Anyone else fed up of dating apps?

MrFaul · 28-09-2019 11:10pm #1

I've been on and off dating apps the past few years and pretty much sick of them at this stage. One reason is the amount of chatting for a meagre return and another is that the majority on dating apps are in Dublin (naturally as it's the most densley populated part of the country), and I'm ages away from 'Dooublan'.

There's only every about five 'wans' online at anyone time in my area, so not much to choose from ha. What are your thoughts or dating apps or what what's been your experience with them? Positive? Negative? A mxied bag?

NewMan1982 · 28-09-2019 11:20pm

Dating apps are ****e. I’m on them all and it’s just endless first dates that lead to nothing.

Real life meetings seems to lead to more than just one date.

Arghus · 28-09-2019 11:24pm

As an unattractive man I would say they are a waste of time.

Eircom_Sucks · 28-09-2019 11:24pm

Amazing looking women on them and they up their own holes

Amazing looking women on a dating app = bat sh1te crazy

I feel ur pain op

All the “ any genuine men here “ headlines and in reality they after a geordie shore reject

Eircom_Sucks · 28-09-2019 11:25pm

NewMan1982 wrote: »

Dating apps are ****e. I’m on them all and it’s just endless first dates that lead to nothing.

Real life meetings seems to lead to more than just one date.

People have to many options and they always think the next date will be better etc

Ficheall · 28-09-2019 11:25pm

I just ask out everyone who thanks my posts on boards and seems female and intelligent.

Strumms · 28-09-2019 11:28pm

I’m male in a relationship now but when I DID use Tinder I had no issue getting matches for the most part but only about a third were interested in having a conversation or getting to know you, the second third would just mostly give you 3 word answers.. “ yeah good thanks, u ?” and other third wouldn’t reply at all....

A friend of mine, similar situation and he’s a stallion of human hunkness apparently... and somewhat charming with it is of the view that there is a seam of modern femininity that the app for that element is all about the self gratification, and ego boot of getting ‘matched’..anything more substantial is not really important.. he had plenty of dates too where the ‘effort’ as in choosing a movie and super upmarket restaurant was rewarded with three days of virtual silence until Thursday and the txt...” sorry I’ve been quiet, busy week, are we going out the weekend?”..

Sharp MZ700 · 28-09-2019 11:28pm

Does everyone wait for Bertie to post second on new threads or what's the craic? Is it in some charter somewhere?

He deleted his postðŸ€£ðŸ€£

jiltloop · 28-09-2019 11:32pm

Ficheall wrote: »

I just ask out everyone who thanks my posts on boards and seems female and intelligent.

I was tempted to rereg with a name like Stupid Man and thank your post but I couldn't be arsed. This is easier.

28-09-2019 11:33pm

:pac:

mikhail · 28-09-2019 11:43pm

I've generally had more success in other countries. I don't know if that's because I'm foreign there (which adds a little air of exoticism), or if Irish women are bloody impossible, but I have my suspicions.

alswearengen · 28-09-2019 11:46pm

I got a prompt from the app offering me to become a "Top Pick" for a period of three hours, for the bargain price of 45 euro!!!

I can just as easily get no matches for free.

Strumms · 28-09-2019 11:52pm

alswearengen wrote: »

I got a prompt from the app offering me to become a "Top Pick" for a period of three hours, for the bargain price of 45 euro!!!

I can just as easily get no matches for free.

Great value, for 45 euro you can match with a slightly better looking personality void ? :eek:

hank scorpio89 · 28-09-2019 11:54pm

Only signed up for tinder today and you now have to pay too see who likes you ..yeah good luck with that .deleted it already

GiftofGab · 28-09-2019 11:58pm

They're a complete waste of time.
No problem getting matches but most girls are not interested in having a conversation or even meeting for a date. Can't stand the ghosting culture either.

Strumms · 29-09-2019 12:00am

Leg End Reject · 29-09-2019 12:03am

Strumms wrote: »

When's your first date?

Strumms · 29-09-2019 12:06am

Leg End Reject wrote: »

When's your first date?

Now, so fûck off and stop interrupting me, we are busy..... looking for her teeth !

Leg End Reject · 29-09-2019 12:14am

Strumms wrote: »

Now, so fûck off and stop interrupting me, we are busy..... looking for her teeth !

Check the dog and good luck, I'm sure you'll make a lovely couple.

Sharp MZ700 · 29-09-2019 12:15am

Strumms wrote: »

Now, so fûck off and stop interrupting me, we are busy..... looking for her teeth !

How was the rimming?

Strumms · 29-09-2019 12:48am

Sharp MZ700 wrote: »

How was the rimming?

Well I didn’t hear you complain :eek:

Capt'n Midnight · 29-09-2019 1:02am

Leg End Reject wrote: »

When's your first date?

1690

Capt'n Midnight · 29-09-2019 1:09am

Forget dating apps. Go on to adverts.ie and search for used wedding dresses.

Most will be from divorced women.

And from there you can sort by size

Eircom_Sucks · 29-09-2019 1:09am

GiftofGab wrote: »

They're a complete waste of time.
No problem getting matches but most girls are not interested in having a conversation or even meeting for a date. Can't stand the ghosting culture either.

Proper cnuts to be honest

Leg End Reject · 29-09-2019 1:24am

Capt'n Midnight wrote: »

Forget dating apps. Go on to adverts.ie and search for used wedding dresses.

Most will be from divorced women.

And from there you can sort by size

If you research when the dress was in fashion, you could sort by age too with variable degrees of accuracy.

PennyWiseClown · 29-09-2019 1:29am

I tend to get banned from most of them, must be all the dick pics I send ...

BDI · 29-09-2019 1:31am

If you are good at real life dating you will be good at online dating.

If you know your league you will be good at online dating.

Just because you have a keyboard and a witty subject line doesn’t mean some model is going to fall for your charms. She still has to be seen in public with you.

skittles8710 · 29-09-2019 5:19am

While I've had a couple of short term relationships from them, in the grand scheme of things it's mostly fellas who are time wasters with little to no intention of making any real effort to go on a date.

Also have had some horrible experiences with fellas I did go on first dates with (if you can even call them that).

Given most here in Cork are well settled it's very hard to meet people out and about but deleted the apps a few months ago and happy to stay away from them for the the time being, for my own sanity.

Your Face · 29-09-2019 5:26am

Never used them as I'm quite a good liar in real life.

joeguevara · 29-09-2019 5:41am

I've decided to devote my time to collecting all the free ipads and iPhones I have won before turning my attention to all the hot singles in my area that want to bang me.

Ubbquittious · 29-09-2019 6:38am

BDI wrote: »

If you are good at real life dating you will be good at online dating.

If you know your league you will be good at online dating.

Just because you have a keyboard and a witty subject line doesn’t mean some model is going to fall for your charms. She still has to be seen in public with you.

I find it way harder to keep a conversation alive on those apps than in real life or even get a response. Even if you do get a good conversation you're subjected to a lengthy vetting process where you convince them you're not a serial killer before you go on a date.

ILoveYourVibes · 29-09-2019 6:42am

MrFaul wrote: »

I've been on and off dating apps the past few years and pretty much sick of them at this stage. One reason is the amount of chatting for a meagre return and another is that the majority on dating apps are in Dublin (naturally as it's the most densley populated part of the country), and I'm ages away from 'Dooublan'.

There's only every about five 'wans' online at anyone time in my area, so not much to choose from ha. What are your thoughts or dating apps or what what's been your experience with them? Positive? Negative? A mxied bag?

I tried them then i realized i was actually terrified of meeting anyone i only met online in real life. So it was pretty pointless and anxiety inducing for me to use them anyway. So that was that.

Meeting people in real life is better anyway. Still anxiety inducing but safer.

joeguevara · 29-09-2019 7:08am

I think online dating is similar to people buying clothes online. One bad experience and that's all a person talks about it. There is a post on this thread (could be a joke but didn't come across like that) who said that online dating gave them countless first dates but no second ones. That isn't the fault of dating apps.

In the past week or so I have come across the craziest people on tinder that would fill a screenplay but I have also met and gone on dates with absolute legends.

It is what it is... Same as a bar or any other place people meet. No point tarring dating apps as the waiting room of hell. It's good bad and everything in between.

ILoveYourVibes · 29-09-2019 7:59am

joeguevara wrote: »

I think online dating is similar to people buying clothes online. One bad experience and that's all a person talks about it. There is a post on this thread (could be a joke but didn't come across like that) who said that online dating gave them countless first dates but no second ones. That isn't the fault of dating apps.

In the past week or so I have come across the craziest people on tinder that would fill a screenplay but I have also met and gone on dates with absolute legends.

It is what it is... Same as a bar or any other place people meet. No point tarring dating apps as the waiting room of hell. It's good bad and everything in between.

I worry about disappointing the other person i think. Its easier to talk online. I am kind of shy in real life.

neirbloom · 29-09-2019 8:21am

I used online dating sites what ten fifteen years ago now, only went on one or two dates actually went out with a girl for a while, but could always conversate with someone for a while not interested fine move along but an overall enjoyable experience .

Decided to sign up again last year to the same app and My God what a complete ceespool. Don't ask me what exactly changed in the culture between that time but some of the comments here have been illuminating.

ILoveYourVibes · 29-09-2019 8:52am

joeguevara wrote: »

I think online dating is similar to people buying clothes online. One bad experience and that's all a person talks about it. There is a post on this thread (could be a joke but didn't come across like that) who said that online dating gave them countless first dates but no second ones. That isn't the fault of dating apps.

In the past week or so I have come across the craziest people on tinder that would fill a screenplay but I have also met and gone on dates with absolute legends.

It is what it is... Same as a bar or any other place people meet. No point tarring dating apps as the waiting room of hell. It's good bad and everything in between.

I have twice bought clothes online and both times it was a disaster!

ILoveYourVibes · 29-09-2019 8:54am

Me online.

Me in real life.

joeguevara · 29-09-2019 8:56am

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

I worry about disappointing the other person i think. Its easier to talk online. I am kind of shy in real life.

But that's not online dating fault... Also being shy is endearing... Reckon you'd rock in real life... As do most people.

ILoveYourVibes · 29-09-2019 9:05am

joeguevara wrote: »

But that's not online dating fault... Also being shy is endearing... Reckon you'd rock in real life... As do most people.

Oh ..? Thank you.

hairyprincess · 29-09-2019 9:06am

I met my other half online. Tinder actually. I know a few other couples that met online.

Yes there are a lot of weirdos but there are a lot of weirdos in a bar on an average night too.

mumo3 · 29-09-2019 9:06am

I've never tried them, but friends keeping suggesting I do, I seem to be just fine attracting weirdos and wasters in real life without my phone pinging to tell me there's a new one close by ðŸ˜‰

joeguevara · 29-09-2019 9:13am

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Oh ..? Thank you.

I'm being serious... People are more harsh online than real life. I always find people get on better in person. To your point about worrying about letting someone down, at the end of the day if that happens then they weren't for you. That is no one's fault. I am serious that you more than likely rock... Being shy or awkward or true to yourself will be endearing to the vast majority of people.

ChikiChiki · 29-09-2019 9:19am

I find messaging very tough and I don't think it's on my part. It can be very repetitive and a lot of the time there is nothing coming back that you can work with.

When I'm on a date I'm very confident, can hold good conversation getting to know someone and maintain the right level of eye contact. I think there is an "ego culture" associated with dating apps. Its very hard tp get someone to agree to go out at times. Certainly finding them a lot more difficult here than when I was in Oz.

ILoveYourVibes · 29-09-2019 9:30am

joeguevara wrote: »

I'm being serious... People are more harsh online than real life. I always find people get on better in person. To your point about worrying about letting someone down, at the end of the day if that happens then they weren't for you. That is no one's fault. I am serious that you more than likely rock... Being shy or awkward or true to yourself will be endearing to the vast majority of people.

Well thank you...it could just be annoying or make me invisible ...but its the way i am.

Also some people are more harsh in real life.

When I'm on a date I'm very confident, can hold good conversation getting to know someone and maintain the right level of eye contact. I think there is an "ego culture" associated with dating apps. Its very hard tp get someone to agree to go out at times. Certainly finding them a lot more difficult here than when I was in Oz.

For me it depends on who I am with. Some people I can't really open up to or be myself around. Whereas others i can straight away.
I need a kindred spirit.

NewMan1982 · 29-09-2019 10:48am

joeguevara wrote: »

I think online dating is similar to people buying clothes online. One bad experience and that's all a person talks about it. There is a post on this thread (could be a joke but didn't come across like that) who said that online dating gave them countless first dates but no second ones. That isn't the fault of dating apps.

In the past week or so I have come across the craziest people on tinder that would fill a screenplay but I have also met and gone on dates with absolute legends.

It is what it is... Same as a bar or any other place people meet. No point tarring dating apps as the waiting room of hell. It's good bad and everything in between.

It was me who said that. I also said if I meet someone in real life they are nearly always interested in having more than 1 date.

I think I am basically saying I find that the women you meet off these online apps don’t give you a chance.

AlphabetCards · 29-09-2019 10:48am

The fortnightly boards.ie incel/femcel thread.

Myself and the gf met on Tinder, and on the whole I loved being on Tinder. Its not the opposite sex who are being ****, it's you! It's instant access to people for dates, hook-ups, whatever. If you can't write a few simple messages and propose something interesting to do, that's your fault.

Professor Genius · 29-09-2019 10:51am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

:pac:

One should never let one’s battery dip below 60%

AlphabetCards · 29-09-2019 10:52am

ChikiChiki wrote: »

Its very hard tp get someone to agree to go out at times. Certainly finding them a lot more difficult here than when I was in Oz.

Honestly, the thought of having to compel someone to go on a date is awful. Here's an idea - value your time. If someone says no, or doesn't commit to meeting you right away, they are no interested and are wasting your time. Move on to the next one.

Professor Genius · 29-09-2019 10:52am

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Oh ..? Thank you.

Get a room folks.

AlphabetCards · 29-09-2019 10:54am

Ubbquittious wrote: »

I find it way harder to keep a conversation alive on those apps than in real life or even get a response. Even if you do get a good conversation you're subjected to a lengthy vetting process where you convince them you're not a serial killer before you go on a date.

Again, why are you letting these conversations go on like that? You are literally putting yourself at the mercy of others. Few messages, suggest a pint, and wait for a response. If they aren't interested, then why bother? At least demonstrate some value and ignore him/her if all they want to do is interrogate you. If they fancied you they would jump at the chance to go for a drink.

cj maxx · 29-09-2019 11:00am

I have never used them . But the people I know that are / were on them are the vanest people I know. That's just them so don't take to heart anyone

Anyone else fed up of dating apps?

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