The Online Dating Thread Part II Mod Warning Read First Post/or Post 7389

Crann na Beatha · 04-05-2012 1:33pm

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Honey-ec · 04-05-2012 1:33pm

Ooh, I appear to be in Arizona today. Must remember to get my passport stamped...

Worryingly, of the two men from AZ who've messaged me in the past half an hour, both of them had pictures of themselves toting guns on their profile.

NRA4EVA...

mood · 04-05-2012 1:33pm

krudler wrote: »

I joined pof a few weeks ago and am pretty much done with it already,
why do women think they can get away with putting zero effort into their profiles? two lines of "I like music, food and tv" err, what kind of music, well we all like food, if we didnt we'd die, and what kind of tv? is it that hard to list some specific stuff you like? its like every woman on there expects men to do all the work, fcuk that, if you cant be arsed writing about yourself or "arent good at this" then dont bother. the people I take interest in are the ones who put some bit of effort in or are funny. "I like reading" reading WHAT? books? magazines? shampoo bottles?

I could say the same about guys.

But does it really matter to you what a potential date likes ie food, book, music? If you like the same food etc it don't mean you are compatible.

Galvasean · 04-05-2012 1:38pm

Aquila wrote: »

Galvasean how could you!right im sending in this guy

To come sort you out:pac:

Last time we tangled it did not end so well for him.

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 1:40pm

krudler wrote: »

I joined pof a few weeks ago and am pretty much done with it already,
why do women think they can get away with putting zero effort into their profiles? two lines of "I like music, food and tv" err, what kind of music, well we all like food, if we didnt we'd die, and what kind of tv? is it that hard to list some specific stuff you like? its like every woman on there expects men to do all the work, fcuk that, if you cant be arsed writing about yourself or "arent good at this" then dont bother. the people I take interest in are the ones who put some bit of effort in or are funny. "I like reading" reading WHAT? books? magazines? shampoo bottles?

I kinda know where you're coming from but why not send them a message asking what they like to read/watch etc.

It's quite obvious when people say they like reading, they're obviously referring to books/magazines. I've seen similar stuff written on girls profiles and if you're inquisitive enough and wiling to find out more you'll send them a message.

When I wrote my profile I wanted to give out details sure but I wanted to tell all without telling it all if you get me.

For example, I have that I'm currently working but hoping to go to college in September.

If they're curious enough, they might message and ask me what I'm currently doing or what I hope to do in college. Could be a good conversation starter perhaps.

Maguined · 04-05-2012 1:41pm

That_Guy wrote: »

I'm offering you a chance to win a Toffee Crisp FFS. What more do you want?!!!??

I'd suck the toffee off your crisp.

LyndaMcL wrote: »

Clearly, making myself sound like a nutter is why I'm getting dates.

It's the ONLY reason I get a date. :pac:

Galvasean · 04-05-2012 1:43pm

mood wrote: »

But does it really matter to you what a potential date likes ie food, book, music? If you like the same food etc it don't mean you are compatible.

That's why I don't put much stock in the OKC percentages. I really don't care if someone prefers say Indian food to Chinese food.
I think what Krudler was getting at is those (many) profiles that don't really say anything specific about a person.
"I don't know what to write here." - you don't say
"I like going out" - who doesn't?
"Want to know anything, just ask!" - but where to begin?
A good profile IMO should highlight a persons individuality. If a profile mentioned how they like tennis and 1930s Chinese cinema that would be interesting. I'm not a fan of either, but it would certainly make the profile stand out and would certainly give a springboard for a conversation.

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 1:43pm

Maguined wrote: »

I'd suck the toffee off your crisp.

What an offer... Yes.. Yes you can good sir.

Galvasean · 04-05-2012 1:44pm

Pics or GTFO

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 1:46pm

Galvasean wrote: »

Pics or GTFO

Oooooh I say.

Polloloca · 04-05-2012 1:48pm

I'm 23. Why are 46 year old men messaging me, offering me money if I'd have sex with them? A little disheartened and paranoid I look like a hooker now. :eek:

Honey-ec · 04-05-2012 1:50pm

Polloloca wrote: »

I'm 23. Why are 46 year old men messaging me, offering me money if I'd have sex with them? A little disheartened and paranoid I look like a hooker now. :eek:

Just ignore them, they use the scattergun approach in the hope that they'll hit someone who'll consider it.

mood · 04-05-2012 1:52pm

Polloloca wrote: »

I'm 23. Why are 46 year old men messaging me, offering me money if I'd have sex with them? A little disheartened and paranoid I look like a hooker now. :eek:

Report them and they will get kicked off the site and not be able to contact other women. Why should they get away with that? I'm sure they could find a hooker if they really wanted one.

mood · 04-05-2012 1:53pm

Honey-ec wrote: »

Just ignore them, they use the scattergun approach in the hope that they'll hit someone who'll consider it.

If you ignore it they will continue to do it to other women. Report, report, report... get these losers/pervs off the sites.

Honey-ec · 04-05-2012 1:54pm

I have to say, it would take an awful lot for me to report someone. I just go "meh" and delete their messages. Let them do their thing, just cause I'm not interested doesn't mean someone else won't be.

Galvasean · 04-05-2012 1:56pm

It's simple really: internet + (relative) anonymity = douchebaggery.

For example;

That_Guy wrote: »

Oooooh I say.

Take more of the wrapper off :mad:

Crann na Beatha · 04-05-2012 1:57pm

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krudler · 04-05-2012 1:58pm

mood wrote: »

I could say the same about guys.

But does it really matter to you what a potential date likes ie food, book, music? If you like the same food etc it don't mean you are compatible.

yes? similar tastes is pretty important.

Polloloca · 04-05-2012 1:58pm

Honey-ec wrote: »

I have to say, it would take an awful lot for me to report someone. I just go "meh" and delete their messages. Let them do their thing, just cause I'm not interested doesn't mean someone else won't be.

Same... I've never used report. Although, I am partial to the block function now and then!

Galvasean · 04-05-2012 1:58pm

mood wrote: »

If you ignore it they will continue to do it to other women. Report, report, report... get these losers/pervs off the sites.

From a purely selfish POV I would agree with this. The less freaks* there are filling girls' mailboxes with useless spam/filth the more chance the messages I send will get read.

* note that I am fully aware of the irony of me calling someone else a freak, it's just a different kind of freak is all :pac:

mood · 04-05-2012 1:59pm

Honey-ec wrote: »

I have to say, it would take an awful lot for me to report someone. I just go "meh" and delete their messages. Let them do their thing, just cause I'm not interested doesn't mean someone else won't be.

But they ruin thing for the vast majority of use. I'm sure they could find a site that caters to their needs/fetich if they want that. The fact they they try it on a regular dating site means they are getting a trill by shocking/upsetting people = they are just bullies.

Mental Mickey · 04-05-2012 1:59pm

Aquila wrote: »

Its not you,prob copy and pasted same message to many women.report and delete:)not all us guys are vermin !

The nice guys are the ones who don't go around grabbing at anything.

Polloloca · 04-05-2012 2:00pm

krudler wrote: »

yes? similar tastes is pretty important.

Have to (politely) disagree with this! For me, my best relationship was with my ex who was my polar opposite.

It also opens your mind to new things!!

Mental Mickey · 04-05-2012 2:03pm

Polloloca wrote: »

Have to (politely) disagree with this! For me, my best relationship was with my ex who was my polar opposite. It also opens your mind to new things!!

Opposites attract.

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 2:03pm

Galvasean wrote: »

Take more of the wrapper off :mad:

NSFW

Mental Mickey · 04-05-2012 2:04pm

That_Guy wrote: »

NSFW

PMSL

krudler · 04-05-2012 2:06pm

Polloloca wrote: »

Have to (politely) disagree with this! For me, my best relationship was with my ex who was my polar opposite. It also opens your mind to new things!!

I'm just holding out to find myself with boobs, then I'm set for life

Polloloca · 04-05-2012 2:08pm

Has anybody got any funny stories to tell about their dates?

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 2:09pm

krudler wrote: »

I'm just holding out to find myself with boobs, then I'm set for life

Living the dream man... Living the dream. :pac:

Galvasean · 04-05-2012 2:13pm

That_Guy wrote: »

NSFW

PS: anyone get confused when Krudler and That-Guy have a conversation?

Mental Mickey · 04-05-2012 2:13pm

That_Guy wrote: »

Living the dream man... Living the dream. :pac:

Gender re-allignment surgery ftw!!!!!!

you wha? · 04-05-2012 2:52pm

Had a nice quick tea date with a guy from pof today.nice guy.we'll see what happens,if anything but since reading this thread its given me the confidence to keep trying...so thanks boardsies

crapmanjoe · 04-05-2012 2:55pm

Just got rejected because she wants some one from her own religion!

Go on J date then! :mad:

Mental Mickey · 04-05-2012 2:59pm

crapmanjoe wrote: »

Just got rejected because she wants some one from her own religion!

Go on J date then! :mad:

Pffffffft. Was this on POF?

crapmanjoe · 04-05-2012 3:16pm

Mental Mickey wrote: »

Pffffffft. Was this on POF?

Nah was on OKC, living in NY so its to be expected I suppose

Mental Mickey · 04-05-2012 3:59pm

crapmanjoe wrote: »

Nah was on OKC, living in NY so its to be expected I suppose

I doubt it if those kind of people are only found in the good old U S of A???

LoTwan · 04-05-2012 4:40pm

Maguined wrote: »

That_Guy wrote: »

I'm offering you a chance to win a Toffee Crisp FFS. What more do you want?!!!??

I'd suck the toffee off your crisp.

Y'all should hear what he was willing to let me do to him! :cool:

silvervixen84 · 04-05-2012 6:00pm

Mental Mickey wrote: »

POF link?

I'm over in London, it would be a very expensive first date :pac:

Larianne · 04-05-2012 6:12pm

That_Guy wrote: »

Oooooh I say.

Ya need to cut your nails there TG!

Good luck to peoples on dates this weekend. It's hard to keep away from this thread, just to see how everyone is getting on. I'll ween myself off it.

Esoteric_ · 04-05-2012 6:45pm

Just got this from OKC email thingy -

'

Hey (my username here),

We just detected that you're now among the most attractive people on OkCupid.

We learned this from clicks to your profile and reactions to you in Quickmatch and Quiver. Did you get a new haircut or something?
Well, it's working!

To celebrate, we've adjusted your OkCupid experience:

You'll see more attractive people in your match results.

This won't affect your match percentages, which are still based purely on your answers and desired match's answers. But we'll recommend more attractive people to you. You'll also appear more often to other attractive people.

Sign in to see your newly-shuffled matches. Have fun, and don't let this go to your head.'

This has to be pure bullsh!t that they use to get more people using the site, because almost every woman on that site is more attractive than me. xD

Larianne · 04-05-2012 6:46pm

Aw, I never got that message. I must be a munter.

Esoteric_ · 04-05-2012 6:53pm

Larianne wrote: »

Aw, I never got that message. I must be a munter.

I highly doubt it! I think it's just because I hadn't logged in for a few days. :pac: Flattery is the best way to get me back there!

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 7:41pm

Larianne wrote: »

Ya need to cut your nails there TG!

Those aren't my hands. :pac:

Northclare · 04-05-2012 7:45pm

From reading the posts,it seems to me that if I was living in Dublin it would be much easier to get a date.

I suppose I don't do much chasing I'm a bit of a lazy bastard when it comes to asking women out

miaowsky · 04-05-2012 8:13pm

I got given out to for texting back too fast! Geez sorry for not playing mind games

I'm clearly out of touch with this dating malarky.

Northclare · 04-05-2012 8:21pm

The way I look at it if it's to be it will be,if I was told I text too soon I would delete the no and they need never worry about me texting her again.
I'm far too independent and grown up to be allowing myself to controlled by rejection

miaowsky · 04-05-2012 8:29pm

Northclare wrote: »

The way I look at it if it's to be it will be,if I was told I text too soon I would delete the no and they need never worry about me texting her again.
I'm far too independent and grown up to be allowing myself to controlled by rejection

Life's too short for that kinda thing! Back fishing I go

Esoteric_ · 04-05-2012 9:06pm

If someone texts me, I'd consider it rude to make them wait for a reply. That guy just sounds very fussy!

miaowsky · 04-05-2012 9:15pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

If someone texts me, I'd consider it rude to make them wait for a reply. That guy just sounds very fussy!

And it was going so well before we swapped numbers! Jesus maybe I'll just go on take me out

That_Guy · 04-05-2012 9:22pm

LyndaMcL wrote: »

That guy just sounds very fussy!

I am not...

I'll get my coat.

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