POf ( one lasted 4 years, the other 1.5 years)

    Not sure I'm ready to join to join up based on some of the comments here !!! However at my age (48) I think it's my only option. All other buddies married, kids etc. I will need to have a thick skin I guess try to figure out is genuine versus who is not!.....Val


  • Registered Users Posts: 225 ✭✭voldejoie


    Feisar wrote: »
    Mate of mine is a lesbian, says that the pool is really tiny and apps are the only way to go.

    I can go like 6 months without bothering to go on one of the apps, then log on, swipe through 10 people and run out of people altogether :o


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    A. A woman
    Nope. A dude looking for the same as you.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,910 ✭✭✭OneArt


    Dating apps are literally just a place to meet people. That's all.

    The problem isn't with the platform. It's with the users.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Nope. A dude looking for the same as you.

    Sigh. Back to POF I go.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,147 ✭✭✭Mister Vain


    Online dating has created an illusion of plentifulness. If you get frustrated with dating or trying to find a partner, it creates this ambivalence - should you keep pursuing something that makes you unhappy in the hope it might yield something someday?


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  • Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭skittles8710


    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both

    I’m on tinder, bumble and POF.
    I think bumble is possibly the best. Women have to message first so it saves all the ignored messages being sent out.

    I probably have had more tinder dates though.

    POF I can’t seem to attract any decent looking women on. It’s without a doubt the app I get the worst results on.


  • Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭skittles8710


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both

    I’m on tinder, bumble and POF.
    I think bumble is possibly the best. Women have to message first so it saves all the ignored messages being sent out.

    I probably have had more tinder dates though.

    POF I can’t seem to attract any decent looking women on. It’s without a doubt the app I get the worst results on.

    Probably my own hang up but not a fan of bumble and the ball always being in my court . But sure each to their own !


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    Probably my own hang up but not a fan of bumble and the ball always being in my court . But sure each to their own !

    All you have to do is say hello. I don’t think the first message is really gonna matter if the other person finds you physically attractive.


  • Registered Users Posts: 653 ✭✭✭skittles8710


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    Probably my own hang up but not a fan of bumble and the ball always being in my court . But sure each to their own !

    All you have to do is say hello. I don’t think the first message is really gonna matter if the other person finds you physically attractive.

    If someone messaged me with just hello I'd think they couldn't be arsed. If you match on any app you obviously find each other physically attractive , otherwise you wouldn't have swiped that way. An opening message should give some kind of idea of your personality


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    POF I can’t seem to attract any decent looking women on. It’s without a doubt the app I get the worst results on.
    Can only imagine the reaction a woman would get if she posted this.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    If someone messaged me with just hello I'd think they couldn't be arsed. If you match on any app you obviously find each other physically attractive , otherwise you wouldn't have swiped that way. An opening message should give some kind of idea of your personality

    The following conversation will give an idea of the persons personality. It can’t be determined by the initial greeting.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Can only imagine the reaction a woman would get if she posted this.

    Why? What’s wrong with honesty?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    NewMan1982 wrote: »
    Why? What’s wrong with honesty?
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.

    I’d go along with that line of thinking too. If a woman (or man) wants to be picky it’s their prerogative.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,206 ✭✭✭✭B.A._Baracus


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.

    That's generally life tho. Men are the chasers women are the choosers.
    Most blokes would ride a cat going up a skylight. Most women are picky.

    What's next Russia has cold winters? Lol.


  • Registered Users Posts: 209 ✭✭BurnUp78


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.

    The statistics pretty much prove that women are far more picky on dating sites.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    BurnUp78 wrote: »
    The statistics pretty much prove that women are far more picky on dating sites.

    I’d imagine they are dealing with a lot more matches than men everyday so that’s how they get to be so choosey.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    My point still stands. God help a woman who posted what NewMan1982 posted.

    And as this thread demonstrates, men can of course be rigid about their type.


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    I'm a man and I'm fairly picky about a type and I have my deal-breakers.

    It goes both ways, you like what you like.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    Raconteuse wrote:
    And as this thread demonstrates, men can of course be rigid about their type.

    Of course us guys have types. We don't just fancy every woman that we see.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5 MrFaul


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Of course us guys have types. We don't just fancy every woman that we see.

    But the thing about it is - I find anyway - is that on dating apps you end up messaging women you're not really interested in because there's not enough selection in your area, so you say to yourself, 'sure I might as well, there's not much to choose from.' haha. It's great living in a city on a dating app with millions of people. I remember living abroad in some cities and having a lot of choice and not having to move outside my own area, it was very convenient.

    Now I've got slim-pickens haha :/


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5 MrFaul


    I do get dates, but just here and there. I just can't date as frequently as I want.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,478 ✭✭✭✭Thelonious Monk


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Oh I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you said. It's just that these threads are always full of posts about how picky women are, and that men aren't fussy.

    Well I'm picky af and I would hope most people are for their own sakes. It's so hard to meet someone who does it for you physically and personality wise and if someone isn't ticking all the boxes I just wouldn't be bothered these days as it wouldn't work for me.
    I would imagine most people are the same.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,700 ✭✭✭Feisar


    MrFaul wrote: »
    But the thing about it is - I find anyway - is that on dating apps you end up messaging women you're not really interested in because there's not enough selection in your area, so you say to yourself, 'sure I might as well, there's not much to choose from.' haha. It's great living in a city on a dating app with millions of people. I remember living abroad in some cities and having a lot of choice and not having to move outside my own area, it was very convenient.

    Now I've got slim-pickens haha :/

    Jaysus I'd hate to be someones "I might as well".

    Unless that is, it involved me getting a blowjob.

    First they came for the socialists...



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 537 ✭✭✭rgmmg


    I don't think apps are the be all and end all, but they should compliment any offline search - they're not intended to wholly replace it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,417 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    Does everyone wait for Bertie to post second on new threads or what's the craic? Is it in some charter somewhere?

    He deleted his post🀣🀣

    This reminds me of that guy in mass who made a thing out of being the first to stand up and the last to sit down.

    I think he was missing a chromosome.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    S.G.M. wrote: »
    Of course us guys have types. We don't just fancy every woman that we see.
    Well I'm picky af and I would hope most people are for their own sakes. It's so hard to meet someone who does it for you physically and personality wise and if someone isn't ticking all the boxes I just wouldn't be bothered these days as it wouldn't work for me.
    I would imagine most people are the same.
    And I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    Raconteuse wrote:
    And I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it.

    No, I know you're not. Just curious as to how you felt that the narrative was that we will go for any woman we see.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,029 ✭✭✭SusieBlue


    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both

    The messages I got on POF were absolutely vile, so crude and disrespectful. I actually posted some screenshots on an older thread a few months ago, I'll see if I can find them now.

    I met my last boyfriend, who I was with for a number of years and lived with, on tinder. Haven't had much luck this time round (probably to do with me being overly picky) but haven't come across any assh*les on it, in comparison to POF.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,185 ✭✭✭Tchaikovsky


    I met my girlfriend on POF 6 and a half years ago - what's it like these days? Is it still full of profiles with 'Hello, is it me your lookin for' and 'I like staying in and going out with my girlies lol'?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 331 ✭✭S.G.M.


    SusieBlue wrote:
    The messages I got on POF were absolutely vile, so crude and disrespectful. I actually posted some screenshots on an older thread a few months ago, I'll see if I can find them now.
    Women get some awful messages on dating sites. At least with tinder, you can control who talks to you.


  • Posts: 17,728 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Fantastic tbh.
    But if you can't swim or have access to a pool (or your local pool is closed) etc a swimming app won't help you either tbh.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5 MrFaul


    I met my girlfriend on POF 6 and a half years ago - what's it like these days? Is it still full of profiles with 'Hello, is it me your lookin for' and 'I like staying in and going out with my girlies lol'?

    Ye there's still a lot of them and also 'looking for a genuine guy' and also 'looks like rain ted' hahaha...

    Also you'll find women with '???' in their description. Probably similar with some guys.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,373 ✭✭✭tonycascarino


    I used to find that most of the women on these apps were looking for a reality tv type, fake tanned, no socks look, muscular, brain dead guy. Then there are women in their mid to late 30's who would have 20-25 as the set age of a guy they are looking to have a long term relationship with.. The expectations of women on these apps are unrealistic and makes me think, 'no wonder you will be left on the shelf.'


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,029 ✭✭✭SusieBlue


    ^I find it hard to believe that lots of women in their mid to late 30's are chasing 20 year olds.
    I'm 28, and I have my preferences set from 27-35. A 20 year old would be a child to me, we'd be at totally different life stages.
    Apart from exceptional circumstances, I don't think its overly common, let alone that there are loads middle aged women are actively seeking relationships with lads barely out of their teenage years.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,811 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    SusieBlue wrote: »
    ^I find it hard to believe that lots of women in their mid to late 30's are chasing 20 year olds.
    I'm 28, and I have my preferences set from 27-35. A 20 year old would be a child to me, we'd be at totally different life stages.
    Apart from exceptional circumstances, I don't think its overly common, let alone that there are loads middle aged women are actively seeking relationships with lads barely out of their teenage years.


    I find that odd, is there an app specifically for that ? Auld ones alive ? Or something ? Ahhhhh silver singles apparently :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,103 ✭✭✭✭Mantis Toboggan


    Ah lads don't lose hope, I met my wife on tinder 4 years ago!

    Free Palestine 🇵🇸



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,912 ✭✭✭ArchXStanton


    SusieBlue wrote: »
    ^I find it hard to believe that lots of women in their mid to late 30's are chasing 20 year olds.
    I'm 28, and I have my preferences set from 27-35. A 20 year old would be a child to me, we'd be at totally different life stages.
    Apart from exceptional circumstances, I don't think its overly common, let alone that there are loads middle aged women are actively seeking relationships with lads barely out of their teenage years.

    I've noticed it among a few of my female friends... It normally drastically ends in tears


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 568 ✭✭✭NewMan1982


    SusieBlue wrote: »
    ^I find it hard to believe that lots of women in their mid to late 30's are chasing 20 year olds.
    I'm 28, and I have my preferences set from 27-35. A 20 year old would be a child to me, we'd be at totally different life stages.
    Apart from exceptional circumstances, I don't think its overly common, let alone that there are loads middle aged women are actively seeking relationships with lads barely out of their teenage years.

    Push that age range up to 37 :D


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    these apps are grand for younger lot in big cities.

    i find as i got older these things became an annoyance. as i grew older and i realised its not just about a nice set of tits . you get bored of those. i find myself open to all sizes now and more interested in a good personality and a bit of drive. even as i got older i have become alot more confident. no probs in chatting to anyone.


  • Registered Users Posts: 7,055 ✭✭✭JohnnyFlash


    Specialun wrote: »
    . as i grew older and i realised its not just about a nice set of tits . you get bored of those.

    You ok, dude?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,249 ✭✭✭ Eason Fancy Block


    Genuine question - do people find POF better than Tinder ? I found alot of the same people were on both

    lot similar but i found POF to be more filled with spam accounts and pickier than other...got more dates off tinder and bumble(bumbles problem is theres a lack of a distance filter -im down in cork but i keep getting matches up in Galway/Donegal)


  • Registered Users Posts: 3,068 ✭✭✭Specialun


    You ok, dude?


    aye johnny. you ok mate


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,950 ✭✭✭ChikiChiki


    Ah lads don't lose hope, I met my wife on tinder 4 years ago!

    Just deleted it. **** it. For me Bumble is 10x better anyway. The women seem more genuine.


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